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The Canadian Statesman. Bowmanville, March 4, 1987 5 Police Briefs Another theft occurred on Friday, February 27. A variety store located in Burkcton was reported to have been entered and robbed robbed of 12 cartons of cigarettes. cigarettes. Later that day Durham Regional Police picked up a male and a female youth as suspects in the robbery. Police located the stolen cigarettes and the two youths were charged and released unconditionally. that two BMX bicycles had been taken from the storage area located at the rear of the home. The robbery was reported at about 7:45 p.m. and police have no suspects. The storage area of a residence residence in Orono was also broken into on Friday, February February 27. The Orono man reported BAHA'I FAITH "II is our duty in this radiant century to investigate investigate the essentials of divine religion, seek the realities underlying the oneness of the world of humanity and discover the source of fellowship and agreement which will unite mankind In the heavenly bond of love." For information call 623-7621 or 623-9277 Three other break and enters enters were reported during the early evening on Saturday, Saturday, February 28. At approximately 6:00 p.m. a Jacuzzi was reported stolen from an unfinished home in Newcastle. The home was being constructed constructed by Halminen Homes Ltd. of Bowmanville. Bowmanville. The same company reported reported the theft of a generator from their construction construction site at about 8:00 p.m. The Courtice Road Baptist Baptist Church was also the victim victim of a break and enter. At about 8:45 p.m. Saturday, Saturday, Durham Regional Police were notified of the theft. An estimated $50 damage was caused to the door of the church and $10 in cash was taken from the premises. Durham Regional Police have no suspects. TRINITY UNITED CHURCH Church end. Division Streets Bowmenvllle, Ontario Church Phone Office Phone ,623-3912 : ■' 623-3138; Interim Minister: Audrey Fisher R.N., B.A., Dip.R.E., M.Div. Visitation: Rev. A. Amocher SUNDAY, MARCH 8th, 1987 11:00 a.m. Morning Worship For Information on Nursery Care and Church School call 623-3138. WELCOMING NEWCOMERS FOR 150 YEARS 155 Years of Community Service S>t. Sofm's • Anglican Ctjuttf) Temperance Street, Bowmanville, Ontario SUNDAY, MARCH 8th, 1987 Lent I 8:00 a.m. Holy Communion 11:00 a.m. Morning Prayer 9:30 a.m. Each Wednesday - Holy Communion and Laying On of Hands for Healing .< .-■ - i'* V / V 7 -• i: V Rector -- The Reverend Byron Yates B.A., S.T.B. Assoc. -- The Honorary Asst. The Rev. A.D. Langley FIRST CHURCH OF CHRIST, SCIENTIST 180 Rossland Rd. E., Oshawa Phone 723-9631 CHURCH AND SUNDAY SCHOOL 11 A.M. Wednesday Testimony Meeting -- 8 p.m. CHRISTIAN SCIENCE READING ROOM IN CHURCH EDIFICE Monday through Friday 1:00 - 3:30 Wed. 7:00 - 7:45 p.m. NURSERY ALL ARE WELCOME 100th Anniversary of World Day of Prayer THEME: "Come and Rejoice" DATE: Friday, March 6, 1987 TIME: 2:00 p.m. PLACE: The Salvation Army 75 Liberty St. S. Bowmanville Nursery care provided. Refreshments following service. ALL INVITED TO ATTEND â>t. ItauVs: jg^É Enttcb Cfjtuctj W MINISTER Rev. N.E. Schamerhorn, B.A., M.Div. ORGANIST: Mr. D. Dewell CHURCH SECRETARY: Lola Bowen - 623-5701 Sunday, March 8th, 1987 11:00 a.m. Sermon: "Trial In the Desert" St. Paul's Performing Arts Series for 1987 Tickets are now available from Doug Dowell at 623-2086 or Janet Rico at 623-2601 First performance on Wed., March 25th Annual St. Patrick's Party Food ■ Fun ■ Prizes • Entertainment Friday, March 13th Tickets available following church service. Nursery care tor pro-school children every Sunday. If you'll 1 new in llowmimville, nr invite yon in moke Si. I'tmTs your church home. AROUND THE TOWN o iili l B d - i> B M i 1 © Families and Problem Kids FRECKLE JUICE -- is the title of a production by the Erewhon Theatre Group which is coming to Bowmanville High School auditorium during the March school break. It's part of a series of events planned by the town's Community Services Services Department for the March Break Bonanza '87. Other activities include: bowling, printmaking, printmaking, a magic show, a day at the Ganaraska Forest Centre, a puppet show, movies, and much, much more. The Town of Newcastle's spring Community Activity Guide has all the details on the March Break Bonanza. The Guide is produced by the Community Services Department and it also mentions practically every social, educational and cultural program in the municipality. Guides will be sent to all homes in the Town of Newcastle soon. WINS GROCERIES -- Janice Johnston, of Hampton, was the lucky winner of $400 worth of groceries in the recent Block Parent draw. She elected to go on her shopping spree at Miracle Mart in the Bowmanville Mall. Funds raised by the draw will go towards the continued continued support of Block Parent activities in this municipality. BUCKLE UP BABY --Just a reminder from the Bowmanville Jaycettes that Buckle Up Baby Week is March 2 to 7. The Jaycettes have an inventory of about 85 infant car seats which they rent to parents. Of course, many of those seats are booked or in use. For further information information or bookings, call 623-2309. EASTER SEALS -- Don't forget that this is Easter Seal Month and the Bowmanville Rotary Rotary Club is leading the drive for $13,600 in contributions to the Easter Seal Society from this community. The goal is about $1,000 more than last year's. But it's a worthwhile objective. objective. Since 1931, the local club has been instrumental instrumental in raising funds of close to $250,000 for Easter Seals. And, of course, that doesn't include the volunteer hours that are devoted to Easter Seal Youngsters. Please give generously. generously. IT NEVER HURTS TO ASK -- That big blue limousine with Number 1 on its Ontario licence licence plate attracted a lot of attention at St. Stephen's School in i" Bowmanville last Wednesday. It belonged to none other than the lieutenant-governor of Ontario, Lincoln Alexander who visited the school February 25th to meet the students. He discussed his philosophy of life with the elementary and secondary school classes in two assemblies. He noted the importance of staying in school, working hard, and pursuing one's dreams, And he delivered a stern warning against drug and alcohol abuse. In addition, he talked about what it's like to be Ontario's 24th lieutenant governor. Apparently, his visit was sparked by a written invitation from the grade five class. That set the wheels in motion motion for last month's visit. And it all goes to prove that it never hurts to ask. SYMPHONY GALA -- Better dust off the tuxedo if you're planning to attend the Oshawa Symphony Association's gala black tie evening. evening. This event occurs on Friday, March 27, at Trafalgar Castle School in Whitby. There will be a dinner and dancing with music from Guido Basso and his orchestra. And speaking of the Oshawa Symphony, we understand that Bopwmanville High School student Glen Cain is the youngest member of the Oshawa Symphony. The 15-year-old plays violin in the symphony but also studies piano and accordion. He devotes about an hour per day to each instrument and with that kind of dedication, lie's sure to go far. Seems only yesterday yesterday that we recall Glen playing his accordion accordion in one of his earlier concerts for the Men's Canadian Club up in Enniskillen. Incidentally, Incidentally, his younger sister, Janet, plays the harp. And her most recent accomplishments include include two first prizes in the Toronto Kiwanis Music Festival." MIND MARATHON -- And on the topic of talented young people, we turn to St. Stephen's School in Bowmanville where three grade 10 students will be spending an interesting evening evening solving problems at the Ontario Science Centre. They're competing in an event called Marathon of Minds. This is a contest in which students from about 20 Ontario high schools stretch their imaginations and become characters characters in a mind-teasing computer story. For the three St. Stephen's team members, the competition will begin early Friday evening, evening, March 6, and conclude some time later Saturday. (It all depends how long it takes to solve the problem. The marathon lasts all night, so students might be taking their sleeping bags as well as their "thinking caps". The St. Stephen's participants include Remi Pleasance, Chris Buhagiav, and Greg Wilks. By the way, winners in the event will receive a free computer for their school. Presbyterian for 152 Years ST. ANDREW'S CHURCH (Church Si. at Temperance in llowmimville) SUNDAY, MARCH 8th, 1987 11:00 a.m. "Life From The Son" 7:00 p.m. Youth Group Sunday School and Babysitting during sorvlco Orjsmisl: I'uslnr: Mr. Jasllnuplixn The l(cv. WnynvCIiiiltcrtnn, II.Sc.. II.I>. APPRECIATION -- A number of members of the Bowmanville Chamber of Commerce were given certificates of appreciation last Wednesday Wednesday evening during a dinner meeting in the Bowmanville Lions Centre. The group includes: includes: Donna English, Pat Deegan, Ron Strike, Hal McKnight, Joe Denny and Caroline Naples. The Chamber also presented immediate immediate past president, Charlie Rolland, with a plaque recognizing his work. Mr. Rolland, manager of the Bank of Montreal, is being transferred to another branch. 50 YEARS -- Bowmanville's Salvation Army was honored on Saturday, February 21, for 50 years of Association with Scouting. Unfortunately, Unfortunately, we didn't manage to get a photo of the presentation from the national organization at last month's banquet. However, we hope to have, a photo provided through the kindness of one of those in attendance. Congratulations are certainly certainly in order. ARTISTS EVERYWHERE -- The Visual Arts Centre continues to be a hive of activity these days. There are not only the exhibitions on this month and the fund-raising Spring Car- nivale at Durham College, but also the regular assortment of art courses. Enrollment in the adult program stands at 75 students who are furthering their skills in everything from stained glass painting to life drawing. Landscape Landscape painting has the greatest single enrollment, enrollment, with 17 students. Not to be overlooked is the children's program program which has approximately 30 youngsters studying both cartooning and fine arts. Co-ordinator Denise Vanson adds that some classes will be starting again in March. Look for the advertisements containing further details. details. This is the first in a series of three articles dealing with blended families. Families and Problem Children (Part I) When parents ask for help with a "problem child," I usually invite them to bring in the family, at least for the preliminary interview. That means both parents, the so- called problem child and his or her siblings. I'm often asked why that's the preferred way to proceed, rather than seeing the child individually. By way of an answer, here's a fictional case illustration. This imaginary family's dynamics are unique and aren't intended as an explanation of other families or other family circumstances. Also, because it's an illustration, it's deliberately oversimplified. Mrs. X phones requesting help with her 12 year-old daughter, who's very rough on her 7 year-old son, verbally, emotionally and physically. There's apparently a lot of shoving, hitting, yelling and subsequent crying. Disciplining both children is the responsibility of the mother, since the father is away at work most of the time. She adds that this is a commonlaw relationship, less than a year old. Abuse of the younger child by the older is escalating, according to the mother. No punishments seem to be working. Grounding, withdrawal of privileges, scoldings, even spankings don't have the desired effect. Tension and bad feelings are increasing in the family. Mom and Dad are also quarrelling. Mother is understandably worried. Further conversation reveals that the older child is the husband's daughter from his first marriage, while the younger child is the mother's son from her first marriage. Six months after father and his first wife broke up, his girlfriend and her son moved into the home previously occupied by father, first wife and their daughter. The 12 year-old daughter has seen her mother only once during that period, partly because her father thinks that mother (ex-wife) is no good and will be a bad influence on the child, who's at an impressionable age. The 7 year-old boy sees his father rarely, because dad's work schedules are complicated and he's away playing hockey almost every weekend. The little boy is also reported as regressing, sometimes wetting the bed. Recently, he's very. withdrawn and quiet and is doing poorly in school. To his mother, he's confided a few times that he hates his "sister," adding that he knows "she isn't really my sister". He's punished for saying these things. • Among the many unfortunate interactions that are taking place in this family is that the daughter's loyalties are painfully conflicted. She still loves her absent and unavailable mother but can't express that love for fear of angering her father with whom she lives day-to-day. She's not. only lost her mother, or so it seems to her, she must also suffer hearing her mother bad-mouthed by her father and his new partner. Her home has also been invaded by a strange woman, to whom she must be obedient, respectful and loving. This strange woman is also sleeping with her father, about which the child feels very confused. The girlfriend also expects to be called "Mom". This 12 year-old is angry and confused. She also feels powerless, except in her relationship with the 7 year- old boy. Of course, these family patterns aren't very well understood by the 12 year-old. For her part, she's just trying to live her life in a situation that's becoming more difficult. Father away at work a lot, mother almost entirely unavailable, new mother who's upset at her most of the time and a new little brother whom she's supposed to love, but doesn't. Caught in a similar conflict over loyalties, the 7 year-old has been separated from his dad and is also hurt and confused. He's acquired a new dad whom he hardly knows, but is supposed to love and respect. On top of that, he has a new sister who beats him up, takes away his toys and hurts him in ways that his mother never finds out about. He doesn't know what to do. At first, he tried to tell his mother that all he wanted was for her and his dad to get back together. Now, she's with her new boyfriend so much, that he thinks there's no room for him in her life anymore. He too feels powerless, unable to change anything and cries a lot. Next week: Part 2. Lloyd Scott is a Family Counsellor in private practice in Orono and Oshawa. He welcomes letters from readers. Please feel free to write in confidence to Lloyd Scott, c/o The Statesman, Box 190, Bowmanville, Ontario L1C3K9. COACHES WANTED FOR BASEBALL! The Town of Newcastle Baseball Association is in need of house league coaches for their "T-Ball" League ages 5-8, Mosquito Level ages 8-9-10, and the Beaver Division ages 11 and 12. The teams play once a week on average. Coaching clinics are offered for persons who would like to brush up on techniques. If you are interested in helping a youngster to learn a great sport, please contact: Mr. .Bill Munro 623-7351. THURSDAY, MARCH 5th Dear Customers, save 15 % " On all in-store merchandise. 'Excludes tobacco, prescriptions, lottery tickets, magazines and sale items. THANK YOU McGREGOR DRUGS 5 King St. W. 1,1 d rv 623-5792 Bowmanville YOUR NEIGHBOURHOOD DRUGSTORE