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i The Canadian Statesman. Bovvmanville. December 16, 1987 Section Two Famous Sports Fan Addresses K-40 Club on Anniversary Monday, November 30, marked the 20th anniversary anniversary of Bowmanville's K-40 Club. This organization is comprised of former Kinsmen Club members who must retire from that organization upon reaching age 40. Shown above, from left, are: Justin Murray, president of the K-40 club; Terry Kelly, the guest speaker of the evening; Ray Lathangue, charter président président of the K-40 Club in 1967; Jack Lander, Charter President of the Bowmanville Kinsmen Club; and Dave Robinson, Kinsmen Deputy Governor for the Durham Region. The anniversary celebration took place at the Flying Dutchman Hotel. Elizabethville W. I. Happenings .'Our December meeting was held the first, at Mr. and Mrs. Quantrill's home. Mrs. E. Morris, vice-president, presided. There were thirteen thirteen and two visitors attended. attended. The meeting was opened in the usual manner with the Ode and Mary Stewart Collect. The motto, Old Fashioned Christmas, still has a message message for our modern world. The roll call was name something you would like for Christmas. Most had an answer of some sort. Mrs. McAllister read the minutes minutes of the last meeting and also the finance report sent in by Mrs. Trew. Mrs. Thickson read a report report on the executive meeting meeting of the district held at Mrs. Barkwell's home in November. November. The subject of our weekend at the park in the booth came up as the executive executive of the park has been changed and we need to decide decide if we still want the job at the same time. We decided decided to leave the final decision decision until Mrs. Barkwell our president comes home. Mrs. Quantrill had the program and had asked Mrs. McAllister to show slides of her trip to Salt Lake City. Some pictures were taken in Nevada, some in Colorado and Wyoming as well as Utah. Lunch was served by Mrs. Muldrew and Mrs. Baziro. Our next meeting will be held January 5, by Mrs. C. Mercer "Legislation." VACUUM PARTS CLEANER SALES GOOD USED HOSES -- $7.50 KIRBY PARTS (USED) -- 1/2 PRICE USED CORDS-- LIKE NEW $4.50 ALL GE and HOOVER PARTS (NEW) HALF PRICE BAGS -- EVERY MAKE and MODEL: BUY 3 PACKAGES GET 1 PACKAGE FREE! LOTS and LOTS of Rebuilt Vacuums and Power Nozzles $50.00 and up. FREE Electric Broom with Every Progress 103/175 Vacuum Power Team (Limited Supply) Offer ends Dec. 22nd, 1987 Sparks Vacuum Place 409 DIVISION ST. COBOURG 372-9548 Church services were very well attended. We followed followed the White Gift Service. Service. Mrs. R. McMurray conducted conducted the service. The second second Advent candle was lit by Virginia Campbell and Rachel Long. After prayer and scriptures the White Gift story was given in parts with carol singing between parts. The first part was played by Shelly McMurray and Michael Woods the next part by Michelle Smith, Andrea Wood, Gregory Wood and Marsha Foster. The choir sang a number. The children presented their gifts and the offering, was taken by Mr. Quantrill and Mrs. Cheryl Murray. Part of the Sunday School class sang a carol led by Mrs. Murray and the Litany of Gifts was read by Mrs! Wood, Mrs. Kennedy, Mrs. Davis and Mrs. Murray. Coffee Coffee was served at the close. Mr. and Mrs. J. Barkwell returned from their cruise this week. *• The seniors met as usual with a poor. attendance. Next week will be our last meeting until January 7. Mrs. Glenda Crombie, Bowmanville was at Mr. and Mrs. C. Mercer's on Sunday. Mr. and Mrs.. E. Elliott, Oshawa called at Mr. and Mrs. O. Mercer's on Sundày. Callers at Mrs. Ross Beatty's were Marlene and Leanne, David and Gregory, Mary Trew, Mi - , and Mrs. B. Burton and boys. Mrs. V. Quantrill visited Mrs. Vera Peacock this week and Miss Viola Lee, Peterborough also visited. Mrs. Doris Gunby and Andrew, Andrew, Toronto spent the weekend with her mother Mrs. Beatty. Mrs. Betty Mercer spent Friday afternoon playing Christmas music for the seniors at Greenwood Towers. Towers. Mr. and Mrs. O. Mercer had Mr. and Mrs. Jim Fojt, Ponlypool, on Wednesday. Mr. and Mrs. Thickson had Mrs. Fowler on Friday and on Saturday Mrs. De- koker, Mrs. Wèstheuser and Lesley, and Geo Smokum. Mrs. Mae Muldrew had her daughter - Dorothy Avery, Oshawa, for lunch and Mae was at Harvey Challice's for tea. Sorry to hear that Mrs. Ida Wilson fell on some steps in Toronto recently. She badly bruised her face and one leg but no bones broken. She is at Gordon Wilson's now. Letter to The Editor This letter is to inform your readers that we are definitely definitely 100% opposed to the proposed expansion to the landfill site north of New- tonville. As residents of the Town of Newcastle, we feel that it .would be very detrimental to the wellbeing of our families and friends, the long-term .effects on our health, the extra traffic and devaluation of our property. property. i At a time when it appears that the Town of Newcastle is finally booming and growing, this might, put an end to its new- found prosperity prosperity (who would want to live here?) Its name will be synonymous with "dump" (Darlington Landfill Site, private site at Newtonville, Darlington Nuclear Station and Port Granby Dump). Everyone throughout the Town of Newcastle will suffer suffer even just in terms of traffic traffic ie. 700 trucks/day travelling travelling our roads and highways. highways. We would like our elected officials to take action against this in order to preserve preserve the Town of Newcastle. Newcastle. Concerned Residents Jim and Kathleen Hisson, R.R. 1, Orono. Thursday, Dec. 17th 6 to 11 p.m. Selected Fall and Winter Merchandise for Men -- Women -- Children will be Vs OFF! Plus...many other in-store features at Low, Low Pre-Christmas Prices! fl 4 1 works hard^C for you! Stedmans Bowmanville and Newcastle Togetherness Needs Change Lucky BIA Shoppers Choose Gifts from Christmas Tree by Lloyd Scott . Years ago, my wife used to say to me, "We're together together too much. We're too much in each other's pocket. pocket. We need to spend more time away from each other." At the time, those words seemed like a personal attack attack or rejection. I tended to take them that way. Back then, I was home most of the time. I was freelancing -- writing, editing, editing, consulting. I had no regular regular place to go each day to work, no longer an office or a classroom. Working at home seemed the natural thing to do. It also seemed like the right thing for our marriage for me to be home with my family as much as possible, Wasn't it true that most men weren't with their families nearly enough? And wasn't this sad state of affairs a major cause of marriage breakdown? Certainly it was, and still is. So, for a time I resisted my wife's advice. But the signs became too strong and clear to ignore. I began to wonder if we were suffering from too much togetherness. togetherness. Looking back, I began to see some of the consequences consequences of too much "closeness." "closeness." Much of what had been fresh for us began to grow stale. Spontaneity was being replaced by the habitual. Liveliness was fading. Sticky togetherness is a big factor in marriage breakdown. But it's hard to recognize because we mistakenly mistakenly believe that marriage marriage means being together together -- as much as possible; possible; till death finally parts us. Spouses can become stuck together in unhealthy ways. They read each other's minds and make assumptions assumptions about each other to the point wjiere they believe believe they, c|n predict the other's every word, every mood, every action. "I know exactly what she's thinking, and what she's going to do." "Don't tell me I don't know you. You're an open book to me. You don't even have to tell me what's with you. I know already." In this kind of emotional climate, it's difficult for anyone to be themselves. Individuals become The first group of the Bowmanville BIA's "Lucky Shoppers" chose their gifts from under the Christmas Christmas tree at the Bank of Montreal on Thursday, December December 10. The contest, which runs for two more weeks, is sponsored by the Downtown Business Improvement Improvement Association and tickets are available from participating merchants. The prizes were do nated by various businesses in the downtown area. Pictured above, from left: Margrit Rademacher (DBIA public relation's chairperson), Rosa Mazzotta, Carolyn Metcalf and Bob Brown. Absent from the photo were two other winners: Suzanne Westheuser and Chris Johnson. smothered. Stuck together may also mean, for example, that one partner becomes demanding demanding and the other gives in. "I hate having to do everything everything my husband's way. If I don't have dinner ready at exactly 6 o'clock, for instance, instance, he'll be furious." For some women, daring to be free of that fixed obligation obligation spells trouble. But in most marriages, risking trouble can end the imprisonment imprisonment of both partners in dusty, outmoded rituals and lead both to new freedom. Everyone wants to be seen, understood and accepted accepted for who they are. But that's not easy. It may take years for some people to allow another person to get that close. On the other side, learning to understand understand and accept the quirks of someone else's personal- tiy may take just as long. Continual mind-reading and making assumptions are.no substitute for listening, listening, observing and paying attention. In fact, continual mind-r.eading and making assumptions are dangerous for close relationships because because they're based on what's convenient for us to see and hear in the other person, not on what and who that other person really really is. Besides, people really do change. They change their attitudes, their ways of thinking and being. Unfor tunately, our assumptions about other people tend to remain unchanged, and this can prove fatal to a marriage. marriage. I'm reminded of the many stories one hears about couples who have lived together together in apparent harmony harmony for many years. Suddenly, Suddenly, apparently out of nowhere, one of them up and leaves. The other is astonished, astonished, bewildered, crushed. Aside from poor communication, another explanation for this sad event may Be that the couple, be being too closely stuck together, no longer knew much about one another. Habit may have replaced replaced understanding, and that can be a dreary state of affairs. For many married couples, it may be time to pry themselves apart, redis cover their individuality and breathe new life into their marriage. Lloyd Scott is a Marriage and Family Counsellor in private practice in Oshawa and the Orono Medical Center. Center. He welcomes letters from readers. Please feel free to write in confidence to Handling It, c/o The Statesman, Statesman, Box 190, Bowmanville;. Ontario. LlC 3K9 Give Santa A ,Break Let Us Deliver Send the FTD® Fireside Basket™ Bouquet. From Oshawa - Pontypool - Newtonville and places in between A- reuseable ham mered brass basket ' filled with fresh pine, cedar, carnations, carnations, snowball mums and real holly..., .835.95 CHRISTMAS CRAFT Supplies 25% OFF • real B.C. 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