4 Sharp Shooter Wins Television Section Two The Canadian Statesman, Howmanville, February 15, 1989 7 Handling It... by Lloyd Scott •She shoots, she scores. On Sunday, February 5, Colleen Snowden, of Bowman- ' ville, won a 21-inch Panasonic colour television at the Bowman ville Goodyear Eagles Eagles Junior C game in Bowmanville. To win the television donated by Audio- Vision, she shot a puck from centre ice into a tiny cut-out slot which covered the net. People have been trying to win every Sunday night all season. Congratulating Colleen is Ted Denny, of Audio-Vision. Joining them is Larry Forsey, Vice- president of the Eagles. New Police Officers to be Hired r .. The Durham Regional Police Police Force has been granted permission to hire 17 new police officers prior to the approval of Durham's 1989 Budget. " Although the budget won't . be discussed until 'tfi.e.y, members of Durham •Regional council decided last week to hire the officers after after the chairman of the police police commission, Whitby Mayor Bob Attersley, explained explained why the hiring can't wait until budget approval. Mayor Attersley said the 17 spaces reserved for officers officers at a police college in Aylmer will be filled if the officers aren't hired now. By the time the budget is discussed, he said, the openings openings may be gone. "We would like to get them in." The 17 officers are part of a pre-budget request the police police force has made to hire a total of 101 new employees. Oshawa Councillor A1 Mason, a member on the Police Police Commission, said he was in "complete agreement" agreement" with the proposal, adding that new officers are needed and that this is a "viable "viable way of handling it." Ajax Mayor Jim Witty further explained that by Council hiring the officers now instead of in May, they would merely be "accelerating "accelerating the process." He gave a "ball park" estimate estimate that it would cost the Region of Durham $680,000 for the new officers, Lloyd Sootf I'm glad that the strap is gone, at least in some schools if not in all homes. However, the strap is one of the easiest forms of abuse to eradicate. It's unsubtle, it's visible. The indirect forms of child abuse-the humiliations and put-downs, discriminations and guilt-trips-that are still the order of the day in many classrooms (not to mention homes) are far harder to deal with. A friend of mine tells a story about himself waiting in line at the feared principal's principal's office for his turn to get the strap for an infraction of school rules. Instead of the strap, however, he was given given a talking-to, along these lines. "I'm very disappointed in you today. Youve always seemed more like a son to me than just another student. I guess my expectations of you were too nigh. It's hard on me to find out the truth about you and that you're involved involved with those other boys. You've made me feel very sad." And so on. That rather lavish guilt- trip crushed the 10 year-old so effectively that he ran away and hid for several hours, too ashamed and guilty to face going home to nis parents. To make matters worse for him, by being exempted exempted from the punishment punishment given to his friends, he was later rejected by them for being a teacher's pet. His choice of friends had also been soundly condemned. Humiliations, put-downs and name-calling of children (often justified as innocent teasing) are the root cause of one of the most common emotional problems around, so-called low self-esteem. Scores of books have tried to solve the riddle of how to feel good about yourself, how to overcome feelings of inadequacy, how to develop a positive self-image. But we all know where it starts, where the damage is done - in childhood. Low self-esteem becomes a way of life rooted in fear -- fear of more painful put- downs, fear of never being able to measure up, fear of failure. Lots of adults still mistakenly believe that installing installing fear in children is the road to sound learning. It's not. It's the root of much anger anger in adult life. A brother of mine, 15 years older, appointed himself himself as deputy-parent to me.Though I've never doubted that his intentions were good, his method of teaching me was mainly the put-downs. In his eyes, I was a failure at virtually everything everything I did. And because I admired admired and feared him so much, I was in many ways a failure In my own eyes as well. Praising and encouraging others is something many of us have had to learn to do. My brother didn't know how to do it very well, probably because he hadn t been praised himself as a child for much of anything he'd done. A grade 9 math teacher I recall well had a special knack for humiliating kids and installing fear. He always always picked on the boys, never the girls, calling us "Young brothers," in a tone of mock friendliness. Never openly angry, he wore a patronizing patronizing smile as he led us by the ear (still thought by many to be the correct handle handle by which to hold and control a child) to the blackboard. blackboard. There, pointing to the solution to a math problem, he'd ask, "There, young brother, do you see it, do you see it?* Even if we hadn't been terrified, we couldn't have seen anything with our noses an inch from the board. By way of putting us in our place-educationally and socially-he'd often say sarcastically, sarcastically, "Young brothers, why don't you take up plumbing, or some other noble noble profession," indicating, I guess, our unsuitability for academic learning. I'd grown up with carpenters (my father was one), plumbers plumbers and electricians and his put-down made me and my friends furious. Yet, we couldn't raise our voices to object, as many kids would today, because we were, quite simply, immobilized by fear. Relatively common 40 years ago, that kind of thing goes on less today because fewer teachers are that insecure insecure to need the put-down to strengthen their authority. Also, more kids of all ages to day would openly object to that kind of control through insult. And so they should. Put-downs in all their variety, variety, includingtiie strap, put kids down. And in their feelings feelings about themselves, many stay down all their lives. 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