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> £2 0% er w #8 €© ae + «x "Dear Anne Hirst: Never be- fore have I consulted a strang- er, but your column has often impressed me as wise and hon- est. . . .We have been married nine years, and 1 cannot ap- prove of the way my wife is handling our two youngsters. I wis brought up to respect my parents and to believe in their kindness and justice, and to- day in my own home I see these virtues confused. "My wife and I have different ideas about child-training, She overlooks offenses which I feel are fundamental, and then pun- ishes the youngsters for what I call minor pranks. She is dic- tatorial by nature, and our many conferences usually end in her having her way and my swift retirement from the scene. "How can I reconcile her de- cisions and make her see how unreasonable they often are? 1 know I am not always right, but this continuing contention is getting me down; I know it is not fair to the children. I love them all deeply, and if you have any suggestions that would bring more frequent agreement, 1 would appreciate them. PUZZLED DAD." * * Ld LEARN TO -CONCEDE A mother's instincts and methods usually are sound. Your wife is with the chil- dren most of the time, and she knows them better than you, with all your concern, possibly can. Most mothers sense the need to approve here, to discipline there, be- cause they understand the children's individual persona- lities and differing reactions. Except for week ends and va- cations, what opportunities have you to study them ex- cept for a few hours each night? *When you and your wife disagree, don't take it for granted that she is always wrong. Ask her to explain her decisions, and discuss them openly and in 'good humor. The siutation is too vital to the children's proper devel- opment for her decisions to be repeated issues between YOu. Both of you want {o pre- pare the children to get the most out of life. They must be taught the right of others, the elements of fair play and. co-operation, the need for obedience. It is vital to their emotional security that their parents agree on the pattern decided upon, so they will respect their elders' judg- ment, accept it as final, and not run from mother to fa- ther to gain their ends. Chil- dren are quick to recognize justice, vou know, and divid- cd opinions . undermine the confidence they should have in their parents' wisdom and kindness. a If more fathers were as concerned as you are for. their children's character and de- velopment, there would be fewer delinquents in our * counfry. A closer co-opera- *® 8 # # © 3 3 & ® 3 EF #2 FF ® » 0» BOE EE EEE EER LE EE SE I SALLY'S SALUES 'eJust think, dear, this may be * * * * * * * * ¥ * * * * * * * * exhausted to take you danc- * * * * ¥ * * * * * * * * * * our last kiss , . . in 1956." * tion, and mutually recognized * reasonableness between you * and their mother, should es- * tablish a friendlier solution * to your problems, . LJ ¥- HUSBAND BORES HER "Dear Anne Hirst: We mar- ried nine years ago, and have a daughter of eight. After the first two years I fell out of love and I don't know why; I've never thought of another man, but my husband and I don't see life as we used to, and have many differences, He is 10 years older, and just wants to sit home all the time, while I want to enjoy life; I love people and gaiety, and I feel I am just wasting myself now. Maybe I masgied too young? "I don't want a divorce, be- "cause of Tour little girl; she adores him and they are great freinds; and I think she'll need him even more as she matures. . Shall IT try to stick things out, or leave now? MARIE." gt * I hope you will compare your marriage wigh less satis- factory ones, and cease re- gretting it. How much worse it could have been! Your hus- band is faithful and kind, he supports you well and seems to have no vices. If both would try to be more con- genial, your life together could be wonderful. You are restless, I believe, because he doesn't take you out regularly, He may pre- fer his own, fireside, but a man his age shouldn't be too ing, visiting friends, or enjoy other recreations with you. If only for your little girl's sake, you both should be building an active life for her to step into in another few years. If you suggest such a program with her future in mind, it is very likely your husband will co-operate fully, and find himself enjoying outside acti- "vities which can refresh you both. Forget divorce now, and start playing together for a richer ife for you all." . * ~ 0% * Agreement on the children's upbringing is a MUST for all parents. It establishes harmony and trust among the family, and prevents discord all around. ~Anne Hirst's understanding can be valuable in this situation. Write her at Box 1, 123 Eigh- teenth St, New Toronto, Ont. Healthy Village Any man or woman who serl- ously wants to live to be a cen- tenarian should go to live in the little village of Cologna Marina, on the Adriatic coast of Italy. Scientists who have been -trying to find out why the villagers live to such ripe old ages confess that they're baffled. Is it something in the sea air that produces so many centen- arians? The scientists would like to know, since they just can't find any reasonable explanation for the villagers' longevity and extraordinary vitality. When the village's oldest in- habitant died two years ago he was 106. A number of the 500 people he left behind are centen- arians or in their nineties. Ill- ness is practically unknown there. Some of the centenarians are so spry that they get up at 5 a.m. to attend church on Sun- days. One of the villagers, Giovanni Boni, a mere "youngster" of ninety-four, reflects the youth- ' ful outlook of the community when he says: | ~ "It's always been 'my ambition to fly in an aircraft. I'm saving up for this treat, and I reckon that by the time I reach my 100th birthday I'll just about have enough t6 pay for a long flight." see Ww 3 INTO HONORABLE RETIREMENT -- The veteran battleship, New Jersey, is off to join the mothball fleet for the second time. When launched Dee 7, 1942, the 45,000-ton, three-blocks-long New Jersey and her sister ship, lowa, were the largest war- ships afloat, In 18 months of World War Il combat in the Pacific, she took part in nine major operations. She was first mothballed in 1948, but recalled to service in 1950 at the out- set of the Korean War, in which she was damaged in combat. Making Hats For Crowned Heads A week before the Victory Parade in 1945, royal milliner Aage Thaarup was summoned to Buckingham Palace and asked to design a hat for the Queen-- now the Queen Mother--to wear on this historic occasion. -, He made two to match her pinky-lilac Hartnell costume, took them to the Palace, fitted the one which she chose, and took it back to his workroom to be finished by first thing the next morning. But he wasn't altogether sat- isfied. He wanted this hat to be wonderful, unforgettable, some- thing "happy" but also of regal dignity. Couldn't he use ostrich plumes in a special way? He got two willing girls to agree to work all night if need be, and by two a.m. had com- pleted it. He put it in a box with the other hat which the Queen ed, enclosed a note what he had done i the belief that the second- way the nicer, de- livered them at the Palace, then waited with th¢ crowds.in the Mall, anxious fo see which she would wear, To his delight, she wore the second. His last-minute hunch had mot been in vain. "I felt proud and humble, too," he says in his colourful autobiography. "Heads and Tales", written with Dora Shackell. The first time Princess Eliza- beth consented to be present at his Associated Millinery De- signers' show, her first fashion show, he suggestéd that she should have gloves to match the soft Dresden blue hat he'd made for her. It was a time of strict shortages; he knew it would be useless to search for gloves of that colour, so got some white gloves and a piece of blue silk; rushed around to the nearest dyers, had them dyed by the next day, and sent them to the Palace. Then. a terrible doubt arose: were they the right size? There had been no time to check. She arrived at the show. that night wearing them, and by a lucky chance they appeared to fit exactly. Deputizing for. her father, King George VI, at Trooping the Colour in 1950, the Princess was to wear her uniform of Colonel- in-Chief of the Guards with skirt cut for side-saddle. By tradition the right hat would be a bearskin, but even if it could be made half-size, its weight would be excessive. With the King's permission to break away from the bearskin idea, Thaarup went round the Palace poring over old prints, hoping for an inspiration, The hat have to have dignity, ele- gance, a Guards' air, yet be comfortable, Then he flew to Paris with an idea. There must be someone who could make a material simulating bearskin, longhaired "yet really - light- weight. He decided that it would have to be a tricorne, with curves gently softened by the "bear- skin" material, the crown just high enough to balance the long line of the habit, He had the material made, experimented with shapes, steaming and dis- carding until he was satisfied, then took the hat to Clarence House for the Princess's appro- val. The lines and fit were right, but he still had to find some de- corative way of mounting the regimental badge. First he thought of a cockade, then a white osprey; then Lord Mount- batten said he had a white plume inherited from an an- cestor, which had been worn in battle. It proved a little too long, so he found another, and fitted that. . Finally, came the fitting in the King's study where, in front of the fireplace, stood a stuffed horse, bridled and saddled. The Princess, now with full regalia, medals, and the Order of the Garter, mounted it. The King came in, walked round it, sur- veying the hat from all angles, then remarked that it wasn't at all what he had expected. "I--know, --Y-our--Majesty," Thaarup replied. "But don't you think it's rather nice?" The King nodded, satisfied. The hat was worn at the Trooping and admired by the crowds. SCARED At an officers' club the mem-+ bers were bidding farewell to a man leaving for the Far East, "It gets very hot out there at times," remarked one member, "Aren't you afraid the climate might disagree with your wife?" The man. looked at him re- proachfully, "It wouldn't dare," he said. 4 - PAIR OF QUEENS--Radiant charm of two British. queens sparkles as Queen Elizabeth Il, right, and the Queen Mother arrive at the Royal Academy in London to attend a rgception. Ermine for wraps and jeweled tiaras, complement the regal setting of royal limousine. JGiNGER FARM endoline P. Clarke All last week the telephone repair men were busy stringing extra wires from pole to pole alongside the cable. Now wasn't it 'nice of the Bell Telephone Company to adopt our sugges- tions so quickly! Of course we don't know exactly what is be- ing done--or why. We can only hope it is another step towards keeping the line in good work- ing order. Years ago the tele- phone was more or less of a luxury; now it is a necessity-- one reason, we depend on this one necessity to keep our lux- uries in order. Or do we have luxuries any more? Have all our luxuries become necessities? I wonder. Hydro, for instance. In the populated areas of Ontario the percentage of homes with- out electriciy must now bé very small. Even with Hydro there have been many changes. At first farm folk were satisfied if * all they had was electric light in the home. But eventually, with power easily available came an increase in conveniences both . at the house and the barn. Now Useful--Decorative This graceful swan is a pocket for facecloth--matching edging, a pretty decoration. Easy to cro- chet in favorite pineapple design. Pattern 705: Crochet directions in mercerized string, for "swan" pocket 7 inches. For pocket on smaller towels, use No. 30 cot- ton, Send TWENTY-FIVE CENTS (stamps cannot be accepted; use postal note for safety) for this pattern to LAURA WHEELER, 123 Eighteenth. St, New To- ronto, Ont. . Print plainly PAT- TERN NUMBER, your NAME and ADDRESS. Our gift to you -- two won- derful patterns for yourself, your home -- printed in our Laura Wheeler Needlecraft Book . . . Plus dozens of other new de- signs to order -- crochet, knit ting, embroidery, iron-ons, nov- elties, Send 25 cents for your copy of this book NOW -- with gift patterns printed in it in some farm homes, besides the usual gadgets and appliances, you find home freezers, automa- tic washers, oil-burning fur- nacés and even air-conditioning. (But not at Ginger Farm, I'm afraid.) At the barns, of course, there is a motor for this and a motor for that -- for chopping, milking and separating. Yes, il is a far cry from the days when Hydro was first installed. Which 'brings us back to the telephone. The more electrical "appliances we have the more chances there are of something going out of order .-- and the more we are likely to need the telephone. Perhaps the milking machine refuses to function; the televi- sion blacks out; the controls on the electric stove stop control- ling or maybe a bad storm hits a transformer. Whatever the trouble we run to the telephone. If the line is out of order we feel completely lost. Or there may be other emergencies . . . we need a doctor in a hurry, or a vet, or the fire reel. Actually it could be a matter of life or death. So isn't it only reasonable to want -- and expect -- that our rural lines be maintained with maximum efficiency? Every ef- fort is usually made to keep them that way. We know that. There is also a tremendous ex= pansion program in progress. I am referring to the importance of the telephone only as a rea- son for emphasizing that effi- cient service is an absolute must. Well, there hasn't been any drastic change in the weather around here for over a week. Driving conditions on the high- ways have been good but on the sideroads very bad. Sonie- times I wonder whether it is really an advantage to live close to a main highway. It makes you forget that all roads are not equally good. And that's 'how city visitors driving to the country often get" caught nap- ping. Last week I had to make a call about twenty miles away. To cut down on the mileage I drove across country. It was a grim experience. Where it wasn't slippery it was slushy. At one point I met a truck going so fast that it completely splatter- ed my windows and windshield with slush, I couldn't see a yard ahead of me. How. I kept out of the ditch I'll never know as I couldn't apply the brakes. Just one more instance of how easily an accident could have happened through the careless« ness of a thoughtless driver. Be~ lieve me, I didn't take any more chances on narrow cross-country roads that day. I came back by the. highway. : The country, as I write, is look- ing dreary and bleak without a vestige of snow and so on some farms young cattle and horses are roaming the fields. They don't seem to mind it at.all. I suppose they are conditioned to all kinds of weather. With the milking cows it is a different story. They are the farmers' babies. For them winter time is a lazy time -- and they make the most of it. They have no worries whatsoever, All" they can eat and drink is placed right in front of them. They take their fill and then content- edly chew their cud or go_jo sleep. They are disturbed only at milking time and when the stables are cleaned. Under these health respond by being the most contented creatures on this earth. ) Poultry, too, must surely pre- fer winter weather. Most birds can stand cold better than heat' anyway. But, alas, hens can be killed with kindness, Left to their own devices they become fat and lazy. So young birds are encouraged to be active -- to get up early and go to bed late. Older birds -- if they are held over -- are allowed a little more leeway to get over the moult, But if they don't rejoin the pro- duction lines in reasonable time it's the stewpot for them. Re- cently from one such hen I got a pound and a half of rendered fat. The fat makes excellent cakes and cookies, which, inci- dentally disappear in a hurry when we have all the. family here. And that happened yester- day -- so the cookie jar is em- pty again. Even Edward shares in the spoil -- possibly to exer-. cise' his brand new teeth! Reluctant Hero Riverside promenaders saw an. elderly man struggling in the swirling waters and heard his shouts for help. - They crowded round as a "young man suddenly dived fully dressed into the sea and brought off a gallant rescue, amid cheers. - Everybody showered the res- cuer with congratulations. A proposal that the hero should he honoured was received with ac- clamation. ) "Oh, well, it's all right with. me," said the young man when they finally allowed him to speak, "but what I'd like to know is -- who pushed me off the bank?" ; ISSUE 2 -- 1957 * NEW PRINTED PATTERN EASIER=FASTER = MORE ACCURATE "| "conditions cows jf normal good | PRINTED PATTERN With PRINTED directions ox each pattern part -- sewing just couldn't be easlerl Make a date- dress, or jumper ang blouse; its lovely lines are ideal9or winter- cotton, corduroy, rich velveteen! Printed Pattern 4500: Misses' Sizes 10, 12, 14, 16,18, 20. Size 16 jumper requires 37 yards 39- inch fabric; blouse 13% yards. Directions printed on each tis- sue pattern part. Easy-to-use accurate, assures perfect fit. Send THIRTY-FIVE CENTS (stamps cannot be accepted; us( postal note for safety) for thir _pattern. Print plainly SIZ NAME, ADDRESS and STYL NUMBER. Send order to ANNE ADAMS, 123 Eighteenth St, New To- ronto, Ont, AS THE PINCH BEGINS TO HURT--In England, the lineup of auto at gas stations grows larger each day, as the British govern ment 'makes additional slashes in gasoline for private moton . ists. London garages are now serving only "regular customers." CHRISTMAS CAME TO THE PEN, TOO -- Obscuring the ha rred windows behind them, these Nativity scenes stand atop the Ohio State Penitentiary's administration building. They were recently completed by three inmates, who worked ix weeks on the 40-foot display. It features life-sized figures and a lighted star on the prisct wall In background, This is tha first year the prison has had such Yule decorations. oh