> 00 SY J LL AAY fa Eee rn ---- a a) A LAN "Dear Ann Hirst: Where are the men like our fathers, who married and expected her to stay home and raise a family? I've been working since I was 19, and when we got married my husband suggested 1 stay with the job. We didn't need the money, but he thought I'd be happier. He also wanted chil- dren, and when I had our baby three months ago of course I expected to take care of her. But I didn't know my husband; he took it for granted I'd keep on at the office and he employed @ young nurse. I was furious but I consented. Now I wish I hadn't. "I resent every hour I am not with my baby, and I'm at the point of giving up my position and taking over at home, I think every mother wants to look af- ter her children; nobody else can do it so well. T expect a bat- tle with my husband. But haven't I done my part? Now I want to be all-wife and moth- er. What do you think? SORRY MOTHER." ®* I think you should take ¢ over at home. 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ISSUE 7 -- 1957 MARA SAAR AR SA AA 2 2 J JL JE JE 20 SL SE SE JE BE J a I a EE EEE IR ER EE AR AE IR IE IE IE IE E HIRST amily Counselor husband should be proud that you want to fulfill your nor- mal role. Modern physicians agree that babies thrive on a mother's love; deprived of it, they do not develp as they should. For a man to deny his wife her natural destiny stamps him as heartless; his child will suffer for it later on, and you and I know who will be blamed. = The average man expects to support his wife and is proud to. Many of them who mar- ried business girls find their wives insist on working; they find the field more exciting than household routine. They neglect their homes, feed their men makeshift meals and (re- versing the normal habit) their conversation deals :argely with what happened down- town today. The men mar- ried the girls because they loved them, and they have the right to expect a well-run home and children. The busi- ness wife who deliberately denies them these expecta- tions is going to pay more dearly than she thinks. The nobleest reason that a wife wants to stay home is to give her child a mother's loving care. Your husband seems so devoid of parental feelings that he denies his off- spring the best advantage that nature offers. Take your stand and stick to it. Remind the man you can budget household needs within the reduced income; that is the least important an- gle. If he still hesitates, sug- gest he talk this over with your physician, He seems to require the facts of life set before him so he will under- stand how essential to your happiness and 'spiritual peace it is that you perform the ma- ternal role to its fullest. You have my sympathy, but also my conviction that your hus- band's objections will melt beneath your arguments. » * * NO MARRIAGE MART "Dear Ann Hirst: I had begun to think all women are alike, but one or two who have writ- ten-you have changed my mind. They seem like real ladies, and I'd appreciate it if you could tell me how I can get in touch with them. ) "I've been wronged by one woman, and divorced her two years ago. (Women are so un- predictable these days, and men are too.) I am very lonely. 1 stay home every night, have a good job, don't drink or play the horses, "I'd like to meet a nice wo- man who is in the same situa- tion. Could you help two of us find happiness? I've tried every- thing else. T. R." * This column, I must re- mind new readers, is not' a marriage mart. I. cannot re- veal the identity of anyone to another. Are you sure you have ex- hausted all the customary sources of friendship? Does your minister know how lone- ly you are? Your co-workers? Tell them, if you haven't, and ask their aid. I am sure they will look around and intro- duce you to a few eligible lonesome young women. * LJ * Problems of every kind flow in to Anne Hirst from readers of all ages. . Her long experience «nd human sympathy give her an understanding that has kept many a family together .. . If you are troubled, too, write her at Box 1, 123 Eighteenth St. New Torono, Ont. power for this one-elephant open sleigh. Goin te PACHED WITH POWER -- Speed's lacking, but there's plenty of, along for the ride Is seven-year-old Walter Thelsinger, of Hamburg, Germany? The plodding pachyderm Is 65.year-old "Mennle", resident at the local zop. Walter's father Is the zoo keeper, thus explaining the special privilege, -~ Fashions In Hats . The Twentieth Century found Paris firmly established as dic- tator of fashion in the feminine world and London, the arbiter of men's apparel. ... Until the latter years of the period, the feminine hat in gen- eral flared up and off the face, a bandeau setting it still higher on the head. Many long hatpins, usually jeweled, held the hat se- curely in place. Larger and lar- ger grew the hat, by 1907 at- taining an incredible size. In this period the theater ruling arose, compelling a woman to remove her hat during the performance. The picturesque large velvét hat, the Gainsborough or Marl- borough of the eighteenth cen- tury, was revived. In tailored hats, sailors and tricornes of mannish felts were smart, also fur toques for winter. In 1903 appeared the cartwheel type of sailor of straw for summer wear and named the "Merry Widow" after the popular operetta by the Viennese composer, Franz Le- har. This extremely large sailor was also worn with the riding habit. . Huge quantities of paradise, ostrich, aigrettes covered the hat - in: place of the former flowers and ribbon. ... The vogue of the face veil continued unabated, tied tightly under the chin or hanging loos- ely from the hat. There were lace and .colored chiffon veils, also coarse filet meshes spotted with chenille or vetvet dots. Sometimes . veils were lace- edged. Bright green was the fa- vored color of the "automobile veil," considered the most effec- tive protection for the com- plexion.--From. "The. Mode. in Hats and Headdress," by R. Tur- ner Wilcox. Sy ec A AH, YOUTH -- Nothing fazed by subzero temperatures, three- and-one-half-year-old Betsy Fish - obviously eats up her Arctic-like surroundings. While her soft elders huddle indoors for warmth, Betsy plays "in, her snow tunnel and nibbles at an Icy sandwich. \ Modern Etiquette. . . By Jane Andrews Q. People whom [I've just met often say, "I'm very glad to have met you." Is this cor- rect, and if so, how should I reply? A. This is quite correct, and the- proper reply could be, "Thank you," or, "I'm very glad to have met YOU." - Q. When is a guest privi- leged to leave a wedding recep tion? : A. At any time he wishes, but not before speaking to the bride and bridegroom. Q. Is it suitable to make a present of toilet soap to a girl on her birthday? A. If it is a very special kind of soap that you know she par- ticularly likes. Q. Is it good manners for a girl to ask her escort for a cigar- elite? . A. This is quite all right. An attentive escort, of course, should make such a request un- necessary. But should he be forgetful enough, it is perfectly proper for the girl to ask him. Q. Some friends have just told me that I committed a serious breach of éliquette by congra- tulating a girl upon her engage- ment -- that this suggested I thought she was lucky to have found a man, Is this true? A. This was a mistake; but it is a very common one, and you should not worry too much about it. The usial procedure is to congratulate the man, and ojper wishes of happiness to the girl, Q. When one is smoking at the table in a restaurant, and there is no ashtray, is it all right to use a plate or saucer for the ashes? . A. Only an [lll-bred person would do this, It is much better to ask the waiter or waitress for an ashtray. a r-r-ride home." W-W-W-WELCOME B-B-B-BACK, JOE -- Old time vaudeville fans, veterans of the Roaring Twenties, will hail the news that Stuttering Joe Frisco, one of the all-time greats of show business, is making a comeback in a. couple of forthcoming Hollywood movies. Of late years the 68-year-old former headliner has been in a state of 'suspended animation Inside a racing form. Here's Joe today, complete with cigar and racing magazine, telling folks: "I w-w-was I-lI-lucky at the t-t-track today. | got INGER Gwendoline P. Clarke Farm We are just coming out of the deep freeze -- which we did not like oe bit, The temperature around here for a whole wéek ranged all the way from ten above zero to twenty below, of- ten with a strong wind blowing. Of course the cold weather brought with it complications; the house was hard to heat and the car wouldn't start, but thank goodness we didn't have trouble with the plumbing, Last Tues- day we had business to attend to down town and the easiest way was to call a taxi. That time everything was fine. But on. Friday I had to go down town again -- this time to shop. Another trip by taxi -- but the result wasn't so good. In fact it practically amounted to a comedy of errors. I got together what I wanted from the grocer's and asked:to have my order sent over to the taxi call office. Went up the street and did -the rest of my shopping, calling at the but- chers, the drugstore, the bake shop and the dairy, carrying most of the stuff with me. The same . taxi was available and ready to go so I thought all we had to do was stop at the dairy and pick up my order. We got home and Partner was waiting to take everything into the house from the back seat of the car. Without actually checking I knew something was missing. "The groceries -- where's my box of groceries?" I asked the driver. i "Groceries? I never 'saw no groceries." 3 "Well, for goodness sake -- weren't, they sent over?" "No ma'am, éise they'd have been here." The taxi driver drove off and I came headed straight for the tele- phone . . . "sure the groceries were sent ovef, almost as soon as you left the store)" A tele- phone to the taxi office . .. "the store tells me my order was sent over." "I'm sorry, but nothing came here for any Mrs. Clarke." have been a box of groceries and a small bag of potatoes." "Oh, that order! Yes, I re- member it coming in. but the boy said it was for "Mts. Currie". The taxi is away now -- with Mrs. Currie and the groceries!" "For goodness sake! Well, I wonder if you can phone Mrs Currie's place and see what you cate the groceries have the taxi bring them in sometime during the day." The call-lady was most oblig: ing and a little while she phoned back, told me everything had been straightened out and the groceries would arrive before long--which they did. A pretty fine example. of the advantage of living in a country district. I suppose everyone was more or less at fault = I for not mak- ing sure the box was In the car the delivery boy for not glving the right name; the taxl-drever for not making sure he had the into the house and. "Are you sure? There should" can do about it. If you can lo- right box for the right person. And in each case it was excus- able. Being Friday afternoon the stores, and the taxis busy and I, being used to my own car and picking up my own parcels, didn't keep my wits about me. It could be they were partially frozen! However, all's well that ends well. In spite of difficulties we now have enough of every- thing to keep us fed for another week, supposing -we either get frozen in or snowed in. As for the car it hasn't been out of the garage for over a week. During: " rough weather it can stay there so far as I am concerned, What we pay for a taxi we save on gas, so what's the difference? The cold weather had its drawbacks for us but the four- legged creatures seemed to like it. Our neighbour's horses were racing. around in the pastures having a grand time. Our few cattle were equally active in. the barnyard. As for Rusty he was full of beans and Mitchie- White played around like a kit- ten. Two big grey squirrels chased each other up, down, and around the poplar tree in front of the house and one day we saw a huge hawk resting on the branches of a nearby oak tree. In fact it looked too big to be a hawk. Perhaps it was some kind of owl. We couldn't tell from the house -- and to go out bird-watching didn't appeal to us in zero weather. Well, we got word from Eng- land this week that Partner has lost two aunts and an uncle since Christmas and the young- est of the three was 85 -- Aunt Lottie. I went to see her when 1 was in England and found a bright, active little woman, liv- ing alone in a big house and do- ing most of her own work, The other one -- Aunt Mary -- was around 90, and had been ill for some time, As for Uncles will, Partner thinks he was crowd- ing a hundred. The whole fam- ily has been noted for its lon- gevity. The mother -- Partner's maternal grandmother -- died Woman Proposes A good many young women don't bother to wait for leap year before they do the pro- posing. In Queen Victoria's case, of course, she was more or less 4 forced to take the initiative. It " wouldn't have, been possible for a relatively unimportant prince to propose to a reigning mon-, arch. So one day she sent for Albert and sat him beside her on the sofa. As he told his grandmother later, "She declared to me in a genuine outburst of love and af- "fection that I had gained her whole heart and would make her intensely happy if I would make her the sacrifice of sharing her life with her." Barbara Kelly was only seven- teen when she proposed to Ber- nard Braden. They were in Ca- nada at the time, riding in his convertible, Suddenly she announced, "I want to get married and I think it had better be you." Apparently he held out for a month or so, but as the whole world knows, 'they are now a very happily married couple. A very forward minx was painter Jean-Baptiste Gréuze's model, Without the slightest en- couragement, she asked him to marry her. Finding it difficult to be dis- courteous to a woman, he agreed, but had to be pushed before he would decide on the date. They were eventually married two years later. Modern misses aren't at all backward in making the run- ning. A few years ago, when -a bus conductor put a ticket into the hand of one of his passen- gers, she said, "When will you give me a ring instead of just a ticket?" - She was his girl friend, whom he hadn't really noticed in the rush of selling tickets; now she's his wife. In Manchester a young couple were saying good-night and she was upset because "she'd been taken to task by her mother for not washing the dishes, "If you don't marry me soon I'll kill myself," she cried, so her boy friend obligingly saved her life. In the film world it seems al- most normal for the usual situa- tion to be reversed. An actor re- ported that a film star asked him to marry her. "It wasn't the other way round," he added tactlessly. Of course, when there's a for- tune to be gained, women are rarely backward in coming for- ward. In 1953, bachelor Ned Eng- . some years ago at the age of 103! She directed her two un- married daughters in their housekeeping duties until two weeks. before her death. She might have stepped straight from the pages of Jalna -- ex- cept that Jalna wasn't even written then. lish, a 75-year-old from Kilfin. ane, County Limerick, was lef a £10,000 legacy by his brother, More than forty women, be- tween the ages of twenty-nine and . fifty, wrote saying thas they'd love to become his wife. THAT'S DIFFERENT "A little overweight, deart® queried a timid husband of forbidding wife, as she wel herself. "No," she replied, "but .ae- cording. to my chart I should be six inches taller." NEW PRINTED PATTERN CHE he CURATE SIZES 2--10 PRINTED PATTERN A Printed Pattern that's = doubly wonderful! Daughter + will love a whirl-skirted jumper and blouse for' school. Mother will love its new easy sewing -- with directions. printed on each pattern part. . Printed Pattern 4667: Chil. dren's Sizes 2, 4, 6, 8, 10. Siza 6 jumper re-juires 2% yards 33- inch fabric; blouse. takes 1% yards. Directions printed on each tissue pattern part. Easy-to-use, . accurate, assures perfect fit. Send THIRTY-FIVE CENTH (stamps cannot be accepted, ust postal note for safety) for thi pattern. Print plainly SIZE NAME, ADDRESS, STYLI NUMBER. Send order to ANNE ADAMS Box 1, 123 Eighteenth St. New 'Toronto, Ont. TOP AWARDS -- Actress Ingrid Bergman, left, smiles at actor Kirk Douglas as they are presented the New York Film Critics Award for 1956 by Irene Thirer at a party in their honor In Manhattan. Miss i flown over from Paris to. sperid just 36 hours in thi country and receive the award for her performance in "Anastasia". Douglas received his for his work in "Lust For Life", ¢ PICTURES DONT LIE ON MATTRESSES -- Even when It. comes to slesping, the Russians seem to be far behind the Western world. Above, at the Merchandise Mart model 'Dee Taloe lies on an American mattress and compares it with a Russian one. The two-inch-thick Soviet mattress was bought in Moscow by. John Hubbell, vice president of a leading mattress firm. 'After paying the 'equivalent of $42 for it, he literally carried it out of the Soviet Union under his arm.