Be E---- "Dear Anne Hirst: I am ter- ribly in. love with a schoolmate whom I've dated since I was 18, four years ago. He has not proposed, but gives me the idea he isn't interested elsewhere, Te never makes a date ahead, just comes without even tele= phoning. 'He travels for a living but write me every week. "Meantime a man of 30 has 'lallen in love with me. He 'lreats me with the highest res- pect, makes me feel I am im- ortant. We are very eompat- ble; he is talented and respect- ed and has a fine income, If I thought my boy friend didn't intend to marry me, I think I could fall in love again. We've been going out for just three months, but he assures me I am his ideal and wants me to mar- ry him. My family have known him for years, and they encour- age his attentions. "How can I test the boy I'm so in love with? I've just got to know where I stand. After all, I am not a teen-ager and the years are passing fast! WORRYING" *° You are in this spot today * because you have rated your- ¢ self too low. Your beau has * come when he liked, instead of * according you the courtesy of * making dates ahead; he may * be seeing other girls, too, for * all you know. I realize you * allowed him to be so high- * handed because you were ¢ afraid you'd lose him, and I * do not wonder he aas taken * advantage of it. * After four years of dates, * he has become a habit with * you. I am not convinced you * "care terribly" for him, or the * idea of falling in love with * anyone else would be, at * least, distasteful. * When he next rings your * doorbell, say You are sorry * but you have an engagement. * Do this more oftea than you ® let him in. If he really loves * you, he will redouble his at- * tentions -- he may even pro- ® pose, or he may never come * back. I doubt you will re- ® ceive' my opinion serlously, * but I think as a husband he * would be a poor risk; he * would continue to ®* make 'the rules and you * would contnie to obey them. * You may not mean as much * to him as you hope, you ®* know; after four years he * hasn't even asked you to be * engaged. You may be to him * only the girl who was, con- * veniently, always available; * that attitutde is a poor excuse * for enduring love. * I suggest you continue dat- * ing the older man. He seems * sincere, although precipitate * to suggest marriage so soon. * A longer friendship will dis- * close the quality of his affec- * tion, and bring a better * knowledge of "his character. * He seems to appreciate you; * and marriage with him 'could * turn out to be a far richer ex- * perience than with the young- * ster who thinks of his own * convenience first and last. Ll . - FRANTIC MOTHER "Dear Anne Hirst: The father of my baby deserted me four yeras ago. Then I married a man who said he would be good to my child, but he has broken every promise he made, He mis= treats the boy so often that the baby fears him; and because of this he and I quarrel almost every day. His temper is vile; he has even struck me. of course, he never takes me out anywhere. "The baby was with me at my mother's until I married. (My parents have been wonderful about everything) . . . I hoped so much for a good home for the child, but after six months of married life I am ready to give up. A beast doesn't change his nature. MARCIA" * Go back to your parents. Your father. will find out whether you have grounds for divorce. d There is no future for you nor your baby with this man, and, of course, you have to think of your child first. He must have a sccure home where love abides, and your mother's house is the only present refuge for him, I am so sorry! e oo ® 2 2 0 2 2 0 2 * * * Anne Hirst takes a deep per- sonal interest in her readers' problems, and they can trust her -honesty and judgement, Whatever problem is worrying you, write her frankly about it; and know your confidence is respected. Address her at Box 1, 123 Eighteenth St., New Tor- onto, Ont. : VACATION JOYS A woman went to stay with a friend in a rather primitive cottage. As she was preparing to retire, the hostess appeared at the door. "If you should want anything that you haven't got," she said, "just ask for it. We can easily show you how to do without i." Anne Adams Fashion News 'School For Child ya This {ruly versatile glamour dress that's fashion-right for tours under the sun or dancing under the stars is so easy to make from our Printed P#.tern 4899. Most fascinating feature of this bare-top princess dress is the remarkable extra long tie-streamers at the top that can be tied in a big, beautiful bow at the bosom (sce photograph) or at the side, draped to form a dramatic neckline, or pulled straight back in halter effect od Shown here in pastel polished cotton print, this flattering fashion is so easy to cut, sew and fit because simple directions are printed right on the pattern. Our designer used a long Talon zipper up the back to give the molded perfection in fit and ease in getting in and out of the dress. Zipper was smooth and easy to apply by following the "no-pin, no-baste" method described on the Talon package. : . Order Printed Pattern 4899 now in Misses' Sizes 10, 12, 14, 16 or 18. Size 16 takes 5% yards of 39-inch fabric, Just send FIFTY CENTS (stamps cannot be accepted; use postal note for safety) for this Printed Pattern 4899. Send to ANNE ADAMS, Box 1, 123 Eighteenth St, New Toronto, Ont. The mailman will deliver your pattern right to your door. Actors, Musicians Sari (pronounced Cherie) popped up from her desk, black curls bobbing, full-skirted dress blossoming above slender legs encased in ballet stockings. She seized a piece of chalk, danced up to the blackboard and care- fully drew the letter "I" in front ofan' already there, and then made a "d" to form the word "land." Eagerly she looked at her teacher for approval. First-grader Sari was learning to spell. Right after classes were over, however, she was antici- pating a ballet lesson. There was no time between fo change, so ballet stockings and full dress came to school. Upstairs in the library, a teen- ager whose dramatic dark beauty needed no assistance had emphasized her eyes with mas- cara and eye-shadow, She looked up, startled, as our entry disturbed her absorption in a school book she was studying during the luncheon recess. To no one but an uncondi- tioned reporter would these two pupils have seemed unusual at the Professional Children's School on West 60th Street, New ~ York, because students there often sit at their desks in stage or practice costume. These two girls illustrate the fact that somewhere along the line, quiz kids, models, youthful musicians, child actors stealing the limelight from veterans, and youngsters advertising candy on TV have to get educated. It's not enough to devote a full day to "violin practice, drama re- hearsals, singing, or modeling. Another full day must go into learning the three R's, and be- ing able to prove to the satis- faction of the law that these essentials have been mastered. In these days of compulsory education this quandary might " have delayed the debut of many a promising young artist, had it not been for the Professional Children's School, once known as "Broadway's Little Red Schoolhouse." Because the School exists, world-figure-skating champion Carol Heiss, her sister Nancy, brother Bruce, concert pianist Walter Hilse, actor Brandon de Wilde, and many others, are able to get their academic train- ing without holding up their professional careers. The School has solved worse problems than that, too. Take Deirdre as an example. She is another ballet dancer, a slight, fairylike figure, She came to the School miser- ably unhappy, from trying to keep up with work in an ordi- nary school and still devote time to her dancing lessons and practice. Within a month or two, studying with other young professionals, she was a normal happy youngster, taking great gulps of learning between 10 and 2 daily, and spending the rest of her time dancing, writes Nora E. Taylor in The Christian Science Monitor. Since there are only 24 hours in each day, the answer to this dual problem has to be concen- tration. It means hard work, of course, Children with an eye on the spotlights, though, tend to be exceptionally bright, or so the School's founders believed. They can cope with the concen- trated teaching given in the brief school day, as well as put« ting in many hours on their chosen art. These young artists absorb their academic "education through - grades 1-12, and still go on to hold honored places in colleges, and sometimes in nat- ural science as well as creative arts fields. The apparent facility with which they do it raises questions. The answers could open up interesting fields of study for those who search out ways to induce the average child to study harder and to en- joy doing so. Some pupils, appearing in a play, or training intensively for, say, an upcoming figure-skating contest, stay away from school temporarily. When this is due to occur, teachers work out a cor- respondence system whereby the absentees recéive their les- sons in Monday mornin's mail, and return them completed on Friday, each week. This keeps them pretty well in line with their classmates, and when they return a' little special coaching smooths out any rough spots. SALLY'S SALLIES -- SN Ay Ry Petes Sake tu Wall dh ped bE "Isn't that the loveliest look- Ing glass you ever saw?" CASUAL FUR WEAR -- Sally McGuire has 'to keep a good grip on her furpiece--because it may run away. The little animal which drapes so well was identified by the Animal Rescue Lea- gue as a kinkajou. The league hasn't discovered how the strange little animal which is native to the warm regions be- tween central Mexico and Brazil happened to be in Minnesota. officially opened by Mrs, Kate Aitken who lives just around the corner from our lovely lit- tle church. Naturally she is a very popular person with the village folk. I have met Mrs. A. on several occasions, even sO I was quite surprised when she recognized me and came up and shook hands. I also found the rector, his wife and several of the parishioners very friendly, easy-to-know sort of people. Needless to say I was alone. Partner doesn't take too kindly to social functions. He can't stand being where there is a buzz conversation. St. Peter's parish includes about 250-families and I imag- ine covers a wide area. Evi- dently the Rector and his fam- ily are well liked, One lady and her daughter with whom I had tea come out from Toronto every Sunday to morning serv- ice. We have not yet been to the church but certainly intend doing so. St. Peter's strikes a familiar note with me. I was christened, confirmed, and mar- ried at St. Peter's .-- but in Sudbury, England, Not Erin- dale. Incidentally "Erindale" was originally known as "Springfield Terrace". So far we have not found any connect- ing links between our new home at Glemsford, in Suffolk. But we may -- it's a small world. Someone reading- this column might hail from Glems- ford-- you never know. It was -- LONICLES ZGINGERFARM Gwendoline P, Clarke a busy little village, well known at one time for its wool-weav- ing industries. You just.can't please every-- body. Driving back and forth along the concession roads all last week; noticing the dryness of the sown fields, where, in most cases not a sprout of grain was showing, we thought how wonderful it would be if we could have one day of honest- to-goodness rain. And - then, starting Thursday afternoon we got it. It rained most of Fri- day, you remember -- a gentle, penetrating rain, swelling the grain and causing the tender green sprouts to show above the ground. Gardens, too, wel- comed the moisture. And so what happened? Saturday morning we listened to Wally Crouter's early morning fore- cast . . . "The weatherman promises an end to this wet, miserable weather by tomor- row and we may -- we just may, if we're lucky -- have a fine weck-end!" So there 'you have it -- office-bound people + working within doors all week long for fine weather to enjoy the week-end. Farmers and gardeners working outside most of the time don't care. when it rains, just so long as the rain comes when it is most needed. We welcomed the rain too -- for the few shrubs and peren- nials we had transplanted from Ginger Farm. But we have one big border here which the rain doesn't touch at all. Another case of advantages and disadvantages. This border is in front of the living-room win- dow and under a roof projec- tion that measures exactly six feet. Planters either side of the front entry are also under the eaves. When we first saw this house we loved the projecting roof. We knew the windows would let in plenty of light without the direct glare of the sun. We never thought of the flower beds not getting any rain. So now, every other daw it's out with the hose, hail, rain or shine. Fortunately there are no restrictions about watering as we have our own well, and --- we hope -- an adequate wa- ter supply. Already we are pleasantly . surprised with our one-acre lot. Today I found enough aspara- gus for dinner, growing here and there among . the grass, stalks as thick as my finger. A neighbour told us this used to be market-garden land so I suppose the few scattered roots are what is left of an asparagus bed. Most of the lawn is self- sown so naturally it is a little rough and well sprinkled with dandelions. We have a double garage and a good wide drive- way which means I can swing around and drive out to the road instead of backing. That suits me just fine, My driving proficiency never did include manoeuvring the car in and out of tight spots. We are still marvelling at the quietness here. Even the planes don't bother us. At the farm many of the planes going In and out of Malton flew direct- - thought -to has a different tone, we think ly over the house and reacted badly on the TV set. Here we see almost as many planes but generally a little to the side of the house. However, there are other strange, weird noises to which we are not yet accus- tomed. Every time a tap is turned on the pressure -pump starts up. Or the oll-burning furnace goes into action; or the "frig" begins' to . hum. We we had the various noises located but Thursday night I heard a new sound. Friday morning down in the basement I heard it again. The sump-pump! Now, as each mo- we can recognize them all. Of course we have been ter- ribly busy all week. I have been re-making drapes and Partner fixing up brass rods to hold them. All we had to buy was more curtain rings. Bob GARE Mimi Ard, and her - French poodle Cliquot both got thelr lumps-- via the mumps. Medl- cal science says it's almost im- "SWELL" PALS -- Five-year-old - was here yesterday and helped Partner. get a venetian blind fixed up for the den. Its for- mer home was the sunroom at the farm. Saturday afternoon I took a little time off and went to St. Peter's Church Bazaar in the village. The Bazaar was possible for a dog to have mumps, but an incredulous veterinarian confirmed that Cli- quot caught the ailment while playing with the child. So Mimi and her pet are lumped to- gether in convalescence. Modern Etiquette by Roberta Lee Q. Is it proper for a pe who is attending a church which he is not a member, #4 remain - seated while othert kneel? A. This person may very prop- rly lean far forward and bow fis head in prayer. Q. Isn't the bridegroom sup posed to pay for the wedding music? A. No; this expense is borne by the bride or her family, Q. Should individual dishes bq provided each guest for various vegetables when giv a dinner at home? A. 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"ISSUE 23 -- 1957 1 recipe pastry 1 pound rhubarb ; 3 tablespoons BENSON Corn Starch ] granulated sugar (4 cups diced) S or CANADA Va cup 14 teaspoon salt 3 cup CROWN BRAND C 1 tablespoon butter, melted orn Syrup \led t of the postry © te pan with par LINE 9-lnch Pp : 1/4 inch thick. WASH rhubarb @ pastry shell. . COMBINE BENSON Sor and salt ADD CROWN well, pour over tf pas RRANGE fattice.© : ih at A50°F. for 15 minutes; reduce heat and bake A5 minutes nd cut into 1-inch lengths; place In ANADA Corn Starch, sugar RAND Corn Syrup and butter, mixing rhubarb. . strips across top. i 10 350M longer or unt 1 crust 1s golden For free folder of other delicious recipes, write to) Jane Ashley, ; Home Service Department, | Tie CANADA STARCH COMPANY brown: _ UMITED P.O. Box 129, Montreal, P.Q.