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| 4 | i aren gw su i TT RTE TR ER aad UF LEG PORT PERRY STAR -- Wednesday, Janvary 3, 1990 -- 21 Many people sick over Christmas holidays As yet another year passes, and as we enter a new decade, it seems like a good time to sit back and reflect on all that we have to be grateful for. Health, the love of friends and family, and happiness in the small joys of everyday liv- ing are but a few of the things that make our lives complete. May 1 wish for all of you a very happy New Year! I would like to thank the staff of the Port Perry Star for available space each week for this column, so that we might keep our Jriends informed of the various activities within the Ashburn area. Thank you to all, who keep me posted from time to time with newsy items. Many people in the area have _ suffered with colds and flu over the Christmas holidays. Guess Start your diets Utica and Area News by Vera Brown Did everyone ' enjoy the holidays? Now begin the diets, ex- ercises etc. which follows all those special dinners, get-togethers etc. with friends and family. Maybe instead of making New Year's resolutions, we should make them early in December. No. 1. would be don't over indulge. United Church events this week include Choir practise on Thurs- day at 8 p.m. at the Sobil home. Youth Group meet on Friday . evening at the home of Arnold and Gail Kerry. Church and Sunday School this week will be in Utica Church and will include Holy Communion. Time is 11:15 a.m.. U.C.W. will meet on Tuesday, January 9th at 1 p.m. for dessert and refreshments at Epsom Church. For anyone who isn't a member and would like to come, please feel free to do so. All are welcome. There will be a euchre in Utica Hall this Friday at 8 p.m., all are welcome. Mrs. Crosier enjoyed a weeks visit with Jean and Wally Scott and family. Welcome to Mr. and Mrs. Miller who have recently moved into their home formerly owned by the Cosburns. Hillis and Carol Wilbur had their family all home for celebra- tions on the Saturday before Christmas. Christmas Day they were guests of Ralph and Elsie Wilbur in Port Perry and on Box- ing Day all the family were guests with Ruby Beare in Port Perry. Hillis, Carol, Todd, Carolyn, Lee and Lisa attended the Hespler Bantam Hockey Tournament on Thursday - Saturday with the Port Perry team who were the Champions of the Tournament. Congratulations, it must be the coaches! Would you be interested in becoming a Block Parent? More are needed in the Utica area, so if interested call Judy MacSween at 985-7251. Reaching Out -- courtesy of -- WAGG-McDERMOTT- PANABAKER Ashburn and Area News by Florence Ashton we'll just blame that frigid weather we had to endure over a prolonged period. The euchre players gathered together at the Community Cen- tre last Thursday evening with 9 tables playing. Ladies first prize went to Bertha Hurren, second to Joan Fleming. Men's first to Art Budd, second to Bill Hodgins. lone hand to Jean Richard, lucky door prize winner to Jim Gibson. 50/50 draw won by Mary Cannon. You are invited to the next euchre on Thursday, January 11, at 8:00 p.m.. Bring your friends and come out and enjoy a good evening. Bill and Bernice Gardner enter- tained all their family for Christmas; also Bob and Mary Ervine and Steven, and Norman Samells from Port Perry visited with the Gardner family Ruth Purdy from Orangeville, visited with Florence and Doug Ashton and family for the week at Christmas. The Eleanor Knight Group of the Women's Missionary Society will meet on Wednesday after noon of this week at 2 o'clock a the home of Lois Daut. There wil be no regular study, as this will be a business meeting. The church annual meeting is - scheduled for Friday, February 2 Rev. McEntyre delivered a very inspiring sermon on Sunday morning. His sermon title was "Three Words to take with you in- 101990.' Scriptures were read by Jack Davidchuk and Hugh Knight. Special thanks to those who were reponsible for decorating the sanctuary so beautifully for Christmas, with the beautiful poinsettias and candles. The sale you've been watching for from ... IMAGES _-- for 4th annual winter PLUS Vo Gr SUNT. YO (01) | 0113 I dad 3d 4 HAROLD WAGG How Can I Learn to Manage the Loss? PROMOTE THE "GRIEF WORK." Face the crisis actively so as to realize the full reality of what has happened. By viewing the body of the deceased and discussing the death with friends at the visitation, you can begin to ac- cept the permanency of the loss. Although it is painful, it is this pain which activates the healing process. SURROUND YOURSELF WITH FRIENDS AND FAMILY Begin during the acute phase to accept the sympathy of people. You need their warmth and support at the critical moments and throughout the grief stages. Do not be afraid to cry with them. Receiving friends at the funeral home is one way to allow others to show they care. Let them know you appreciate their concern. AVOID MEDICATION SUCH AS SEDATIVES Although drugs may provide some needed relief, they must not be taken for the purpose of avoiding grief entirely. Remember, the "grief work" must be done in order to make the adjustment. a a aaa REFRAIN FROM MAKING HASTY DECISIONS immediately taking a trip or changing your residence is not the answer. You must cope with the loss first, knowing that "running away" will not help. Avoid making serious financial decisions until you have had time to secure proper advice. RECALL THE UNFORGETTABLE MEMORIES Sometimes bereaved in- dividuals feel the solution to the grief is to attempt to "forget". However, it is good to recall the life of the deceased. By recognizing the wealth of the past, you can understand the grief is worth the time spent together. CONSULT WITH PROFESSIONALS IF GRIEF BECOMES TOO INTENSE Feel free to contact your clergyman, physician or funeral director. They are ex- cellent listeners. Those familiar with the grief process may provide counsel. AVOID RELYING TOTALLY ON THE ADVICE OF FRIENDS Often, well- meaning friends may be unfamiliar with the stages of grief or unaware of your true needs. Realize their intentions are certainly in your interest but sometimes their advice can be misdirected. SHARE YOUR FEELINGS WITH OTHERS Relate your problems and memories to those who will listen. Do not hesitate to repeat these time and again. Revealing your thoughts openly helps to alleviate emotional pain. ESTABLISH GOALS FOR YOURSELF Concentrating on serving others and developing new interests wil relieve your loneliness and give new purpose to your life. You may volunteer to serve in a charitable organization or help individuals in need. Consider seeking further education, increasing your in- volvement in work, and joining service or travel clubs as ways of adding new meaning to your life. MAINTAIN HOPE Paint a realistic picture of what pain you may face. The "grief work" will help to overcome the intensified pressures of grief. Even- tually you will remember the good times, and the bad ones will fade. Remember, when death comes ... part of the deceased lives on with the survivor. PLEASE DIRECT ANY INQUIRIES TO HAROLD WAGG ... 985-2171 Winter Merchandise Buy any item™ at regular price and get any 2nd item of equal or less value for only $1.00! Sale starts Thursday, January 4th and Ends Saturday, January 13th, 1990. Shop early for Best Selection! (* DENIMS EXLUDED) IMAGES - 261 QUEEN STREET - PORT PERRY 985-3040