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TEWmERNEE Yee mm omen © deal Sectny with Onn CHILD GUIDANCE (iis Usually the Parents' Fault When Their Child is a "Show-Oft" By G. CLEVELAND MYERS Many parents write me of the | | ests. A child of 19, 12 or 14 might duce a guest to go with him to child who shows off. Clearly they his workshop to see some things are much annoyed by his doing so, though it rarely occurs to them that the child may also have a good matter. Indeed. the leading cause of | he has been making. During all such experiences he is winning at- tention and gaining a feeling of of unhappiness over the worthwhileness. BECOMES A HABIT The young child who shows off | showing off is the child's efforts (before company may do so from : to cover up his temporary discom- habit if, earlier, he has been made fort, It's a kind of smoke screen the centre of attention in the midst he uses to enable him to escape of his parents and relatives, urged © for for the time very unhappy feel- ings, or to fool himself that he is comfortable, You and I may have had experiences like his, when we talked like a house afire, bragged or said or a foolish Shin A en we felt socially uncomfortable. LIKES ATTENTION Everybody must show off some. | © Wwe 'can get attention by doing or J RLA IPM BEST ARREST RT a word from RUNBERNON SEY (BSP EEA I) saying something sociall accept- able--tell a good story well, pre- side skillfully over a meeting. make a g speech, carry out a worthy enterprise for our church or club, prepare or serve a meal well, be a gracious host or hostess. or excel] in craftsmanship. So. also, if a child at three, 12 or 16 can in one or many ways do and say what others usually appre- ciate, he doesn't feel the need of acting or speaking in a way they label "showing off." Thus, youngster, four, may busy him- self in his own room or in a corner of the living room at mak- ing or doing something for his own amusement which guests may also pause to admire. He or an older child may take the wraps of ar- riving guests, help in serving tea or a regular meal, or contribute in other ways to the comfort of the | | | | | the [to | to 'repeat antics and remarks they supposed were smart. So exploited for their pride and amazement, while very young, he has an ap- petite for more of such. When his parents begin to dis- like his eagerness for attention, and other adults are bored or vexed, he can't understand why he is rebuked for the very things for which he used to be applauded. Therefore, he tries more desper- ately to win attention and grows more and more repellent. Also, in the family alone with him, you parents may have tried hard to he very considerate of him, even letting him interrupt anybody at any time. Then when you have guests, you try so hard to be gracious to them that you may ueglacs this child when he shows off to compel your attention him. While in extreme cases you may need to send him from the room, your problem is to cul- tivate better ways in him when there is no company, and to help him do more things to win atten- tion by ways socially acceptable, (My new bulletin, '"The Show-off Child," may be had in a stamped envelope sent me in care of this paper.) MARY HAWORTH'S MAIL Woman Senses Growing Rift Dear Mary Haworth: Several months ago, I visited a married couple whose friendship I have cherished since my girlhood. I sel- dom see them, but we've ex- changed letters at intervals for 20 Fears and gradually they have wn closer to my husband and me, due to our being in the same experiences. by 8 trabedy we suliored resently a we y ~similar to a blow they had some Years ago. Dirad our last visit, the hus- band; who has always been pretty strict in his dealings with women, y put his arms around me and hugged me, Although I was much surprised by John's ges- did mot take offense, as I e motive? Or, should I have responded in a dif- férent manner? We haven't heard our f since our ; visit and I feel badly about the business, as I really did 2 cherish this friendship and wouldn't have spoiled it for any- taken? R.C BE APPROPRIATE GESTURE DEAR R.C.: When one person g hugs another person spontaneously, + conce! usually a mixture of good feeling prompts it. For example, affection | , sympathy, admiration and | the like. This is true whether the | persons are of the same or opposite sex, It is rather to be expected--I mean it seems decently appro- . priate--that old friends would em- field of work, and having similar him After Rebuffing Friendly Gesture brace instinctively, when meeting or parting, in the aftermath of tragedy. In such circumstances, an impulsive hug is a gesture of in- articulate communication, a man- ifesto of sympathetic sentiment too deep and wide for words. It is an expression of kind-hearted care and understanding on the part of who s and should evoke fraternal gratitude in the person hugged. Your perturbation about John's LOOKING OVER EUROPE By M. McINTYRE HOOD Managing Editor, The Times-Gazette We have now reached journey's end. It seemns incredible that in the short space of 12 days we could have travelled so far, seen so much, and had such intersting and educational experiences. Truly the era of air trave] has extended man's horizons, so that things which would have been impossible a generation ago are now commcn- place. Yet all iravel has a great educational value, and even this fast trip to Europe and Britain knowledge of the world, The final part of the story of the journey itself is quickly told. | After three restful but happy days with friends and relatives in Edin- burgh, we took train for Glasgow, then, after a farewell visic Ww friends there, went by bus to Prestwick. At ten o'clock at night, we boarded the TCA North Star plane and set out on the home- ward journey. Two o'clock in the morning saw us in Iceland, for a 45 minute stop at the airport there. a clear moon and bright stars hug, and your report that you |simply ignored it, suggest that your attitude was rigidly embar- rassed or self conscios--as if you were Sweet Sixteen, as yet un- kissed, in the clutches of a liber- tine. If such was the case, John would be vaguely uncomfortable in retrospect, too, He would be crestfallen and kicking himself for having been made to feel a fool, as if he had been publicly rebuffed in the act of flirting. | FORGET TRIFLE | Assuming John was cast in an awkward, oafish-seeming light by your frozen stance, his wife may have chided him later for "presum- ing" with you, or for being undig- nified, and In consequence a pall of gloom may envelop their recol- lections of your departure. In |that mood, they might wish the visit had never happened and thus might let the correspondence lapse. Since you cherish the friendship and wish to keep it in repair, the obvious course is to write the wife las usual--stressing your apprec- | lation of their kind hospitality dur- ing the recent reunion and chatting about news of possible interest to them. Also, you might send a gift of thanks, something useful for the house--say a whistling tea kettle, a cheese board or an earthen pot for baking beans. Dismiss the 'hug' from mind. Read some spirit-lifting literature for help in this--as, for instance, "Stake Your Claim" by Emmett Fox (Harper and Brothers) or "God's Reach" by Glenn Clark (Macalester Park). M.H. Mary Haworth counsels through her column, not by mail or per- sonal interview. Write her in care of this newspaper. a, Cookie, Evonghody Lika Pook Brrean's SHORTCAKE 100% P. F. English Quality ® The finest creamery butter gives a rich flavour which makes P. F. Shortcake a fa- vourite with old and young. Serve it with ice cream, custard or fruit desserts and with either hot or iced drinks. PEEK FREAN'S oon BISCUITS $ * Ladies ! OUR SPRING -- OF -- UITS - COATS DRESSES IS STILL IN FULL SWING! PRICES GREATLY REDUCED! 72 SIMCOE had added to the sum total of our |g... Flying weather was perfect, with | lighiing the sky and casting a sil- ver carpet on the sea as we sped over it.. We landed at Goose Bay, Labrador about seven o'clock, had a brief stay there, with snow fa'- ling lightly, and then on to Mont- real, where we landed at the air- port at 9.50. At 10.25 we were leaving Dorval airport on a TCA plane for Malion, arriving there at 1.20, daylight saving time. A car trip in to Toronto, and a bus ride from there brought us into Oshawa just before four o'clock, back to lace of starting this whirlwind trip overseas. It seem- ed incredible that we could leave and at ten o'clock one night and be home in Oshawa at four o'clock the next day. And even then it took longer to travel frem Malton to Oshawa than it did from Montreal to Malton. SMOOTH FLYING Our flight home was wenderfully comortable and relaxing. The TCA plane went alcng smoothly at a speed of 270 miles an hour, and we managed to sleep soundly for seven hours between Iceland and Goose Bay, the extra hours being accounted for by the difference in me. Now we are home, and looking back on the brief visit to Scotland, we have a few observations to make. It may be recalled that when we visited Britain two years ago, we found conditons very un- satisfactory. The people seemed to be suffering from a sense of frus- tration. They had no clear idea of the direction in which they were going, and economically, the coun- | try was in bad shape. There were many disgruntled people because of the continued hardships and re- strictions which they had to bear. RADICAL CHANGES On this year's trip, we found | things changed radically. The frus- tration was gone, and it had heen replaced by a feeling of confidence and hone. Food was much more plentiful and more varied, and there had been considerable relax- ation of rationing, Only a few | NEW FEELING OF HOPE | There was a new feeling of hope |and they are now all of the Labor | | because the people feel that there | stripe, who refuse to give the gov- is some sense of direction in the | affairs of the country. They know of the economic improvement in Britain's affairs. The recent Butler budget, which it was criticized, like our own Canadian budget, for not having gone far enough in reliev- ing the burdens on the *'little man", was accepted gratefully as at least making a good start in the direction of tax relief, People were much more relaxed in spirit than we found them two years ago, but at the same time, there was no relaxa- [tion in their efforts to help their country put of its difficulties. If anything, there was a greater will- ingness to work hard because they knew that at last they were makin, progress towards a definite gi of recovery. That knowledge has been a great stimulus to individual cffort, and has had much to do with the greatly improved morale of all classes, POLITICAL IMPLICATIONS There are those who say that this great improvement is due to the change in government, to the Churchill touch. There are others, ernment all the credit for what has accomplished since Oc- | been 1951. Two Socialists with tober, ment would have taken place even if there had been no change of government. They might be censid- ered biased, bacause the general feeling we encountered was that th government's approach to Brit- 'ain's problems, and its policy of telling the people the whole, plain, blunt truth about the situation, have been strong factors in the general improvement of public morale and the spirit of the people. There is a feeling that Britain is well on the way out of its difficul- ties, and that, fen a period of peace, things will work out well for the old land. The folks there are more concerned about Europe than Korea, but they are not anxious | to tie themselves ip with the Fu. iropean deferice army. They prefer to keep clear of greater European entanglements and rather sling to their ties with the rest of the Com- monwealth as a future foreign pol- whom we talked said the improve- | ' | THE DAILY TIMES-GAZETTE, Wednesday, May 13 1053 18 icy, And tuat idea has the approval !of the mass of the people. INTEREST IN CANADA There is still a tremendous inter- est in migration to Canada. The plane on which we travelled back home had 75 per cent of its pass- iengers new immigrants travelling west to make their homes in Can- ada, I received many queries re- garding working conditions and wages in Canada, on the housing situation and other phases of Can- dian life and costs of living, and this country, Yet the urge to get away from undesirable conditions has given way to sometning like a rebirth of the old British spirit of adventure which has carried the flag to the seven seas of the world. And that is the end of the journ. ey. It has been a wonderful, an enlightening experience, and not the least part of our enjoyment of it has been the opportunity of shar. ing our experiences and impres- sions with our readers. items, such as butter, margarine, | cooking fat, sugar and meats were still were high hopes that in the near on the ration list, and there | future rationing would be aholish- | ed entirely. 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