CHILD GUIDANCE ' It is Usually Parents' Fault If a Child Feels Humiliated By G. CLEVELAND MYERS A boy on a seesaw feels himself rise as his playmate goes down. A universal human practice is to push - ourselves up by pushing an- other person down wi or words Little shared Job often with- out knowing why. Even ups do this, often iB Rg how- ever. DESIRE FOR SUPERIORITY "Look at the way Billy rides his tricycle. Look at me." 'Sue has only a few toys. Look at mine." "Cathy couldn't give the teacher her telephone number today." Many school children laugh when a classmate stumbles over a ques- tion or makes a mistake. As they laugh, they feel superior, and say that they are. They feel themselves oing up as they push another vo] It's a very primitive means of self-praise. In the home, one child may of- ten make fun of a brother or sis- ter for asking "such a dumb ques- tion," or making such a stupid remark. And if it is a younger child who thus expresses superior- ity over an older one, the effeet can be tragic. NOT ONLY IN SCHOOL One school child at home may frequently relate some blunder or mistake of a classmate at school, saying, in effect, 'How dumb he is!" When teen-agers get together expense of some timid classmate they consider queer, relating the many things he has said or done as evidence of his supposed stu- pidity. At some less admirable gather- ings, much effort at humor is based on how much more stupid some other person is supposed to be. One person in an engaged couple or a married pair also at- tempt humor by speaking slight- ingly of the other person, which really is motivated by an urge to feel superior, w pushing the other rson down. $ ne person at a e party wins some attention Jridge 2 another person is quick ready to add, 'Yes, but I don't like thus and so about her." UNGENTLE SARCASM This Shah trait is 3 a worst in ad n nts, for in- stance, say to oe school child halting over a lesson at home, "You don't know that? You don't know that? Your baby brother could answer it. Tell him, Bruce." Or when, under the guise of hu- mor, they humiliate the tot of two or the adolescent of 15, by laugh- ing at his question, utterance or opinion. Or when the teacher, id a joke, causes a child to be ridi- culed uproariously by his class- mates. The e that prompts parents and teachers to employ ridicule and sarcasm is our primitive st for feelings of superiority. Thus, unconsciously, we get pleasures from his pains. We rise as we push him down. But our actions are not always so mean. Sometimes we are guided by ideals. Not only do we check our childish urges, but we grad- ually gain pleasures over the suc- cess of other persons, especially our children, and tell them so. We celebrate successes in them. (My new bulletin "Celebrate Successes in Your Child," may be had by sending a self-addressed, stamped envelope to me in care of this newspaper.) KEEP IN TRIM Visit to Beauty Salon Should be a Treat, Not a Chore By IDA JEAN KAIN "Women rush too much today to be beautiful." That candid state- ment about us came from Albert Sofia, a top New York hair sty- list. "It is shocking to see women spending their money, presumably for beauty in the form of a becom- ing hairs tyle, then stitting under the drying machines liter: 'in a stew.' Just notice the frown lines and the harassed expression on their faces!" That was his explosive reply to my question as to what helps a woman to be more beautiful. "Women do not seem to realize that the nervous system reacts ad- versely to rushing, or that the hairy in turn reacts to the nervous sys- pendson the inner woman." EXPERT'S ADVICE This authority knows whereof he speaks for, as top hair stylist for Wayne Forrest Salon, he has a chance to observe infinite varie- ties of women all trying to look their best. So here is his advice "gn how to get your beauty money's worth: Regard every visit to the beauty salon as an investment, relax and get the most out of it. Make it a very special treat, not a chore. It would be better to put off that beauty appointment a few days and then set aside time to enjoy your session. Mr. Sofia has some highly in- teresting ideas on this subject of what makes a woman more beauti- ful. "Some women seem to take on an aura of beauty. In fact, some barely pretty women seem to appropriate beauty unto them- selves," he continued. "A new hair- do helps of course, but beauty is so much more than that. It is la Ry. that which comes from "CHANGE IS A REST" The gist of it is this: If the hairdo gives you a lift, then it can make you lovelier. It's a mistake, he believes, to wear your hair the same old way, year after year. And the world will not come to an end ¥f your part is possibly a half off from standard. That very deviation might be interesting. Change is a wonderful tonic! Wo- men who dare to do something exciting about themselves grow more beautiful, is the way this authority summed it up. Most import of all, make your regular visit to the beauty salon a few hours of vacation. E it, be happier and healthier for it. Do this and you come away feel ing beautiful and, by feeling beau- tiful, you take on that aura of beauty. THE STARS SAY By ESTRELLITA FOR TOMORROW Concentrated effort will win laur- els this day. Get difficult tasks out of the way first, then go on to the ones that are more stimultaing. With the Moon entering Capricorn, this is an excellent period for all matters concerning the héme. Start house renovations now, look for a new apartment if you need one, or invest in real estate. In business affairs disregard ad- verse criticism--especially if it re- lates to finances. As long as you know that you are following cor- rect procedures, course despite the opinions of others. The afternbon hours are excellent for short distance travel and romance. FOR THE BIRTHDAY If tomorrow is your birthday, you should now be in the midst of an excellent period where mone- tary matters are concerned. For the balance of this month, however, it would be well to rely on first im- gs. Trust your own judgment. It cannot fail you now. Y The early part of 1954 continues to be favorable from a material standpoint and for furthering af- fairs of a reasonable nature. Per- sonal and social affairs are also ve to r and mar- | riage. In all prosjects requiring | courage, energy and initiative, put forth your best efforts now. They should pay off handsomely for you. A child born on this day will be loyal. Passion for Hats Dazzles Aldermen LONDON (Reuters) -- A grey- for "silly hats" is scheduled to be- come London's next "mayor." She is Mrs. Molly Bolt:n, mother proven her diplomatic skill by successfully concealing her age through a. long public career. to be installed as chairman of the 150-member London County Coun- cil next Tuesday when the coun- holds a majority of seats. Her job, i) tact and administrative ability. HEAD CITY'S HEART She will be the active head of the 3,500,000 persons who live in London county, the heart of the capital's 8,000,000 population. She will not receive one penny for her full-time job, and will only get a strictly-audited expense account. She lives with her husband, an engineer, in a solid old Victorian brick house in northwest London. Their daughter is an actress in a London stock company and their son is on duty in Malaya as an army medical officer. During her early days on the council, Mrs. Bolton dazzled her fellow-councilmen by showing up wearing bold new hats notable for their carefree, feminine style. But this year when she was elected as vice-chairman of the council, decorum got the better of her and she began to show up bareheaded. When Mrs. Bolton took her seat on the dais for the first time there was a subdued chorus of groans from the male councilmen whose ressions in further financial deal- £ under beneficent aspects and the L late spring inaugurates a period |: aggressive, dynamic and intensely i haired housewife with a passion |: of two adult children and a vet- |: eran Socialist who has already || keep on your | = e toughest in British municipal politics, requires great |: | Mrs. Bolton virtually is certain |: cilmen meet to confirm her nom- |: ination by the Labor party, which | TH1s handsome costume for autumn afternoons is made in tissue weight woolen flecked with black velvet squares. It is the perfect choice for matinees, cocktail or afternoon bridge ses- sions. The frock features soften- ing feminine details; gently By ELEANOR ROSS There's no reason to put up with an unattractive, inconvenient bath- room these days, not when there are so many clever gadgets de- signed to add beauty and comfort at a moderate muta, The main thing that makes a bathroom a luxurious aifair, of course, is having enough clean, pretty towels within easy reach. TOWEL RACKS To achieve this, you must have enou| towel racks. And where are you going to put them in such a crowded space? Well, a simple answer has been found to that. It's an expanding towel bar that normally conceals an 11%-inch arm at each end. When guests come, or for the family, pull out these extension arms, and there ¢ |1is room for many extra towels. Then there's a handsome towel bar made of black lucite trans- © | parent synthetic resin, to which "two big matching rings are at-! i |{tached. Each ring will ' towel. It's an idea you don't have i {to confine to the bathroom, as a hold a "© |matter of fact, for it will be an AFTERNOON ATTRACTION rounded shoulders, a small shawl collar of velvet and un- pressed pleats over the hipline. A little black velvet pillbox, a black fox muff, black shoes and gloves complete the suave outfit. --By TRACY ADRIAN added convenience in the kitchen i and handy in nursery. No need go through that "last minute night. mare" «start her on a set of Wallace Ster- ing. A few pieces at Christmas--other pieces on birthdays, anniversaries--=and she'll have o fable P% service to be provd of forever! 'WALLACE =P | THIRD DIMENSION BEAUTY THE DAILY TIMES-GAZETTE, Tuesday, November 10, 1083 § Add Comfort to Your Bathroom By Using an Expanding Towel Bar A clothes hamper with a de- tachable bin is another aid. This means you can simply pull on a chrome bar and the bin tilts to- wards you--so much simpler and easier than leaning over to fish in the bottom of the hamper for the !laundry. The lid is stationary so you don't have to take things off its top every time you want to put something in or take some- thing out. There's a beauty note, too, in the enamel fiber and the colored plastic top. Beauty and utility go hand in hand these days, adding attractive texture and color to every nook of the house. FOR THE SHOWER To get down to more practical things if you have @ water supply problem due to a water storage tank that is too small, there's a new shower head that runs on 40 to 60 per cent of the water re quired by other heads. Fuel costs are cut in proportion, too, and that's something that concerns homemaker. This new shower he: is said to operate on as little as five pounds of pressure. None of these products costs anything like a substantial sum of money and yet you'll find they're worth a fortune to the family ia the added convenience and come fort they offer, LIVING FOSSILS WELLINGTON, N.Z. (CP)---Two dragon-like lizards of a which died out in other parts of world |thousands of years ago have been successfully | reared in captivity here. They are tustaras, slow-move ing creatures now found only om 3 Jew small islands off New Zea. and. new ideas... «..t0 brighten our lives Rain won't disturb you with this new system which will automaticolly close your windows when it rains and open them when it stops. i At last, a truly strong, rugged glue has been produced. Handy around the home, this give will permanently stick many substances such as metal, tile, plaster, wood, ete. to themselves or each other. Our standards of living are among the highest in the world, because we are con- stantly striving for greater improvement. Be glad you're a Canadian. BREWERY LTD. OTTAWA, ONTARIO lives had been brightened for years by the hats. w"it s just laziness, really," Mrs. Bolton apologized. Mrs. Bolton's @evotion .to social ism dates far back into this cen- tury. For seven years she was the private secretary to Britain's famed Socialist team, Sidney and Beatrice Webb. As chairman of the council she will be the head of a body which handles almost all the county's ac- tive civic life, from sewage dis- posal and civil defence to child welfare and the school system MEDICAL FFICER DIES TORONTO (CP) -- Dr. Frank Stewart Park 65, commanding offi- cer for the medical board of mili- tary district 2 during the Second World War, died Saturday. He re tired from the army in 1944 with the rank of lieutenant-colonel. He "played on a University of Toronto football team which won the Grey Cup in 1910. 32-INCH BOY DOLL! By ALICE BROOKS He wers boys' size - 2 clothes-- stands 32 inches high -- and no | matter what your age, you can't | resist him! 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