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RECENTLY In Christ Church, War- wick, Bermuda an Wednes- day, February 3, Miss Mary Catherine Gurr, daughter of Mr. and Mrs. Edward Gurr of '"Boreen,"' Pembroke, Bermuda, be- came the bride of Paul How- ard Tyree, son of Mr. and Mrs. Paul S. Tyree of Ce- CHILD GUIDANCE Parents Should Be Alert = MARRIED dar Rapids, lowa. Mrs. Tyree, a 1961 graduate of Branksome Hall, Toronto, is a granddaughter of the late Mr. and Mrs. 0. M. Alger of Oshawa. The newly- weds are residing in Ber- muda. --Bermuda News Bureau To Child's Secret Sex-Play | By GARRY C. MYERS, PhD _ Often children engage in sex play and experimenting with need to compete on equal levels as in the rough-and-tumble with job, so I can respect myself those of his own age. ' THE STARS SAY By ESTRELLITA FOR TOMORROW A fairly good day. Pace your efforts easily and watch your timing, however. The early part of the day will be best for starting new ventures, making plans fot the future and hold- ing conferences with those in authority. P. M. hours will be better for concluding pending projects and for social relation- ships. ° FOR THE BIRTHDAY If tomorrow is your birthday, don't look for spectacular ad- a Q vancement this year. You can make headway, of course, but it will take consistent effort, combined with sound judgment. + |Make the most of. opportunities to advance occupational affairs in late April and early May; also in late December and early January. Best periods for mone- tary affairs: mid-March, early May, all of July, the latter half of September, mid-October and next January. Socially, you can gain in popularity and win the friend- ship of influential persons be- tween now and mid-September; also in December and January. Romance will be generously as- pected in late June, all of July and late September (excellent for marriage). And, if you're planning to travel, the first three weeks of July will be the most propitious period. If you are careful to avoid friction in close circles for the balance of this month, in late April, early June, late August, early Sept- ember and early October, your domestic seas should be calm. A child born on this day will -|be endowed with great gifts of _|leadership, but will have to curb a tendency to quarrel over petty matters. Elaine Grand, 36, a Win- nipeg native, is regarded as the top woman interviewer in British television. Also a veteran of current affairs programs in Canada, she Family Errands Irk Matron Past 40 [Seeking Objective | By ROBERTA ROESCH Little. things are important or |so we're always told. | But when you're a woman of| |40 who wants to do something jnew, sometimes. all those "little |things" add up to nothing but a dull existence. | |woman had when she talked to} me this week. | | NECESSARY--BUT | "TI know that somebody has to tote shirts to the laundry, pick up cleaning, take books to the library and do forgotten or put- off errands," she said, "but I'm tired of spending most of my days as the family errand girl. "Instead, I want to plan for a bit more and have some pur- By ELEANOR ROSS TOP INTERVIEWER rebels against being asked to do a woman's program. She also is a_ successful producer. --(CP Photo) Controlled Revolutions |\Correct Shade Rollers | First be sure that the) | The simple, everyday window|brackets are not rubbing shade roller is really quite ajagainst the ends of the roller; remarkable mechanism. Even|Ccheck that they have not been} in this age of technological|bent and are properly installed. wonders, no one has been able inal patent that was taken out back in 1864. Properly handled, a life. Ingeniously constructed, it |has very few moving parts to break down, and it takes but little adjustment to snap these back into working order. Nevertheless, a few do's and don'ts about their care should insure the rollers giving longer and better service. A too-tight spring is easily regulated. Roll the shade up to the top, remove it from its If neither of .these is down, remove it from brackets. Repeat this until the shade re- sponds promptly to your light- est touch. (Never roll the shade "half way up by hand." This makes most shade rollers com- pletely unco-operative and, many of them.) and hold can be easily fixed. To cope with this, check make sure the brackets the to improve much on the orig-|cause, pull the shade part ul the |brackets and roll not more than shade|two revolutions of cloth onto the This is the feeling that onejroller has an extremely long| roller before replacing it in the in fact, may permanently damage The shade that doesn't catch to are ANN LANDERS Sylvia's Socks Dear Ann Landers: My problem is a crippling one and I need your help. My girl likes to knit. You'd think practice makes per- fect but in Sylvia's case it's the opposite. Her knitting gets worse instead of better. , Being thing she knits has obyious mistakes in it, Last year. Sylvia 'began to knit sox for me. Well, Ann, these sox are murder on mi¥ feet. She gets the yarn knotted up and it feels like I have rocks in my shoes. If-I show up wearing store sox she asks me how come I'm not wearing the ones she made for me. I hate to hurt her feel- ings, but right now my feet feel as if they have two dozen needles in them. Help me please.--BIG ERNIE Dear Ernie: Those rocks aren't in your shoes, Brother, they're in your head. J Stop wearing Sylvia's mis- takes and tell her why. Your feet need help now, and you are not going to lose Sylvia if you level with her. That's a promise. Dear Ann Landers: You have printed letters from parents who are heartbroken over the |death of a son or a daughter. Well, Ann, death is not the only thief that can deprive. parents of a child. old college graduate daughter was married. Carol gave up her religion to marry Steve. We ac- cepted her decision and her father gave her away. We gave them a beautiful wedding. We have seen our daughter jand son-in-law only four times |since the wedding although they \live less than 15 minutes away. |Every time the telephone rings or the door opens we pray it will be Carol and Steve. Of course it isn't and we try hard to hide the disappointment from one another but neither of us does very well. I don't know why I'm writing this letter because I'm not seek- ing advice. It- must be that I needed to express myself. Thank -you for being there.-- REJECTED Dear Rejected: Have you in- vited Steve and Carol to, your home? I hope you haven't been sitting around hoping they will drop in. Perhaps the problem is simply one of communication. Why not talk it out? Dear Ann Landers: You an- nounced with a "me-ow. and a twee-tweet" that you were clos- ing the door on the cat and bird Make Ernie Sore Six months ago our 23-year-|- THE OSHAWA TIMES, Tuasday, February 23,1965 9] their pets was particularly in- as to me because I be- lieve this is true of dog lovers. Repeatedly I have been struck by the physical resemblance be- tween dog owners and their pets. It amuses me when some- one says, "Bozo is just like a member of the family" because so often Bozo looks like a mem- ber of the family. EARLY AIDS In 1893, only three electrical appliances were available -- iron, toaster and coffee-maker --compared with today's total of more than 100. . rhubarb. Will you please reopen the fight--for a professional or- nithologist who was a little slow in getting his remarks together? Sorry to disillusion Greeneyes but it is not true that only hun- gry cats go after birds, that only the sick and injured birds get caught, that the alert birds stay well out of Tabby's reach. Cats are predators by nature. The cat family is the only ani- mal species, other than man, which derive pleasure from cruelty. Cats go after birds for the sheer heck of it--whether they are hungry or not. By and large cat-lovers are very much like their pets--intro- verted, selfish and somewhat treacherous. So--bird watchers of the world, unite! We say death to all cats!--FOR THE IRDS WIFE PRESERVER To measure syrups accurate- ly, first grease your spoon so the syrup won't cling. = FOR THE FINEST Custom Made DRAPES -- in the Latest Shades and Fabrics SEE M & (« prarenies 74 CELINA STREET PHONE 723-7827 TRACKS EXPERTLY INSTALLED DRY GOODS Dear For: Your claim that cat-lovers are very much like'! Never oil the mechanism of any shade roller and never take the cap off the mechanism end. Either will put it out of com- FLAT PROJECTION mission 99 per cent of the time. Next be sure that the flat} If a shade falls out of its brackets and unroll not more than two revolutions of cloth, then replace it and roll up again. Repeat this until the spring has regained its proper tension. (Do not, in: any case, one another. It usually occurs between two children when in secret places. More often than not, a boy is the aggressor. Innocently it may begin when two youngsters of the same or properly installed and that the roller has sufficient play not to rub against them. _ Some parents have been writ-| nose in life. I'll still do my ing me of the boy around 12 or) -hare of errands, of course, but 14, a son of close friends, who/qthers will do some, too, if I'm spends a lot of time with a boy|,o+ around 'doing nothing' when of theirs no older than six or eight. As anyone knows, these ney. arisen delice amarante: opposite sex often go to the bathroom together, or when they sleep together in the same bed. A toy "doctor's set" some- times encourages sex experi- menting. These situations, fa- yorable to sex play, are, obviously, undesirable. W ith- holding or preventing them need not be explained to chil- dren. When, for example, two youngsters choose to go to the toilet together they might well be told, "It is not a good way to go" and no more. PARENTAL OBSERVER When two children from 3 to 10 romp and wrestle, a parent present might well observe if either tends to touch the least protected parts of the other's body. When it occurs, the par- ent should say, decisively, "That is not the thing to do." Very early the child can and should learn not to touch or press another youngster's geni- tals. He can be taught without explanation why. Early he can learn to respect another child's private parts. Thus he can acquire a most important attitude and ideal re- lated to his later attitudes and practices in matters of sex play. For him to arrive at this useful rule means that he must have learned early the meaning of NO, that he must have ac- quired some basic inhibitations. OLDER AGGRESSOR The most insidious kind of sex play is when a much older 1 children can't | mates for each other, regard-) have learned from their child that the much older boy spends considerable their young son in his room.! A few of these mothers report} that their younger boy them that the older boy urges be best play-| "put in spite of my talking," she added, "I'm terribly vague less of probable sex dangers. |when it comes to knowing what A few of these correspondents really want to do and. what \I can do. "What would you advise?" One thing I'd advise for this woman, and for others who are equally anxious to "do some- hes told | thing," but "vague"' as to how time alone with their son to engage in genital] manipulation. Not strange that this should happen. Always I urge the cor respondent to require, without undue explanation, that when these boys are together they always should be within the view of all the family. Also the parents of éach. boy should strive to cultivate in each child wider interests and normal play activities. BE VIGILANT However, I don't wish to alarm parents who have been reading much about such mat- ters among adults of the same sex. Yet I believe all parents should be reasonably vigilant. Don't you? PARENTS' QUESTIONS Q. How do you see the new regulations approved by Pope Paul VI ending severe penalties on Roman Catholics who choose cremation for themselves and to do it, is a session with a pen- unroll half-way at one time. Ninety per cent of the rollers extant today will not raise the shade all the way if unrolled too much this way.) REVERSE ACTION A too-loose spring is just as easily regulated. A shade that refuses to roll up all the way lacks zing and requires the re- verse treatment. jcil and paper at your kitchen itable or desk. Then once you settle down to this 'while the \laundry picks up the - shirts), |sort out your present facts of rs by making three separate ilists. | 1. For your first, head a sheet of paper Main Interests at This Point in My Life. | 2. For your second, head an- jother sheet Main Abilities I've | Discovered Or Displayed by Now. | 3. For your third, head still janother sheet Main Achieve- ments So Far--and before you protest that you've achieved nothing because you've been stuck at home or in a dull job, remind yourself that everyone has accomplished something, lwhether it's big or little, at some point in his or: her life. When you've 'hought about it and have made out three lists to compare, put your brain others? to work and try to judge for A. As reducing cost of fun-lyourself what they point to erals and releasing more funds|most in interests, abilities and for the education of survivingjachievements. Determine as children; also furthering the|best you can where they tie to- practice of cremation among|gether for a specific job in- those of other religions. terest or a broad job field. 'child, usually a boy, is the ag- 'gressor. It's possible for one older boy among a group of 'younger children to introduce all of them to sex play with "one another. "There is safety in Snumbers."' The aggressor usu- lly proceeds in secret with one a D6 ae DG ) RELIABLE & | "child at a time. | What makes this problem} "very difficult for parents is that| the offending older child often! smay be known by all the par-| tents of the younger children he exploits as a fine, obedient, *mannerly boy | * Parents of younger children} 'should be alert to the boy who! «rarely plays with children of -his | 'own age but plays with much} vyounger children. Also the par-| 'ents of this older child who pre- 'fers \playmates much younger 'than himself should be con- *cerned about him, not only be- wause of possible sex-play dan- 'gers, but for his need to play 'most of the time with con- «temporaries. Any child who pre- fers younger playmates loses in dest personality development. | "He can have his way with the younger children, He does not ' WOMEN TAKE OVER * COOKHAM, England (CP)-- 'Women in this Berkshire town | now are in control of the local| council. 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