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Oshawa Times (1958-), 11 Jan 1967, p. 18

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Some For R Dear Readers: My niece who lives in Omaha sent me 12 Rules For Rearing Children. Her pedi- atrician had handed her these rules and-explained that he gives them to all young mothers. I read the rules and recognized them as my own. Closer exam- ination revealed that the physi- cian had credited Ann Landers as the author--which I appre- ciate. I am offering the rules again today for the benefit of young mothers who were high school kids when the rules first ap- peared.--Ann Landers 1. Remember that a child is a gift from God, the richest of all blessings. Do not attempt to mold him in the image of your neighbor. Each child is an in- dividual and should be per- mitted to be himself. 2. Don't crush a child's spirit when he fails. And never com- pare him with others who have outshone him. | 3. Remember that anger and} hostility are natural emotions. Help your child to find socially acceptable outlets for these nor- mal feelings or they may be turned inward and erupt. USE REASON 4. Discipline your child with firmness and reason. Don't let your anger throw you off bal- ance, If he knows you are fair you will not lose his respect or his love. And make sure the punishment fits the crime. 5. Remember that each child needs two parents. Present a united front. Never join wih your child against your mate. This can create emotional con- flicts in your child as well as in yourself. 6. Do not hand your child ANN LANDERS Excellent Rules earing Children sires. Permit him to know the thrill of earning and the joy of deserving. Grant him the great- est of all satisfactions -- the pleasure that comes with per- sonal achievement. 7. Do not set yourself up as the epitome of perfection. This is a difficult role to play 24 hours a day. You will find it easier to communicate with your child if you let him know that mom and dad make mis- takes, too. 8. Don't make threats in anger or impossible promises when you are in a generous mood. Threaten or promise only what you can live up to. EXPRESS LOVE 9. Do not smother your child with superficial manifestations of love. The purest and health- iest love expresses itself in day-in, day-out training which breeds self-confidence and inde- pendence. 10. Teach your child that there is dignity in work whether it fs performed with calloused hands that shovel coal or skilled fing- ers that manipulate surgical in- struments. Let him know that a useful life is a blessed one. 11. Do not try to protect your child against every small blow and disappointment. Adversity strengthens character and makes us compassionate. Trou- ble is the great equalizer. Let him learn it. 12. Teach your child to love God and to love his fellow man. Don't send your child to a place of worship ---take him there. Children learn from example. Telling him something is not teaching him. If you give your child a deep and abiding faith in God it can be his strength everything his little heart de- and his light when all else fails. Canadian Birth To New Record By KEN KELLY OTTAWA (CP)--Birth and fertility:rates slumped in Can- ada in 1966, probably to a rec- ord low for the birth rate. The almost - automatic as- sumption is that the main factor is the Pill, the cele- brated oral contraceptive which has been growing steadily in popularity in the last few years. Population experts say there's little doubt the Pill played some part in the de- cline. A few say the impact ig over-emphasized. Many reasons affect a couple's decision whether to have a child. The state of the.. family pocketbook is a big one. Social customs of the day also are important. So before the demograph- ers, who study population trends, get excited about the Pill, they need evidence over a long period of time about its use and the reasons for it. At the moment, nobody seems to be doing the kind of gigantic survey that would show how big a factor the Pill is in the life of this coun- 1966 RECORD LOW Demographers know that the number of births per 1,000 population has been declining steadily. For 1966 it probably was 20 or less, just below the record low of 20.1 in the late- depression year of 1937. As the economy began to recover from the Depression, the birth rate also moved up- ward until it stood at 24.3 at the end of the Second World War. The post-war surge of marriages and homecomings was reflected in the record high rate of 28.5 in 1947. It was relatively stable un- til a steady decline began in 1957. Since 1960, both the rate and the total number of births have dropped yearly. The Dominion Bureau of Statistics began collecting birth figures annually only in 1921. But it has estimated av- erage annual rates in 10-year periods ranging back to 1851-61 when it was a boom- ing 45. The estimates decline steadily in the 10-year period to 29 over the 1911-21 period. The 1920s brought a further decline. The rate in the five- year period 1921-25 averaged 27.4 but dipped to an average 24.1 in the 1926-30 period. ROSE IN WAR In the tough early years of the Depression the pace was maintained, averaging 21.5 in the 1931-35 period then slump- ing still further to an average 20.5 in 1936-40. The Second World War pe- riod saw recovery to about the average level of the 1920's --23.5 in 1941-45 and 27.4 in 1946-50. It was in:this period that the 28.5 peak was estab- lished in 1947. The bureau of statistics says the annual rates be- tween 1948 and 1959 were re- markably stable, ranging be- tween 27.1 and 28.5. But after 1957, a new decline set in the rate and, after 1960; in the number of births as well. The reason that use of the Pill was suspected as at least a contributor is that it first came on the market in Can- ada, not specifically as an oral contraceptive, in 1957 and was first approved and sold as a contraceptive in mid-1960. Rate Slumps Low In 1966 Here is the statistical. pic- ture of total births and the rate per 1,000 population in the last 10 years: ents seem to suppose the little hugged and kissed by them has Dutch Princess Margriet beams at her new hus- band, commoner Pieter van Vollenhoven, after they were married in a_ civil ceremony at the town hall COMMONER WEDS DUTCH PRINCESS cellent in April, May, Septem-|tions of travel opportunities In ber,- late December and Jan- July and September, and ro- By ESTRELLITA uary. Creative workers will)mance should -- ot most o e year, with outstanding pe- en, i : oko rgd "a oat indicated in late June, all Enterprise and ingenuity willlinspiration and productivity in-|of July and late September. Any Mrs. G pay off now, so make the best|dicated in June. use of skills and talents and you| In your private life, matters =» ef a ee for marriage. chi THE STARS SAY traordinarily interesting from day where career matters areltTavel, "social and romantic|fine writer or theatrical concerned. In personal inter-|standpoints. There are indica-|tainer. it. dian women BOOK LAUDS WOMEN MONTREAL (CP)--A book entitled Leading Ladies of Can- ada 1639-1967, will be ready for distribution in Centennial Year. len Bannerman, an- one of these months would be noyed by the treatment Cana- got in history i - born on this day|books, spent 12 years compiling cage gata caps avcaseggats rene ter Mian: yy would make an exception:bly information for her book. There ter-|are 100 principal characters in i; ests, stars generously govern travel and social pursuits. FOR THE BIRTHDAY If tomorrow is your birthday, your horoscope indicates that the next 12 months will be pro- pitious for your personal con- cerns as well as for occupational and monetary interests. Best cycles in the latter connection: The latter part of fext month, early May, all of July, mid- September, mid - October and next January. Job and (or) business affairs should be ex- Great Annual @ Sofa Suites @ Bedroom and Dining Room Suites WIFE PRESERVER Crutch or chair tips forced on the ends of screwdrivers make them easier to grip, prevent blisters. (-usto Customcraft Furnitures. CLEARANCE SALE Continues All This Week ... Store Wide Reductions on All Lines Reductions Up To 50% On Floor Stock @ Occasione! Furniture @ Upholstery Fabrics @ Bedspreads @ Accessories, ete. FURNITURE 728-7271 third daughter of Queen Juliana and Prince Bern- hard. She was born in Otta- wa, Canada, during World War Il. é (AP Wirephoto by cable from The Hague) of The Hague today. Then a glass coach drawn by six horses carried them to St. Jacobskerk (St. James' church) for the religious ceremony. He is 27 and she is 23. The Princess is the CHILD GUIDANCE By GARRY C. MYERS, PhD SO! persons like to be kissed and young children don't. Most parents and grandpar- child who doesn't want to be They seem to feel that the 1956 450,739 28.0 1957 469,093 28.3 1958 470,118 27.6 1959 479,275 27.5 1960 478,551 4 1961 475,700 bs 1962 469,693 25.3 1963 465,767 24.6 1964 452,915 23.5 1965 418,595 21.4 SAME IN U.S. In the United States, the picture in this period has been about the same. The birth rate per 1,000 popula- tion. has gone down steadily from 25.2 in 1957 to 19.6 last year. The Canadian and Amer ican rates in 1965 were gen- erally higher than rates in most northern Europe coun- tries but lower than those in southern Europe. For example, northern Eu- rope rates ranged between Sweden's 15.9 and Ireland's 22.2. Southern Europe rates include Italy's 19.2 and Spain's 21.3. Britain had a py of 18.3, the Soviet Union African rates, mostly esti- mates by the United Nations, were in the 30's, ranging up to the Ivory Coast's 56.1 in 1961. In Asia, Japan was at 18.6 last year and India 20.3 and Pakistan 43.4 in 1963. Mainland China's rate was 34 in 1957, most recent figure available. Jordan had 46.5 in 1965. Australia was 19.6 and New Zealand 22.8 in 1965. In South America, Brazil had an estimated rate of 40-43 in the 1959-61 period and Ven- ezuela 43.4 in 1964. Argentina was 22.5 in 1965 and Chile 32.8 in 1964. CAN BE MISLEADING But rates of birth per 1,000 population can be misleading. Changes in total population, through fluctuations in immi- gration and longer life spans, affect them. Another picture emerges from the fertility rate--the number bf births per 1,000 women in the child-bearing age group 15 to 49 years. In 1965 the fertility rate in Canada sagged sharply al- though it still is higher than the rates of the Depression "30s and wartime °40s.. The peak fertility rate was 118 per 1,000 women in 1957. Some experts consider the high fertility rates of the 1950s abnormal so that current de- clines may be only a return to a more-usual rate. Since then, the decline has been seady except for a slight increase to 116.3 in 1959 from 115.8 in 1958. Rates in the other years were 114.1 in 1960; 111.5 in 1961; 108.5 in 1962; 105.7 in 1963; 100.8 in 1964 and 91 in 1965. Perron 196 WIFE PRESERVER * Lost the lift on a high heel? jAttach a thumb tack to pre- vent damage 'til you get to the \shoemaker. | A youngster dishonors them who doesn't often kiss them, warmly welcome their caresses. Think of all the children, even|cepted he: i mother-daughter, especially be-| teen-agers gowned and ready|thst the father and grandmomer("or® and early in these chil- for bed who are expected to kiss|have not. They should know|{ten's teens. | all the family and guests. Think|that no one can force a child of the boys who don't knowlor anyone else to feel or want when they should quit kissing|to receive or give affection. It dad and the many more boys|must be won. over five or six who must be in agony kissing mother on leav- ing for school, even while some other boys are looking on. Some mothers write me of! the youngster from 4 to 12 who spurns any show of affection from them, noting also that a younger child is very affection- ate. In such instances the older child feeling jealous of the younger doesn't want the same kind of. treatment the younger | one clearly enjoys. | ABSENT FATHERS | Imagine all the young chil- dren who have never seen their father or barely can remember him, who shy from his caresses when he returns home from Vietnam. Imagine how many of these dads are heartbroken be- cause their youngsters may not warm up to them right away with affection. Some of these dads suppose the mother is at fault for not having the young- ster ready to enjoy and welcome | him with lavish show of affec- | tion. | A mother writes: | "The child in question is 9 and does not like to kiss any- body, even her affectionate sis- ter, 4. Her attitude started be- coming more noticeable before her sister was born, when, as a game, she used to run and hide from her father when he returned from work, and would hide her face from his kisses. laughing. ' "Her mother has accepted her Every Child And Adult Differs) trier toues, by tistenne In Response To Love Shown pose ty but her father and It's hard to believe any per-|srandmother never let her for- 4 con't |get that she should be free with |S¥ ' : (the kisses. She likewise cringes |e affection. children and adults differ in|from receiving kisses. response to the way affection is|this be solely attributed to only temporary anyway, as 4/ shown to them. Not nearly all| 'taking Rs gt ggg tes rule. | was raise a home environ- cuddled. Even some babies and = without the 'show of af- ANSWERING QUESTIONS ection?' "' My reply in part: One can only guess the rea- son for your daughter's dislike es eae more likely of showing or receiving expres- 4 something the matter with him.|sions of affection, but I think A your interest should be in con- parent is aware of such possible sidering what to do from now|Preference. and jon. might be wise not to insist on kissing her or having her kiss them, but they could show their wholeheartedly when she has something to say, answering all her questions kindly, and their appreciation of what she makes and does--her achievements at work and play, celebrating her successes with her. Such is gen- Interiors by Windolf-- 39 SIMCOE ST. N. TEL. 728-3651 Could} Physical' affection is really| Q. 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