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10 THE OSHAWA TIMES, So turday, September 23, 1967 Dear Ann Landers: My hus- band has been offered an excel- lent promotion but it means w must leave this city where we both have family. Both sets of grandparents adore our chil- dren. When my parents heard were of the promotion they ANN LANDERS Loyalty To Parents Differs From Slavery Because she did not flunk out) she felt she should be allowed elto return to college. So, after much haranguing, her father and I agreed. How can I be sure she has learned her lesson and will conduct herself in a) respectable manner? I am happy for him and offered théirjawake nights worrying.--Moth- congratulations. My husband's parents, how- ever, have been trying desper- ately to get him to pass up the opportunity because "money They have isn't everything." pointed out that they will no' live forever (an astute observa- tion), and that we would be to move from this city and deprive them of the joy of seeing their grand- unspeakably selfish children grow up. I am certain others must have written to you about this problem. What did you them?--Bewildered Dear B.: I told them money isn't everything. There are other things that should be con- sidered--independence, person- al integrity, making sacrifices (such as leaving one's parents) in order to advance profession- ally or in business. Children owe their parents respect, consideration and kind- ness. But they do not owe them their physical presence after tell three years. er Dear Mother: You might as, staying up nights will not help you or her. By the time a girl goes off to college her pattern tjof behavior is set. You can do nothing now except hope to heaven the scare taught her something. | Dear Ann Landers: I am a 19-year-old guy with an unusual! problem. Two years ago I start- ed to grow to love a wonderful girl. We are hoping, God wil!- ing, to be married in two or The problem is that she is always sending me! small gifts. I am putting myself through college and I can't afford to buy her anything. It makes me) feel like less of a man to be on | the receiving end most of the) time. When, out of need, I buy} myself a new shirt I feel guilty.! I think perhaps I should have! spent the money on her. I have' tried to explain, but she says) they have reached adulthood.|she gets pleasure out of buyin, Call the van, and good luck to|me things and I should not rive her of it. you. Dear Ann Landers: Last fall daughter off to college. We are|Receiver not well-fixed financially and it is dep-| well get some sleep, because) § I FOR TOWN and country now through winter, this gently shaped virgin wool fashion ingeniously blends stark simplicity with un- derstated chic and adds a saucy air to the overall picture. Buckle belted, high up and narrow, it has a soft neckline, short set-in Secretarial Skill : Good Spring Board H I hi h : we sent our pretty 18-year-old/all go) ya lovee Tue| In Business World Dear Receiver: The girl is) was a sacrifice to send her with|obviously a generous sort, and/ the proper wardrobe. By December, we searbeale that she was doing everything|you, accept them graciously. In dojreturn, write her a poem or a mean everything. When she|warm letter of thanks. Or send);, besides studying, and I since her gifts are gifts of love), get ahead more quickly by apply for it. By ROBERTA ROESCH Dear Roberta Roesch: Do you feel a woman of 40 ind not designed to obligate/pecinning as a secretary again lor by making it clear when she 4g jlooks for a job that she wants start with other work when came home for Christmas vaca-jher a trinket which costs & she takes employment? tion she told me she thought/dime but has special signifi- My interest isn't in being a she was pregnant. Fortunately,/cance. An imaginative gift can) aig onrkadt she was not, but it was a horri-|be far more impressive than an pepe Agha gl family | ble two weeks for both of us. expensive one. So CHILD GUIDANCE Don't Cater To Child's Whims In Color And Style Of Clothes | tary. forever--if I don't want to get into a) {spot where I'll be a secretary 'forever because I have those ee } to lis. do, though, so please let me know what you think. -- Mrs. A Dear Mrs. H. P.: No woman has to be a secre- she doesn't By GARRY C. MYERS, PhD \garment among two or three|choose to be. Over the years I have lette: received numerous rs bout or the child, usual): she y 8 SE \itlow ber to change it. Lat it be al between six and nine, who con. garments she for has made a choice, don't stantly fusses about her|this or nothing! clothes: The style is not right, But suppose she holds out and| FORTHCOMING MARRIAGE |gle when employers opened it! } | they don't look well, they fit toojis late for school? Require her | tightly or too loosely. The dis-jto stay home today and sit traught mother goes to all sorts}where you can see her, doing of trouble to satisfy this child's|nothing, unamused for whims and the harder she tries|minutes at a stretch, followed the more demanding the young- ster becomes. For example, a mother of an only child, a girl, seven, writes|in from Texas: "Everytime we get dressed for school, church, or whatever, we end up in tears. I have made a special effort to make her dresses as comfortable and|th loose fitting as possible, as wel] penalty for her tyranny. But if e plan is followed consistently |p, on a school day, the effect! ; as attractive. Special care is;might well carry over to ae Te Ot Aneeay taken in buying the best shoes Situations. casion of Whitby, SOCIAL NOTICES Mr. and Mrs. Harold Fowler, announce the forthcom- their eldest ite {ing marriage of thirty daughter, Sherron Lynn, bs Dr. by five minutes of recess and|/=usene Cherewaty, son 0 ot then resume the aiting for auch /and Mi Pa cael ake Pee cioe day while school 5) place on Saturday, September fag . 80, 1967 at 2:00 p.m. in Saint! This would not be so easily/George's Ukrainian Catholic carried out if her whims kept|Gnurch, Oshawa you or the rest of the family at fod home. She alone should pay the AT HOME The family of Mr, and Mrs rt Gibson will welcome the neigh- 40th} their parents SIMPLICITY PLUS % sleeves, welt seaming and comes in such divine colors as red, amethyst, gold and emerald. Little is needed in the way of accessories ex- cept a large pin, colorful bracelets and earrings and, for town wear, a large brimmed hat, --By Tracy Adrian jworld job, secretarial skills are often a good starting point if }you don't have other training or |talent that fills an employer's jneed, Sven if you do happen to be trained as a_ bookkeeper, say, and you can offer that skill {plus your secretarial know how, you often will be the one to get the job if several applicants After you get your foot in the oor by the always-in-demand secretarial skills, you can use your initial job as a_ spring- board to the opportunities you want. do and then ask for a chance to do what you want to do, too. Once you prove you can do the job, you will be in a spot to} begin to move in the direction! I'm in a quandrary about what You want. Dear Roberta Roesch: Is it advisable to use eye-, catching gimmicks in a resume? -- B. J, | Dear B. J.: | As soon as I say it isn't, someone will write me to will wear today| But to get a good beginning |announce that she la @ special occasion. After|job or a back-to-the-business| "absolute dosaon' job" sd As typed her resume on orange paper and folded it in a purple box that played an original jin- But despite this calculated risk, I will go on record as say- ing that it's usually wiser to submit resumes with no gim- micks or gadgets attached. Most of the time this simple approach is the one that gets the job. Don't be satisfied to progress today only as far as you did yesterday. HOUSEHOLD HINT You can remove rust from| metalware by dipping it in full-| bors and relatives on the oc-|strength cider vinegar. After it dries a few days, the loosened that are well fitted. But, all to) The chances are she has used i y i " i 4 r , " |wedding anniversary at their;rust particles can be wiped no avail. There is always some-|her whims to lord it over you in| home vs Blackstock on Satur- cay" . thing wrong, the shoes sl oe other situations. In them iday September 30, from 2:00-- : fee] good, the socks are either doesn't feel right and there tears. We have gone through, this since at least age three. a smaller age, tried picking out clothes the night before, tried letting her help select her clothes, tried bragging on how nice she looks and how nice it hold her likewise to her choices) too big or too little, or the dress|and decisions.. Don't will I hope other mothers | jtake note and not bring up any| Mr. She often deliberately tears|child to become so great nui-| clothes and ruins shoes that she|Sance to himself and to others! f their 50th) dislikes. We tried ignoring it at|Of the family. ane aranra, es wedding anniversary, let her|g:00 p. are|tears and ugly ways rule you. kd es 4:00 p.m. and from 7:00 -- AT HOME and Mrs. Percy Taylor jwill be at home to their friends} Sunday, ANSWERING QUESTIONS Q.--When in another room I hear my two children, five and four, quarreling and try to find |October 1, from 2:30 -- 4:30 p.m. at the home of Mr. and \Mrs. Walter Mills, Ritson Road \North. was to get ready peacefully on| out who started it, each blames the rare occasions that she did, and have resorted to' spanking when tantrums got out of hand, all to no avail. ASTHMA STRIKES the other. What should I do? you are sure you should do any-| Ml thing, just separate them for) liquid. Put on -- > br A.--Don't try to find out. 1 TEETHING PAIN ilions_of mothers rely on Baby ORAJEL ain's gone. Easy to use, half an hour or more. "Shirleen has had severe asthma most of her life, up until a year ago. She had her first attack at the age of six weeks. I have worked in the RUN DON'T WALK Jogging one or more miles several times a week is one way to reduce waistlines. | Sanada Newspapers No. 5 667 Past outside of the home (through necessity) while her grandmother kept her. I am now at home full time, and intend, if possible, to stay at home. She is a good student in school and is most co-operative in other things." My reply in part: Obviously you have catered to that child's whims for four years. After so long practice at feeding her selfishness and rewarding her whims, it won't be easy for you to change her ways and yours. Make up your mind that you THE CAREER SCHOOL OF HAIRDRESSING PHONE pointments, Models are Are pleased to announce the opening of a New Branch Location, in OSHAWA at:-- 145 KING ST. WEST Day and Evening Classes we are now taking ap- @ GOVERNMENT LICENSED @. 576-3558 welcome. are not going to cringe before her tyranny nor argue, nor sub- ery stitute clothing. Let her choose, if convenient to you, and rea- OSHAWA TIMES PICTURE RE-PRINTS 20% Discount o n Orders of 5 or More Pictures Aveileble At NU-WAY PHOTO SERVICE 251 King St. £., Oshewe 8 x 10 -- 1.50 each 5x7 -- 1.25 each LLOYD METCALF Real Estate Limited ere pleased to announce the appointment of John C. Howson to their sales stoff. Mr. Howson has % had wide experience in reol estate sales in the Oshawa area for many # years and invites you to call hire for your real estate needs. LLOYD METCALF Real Estate Limited 40 King St. E. 728-4678 MAKE gSTENNTAL Yr "ap . and what better way than to restore precious antique furniture. Our Re-finishing and re-upholster- ing departments os well as our experienced decorator -- sales |staff are at your service. |RESTWELL UPHOLSTERING CO. lhas been serving Peterborough for over 20 years and has become the leading Upholstering firm in the district. Our services include Cus- tom Upholstering and Custom |Wood Finishing as well as a Cus- |tom Fitted Slip-Cover Service. We lalso carry a well balanced inven- tory of fine Imported and Domestic Fabrics including Velvets. This same competent and profes- sional service is being made avail- able to the residents of Oshawa and district. Regular Sales and Service calls are being made in IDenews and you will find REST- |WELL as near as your. 'phone. |For a complete furniture service, call RESTWELL. It will be our |pleasure to serve you 'PHONE OSHAWA 723-5461 Kestwell UPHOLSTERING CO, 210 Lansdowne E. Peterborough, Ont. Do what you're hired to} KEEP IN TRIM By IDA JEAN KAIN So often an overweight on a diet slips into a feeling of defeat, and comes to believe she can't stay with a reducing »icourse of action. "I've tried so many times . . . nothing works for long." This is an all too familiar lament. Excess poundage comes only with a positive balance on the calorie score, Still, reducing involves more than calorie curbing, much more. A change of attitude is basic to success. Are you giving a failure picture to your mind? By persistently picturing failure you make it so real to your nervous system that you keep repeating the failure pattern. With an aware- Mental Picture Of Success Strengthens Dieter's Resolve toward whatever goul you set, you can get on the right thought track. Think in terms .of what you want, Identify yourself with success, not with failure. 'For those of you who say "Help! Help!"' all through your letters --what you really want is for somebody to be concerned about your problem, Could you join a group and. reduce with others? The camaraderie is marvelously morale boosting. You help each other over the rought spots. JOIN A GROUP Could you join a_ reducing group at your church, or at the Y? The weight Watchers Group is going strong. Improved ness of how your mind works health should always be the goal, therefore a preliminary checkup by the doctor is neces- sary, By the way, if there is no: reducing group in your vicinity, why not organize one with over- weights who share your inter- ests? Back to picturing success. It is important for you aware of how you react in a particular situation, This puts you in a better position to cope knew my the rid of the negative attitudes. I cut out sweets entirely for I 'sweet tooth' was responsible for my excess fat. council buzzing, It started with When I decided that eating|complaints from residents liv- sweets was no favor to myself,|ing near domestic bee hives them/that they were gétting stung. waned. On my protective diet I/ after a councilman suggested to beldid- not feel sorry for myself, I/hee control a former beekeeper felt happy. I can't quite say|wrote council that when a dog why, unless it was my change|bites someone, all dogs aren't in attitude," she concluded. temptation to eat and you can prevent the auto-| |matic response, | Face the fact that the going will not all be smooth . . . any- thing else is less than realistic. | See yourself carrying through) when the going is tough, In so iloing, you, in effect, give your- self a challenge. A challenge van be unexpectedly energizing. A dieter who reduced 88 pounds under her doctor's care) and reducing with others in a club, wrote: "What helped most? Knowing that others faced my problem and carried on to success. [ changed my attitude toward food. You might call it getting with heavy - foil. BEES BUG TOWN MERRITT, B.C. (CP)--The subject of bees has the Merritt shot. Council will investigate further. 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