HILLS Saturday October 17 1 17 Outlook op Lifestyle KARMEG Dad breaks dates with daughter By Meg DEAR MEG and I have been separated or two years Were still battling over the divorce does things on purpose to give me a hard time For example he s living with his family and he has them say hes not there when legal papers are delivered Were also fighting over custody Blck doesnt really want Maria he told me so but hes still fighting He has only visited Maria four times in two years and he never calls her He makes dates and doesnt show and he doesnt call to cancel It breaks Mar las heart and it breaks mine to see her hurt this way Ive been to court many times I was there again today and once again didnt show He has been to one hearing out of six Well the Judge Is getting tired of this He told me the next time Blck makes a date to see Maria and show I can ter all visitation rights Should I do this and deprive Maria entirely of her father It would be no loss to but the idea bothers me UPSET IN UNION CITY DEAR UPSET Stop feeling guilty Judges are charged with ing divorce- related decisions about custody financial support and visita tion rights based on the best Interests of the child obvious lack of emotional commitment to Maria and his erratic performance as a parent more damaging to her right now than not having him in her life at all Later if be matures and shows some genuine concern for his daughter you can re vise your arrangement DEAR MEG Every time turn on the TV I see another case of wife- beating child abuse or a family shoo tout Why t more being done to stop this dangerous trend In American homes I retired after years as a school teacher and would like to get involved on a volunteer basis either in helping victims in abusive families or trying to prevent domestic violence from escalating Any ideas APPALLED CINE WISC DEAR APPALLED New efforts are currently underway to address the crisis we face in this area October is National Violence Awareness Month All interested Individuals are urged to support shelters for battered women and their children Call your local shelter and offer your services Many are starting training programs right now The Shelter Aid program with cor porate support has provided funds for the first national toll free domestic violence hot line The 24hour hot line 1 will be tlonal on Oct I 1987 staffed by trained personnel who can respond to women requesting Infor mation and referrals to local shelters Write to Meg care of this newspa per Meg can only answer letters that contain a selfaddressed stamped en- inter BRIDGE James Bluemoon special n DRGOTT Red flushing can be controlled By Peter H Golt M DEAR GOTT I develop red blotches all over my neck and face whenever I am a little nervous physl active or drink alcohol What causes this and how can I control if DEAR READER You seem to be describing capillary flushing an auto matic opening of the small blood ves sels in your skin When yon are or physically active your bodys glands secrete chemicals such as epi nephrine adrenaline Into your sys tem These compounds can cause flushing as can alcohol and other drugs I suggest that you avoid the of fending substances like alcohol and try to relax during times of stress Al though your reaction may be normal for your particular personal ity type with time you may be able to control it more successfully DEAR DR GOTT Is there any proof that a waterbed is better or worse for you than a conventional mattress DEAR READER There is no sound scientific evidence that proves the superiority of a over a firm mattress or vice versa This is simply a question of personal prefer ence and which sleeping surface fee is best to you DEAR DR My doctor says that 1 have histoplasmosis I have periodic bouts with bad bronchi lis Are they related DEAR READER Histoplasmosis is a lung infection caused by inhaling the spores of the fungus capsulatum Ordinarily the lung in fectlon is self limited after an initial period of fever cough and swollen glands the patient recovers Hard lumps may remain in the lungs and lymph glands Once a person has been infected with histoplasmosis his or her skin test will turn positive enabling doc tors to use this test for diagnosis More than half a million Americans develop positive skin reactions each year up to percent of residents in the Ohio Mississippi and Missouri River valleys are skin test positive because these arc areas where the spores of the fungus are prevalent in the soil Although most patients with histo plasmosis seem to have a mild flulike upperrespiratory illness some chil dren and elderly patients develop dis seminated Infection a more serious form of the disease This causes weight loss weakness enlarged ulcerations in the mouth and gastroin testinal tract infection of the adrenal glands inflammation of the heart lin ing and impaired boncmarrow Such patients need treatment At present the anil fungal drug ampho tericin is the preferred therapy Your repeated attacks of 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