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Page KB THE HERALD Wednesday May a 1991 Many mothers develop high levels of stress RICHARD EARLE Being a mother has never been easy Even today mothers do the majority of cooking cleaning shopping and child raising Canada At the same time more women than ever before are entering the workforce and ing their dally responsibilities with work outside the home When we actually take the time to think about it we all know how hard Mom works That s why sales of chocolates flowers and Hallmark cards boom every May when families celebrate Mother Day But for the remaining 3fe days most mothers are expected to be homemakers wives hostesses lovers nurses and employees all at the same time The result is that many mothers in the quest to be all things to all people develop high levels of stress that are disrup tive and unhealthy for both themselves and their families It has been shown repeatedly that parents under chronic stress are more likely to display abusive behavior suffer from depression and physical illness and seek relief in alcohol and other drugs The result of course is more and dissatisfaction for all members of the family For most families it is not easy for Mom to reduce her workload This is particularly true for single mothers who need to work and can t rely on a partner to help out at home There are however some simple steps that mothers can take to help prevent stress build up in their lives CARE OF St IF The truth is that mothers shouldn t wait for Mother s Day before taking a break have to take the initiative by making time for themselves It isn t easy and it requires a new spirit of cooperation from other family members But it is important for Mom to make her own health and well being a That means making one or two small lifestyle changes Whether it getting more exercise or sleep eating nutritious food or taking time out for yourself By making yourself a you will begin to recognize the con between stress and per sonal health A simple regime of steady exercise an energizing diet and short relaxation breaks will make you more prepared physically to manage stress and tension HIV patients need early support People infected with the HIV virus may need support and treatment long before acquinng AIDS says a University of Toron to doctor Preliminary results of an month study headed by Mary Fanning of the U of department of medicine indicate that before HIV infected patients begin to ex penence the physical affects of the disease on their daily lives their sense 01 worth and well being are strongly affected Whether this psychological trauma affects the progression of the disease remains to be deter mined says Fanning who con ducted the study with Dr Shelagh Emmott a psychologist at the Toronto Hospital Their analysis is based on responses from patients surveyed at the Toronto Hospital HIV clinic Eighty six men and nine women in stages of HIV infection ranging from no symptoms to having AIDS answered whether or not their illness is affecting areas of their lives including career daily activities relation ships mood identity sexuality andspirtuality The most significant findings to date relate to the patients outlook and their ability to con tinue with their personal lives Whether at home or at work anger and frustration are sometimes unavoidable But there are positive and negative ways to deal with those emotions The first step to bringing anger and frustration under control is recognizing your feelings Admit to yourself that you are upset and then try to isolate the cause of your frustration If possible avoid issues and events that tend to upset you When you must face a difficult BOUCHER ALUMINUM NAME BRAND ALUMINUM SIDING SoHII Fascia ALCAN Windows SELECTION OF COLOURS FREE ESTI MATES 8778830 WESTERN GENERAL CONTRACTORS Quality Bultt Custom Homes ALL PHASES General Conlrocling In NOVATIONS ii 8332075 AIRW VACUUM HI SERVICE CHIMNEYS CLEANED PROFESSIONALLY A Duel Spoc Town Country FREE ESTIMATES 8731884 UUC5CAPWQHC Tree Plant 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