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the HERALD Friday July Community News With support wife abusers can change behaviour ByJACIEB PALMER Herald Special The following story depicts an abuser who denies his respon for assaulting his partner preferring to believe she somehow instigated the abuse When asked if he d been con victed of assaulting a woman he replied Yes We been together for years and she con tinually pushed my buttons She knew me so well Just how to do it How to get to me How to hurt me She do it all the time She wanted it She deserved to be hit It took me several years to forgive her for charging me with She got a restraining order to keep me away from her and out of my own home She never spoke to me again Today I realize I loved her very much It is too bad that we com The relationship wis sick Although this statement may have been made many years in the past today this man still believes women push his buttons and insists they are somehow responsible for his violent behavior He has taken steps to alter his lifestyle and the violence is now mainly directed towards objects that are important to the Lonely marker From the tree lined stretch of Winston Churchill Boulevard outside Norval Georgetown is marked by one lone solitary condominium building Herald photo Were On July 30 to Aug 3 But appointments can be made this week by phone ttfykucS a Mil 853 3461 Acton STEVEN C FOSTER BA LLB BARRISTER SOLICITOR 37 MAIN ST SOUTH GEORGETOWN ONT 3G2 873 4961 fax 873 4962 Learn to Drive and Survive Young Drivers of Canada SPECIAL DAY PROGRAM CONSECUTIVE DAYS AUG am to 38 pm CALL 8770751 GRADUATES RECOMMEND YOUNG DRIVERS OF CANADA HELP US HELP OURSELVES woman in his life However he remains convinced she deserves the abuse whether physical or psychological This story is typical of a male abuser He will refuse to accept responsibility for his own actions Despite the fact that assault is a criminal offence he remains con and adamant in his beliefs Despite the increased level of awareness through media coverage this man can seldom be convinced he is so very wrong He blames others for his pro and believes his reactions are quite normal He has been told over and over again his beliefs are incorrect After a violent act in which he breaks the possessions of his partner he will write the incident off with a flip So what it was just a He denies the violence in him He denies the significance of his act Eventually he will become violent with her Will she leave Who will he blame Any act of violence against another human being hurts The abuser hurts his victim in any way he can because he has not learned to express his feelings in a positive way An abuser often expresses hurt sadness disap pointment anxiety and other feelings of rage He knows only anger Because abusers have been vie tims of abuse they do not know what normal is They can easi convince themselves their behavior is normal because they remember dad abusing mum or were beaten too Poor role modelling makes it almost im possible for the abuser to see the error of his ways He needs to recognize his pro blem and seek counselling The loss of a job his wife or his children or a day in court on assault charges may bring to a climax the in his behavior There must be a trig That trigger must make the abuser aware of the seriousness of his violent attacks Change is a long and slow process because his violent behavior has been rein forced repeatedly throughout his life Any abuser wanting to change can and will change his behavior with the support and assistance of his family friends profes and an understanding community Statistics quoted from the Ontario Women Direc lorate Peel free to contact Jade by directing letters tc her attention at The Herald All cor will remain con Should you wish to speak to call the Distress Centre at 877 and your call will be returned If you are a woman or child In crisis or an abusive male wanting help call the Distress Centre or dial 911 You are not alone There is help available OSBORNE DECOR Custom Made Verticals Drapes And Bedspreads I FREE SHOP AT HOME SERVICE Passive Reducing Salon 10 2FREE Sessions FREE Eyebrow Wax Full Leg Bikini 4000 8734907 Rear Entrance Georgetown REVERSE MORTGAGES Available At MONEY Guciph CONCEPTS teBtoil 873 MOMS NOT HOME She s here the latest vats of Brand NameFurnshngsat ces You Be Thrilled Ontario Chesterfield Wholesalers Ben nd Guelph Auto Mall Guelpfi A All F m layiwiy J FROZEN FOOD PLUS Meat SeatoodVegetables Desserts 1 0B Main St in the IGA Plaza Acton us Thurs Aug 1st to Sat Aug 3rd Hamburger Soft Drink 400 STORE HOURS Mon to Wed 10 to 7 Sat 9 to 6 Thurs 10 to Sun 11 to