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"These neighbors were very much at odds and not speaking to each other," retired _ principal and school administrator John | Graham, a volunteer with Oakville t Dispute Mediators (ODM). ’ The two neighbors were approached said former councillor, separately after a complaint about this longâ€"standing dispute reached town hall, which in turn referred the matter to the then newly formed ODM. ‘"We brought the two people to a mediation meeting and they found a solution in 25 minutes after 20 years of trying and 20 years of hostility," said Graham, who led the establishment of / ODM in the summer of 1992. "They _each brought a sixâ€"inch stack of paper to the mediation meeting." f The drainage dispute was one the organization‘s first cases, and was solved by one neighbor agreeing to purâ€" chase weeping tile and the other willing to have it laid by a certain date to allow drainage to run into a catch basin, thus ending years of water forming an unwanted pond in someone‘s yard. and Hedley Cross, look on. "These two may not be having friendly chats over the fence," says Graham, "but they‘re not fighting. Now they can t say ‘hello‘ to each other." wee Oakville 825â€" 1216 Milton 875-1245 Mondayâ€"Thursday 11 a.m.â€"5 p.m. Friday 11 a.m.â€"2 p.m. Hotfline: 8 a.m.â€"Midnight 1â€"800â€"550â€"4900 his year, every goal Wendel Clark scores raises money for the fight against liver disease. And that could save lives. 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Extracurricular activities include art, music, drama, facilities for 23 sports and our unique wilderness campus at Lake Temagami. i Prepare your child to challenge the future with an educa tion at one of Canada‘s finest residential and day schools. For further information on scholarships, bursaries, entrance exams and admission procedures, please write to: Mrs. J. Cummer Director of Admissions Appleby College Oakville, Ontario L6K 3P1 or call (905) 845â€"4681. Entrance Exams for Grades 7â€"13/0AC and Scholarship Exams for Grades 7 and 9 will be held on January 22, 1994. It seems Freddie Peacock and Bill Hobbs have reached agreement on how they should settle their longâ€" standing bitter dispute, by reaching over the white picket fence to shake hands. Actually, they are members of Oakville Dispute Mediators, playing the part of neighbors as negotiators John Graham, second from left, "There seems to be some kind of chemistry in people, a psychological force taking place within a person, that purges him of his anger, a catharsis, evenn CANADIAN SUITE 209 $Â¥ ESn IRTHRIGHT norevare macc "Then, that person becomes coâ€"operâ€" ative. "People want solutions, and someâ€" times they need to be helped along to get solutions." Today, ODM has 12 trained volunâ€" teer case developers, people who arrange meetings at neutral locations (the drainage problem was solved at a local church) and negotiators who ‘refâ€" eree‘ the meeting. "The secret is to be patient and lisâ€" ten, to not cut in, nor offer a solution.," says Graham, adding "the most imporâ€" tant thing is that one neighbor must hear the other out before speaking. We‘re there to make sure one person finishes talking before the other begins. "Let‘s say (ODM volunteers) Bill Hobbs and Hedley Cross are in disâ€" pute," explains Graham, " and Bill is given a chance to explain his point of view and Hedley has to listen . . . Hedley is not a good listener (Iet‘s say). He is allowed to make notes, but he may not interrupt Bill, who may take 10, or even 20 minutes â€" he has a full chance to explain his case before Hedley will be allowed to speak. These are the ground rules for a negotiation meeting." In«**"ition, there are to be no lawyers or court proceedings as part of a negotiated settlement for which ODM charges no fee. "We‘re not there to impose a soluâ€" tion, and there‘s is no solution unless Photo by Peter McCusker) 3 ; 6 o 7 we have agreement." The neighbors who settled the drainage situation signed a handâ€"written note outlining how the dispute was to be settled. page 12) once he‘s given a chance to talk (uninâ€" terrupted) about a problem," said Hedley Cross, another volunteer with ODM. 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