One afternoon in the spring, I interviewed an amusing woman who "talks" for a living (no, not Joan Rivers), and in the fall, we played golf in a fundraiser for Halton Women‘s Place. Do you know what particularly pleases me? With no conscious effort whatsoever, I have spent my time equally this year with women and men. It has not always been so. In the course of my travels, I‘ve interviewed at least three authors, two doctors, a lawyer, and the presâ€" ident of a major automobile comâ€" pany (Jim Somebody, I think). I‘ve chewed the fat with a couple of athletic types, two high school kids, and two young ladies in eleâ€" mentary school (already fighting the good fight against impaired driving). I also met with a teacher and two pretty special "coppers" â€" one male and one female. Everybody has a passion for something. At least, this is what I‘ve found â€" rich people, poor peoâ€" ple, sick people, well people. I‘ve rubbed shoulders with folks in high places and folks in relatively low places. I‘ ve chatted with artists, tradespeople, and community volâ€" unteers. In all cases, I‘ ve tried to make them feel comfortable and confident to bring out their best qualities. I‘ve tried to reflect those qualities accurately. You can learn a lot from talking to people; funny people, sincere people, people worked up over worthwhile causes, and business ventures. . nce again, 1993 was an | Odyssey for me. One thing _A led to another. Just when I thought I‘d cornered my last proâ€" file candidate another handful of names and numbers rattled across my desk. Truth told, with 110,000 souls in Oakville, I guess, I‘ve only scratched the surface. 1993 was year of learning and growing pains I‘ve certainly changed my tone over the years. While I haven‘t been able to totally expunge that "sky wit" (the curse, I believe, of my dear departed mama), I have gained a deeper understanding of the complexities of this town. I genuinely like the people. Much, I hope, as Stephen Leacock genuineâ€" ly liked the people of Mariposa (Orillia). It is an analogy I favor greatly. One last thing, on a personal and philosophical note. I hope you will indulge me. My husband and I As it turned out, the course instructor, Hugh Thomson was his name, was an old chum of one of the Gairdner boys. He reminisced with some irony of days spent cavorting at Gairloch as a young man. Still, he graciously called my piece a "bit of sly wit", and gave it an ‘A‘. I took it as a compliment â€" a triumph of style over substance. We went to the Courtyard Cafe (in Toronto) when the course ended. The rest, as they say, is history. Loads of fun, alas, not much profit. Appearances are deceiving, okay? Obviously, I hadn‘t done my research. for pretentious wealth and rigid _ conservatism. Well, how did I know? There I was, new on the block, ensconced with my young family in a modest bungalow in "unremarkable" west Oakville. East Oakville was "prestigious" (I‘d heard); ye olde Oakville was nothing short of "hallowed". "Don‘t take things that aren‘t yours," he continued. "Say you‘re "Share everything," Fulghum wrote. "Play fair. Don‘t hit people. Put things back where you found them. Clean up your own mess." Later, much later, I realized it had been this son who had once given me the book "All I Really Need To Know I Learned In Kindergarten," by Robert Fulghum. After a quick hug goodâ€"bye, I came up with this feeble advice: ‘"Be nice to people. Usually they‘re nice back." 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