12 - The Oakville Beaver, Wednesday March 12, 2008 www.oakvillebeaver.com `We're losing some kids because of who they are' Continued from page 11 came out when he was in Grade 10. Stacey eventually transferred to the Etobicoke School of Arts to finish high school. He made the move for two reasons: first, there were more courses that suited his interests; and two, he said he felt more welcome there. Stacey felt he had it easier than most gay students when he attended Nelson High School. "I lucked out. People respected my dad," he said of his father, Bob, a phys ed teacher at Nelson. "I think it could have been hell." Bob Stacey said older genera- tions seem more likely to react negatively to someone being gay. "Even though they accepted (Brock at school), this isn't a community where it's accepted," he said. "That sounds like a hypocritical statement, but the kids at school accepted him, but the community didn't because there were adults that would say, `You don't go near that kid. 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The family also received anonymous e-mails that said things like "How's your faggot?" "When a kid comes out, the dynamics of the family, your siblings, your parents, your grandparents, your neighbours -- it messes them up," she said. "People thought we should have kicked (Brock) out." "When a kid comes out, the dynamics of the family, your siblings, your parents, your grandparents, your neighbours -- it messes them up. people thought we should have kicked (Brock) out." Joanne Stacey, co-founder, Halton Parents, Family and Friends of Lesbians and Gays (PFLAG) Also, $ All installed Kenmore high-efficiency, variable-speed furnaces 350off g Now featurin e exclusiv Sears 1p0-sYEAR art & labour warranty; re details in sto Look for the ENERGY STAR® logo on our products. It shows that the product meets ENERGY STAR specifications for energy efficiency And many parents do, only confirming the fears about coming out and adding to the feelings of isolation that many gay teenagers feel. For many, those feelings of isolation become so great that they turn to suicide. Marcus Logan, the executive director of the Halton Organization for Pride and Education (HOPE), said he knows of six youths who have taken their own lives. "We're losing some kids because of who they are," Bob Stacey said. "That's wrong." And not all are by their own hand. Last month, Larry King, an openly-gay 15-year-old student in Los Angeles, who had been subjected to persistent taunts, was shot in the head in front of other students by a 14-year-old classmate. Through sharing experiences, the Staceys hope to help other parents to be supportive. Amanda says her mom has been supportive but she regrets telling her father because it has become a source of tension between the two of them. Bob Stacey said many parents qualify their support -- they are fine with their child being gay, as long as nobody else knows. "Isn't that sad?" he said. 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