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OSC Smile Moment of the Week Week Eight Photo Contest Winner Photographer: Maria Quinn Sponsored by: The Oakville Beaver Age Division: Gu9 & Gu11 Presented by: COMMUNITY Visit insidehalton.com for more coverage If we want to end sexual assault, curb "incel" cul- ture and raise men who feel comfortable in their own skin, the way we look at masculinity has to change -- and it starts with how we talk to young boys, says au- thor Rachel Giese. Giese, whose book Boys: What It Means to Become a Man was published in May, will be part of an Oakville panel on race, gender and identi- ty on Monday, July 16. Held at Queen Elizabeth Park Community and Cul- tural Centre at 7 p.m., the event also features Jamil Jivani, author of Why Young Men: Rage, Race and the Crisis of Identity and moderator Elamin Abdel- mahmoud, an editor with BuzzFeed and frequent Canadaland contributor." (Jivani and I) both come from a place where we're in- terested in how cultural bi- ases and stereotypes have an impact on young men," Giese told the Oakville Bea- ver ahead of the event, which is sponsored by the Oakville Public Library and A Different Drummer Books. "There is still a hege- monic masculinity that is pretty limiting and can jus- tify behaviour that is in- credibly detrimental- ."Giese spent years writing about sexual violence and sexual assault from the per- spective of girls and wom- en. She realized it was time to look at the issue from the other side and explore ways to teach boys not to be per- petrators."I was interested in how we talk to boys, how we address these issues by socializing boys different- ly," she said, noting Boys is not a parenting book, but more of a "critical and cul- tural analysis of masculin- ity.""We raise boys with ... an understanding of mas- culinity that is fairly limit- ed and oppressive." Giese looked at the types of messages directed at boys in popular culture, through sports and in school. She believes they are re- peatedly told that being tender is not masculine, and being masculine is bet- ter than being feminine. They come to understand that if they ask for help, they will be seen as weak, so problems often fester in- stead of being nipped in the bud. Rejection, failure and disappointment are treated as emasculating instead of a regular part of life."When we look at (the 'incel' phe- nomenon), it's an example of how we have failed to take seriously the conse- quences of the socialization that we enact on boys.""In- cels" -- or, involuntary celi- bates -- are an online sub- culture of men who believe women owe them sex. Before the Toronto van attack that killed 10 people in April, the suspect wrote "The Incel Rebellion has al- ready begun!" in a Face- book post. While Giese doesn't claim to have all the solu- tions, she suggests intro- ducing concepts such as in- formed consent when boys are young, in an age-appro- priate way."At a young age, we can talk about how to negotiate with a friend: How can you let somebody do their own thing and you do your own thing and that can be OK. How do you ac- cept rejection?"We have put quite a large burden on boys and young men to fix a culture-wide problem ... We've raised them in a cul- ture that still does treat women like they're only ob- jects and we're surprised when they absorb messag- es we've been delivering all along." Tickets to the July 16 dis- cussion are $10 and avail- able at all Oakville library branches and at A Different Drummer. The event is lim- ited to people who are 16 and older. Authors Rachel Giese, Jamil Jivani to talk gender, identity in Oakville The July 16 event will look at ways 'cultural biases and stereotypes have an impact on young men,' says Giese SAIRA PEESKER sairapeesker@metroland.com Rachel Giese, author of "Boys: What It Means to Become a Man," takes part in a panel at Queen Elizabeth Park Community and Cultural Centre on July 16. Harper Collins Canada A discussion on race, gender and identity with authors Jamil Jivani and Rachel Giese, moderated by BuzzFeed editor Elamin Abdelmahmoud. When: Monday, July 16, 7 p.m. Where: Queen Elizabeth Park Community and Cultural Centre, 2302 Bridge Rd., OakvilleTickets: $10, available at Oakville library branches and A Different Drummer Books