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the georg herald wedimday evening october 29th 1941 hh timely topics for women by barbara baines when short engagements abe the rule r marry in haste repent at leisure is an old saving that perhaps contains more truth than fiction but what are the young people of today to do handsome romeo in khaki or blue meets pretty juliet they fall in love naturally they want to get ma tied there is no time 1 for a conventional engagement if thev are to have more than a brief honeymoon together but after a whirlwind courtship of a few weeks do they reallv know each other well enough to marry any bov who is adult enough to go to war and any girl adult enough to do her job at home knows that if marriage is to be as satisfying an experience as it should be there are other things to take into consldera tlon besides a mutual infatuation pew people ever marry without feel log a strong physical attraction for each other nature sees to that but x believe that if a couple are to look forward a long years of compan ionship understanding and real happiness together the fundamental baas on which their marriage must be built is a similar standard of conduct for both v nothing can cause greater heartbreak when the honeymoon is over than for husband and wife to and thev have conflicting goala in life for a high principled man who is the sou of integrity honour and trust worthiness to and h mself married to a pretty woman in whom all sense of honour veracity and responsibility is laoking for a sensitive reftn ed woman to whom culture is not just a word in the dictionary but a way of living to be marritd to a man who is crjde and uncouth and lacking delicacy for an intelligent welleducated man ever in quest of greater knoledne to have for his life companion a woman who neve reads anything more informative than the funny papers or for a loyal steadfast woman to find she has a husband with itching feet ever on the trail or some nev face there is indeed no need for young people planning marriage to agree a to the kind of icecream they like best or as to which s their favourite radio programme but they should agree on fundamtnals they should have similar ideals and similar standards of conduct moral spiritual cultural and intellectual but how are oung inexperienced girls and boys to judge inarlew short weeks whether they are falling for a handsome scalawag or a comely little trollop with appealing ways or whether their loved one has those virtues of character which are so necessary to happiness if they have been brought up together in the same community there is no problem they know each other well and each others family and background but when a boy and girl meet at a camp dance or on a blind date and become seriously interested in each other it is pretty hard for either of them to be sure they are not being blinded by the excitement glamour and romance of a wartime love affair on the other hand if they are really meant for each other it is a pity for them to waste precious mom ents of happiness when separation is imminent yet how can they tell well first of all there is intuition that sixth sense that tells us when things ore right and warns us when th ngs are wrong if there is the slightest doubt it is time to do some tactful checking up and i am old fashioned enough to believe this can best be done by the parents a boys father or hs commanding officer or padre will know discreet ways of inquiring about a girls past life and a girls father will be equally anxious to be sure his daughter is marrying a man who can give a good account of himself a man whom she can respect as well as love marriage is indeed an affair of the heart more truly than of the head but when head and heart agree the chances of a marriage stick ing is infinitely greater t t t spare a blanket the people of canada are being asked to spare a blanket to the s canadian red cross which has launched its second big appeal to provide these necessities for air raid sufferers in the last campaign canada sent 138 137 blankets and 101234 quilts overseas and many expressions of gratitude were received from bomb victims military hospitals merchant seamen and others among whom they were distributed the need for more blankets and quilts is most urgent but blankets must be new or as good as new send your contribution to your local red cross lijiou can t spare a blanket a 2 donation will buy a single there is a shortage of turtlenecked sweaters for our airmen and sailors it takes a lot of knitting to make even one of these sweaters but the directions are easy to follow and when it is finished you have th satisfaction of knowing it is what our men need most 80 all you knitters get busy a friend had an unuhual request this week from a canadian soldier overseas he wanted a set of postcards showing canadian scenes and places of prominence in the dominion he savs a lot of the fellows have cards showing daces of interest back home and i ve seen a lot from different places in england and scotland too and i don t want to be outdone ive been doing some bragging about canada and there are a few people particularly a family i spent my leave with that id like to show i wasn t exaggerating t t t for our scrap book the consciousness of being loved softens the keenest pang even at the moment of parting jea even the eternal farewell is robbed of half its bitterness when 1 ttered in accents that breathe love to the last sigh addison the venables 4 cups minced meet cooked 1 teaspoon onion chopped 1 teaspoon parsley chopped 1 teaspoon celery chopped 2 teaspoons worchestershlre sauoe leftover gravy stock or milk 1 cup stale bread crumbs 1 egg wellbeaten 3 tablespoons melted butter 1 teaspoon salt k teaspoon poultry dressing improved uniform international sunday 1 chool lesson of ctuomo rale d bj wmmrn niwpp union lesson for november 2 uncll of bblitloua education d if ml m ion the book of the week by kathleen norr1s mcleljand and stewart 462pp 3 00 the venables are a typical middle class family living in san fran cisco willie was married when she was twentythree ana had little lme for anything but child bearing and dusting when her husband died she was left with a feeling of utter helplessness and loss six children and an insurance policy that through mismanagement ell far short of their needs and so upon the courageous red headed flo falls the responsibility of looking after the welfare of the whole family which includes the grand mother and two aunts who are quite unable to find employment suitable to their station her sister lily beautiful but empty headed marries a man who is jealous and unscrupulous and her life is miserable vlrglelou georgle spencer and weeny each have theh- own problems to solve as young people will but the story is at its best when telling of flo her dauntless spirit her ambitions her determination not to be cheated her trip to europe and her budding love affair you will like the venables as you share their joys and sorrows for m stories of family life no author can top kathleen norris t f t prize meat loaf in answer to our request for recipes for an economical meat loaf t mrs m r of tottenham lias sent us lhe recipe we are publishing today i have chosen it because it is simple to make inexpensive and very satisfying and tastv mix ingredients in order given add stock or milk to make mixture moist enough to hold together bake in a moderate oven 375 degrees f f or forty minutes baste with a mixture of butter or dripping and hot water serve with tomato or swinish sauce have you decided what to serve for halloween yet cider and doughnuts popcorn balls and taffy apples or just plain buttered popcorn and crisp rosy apples big round cookies with jackolantetn faces made with raisins boys and girls love them all but if you would like something unusual for dessert try this flu icecream cones with orange ioecream and invert them over large cookies to make witches hats black candles stuck in tiny pie pumpkins make an at tractive table decoration t t t editors note barbara balnea welcomes letters have you an exceptionally good recipe for an economical luncheon or supper dish that you would like to share with readers of the column address all com munications in care of this rawspaper sin and its consequences lesson text oillttuu 8 7 8 1 john i 9 2 s golden text if wa oonfeu our tin e la faithful and jut to forgive us our aim nd to cleann in from all unrighteous- jtes i john 1 ft sin is an appalling reality hideous and horrible in itself and bearing with it the gravest consequences both in this life and in the life to ome man does not find it pleasant to face that fact and so he makes ight of sin and even may go so far is to deny its existence obviously such an expedient does nothing to olve the difficulty or to meet the gnawing distress of a heart facing and fearing the judgment of god far better to meet the reality of t admit its awfulness and f god s way of full deliverance sm v inch came into the world when nan listened to satan and disobeyed god in the garden of eden has gone on to mar and to mark all mankind we note that i sin brings corruption gal 6 7 8 seedtime is followed by harvest this is the law of nature the law of god the farmer who sowed wheat in the spring looked for wheat ahen the hardest time came the same principle holds in the spiritual realm just as the one who sows 10 the spirit reaps eternal life the one who sows to the flesh reaps corruption and death a life of self indulgence which is sowing to the flesh brings moral decay the weakened will yields to desire and it bringeth forth sm and sin when it is finished bringeth forth death james 1 14 15 this death is spiritual bringing sepaa hon from god a loss of fellowship and communion with him spintu al death as well as physical death came upon mankind through adam s sin ii sin loves darkness i john 1 57 there is not a bit of darkness in god he is light when jesus came into the world he came as the light of the world but men loved darkness rather than light be cause their deeds re evil for every one that doeth evil hateth the light neither cometh to the light lest his deeds should be reproved john 3 17 21 t the corollary ol that truth is that a man who says he ha fellowship with god but continueb to walk in darkness brands tiin sill a liar v b compare rev latum 21 27 28 tor what god thinks of liars the light still ahinlb and the one wl o s wo ik ng in darkness has only to step over nto tl e i ghl v 7 ahere he will t nd fellowship with all god s people and know the cleansing of the blood of the son of gcd iii bin is an undeniable fact i john 1 8 10 it seems mi possible that a man vho knows himself and knows the i ft he lives would ever deny sin t r it s one of il n ost evident of all acts yet nm i ivt denied it or st ught to explain t a iy calling t tiror or a fall btep n man s dee cidcnce of mai s ncss and desire to i there is no hope lor a man as long as he assumes i ten an atti tude for he not onl i eh himself but he makes god a lui he denies the truth of god s word about sm makes meaningless or w eked god 8 dealings w th sm and reveals that god s word is not in h m those who make such statt nents declare that they do not btiung to god and do not accept his w rd it is evi dent that they ought never to be per mitted to teach such things in the church or in the name of chris tianity iv sin calls for a saviour i john 2 1 6 christ the propitiation the mercy seat covering for our sins is the only saviour he paid the price and made it possible fur god to be just and at the same time a justi ne r of the ungodly the sinner needs such a saviour sin in the life of the believer also calls tor a saviour one who will cleanse us 1 b and who will in his own blessed name plead our cause if we sin he is our advo cate 2 1 pleading his righteous ness in our behalf when we do fall this does not mean that we may then become indifferent or careless about sm if we say we know him and do not keep hm commandments we lie about our profssed relation ship to him the mark of a- true child is a spirit of obedience god s children prove their love to him by keeping his command ments talking about our devo tion to him giving our service for him or sacrificing for his cause mean nothing if we do not obey evidence of our untruthfulness by making claims and doing things which are negated oy our disobedi two keys to a cabin by lida larrimore omactab smith i cut or the til conscious- kate broke the s well cer tatnly no one is leav ng tonight she said practically it s after ten o clock now gaj glanced at her in gratitude jhich herd as well an e ement of jsurprise you can draw straws in the morning kate continued or per haps one or the other of these ex penments will be completed by i then of course he said after only a slight hesitation there are un fortunately no hotel accommoda tions nearer than machias and that kate said cheerfully would 1 think be carrying mat ters much too fir i agree with you he smiled ap preciatively b kite there s a ot in the room i work in you can have the larger room there i see ou ve brought blankets and there i 1 neti i think he started toward lhe door i ii get my th ngs out of the way dun r bother kate said start ing w th her tray towahl the kitch en we can manage just for to night they were gnormg her gay thought making plans in which she hod no voice he was friendly enough with kate gay resented that friendliness from which she was ex eluded she felt again a compel ling urge to attract and hold his at lention t john she said he stopped at the door turned stood waiting for her to continue kate at the kitchen door glanced back over her shoulder gay held herself very erect i will not be leaving tomorrow she said conscious of and regretting the arrogance in her voice she would have liked to reach him through friendliness arrogance was too ob vious and too petty an approach but whatever he felt for her it was not friendliness the glance he ex changed now with kate impelled her to add kate can do as she likes of course i shall stay which means he asked that i will appreciate it if you 11 remove your things from the room he was silent for a moment then certainlv he said civilly now gay kate began with some asperity paused rolled her eyes upward compressed her lips and went out into the kitchen john remained stand ng n the opposite doorway the stinting smile ap peared as her eyes met his the long arm of coincidence he said it is incredible not too incredible you might hae found me here any one of number of times luring the past three years i had no thoi tht finding you i know that he had she thought interpr ted the statement as a rebuff tl smile vanished i m sorry to b complication he was a con hcition he had been a complical n since the night they d driven together through cen tral park befort that even since the summer her at the lake she realized now hm largely he d been responsible for i er dissatisfaction her restlessness her uncertainty concerning her ipproaching mar riage to todd a triplication that was too unimporiint a word look ing at john silem and unapproach able in the doorway feeling his pres ence here in every tingling nerve with every racing heartbeat gay knew she had found the answer to troubling questions he was nee essary to her had always been since she was fifteen years old todd was not a necessity it was as stm pie as hopelessly frighteningly m volved as that chapter m he d have to clear out he d have to clear out now tonight before he paw her again john walked rest less in long plunging strides along the rutted clay shell road the ex per ment was less important than what was certain to happen to him if he rem a ned at the cabin he d fought that battle tw ce before and he had no intent on of exposing him self to the necessity of fighting it aetm bacvbin i that necessity already upon him he d wondered how he would frel if by chance he should meet her again chance assis ed by uncle john had given him that knowledge he felt as he d felt when they parted six years ago there was something between them which time and separation had not altered long hours of lopcalf rebel us thought had c nviriced him not that he haa een emotion i ally aware of her that summer she d spent at the cabin with uncle john he should have cleared out then he told himself a trifle grimly in stead of prolonging what he had in tended to be a weekend vlsh into stay of three weeks he should have left before the day she d turned her ankle walking with him through the woods and he d carried her to the cabin in his arms after that nothing could have induced him to leave he remem bered with a feeling of tenderness for the innocent ardor of their re lationship which resentment could not efface uje week which had fol lowed he remembered saying good by to her at the station in machias straining for a last glimpse of her face young and defenseless in the transient grief of parting tears glittering on her lashes her wide sweetly curved mduth trem bling in an effort to smile 1 11 see you soon john she d said clinging to his hand as they stood together in the vestibule of the train and sustained by his presence too much in love with her to reason or question yes very soon he d re plied but he had not seen her again un til he d gone with uncle john to new york for her debutante party tier mother had taken her abroad that falkafter her summer here she d written to him at lengthening inter vals during the first year from ge neva where she was n school from various points on the french rivi era when her vacations permitted opportunities for travel he d been relieved when the letters stopped coming glad that he had been on a canoe trip in canada when nearly two years later the cablegram an nounc ng her return to america had arrived glad too though he d watched the ma 1 for weeks that she had not an wercd his formal note of apology and explanat on it had been eas er then to close a door in h s m nd for reason dur cal if nvirice the door must be closed and locked and tie key thrown aw a the key jor turned realizing that he had re ched the village v iy had ajricl john made that gesture he wonde ed walking tnbre slowly bck toward the cab n he d known of course of tnat young attachment betv een himself and gay it probib j hidn t been dim cult for uncle john to read his thoughts the morn ng ter the party in new york when he john had insisted stubbornly id not very considerately thit tl ey return to cambridge at once and uncle john loved gay he had for her a deeper affection perhaps th in for anyone in the world except him but uncle john sh uld have fore seen he thought irritably that noth i g of lasting value could come of that attachment he was nmantic idealistic in the way of his genera ti n but he was neither sentimental nor impractical he must have seen that he john and gudnella gra ham lived in different worlds that each would be a stranger in the at mosphere familiar to the other per haps though the thought continued when you were dying such things as wealth or a lack of it the differences in viewpoint which wealth engen dcred the distinctions and antago nisms it raised seemed relatively unimportant uncle john had known he hadn t long to live when they d gone to new york perhaps during ahe following weeks when his grasp on living had loosened some wis dom had come to him which by the gesture he had attempted to com municate to them perhaps but the w isdbm which m ght come with death was now of no practical value he and gay had in all probability a great deal of living to do their divergent courses were charted had been de lermined he supposed long before they met here at the lake that meeting was ace dental and had no influence upon the direction of their separate lives he as going to portland to take o er dr sargeant s practice for a ynr n pajment for loans which had er i led him to complete h s med cal urse at har vard after that f i e could man ate to su p rt h e f hi w is go i g on with sc cnt ft irch theie wt r hef t h i iars of work which he loved ot loneliness whlcn he accepted gay was to marry todd janeway he had not allowed himself to think of that until now his thoughts had moved warily dodging that painful fact but it must be faced squarely and honestly the fact must be accepted and removed from his mind he d known ot course almost as soon as the engagement had been announced he d thought he had accepted it he d been able during the summer to look at cam era poses of gay and todd jane- way with interest not too intolerably mixed with pain there had been a great many of them it would be an important wedding todd jane- way was connected with the pn vate bank in new york of which his father was president the janeway estate on the hudson adjoined dunedln the graham estate ii was all eminently suitable he sup posed he d met young janewa at gay s party and had been im pressed withhis friendly manner and blond good looks oh yes it as all emmenuy suitable gay s desti ny determined at her birth an eventuality which no chance meet ing could alter or efface i e lamp of rjb t against t more vital than it had been three years six years ago because they were more mature now more emo tionally aware th cigar he had l neg- lected had burned his fingers the smart of physical pain routed mem ones brought him abruptly to his senses what he d been thinking was madness tjnu john hsl intended them to have a stolen week together hidden away in the wood and he d been presumptuous in as suming that gay had any such thought or desire besides thera was miss oliver- no not too presumptuous revert ing to gays possible thought and desire he d seen the expression in her eyes when she d looked at him through the lamplight there wa no sane middlecourse of friendship for them at a word a gesture th antagonism which was their safe feuard would melt and with mora far reaching consequences now perhaps than in the past since now they met as a man and a woman and would never meet again his resolution wavered as net opened the door into the kitchen knowing that she was there seemed to give the door she had opened an especial significance he felt her presence in the atmosphere of tha kitchen and more materially jn the perfume that filled the air with a fading scent a light burned in the living room he would not go in here he passed the door with hia ace averted and then he heard ner voice calling his name he urned disconcerted incensed at hav ng his resolution so unexpected ly frustrated immensely and joy fully rel eved hello he said from the door way i thought you were asleep 1 am almost she sat curled aga nst heaped cushions in a corner i the couch beside the hearth she mjrt s soft white woolen robe fas- cned close up around her throat v il long sleeves and a cord knott ed about her wa st the light from p fell upon her loosened mop brown hair lay warmly the curve of her cheek she m led up at him drowsily an overt ure of friendliness in her long very eep blue eyes you should be in bed ha walked to the die place in which a og she had evidently placed thera duined above a bed of embers ara ou warm enough its cool hera at nicht it s heavenly new york has cccr a blazing furnace the papers report a heat wave lie bent over the log on the andiron makmg a clattering noise with tha hoi b it s been really dreadful so i ve underst06d she laughed suddenly disarming iy must we talk about the weath er she asked he rose to a standing position stood looking down at her unable to res st the appeal of her smile you suggest a subject he said im afraid i lugged in the heatwave the smile slowly vanished iva been thinking of uncle john aha said i was terribly sorry not to have come for his funeral it was pretty ghastly the col lege turned out you were fortu nate to have escaped it but i would have come i was in bermuda yes i know he walked to tha side of the hearth opposite to tha ouch rested his elbow on the low stone shelf stood looking down at her through the smoke of his ciga rette you wrote me dad cabled i couldn t havai made it her eyes moved slowly a little sadly around the room its strange to be here without him ive become accustomed to it 1 ve been here half a dozen times in the past three years kate told me 1 shouldn t have as sumed that he left me this reviv- ng humor glinted between her thick dark lashes she pointed out a fe things i d overlooked that thera would have been a deed a transfer f property tax bills uncle john s estate pays tha axes there has been a transfer f pi operty the estate theres ery little is held in trust for my i ther during her lifetime at her death it reverts to my sisters and one tl en 1 am intruding she said uncertainly u cabin is yours not entirely apparently not for un uncertain number of years i ve been wondering that s why 1 waited up to talk to jou i m afraid you ve been bearing some ex pense which i should have shared f r all my option is that tha word should entail responsibility as well as create privilege do x owe you anything certainly hot he said a trifla brusquely but the expense of taxes and up keep must cut into your mothers income she persisted there s a special fund for tha maintenance of the property but thats hardly fair is itt she asked impulsively that fund might be added to your mothers in come if some other arrangement was made why can t i help it uncle john intended me to have tha privilege of coming here whenever i like certainly you shouldn t ob ject to my sharing the expense thats quite unnecessary ha said stiffly and saw her expression change she had he knew inter preted the words the toae of his voice as a rebuff and rightly too he thought in hitter self reproach her offer had been fair and gen erous why couldn t he have ac cepted it in the spirit in which it was made why couldn t he make amends now instead of letting mo ments pass in stubborn silence until the opportunity was gone presentht with a gesture which expressedsome thought completed some course of action deteraiined she dropped the fringed end of tha cord as he watched ber still brood ingly silent she rose from the cou composed knraly remote