Shower itiquette The custom of honoring brides-to-be with "showers of little gifts" has been with us for generations. The original purpose to help the couple start housekeeping is still valid today. *}%ese parties can be fun and provide fond memories for the hostess, participants and guest-of-honor. It's an easy form of entertaining with a little advance planning. Bridal showers are especially festive gatherings that are fun to plan and give. The fun you have planning will be reflects in the good time your guests have. A wise hostess leaves nothing to chance. Today most brides-to-be are working at the time of their marriage. Often a group of co-workers may wish to give a shower. Because the guests may live some distance from each other consider reserving a table or room at a nearby restaurant. Someone from the office may go ahead with favors, decorations and the gifts. In some places ^'family showers" are ftfii&Q,, especially if the briae or groom-to-be is from a large • family. Invitations are restricted to family mem bers. The old rule still holds; . showers are not given by the immediate family of the engaged girl. In some in stances a sister of the groom-to-be might give a shower if she is a close friend of the bride-to-be. Invitations should go out about two weeks in advance and should specify what type of shower it is - kitchen, l i n e n , p e r s o n a l , miscellaneous or whatever. Telephone invitations are acceptable and preferred for small, informal showers. Remember, a shower is no longer just a gathering for women. Many hostesses make it a couples night or invite men friends in for refreshments after the gift opening. Since this is a personal occasion, guests should be close friends of the prospective bride. When co workers give the shower, relatives of the bride-to-be need not be invited if they aren't acquainted with the group. However, when close friends hostess a shower, the mothers of the couple and even sisters are invited. The time of day selected for the shower dictates the type of refreshments served. A shower may be a lun cheon, tea, cocktail party, buffet supper or an evening soiree. Entertainment from card playing to shower games depends on the in terests of the guests. Some of the traditional types of showers have supplied the newly-weds-to- be with staples for the kit chen, bath and linen closet. Give these favorite showers a new twist with your imagination. For example, present bathroom gifts in a clothes hamper or laundry basket. Use kitchen towels as napkins and favors for each guest. Or make a linen closet out of folded paper for shower invitations. The ideas for theme showers can center around hobbies and special interests of the prospective bride such as gardening, sewing or travel. Just be sure to coordinate with other showers given to avoid duplicate themes. There's An Answer * (by Norman Vincent Peale and Ruth Stafford Peale) AS Is Oven Canning 9Worth Taking A Risk? PAGE 3 - PLA1NDEALEK • WEDNESDAY. SEPTEMBER 3. 1980 Autumn Schedule Of Church Is Expanded Self-righteous parents Q. My parents consider themselves intelligent, upper-class, moral Christian people. However, their behavior often displays that they are narrow-minded, hypocritical, self- righteous. Their values and priorites are all wrong. It seems the only pleasure they derive from us kids is when they can boast of our accomplishments to their friends-when our "worth" shines a reflection on them. I for one have never been able to present them with tangible evidence of my worthiness. How can I make them see that first they must accept me and like me for the person I am? A. First thing for you to do, I believe, is to rid yourself of what seems a pretty sharp hostility toward your parents. That will help you to deal with this matter not emotionally but objectively and intelligently. It will also bring out your ^eal and attractive self and cause you to act in such a way that even self-centered parents with "values and priorities all wrong" will become aware of you as a person to really like just for yourself. We are sending you our booklet, Enthusiasm, which has helped others with problems such as yours. Anyone wishing a free copy may write to us at Box 500, Pawling, N.Y., 12564. Can't make him quit Q. When my son has time off work he drinks. First he gets silly, then severely depressed and then mean and destructive. He is 30, has a lovely wife and 2 beautiful children. He used to be an active church member, a wonderful speaker and very talented. I can't help but show my distaste and disgust. I have prayed and others have prayed but he doesn't change. Now, I know I can't make him quit. What attitude can I take that would help him come to himself before it is too late? A. Just be natural and love him just the same. Keep on praying for him, visualizing him as a sober, good-living man, for visualization often produces the image held. But do this without condemning him. Encourage your daughter-in-law to attend Al-Anon meetings where she will get help from others who have alcoholic problems in the family. Wrong way to die Q. My life has been in great despair since my husband took his own life. We had been marreia43years. God has been my guiding light but I have such dark days. My husband was a good Christian, and I know Gpti wanted him home-bUt not that way. I wonder why things like this happen and leave the family so despondent? A. You have suffered a great shock and sorrow and to have some dark times is normal. Put your husband into God's hands and leave him there. He was not rational when he took his life. God understands. Peace will come as you leave him with his loving Heavenly Father. If there is something you would like to ask Dr. and Mrs. Peale, write to them at Box 500, Pawling, N.Y., 12564. Growth Forces Two Services At Church Due to the growth of the church, Faith Presbyterian church, on Sept. 7, will be moving to two Sunday morning services. . Attendance has risen steadily during the last three *"years and as a result, the ^ new schedule will be - 8:30 - 9:30, first service; 9:30 - _l£b40ySunday school; 10:45 - 11:45, second service. Visitors' and newcomers are always welcome to join in worship at Faith church. They are also welcome to join the variety of Sunday school classes that are held. From Sept. 7 to Oct. 14, courses for adults will in clude a Bible study on the Book of Colossians and a series of presentations on p a r e n t - c h i l d c o m munications by Jerry Rankin, the head of the Youth Service bureau of McHenry. Sunday school grades 1 through high school will be held at 9:30, with pre-school classes (including a 2-year- old class) 0:45. being held at The first television broadcasts were made in England in 1927 and in the U.S. in 1930, but regular broad casting did not begin until 1939 in New York City. TAP and BALLET Now T-TEENACJferti-YOUNGSTERS Barbara Klein School of Dancel _ FOR ENROLLMENT CALL: 815-728-0161 OR STOP IN AT ... 4403 Ringwood Road, Ringwood, Illinois Timber Creek Farms and Nurseries 1260 CHARLESROAD WOODSTOCK, ILLINOIS 338-0200 338-0209 Canning Tommo SPECIAL >495 »2" bushel V2 bushel 'One Good Thing leads to Another" at Timber Creek BUY 1 BUSHEL OF TOfTlflTOES V RECEIVE A COUPON REDEEfTlABLE FOR FREE GALLON OF APPLE CIDER (when in season in mid-September thru October.) The claims sound great: it's quick and easy! There's no pressure cooker, no constant watching, no heavy pans, no expensive equipment to buy and you get the same results. Besides that, it's convenient and even tried and proven.... When friends or relatives start this spiel, it seems as though one of their children is selling a new gizmo or gadget to make money before school starts. According to Nancy Moore, University of Illinois Extension Home Economics Adviser, oven canning is not a tried and proven method rfor preserving food and . should not be used. "There are"' no reliable processing times and temperatures worked out for oven canning," Ms. Moore says. "Dry heat (hot air) is not nearly as efficient as steam or boiling water for heating jars of food, and, since oven temperatures , vary considerably between off and on cycles, the temperature is not consistent nor is it likely to be as accurate as people think it is when they set the thermostat." Ms Moore also notes that excessive pressure can build up inside jars undergoing oven processing and cause them to explode. • Also, s u d d e n t e m p e r a t u r e changes that occur when the oven door is opened could cause jars to break or juices to escape through jar caps. A variation of oven canning calls for microwave oven processing. This procedure is not safe either, according to Ms. Moore. "First of all, metal lids c a n n o t b e u s e d i n t h e microwave oven without damaging the appliance," she notes. "And, low-acid foods must be precessed in a pressure canner to reach a temperature of 240 degrees Fahrenheit to destroy organisms that might cause serious illness or even death. The microwave oven can not be relied upon to produce even temperatures up to 240 degrees Fahrenheit in the water environment inside a canning jar." Ms Moore says that small amounts of vegetable can be blanched in a microwave oven before freezing. o For accurate, proven and researched methods of canning and freezing, call the McHenry County Extension office at 789 McHenry avenue (route 120) in Woodstock, or, write to them at P. O. Box 431 in Woodstock. With church attendance and Sunday school enrollment up. All Saint's Lutheran church presents its expanded fall program. Starting Sept. 7. there will be two services 8:15 to 9 and 10:30 to 11:30. Christian education hour will be held from 9:15 to«10:15. Sunday school is open for children age 3 through 8th grade. During this hour there will also be new members' class, adult forum and a newly formed Sr. high forum. Opening day of Sunday school, "Rally Day", is the time for class registration, songs, refreshments and a balloon send-off. There will also be a get-acquaiftted Mr. and Mrs. Joseph Kuna of McHenry are parents of a son born Aug. 28. Fair Play The trouble with being a good sport is that you have to lose to prove it. -The Flying K, Texas. time for teachers and students. Parents are urged to stay, join in and meet the staff. The Mighty Acts of God will be the theme for the adult Bible study group meeting every Thursday at 7:30 p.m. starting Sept. 11. Babysitters will be available at the church. All Saint's is located on State Park road, south of Vacation Village, Fox Lake, and includes manv Pistakee Highlands residents as members. For more in formation, call the church office at 587-7727 or Elaine Janke (Sunday, school superintendent at 587-9259. HOSPITAL NOTES WOODSTOCK HOSPITAL A d m i s s i o n s : R i c h a r d Yates, Mrs. Joan Smart, Wonder Lake, and Mrs Betty Freund, McHenry. Good Advice Don't go around com plaining. You have one less leg to stand on when you kick. •Republic, Marathon, la. IttcllRltEtY Rome firwritisltiitfis Home Imtncw O'f* mm?? 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