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SECTION 2 - PAGE 3 -PLA1NPEALER - WEDNESDAY, FEBRUARY 29, 1984 Help for families with parents growing old By Laura Richardson, L.P.N. , Parents will always be there to support their children, even their adult children. Parents will always be independent and be towers of strength. Parents will be full of vitality. This is the view American society holds of parents. But, is it realistic? Maybe; but most likely not. What happens when the parents grow old and are not foil of vitality and able to live in­ dependently? A couple invests 20 or 30 years raising their children to go out on their own and be in­ dependent. Then, just when the young people are in a position to do some of the things (like traveling) that have had to be put off, they may find their parents need help and often even need to live with them. Once again, (dans must be postponed. No matter how much love is felt, there is bound to be resentment. This resentment may be for the freedom given up, for the care needed as well as for lost time. Mom may need constant reminders to take her medications or Dad may have to be watched so that he doesn't wander off. Resentment may be felt toward other family members who are not helping with the caregiving. After all, Mom and Dad have cared for the children all these years. Needs and demands were never too much. How can the adult child now feel resentful and sdfish? Guilt is often the emotion that next is ex­ perienced. Guilt is felt because the children know they are loved and needed by their parents. How can the child feel this way? After all, they are a family. A family takes care of each other. There is a duty-an obligation. Somehow, feeling an obligation encourages anger to develop. Anger is felt toward the parent for no longer being an emotional support; for no longer being the strong independent parent to be leaned on in time of need; for gorwing old. What a whirlwind of emotions! Why? Aging, like life and death, is an unpredictable part of the life cycle. There is no perfect text­ book picture on aging. Too few of us age gracefully like George Burns or Bob Hope. What can be done with these feelings? Are they normal or abnormal? How does a family cope? Do other families feel these emotions? These are all frequently asked questions. Probably the first and most important answer is that all families do experience these emotions to a greater or lesser degree. A family should not feel alone, and they need to become aware of the community resources available to help them. In McHenry County there are numerous agencies and clubs that provide special activities Pre-natal class set at hospital Prospective parents are in­ vited to attend the March session of Memorial Hospital's pre-natal classes. The three- session program is offerd as a public service by the hospital at Woodstock. 12, and 19 in the hospital's dining room. Mrs. Scholpp, supervisor of labor and delivery, said nutritional information for expectant mothers will be discussed, important in- Mrs. Fran Scholpp, R.N. said formation to help in the well the program has been expanaed-Hseing of both the mother and the from two-three sessions, each starting at 8 p.m, to enable speakers to tell about the pre­ natal care, labor and delivery. Also, Michelle Johnson, R.N., co-head nurse in the nursery, will discuss infant safety and safety of a child when riding in an automobile. She will have an infant seat, used in autos to protect children, to show parents-to-be. The sessions will be March 5, Custom Sale! 30% to 35% off draperies and top treatments from our "Designers Choice Fabrics". Includes lining, labor and installation. Give any room a fast fashion lift with JCPenney custom draperies. Our custom decorator consultant will help you choose the right fabrics and top treatments 50% off our Heirloom Bedspread Collection. Saves14. 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Both prospective parents are invited to participate in all three sessions, Mrs. Scholpp pointing out that virtually all fathers-to- be join their wives in this in­ structional program. Hospital and medical staff members present the program, show the films and lead the discussion as well as the tour of the maternity department and nursery. Call for a free in-home appointment with a JCPenney Decorator Consultant. No Obligation, of course JCPenney Custom Decorating 1984 J C Pennty Company. Inr Illinois Bnckyard 622 2779 Ford City 581 5621 FOK ValleyCenter851-6910 Golf Mill 299 1042 Joliet Mall 815/439-1442 lakehurst 473 181 1 Lincoln Mall 4812030 No Riverside 447 8010 Northwoods Mall Peoria 685 6111 Orland Square 460 1552 SpringHillMall 428-6970 Woodfield 882 5558 Yorktown 620-4562 NorthwMt Indiana: Marquette Mall 879-7361 SouthlaheMall 738 2357 ! is invited to come, and one may attend either or both workshops. Expert guest speakers will talk to small groups on topics such as : 1) Emotional support support for the family, 2) Community resources, 3) Home- care nursing skills, and 4) Alternative to home care when necessary. A special group activity is planned for any elderly individual who would like to attend with their family member. There is no charge. This workshop is sponsored by the Task Force on Aging for McHenry County. For more information, call 338-3590. ^SBgeneral u News Open survey of income March 1 Beginning March 1, local representatives of the U.S. Bureau of the Census will visit selected households in the area to conduct the Survey of Income and Program Participation, Stanley D. Moore, Director of the Bureau's Regional Office in Chicago, has announced. This survey is being con­ ducted in response to the need for better information on the economic well-being of the U.S., populat ion. 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