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-r PAGE •- PLAINDEALER - WEDNESDAY, JUNE 27.1984 life Today Misconceptions abound in answers to marriage strife MR. AND MRS. GEORGE NOWAK Married fifty years George and Mildred Nowak, 1502 W. Bay Rd., McHenry, will celebrate their fiftieth wedding anniversary at an Open House to be held at the Johnsburg Community Club Saturday evening, June 30. All friends of the couple are invited to join them on this memorable occasion, from 8:30 p.m. to 12 o'clock. The Nowaks were united in marriage by the bride's uncle, the Reverend Father Peter Etzig, June 30, 1934, in St. Sylvester's Church in Chicago. They are presently members of St. John the Baptist Catholic Church in Johnsburg. Mr. and Mrs. Nowak are the parents of seven children, Lona Patzke of McHenry; Richard of Seattle Wash.; Gregory of Sunnyside; Robert D., Judy Moore of McHenry; Susan Jump of Yorkville and Ralph of In­ dianapolis, Ind. Misconceptions grow like weeds around any institution. Marriage has its own crop and they're dangerous. Dr. Barbara Russell Chesser, a social scientist at Baylor University, examines some of the most common myths: "It's the quality of time you with your spouse that's not the quantity." to a study of more 13,000 couples who described - marriages as "strong" and "close," over 90 percent said they spend "a great deal of time together." Divorced couples reported they usually spent little time together before their breakup. "Anger has no place in marriage." Carlfred Broderick, professor of sociology at the University of Southern California, says, "Anger works like a smoke detector. It warns you of danger so you can'take appropriate action." Anger should be expressed, analyzed and resolved-never simply swallowed. "Hard times or crises bring marriage partners closer together." This can happen, but often doesn't Serious crises, such as the loss of a job, a family member's serious illness or sudden death, are statistically more likely to result in divorce as the partners find it easier to flee than to struggle with dif­ ficult emotions. "Happily married people never unload personal problems on their spouses." One family- relations specialist estimates that among 85 percent of the couples he has worked with, at least one partner was stewing over something without telling the other. While people are afraid of appearing vulnerable in front of their spouses, it is this very opening up that encourages deep intimacy. "When all else fails, divorce provides a chance to begin new lives." If only it were so! Divorced couples frequently only exchange one set of problems for another. Chesser writes that divorce should be available for adults whose marriages are absolutely irreparable, but for the majority, divorce is not the answer. What is needed is the development of a marriage based on realistic expectations and tolerance of imperfections. They are, after all, the ingredients of a strong and successful marriage. MR. AND MRS. EUGENE MAR Celebrate twenty-fifth Mfcg mi Births LEMKER Dale and Rhonda Lemker of McHenry announce the birth of their first child on June 9. Jennifer Elizabeth entered the world in Good Shepherd Hospital, Barrington weighing 6 lbs. 3 oz. Maternal grandparents are Frank and Andrea Pechart of Crystal Lake. Charles and JoAnn Lemker, also of Crystal Lake, are the paternal grand­ parents. CARRICK William R. and Therese A. Carrick, 2313 N. Fairview Ln., McHenry, became parents of their tenth child June 13 and named him Edward James. The 7 lbs. 3% oz. baby boy was born in Northern Illinois Medical Center, McHenry. His brothers and sisters are John, age 10; Sam, nine; Billy, eight; Megan, seven; Therese, six; Tommy, four; David, three; Patrick, two; and Daniel, 14 months. Mrs. Helen Sexton of Cape Coral, Fla. is the maternal grandmother. Paternal grand­ parents are Mr. and Mrs. William R. Carrick of Antioch, HI. : • • • • • • • • ~ PERM SPECIAL ssV'xO (JULY 2 THRU JULY 24) *'40 PERM...NOW *30 FRAN KEDZIE...14 Y EXPERIENCE AS YOUR PROFESSIONAL STYLIST...NOW CELEBRATING HER 10TH ANNIVERSARY AS OWNER OF FRAN'S HIDDEN CURL. HRS: MON 8-5'CLOSED TUES. & WED'THURS & FRI 8-5*SAT 8- 2 (AFTER 2 FOR HOSPITAL HAIR CARE) •»35 PERM...NOW *25 •'32 PERM...NOW *2» •*30 PERM. ..NOW *27.50 CUT & STYLE SPECIAL (JULY 2 THRU JULY 7) HAIRCUT $ * f>oo & STYLE N°W ^ REG.M5 CONDITIONING SPECIAL (JULY 2 THRU JULY 7) CONDITIONER TREATMENT ONLyIOV WITH PROFESSIONAL STYLING REG.*1#0 FREE TO ALL CUSTOMERS ' JULY 2 THRU JULY 21 or GIN OR WHILE SUPPLIES LAST mmmmm HIGH WE STILL HAVE A FINE SELECTION Of BEDDING PLANTS! SWEET CORN 1 MtlLltt W"* ICE COLO, JUICY WATERMELON FRESH STRAWBERRIES PIUS MUCH. MUCH MORE-STOP BY! WINN A baby girl was born June 12 to David and Joyce Winn, 8013 N. Solon, Richmond, 111. Emily Ann arrived in Northern Illinois Medical Center, McHenry weighing 10 lbs. 5 oz. Maternal grandparents are Glenn and Ann Peterson of McHenry. Edward and Erma Winn of Richmond are the paternal grandparents. Great- grandparents are Benjaman and Emily Winn. In honor of the twenty-fifth wedding anniversary of Mr. and Mrs. Eugene E. Maris, 3217 Eastwood Dr., Wonder Lake, an Open House will be held Saturday, June 30, between the hours of one and three in the afternoon, at their home. The celebrants request no gifts. Hosting this happy occasion will be the couple's children, Mrs. Dan (Debbie) Sewell of West Salem, 111.; Doug, a student at Lincoln-Christian College, Lincoln, 111.; and Susan, at home. The Marises were married July 4, 1959, in Venice, 111. Mr. Maris was born and raised in Hey worth, 111., attended Southern Illinois University and has been a teacher for school district 15, 24 years. He taught industrial arts 20 years and is presently teaching sixth grade at Parkland Junior High School. Mrs. Maris was born in Venice, HI., graduated from the same university as her husband, and is currently a first grade teacher at Harrison school in Wonder Lake. Both are members of Crystal Lake Christian Church, where he has served as treasurer the past 12 years. St. Agatha Court No. 777 slates annual golf outing SCHUENKE Tim and Margaret Schuenke of LaGrange, 111. announce the birth of their second child and first daughter. Named after her great-grandmother, Clara Stilling of McHenry, Clare Margaret.was horaai June M?4n*4IiM4BAF'Hosprar and weighed 8 lbs. 14 oz. She has one brother, Matthew, age two and a half. Maternal grand­ parents are Mr. and Mrs. Harry Stilling of Cambridge, Wis., formerly of McHenry. Mr. and Mrs. Chuck Schuenke of paternal grandparents. St. Agatha Court No. 777 of the National Catholic Society of Foresters will hold its annual golf outing Wednesday, July 25, at Chapel Hill Country Club. Tee off time is 9 a.m.; ladies wishing to play cards may do so begMaptgijatc lfe9fe»ianAi hmehu win be served at noon. Members will choose their lunch from the menu. Reservations are to be made to Mrs. Lloyd (Doris) Freund by July 18. All members are urged to attend. agjriannrti«B>»fll take place of' the regular monthly meeting.' Community Calendar JUNE 27 Miss McHenry Pageant-Parkland School 7:30 p.m.-Everyone Welcome. JUNE 30 McH. Sportsmen's Club-Weingart Rd.-Practice Shoot 1 p.m.- Public Welcome. Canoe Trip-Lyons Prairie & Marsh-6:30 a.m.-Info. 338-1405. McH. Moose 691-32nd Birthday Dinner 0-8 p.m.-Dance 8:30-11:30 p.m. JULY 1 McH. Sportsmen's Club-Weingart Rd.-Registered Shoot 9 a.m.- 100-10-100 Handicap-50 Pr Doubles-Public Welcome. JULY 2 McH. Sr. Citz. Club-Bd. Mtg. 10 a.m.-Library. Blood Drive-McH. Hospital. JULY 4 Gigantic Fireworks Display-Petersen Pk.-Everyone Invited. JULY 5-7 Dollar Days-City Wide. JULY 5 McH. Sportsmen's Club-Weingart Rd.-Mtg. 8 p.m. JULY 9 McH. Sr. Citz. Club-Mtg. 1 p.m.-East Campus. JULY 10 Legislative Advisory Council-McH. County Club-ll:30 a.m. Marcia Mary Ball Annual Circle Picnic-Noon-Home of Helen Walters-3016 Mary Lane-Bring 'White Elephant.' JULY 12 McH. Co. Genealogical Soc.-Mo. Mtg. 7:30 p.m.-Central Hi School Cafeteria-45 W. Franklin Ave., Cr. LJk.-Genealogical Research In Chicago. JULY 14 McH. Sportsmen's Club-Weingart Rd.-Practice Shoot 1 p.m.- Public Welcome. JULY 16 THEOS-Annual Picnic-Potluck-Bring Dish to Pass k 'White Elephants'-Sale 4 p.m.-Dinner 5:30. JULY 18 Aurora Blood Drive-McH. Co. College. JULY 19 McH. Sr. Citz. Club Annual Picnic-Petersen Park-Noon-3:30 p.m.-Bring Lunch-Card Tables If Playing Cards. JULY 7 McH. Sportsmen's Club-Weingart Rd.-Practice Shoot Public Welcome. p »> - Alumni urged to get reunion tickets JULY 8 McH. Sportsmen's Club-Weingart Rd.-Meat Shoot & Games 10 a.m.-Public Welcome. _ This is the final reminder that the Richmond-Burton Com­ munity High School Alumni Association Dinner Dance will • •• IT'S PICNIC TIME! ^»ILL UP VOUR| BASKET HERE! |Mtr VUA-MCNK SHCUUj j 14 Pl*c* Bvckat ONLY ! if Br*ast*d® $050 | Chick**0 •ARKANSAS TOMATOES •NEW POTATOES EVERY TUESDAY NKMT IS SPECIAL AT BEEF VILLA! 3-PIECE $ 179 ONLY EVERY TUESDAY AFTER 4 PM (Includes Roll. Col* Slow. 8roo«t*d* Potatoes or •r Spicy REG. *10.45 (OFFER GOOD THRU 7/31 /84) i L J M J ^ E ^ O U ^ N P E R V I S I T j VILLA •McNoiiry (915) 344-1103 fyfr •Woodstock (115) 338-9704 BTET •-- be held at Andre's Steak House in Richmond Saturday, July 14. Cocktails will be available at 6:30 p.m., followed by dinner at 7:30 and dancing at 9:30. Those attending are asked to use the banquet entrance at the southeast corner of Andre's. All RBCHS alumni and their guests are cordially invited. Tickets may be obtained in Richmond at the pharmacy or bank, no later than July 6. Anyone unable to purchase them at those locations should contact one of the officers by the same date. They are Eileen Gwizdala, president; Cindy Gardner, vice- president ; and George Richardson, secretary- . treasurer. t Steak fry set Members of the McHenry Moose No. 691 will celebrate their thirty-second birthday with a steak fry dinner dance Saturday, June 30. A delicious charcoal broiled steak and full meal will be served from 6 to 8 p.m., with old time dance music from 8:30 to 11:30 p.m. i