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Page 6 • PLAINDEALER-HER 4LD, WEDNESDAY . M ARCH 13.1985 Life today Unhappy parents say son was taken away by wife - DEAR ABBY: Our hearts are breaking. We raised a wonderful son, put him through college, and now he is a successful professional man. He and his family mean the world to us. Our problem is his wife. She doesn't want our son to see us anymore. We want to love her, but she has stolen our son from us. We never see him. They refuse our invitations. We rarely see our grand­ children unless we go to their house, which is not often. They invite us only at a large gathering at their house on Christmas, and again at a big free-for-all Fourth of July party with a bunch of strangers. Our daughter-in-law is very close to her family. She has won our son over to her people, and now it's as if we don't have a son anymore. What can we do, Abby ? My wife and I are in deep pain. We are decent, churchgoing people who keep praying that our daughter- in-law will give our son back to us. What more can we do? HEARTBROKEN PARENTS DEAR PARENTS: First, your son is not a sack of groceries that can be "stolen" from you. He has free choice, and if he chooses to ignore you, it's his choice-not his wife's. (She may influence him, but the final decision is his.) I know you're hur­ ting, but it's time you told your son how you feel instead of praying that his wife will give him back to you. He is not "hers" to give. DEAR ABBY: I am engaged to be married in November, and so far everything is going as planned-except one thing. My fiance insists that when we feed each other the first two pieces of wedding cake, we're supposed to grind it into each other's face! We've seen this done at other weddings, and I think it's stupid and disgusting. Furthermore, I don't relish the idea of getting cake in my hair and ruining my makeup. I want to look my very best on my wedding day. My fiance wants to go along with this tradition. In fact, he's adamant. Am I wrong? Or is he being inconsiderate and immature? By the way, he's 26 and I'm 24. NOVEMBER BRIDE DEAR BRIDE: You're not wrong, and if your fiance is "adamant," knowing how you feel about it, perhaps you'd better take a second look at him. Marriage to such a man would be no piece of cake. DEAR ABBY: My husband and I were invited to a Thanksgiving family reunion. At first we declined for two reasons: (1) It was being held in the Midwest and we didn't have the proper clothes for a cold climate; (2) my husband was a smoker, and to most of my relatives, smoking is an unpardonable sin. They insisted we come, so we finally gave in. When we arrived, we were informed that no smoking would be allowed indoors, so my husband had to go outside to smoke inthe bitter cold without adequate protective clothing. The end result: I spent Christmas and New Year's sitting beside my husband's hospital bed watching him die of double pneumonia! I buried him on Jan. 4. I agree, non-smokers have rights, but if they didn't permit smoking in the house, they could have provided a reasonably warm sheltered area for smokers. I personally feel that these self-righteous, anti-smoking crusaders killed my husband just as surely as if they had put a bullet through his heart-which would have been much more merciful than the suffering he endured before he died prematurely. BROKEN HEARTED AND BITTER IN ARIZONA (Do you hate to write letters because you don't know what to say? Thank you notes, sympathy letters, congratulations,how to decline and accept invitations and how to write an interesting letter are included in Abby's booklet, "How to Write Letters for All Occasions." Send your name and address clearly printed with a check or money order for $2.50 (this includes postage) to: Dear Abby, Letter Booklet, P.O. Box 38923, Hollywood, Calif. 90038.) Present birthday surprise Members of T.H.E.O.S. met for their February get-together at a local restaurant and sur­ prised Mae Stinespring and Dorothy Yeoman with a bir­ thday cake, complete with candles. Everyone serenaded them with the birthday song, adding a final touch to the oc­ casion. After enjoying a leisurely dinner, the group participated in two mind boggling games and the lucky winners were awarded prizes. Mrs. Stinespring read another excerpt from the on-going topic, and a lively discussion followed. T.H.E.O.S. is a warm, friendly and casual group of widows and widowers, meeting the third Monday of each month at 5 p.m., at some local restaurant, for dinner together and an evening of.fun and fellowship. There are no age restrictions, no dues, and it is non-denominational. The next meeting will be held Monday, Mar. 18, at 5 p.m., at the Busy Bee Restaurant, 4621 St. are Conway-Greany wed in St. John's church A Nuptial Mass celebrated at 3 p.m. Jan. 19, in St. John the Baptist Catholic Church, Johnsburg, united in Holy Matrimony the former Christine Ann Conway and Jeffery Todd Greany. The bride is the daughter of Ron and Ardelle Conway, 1607 N. Riverside Dr., McHenry. Paul and Ruth Greany, 820 S. Black Partridge Rd., McHenry, are the parents of the bridegroom. Father John C. Holdren was the officiating clergyman and musical selections appropriate for the occasion were offered by organist Jean Neumann and soloist Bill Weber, both cousins of the bride's father. They in­ cluded "Ave Maria," "Prayer of St. Francis," "Panis Angelicus," and "Evergreen." Todd Hughes, a friend of the couple, was the commentator. The bride wore an organza gown. The beaded Chantilly lace bodice featured a Queen Anne neckline and Chantilly lace leg­ o-mutton sleeves; and the skirt flowed into a semi cathedral train. In keeping with the tradition of 'something borrowed,' she wore her cousin Cindy Scott's headpiece of two- tiered Schiffli lace, embellished with pearls, beads and sequins. Attending her sister as maid of honor was Colleen Conway of McHenry. Bridesmaids were the couple's friend, Mary Beth Meyer; and the groom's sisters, Kim and Tabby Greany, all of McHenry. Attendants were attired in suede rose matte taffeta gowns with romantic, puffed sleeves and an off-the-shoulder bodice. Handling the duties of best man was the bride's brother, Dan Conway of McHenry. Groomsmen were the bride's brother, Tim Conway, the groom's brother\, Shawn Greany, and the groom's friend, Dennis Casey, all of McHenry. The mother of the bride chose a mauve street length dress highlighted by a back panel. A light pink, two-piece, street length dress was the choice of the groom's mother. They each had a white orchid corsage. Prior to embarking on a honeymoon in Wisconsin, the newlyweds were honored at a reception held in the Johnsburg Community Club. Among the 150 friends and relatives in at­ tendance were out-of-town guests from Ohio and the groom's grandfather, Bill Greany, from Massachusetts. Some of the other special guests were the bride's grand­ parents, Mr.and Mrs. Alfred Oeffling and Mr. and Mrs. Earl "Marty" Conway, all of McHenry. | MR. AND MRS. JEFFREY GREANY and will graduate in June, 1985 from Robert Morris College, Carthage, 111. Her husband, a 1984 graduate of the same high, school, is presently working in the area. * They are residing in; McHenry. The groom's grandmother, Mrs. Vivian Norman of Ohio, was unable to attend. The new Mrs. Greany graduated from McHenry East Campus High School in 1984; is studying to be a legal secretary Births Hold open house at new Moose Lodge MC CRACKEN Michael and Vickie Mc- Cracken of Jackson, Mich, announce the birth of their first child on Jan. 30. Anthony Michael entered the world weighing 7 lbs. 9 oz. and measured 20 inches long. Paternal grandparents are , former McHenry residents, Mr. and Mrs. Don McCracken of Horton, Mich. Maternal grand­ parents are ' Mrs. Betty Bergman of Marquette, Mich, and Mr. and Mrs. Robert Taylor of Jackson, Mich. Great- grandparents are Mr. and Mrs. James J. Krein, Sr. of Crystal Lake, Mrs. Nellie Snowberger of Harrison, Mich., and Mr. and llrs. Leonard McCracken of TdcHenry. BUSS Stephen and Diane Buss, 3304 Skyway Dr., McHenry, became parents of twins Feb. 12. in Evanston Hospital. Jenna Theresa weighed 4 lbs. 4 oz. and Andrew Stephen weighed 4 lbs. 8Vfe oz. They have a sister Courtney, age two and a half. Maternal grandparents are Donald and Nancy Butler of McHenry. Edward and Joan Buss of McHenry are the paternal grandparents. Great- grandparents are Adele Butler and Theresa Nelson, both of McHenry; and Ella Buss of Burlington, Wis. An open house from 12 to 5 p.m. March 17 will be held at the new McHenry Moose Lodge, 3535 N. Richmond Road, for those who would care to stop in . to meet the officers and members, and learn of the principles of the Moose organization. Coffee and cake will be ser­ ved, and slides of Mooseheart and Moosehaven will be shown. The Moose is a fraternal, non­ profit organization which supports Mooseheart, the City of Children and a retirement village in Florida for needy members called Moosehaven. In addition, the lodge sponsors a co-ed Northern Youth Group of Scouts, bowling teams and a snowmobile club. The move to the new building will provide members with a new lodge home and an area outside for future sports events and a picnic pavilion. The new building is the daily eating place for the Senior Citizens Meet and Eat program, and provides a pleasant at-! mosphere for their activities.; Seating capacity is over 300,; with a huge parquet dance floor/ club room, and offices and: meeting rooms in the upstairs area. ; ' , ^ ^ The land adjacent to the over seven acres that the club owns will -be developed by the township into a recreation area. Welcome national president of VFW aux. GLENNETA VOGELSANG Glenneta Vogelsang, National President of the Ladies Auxiliary to Veterans of Foreign Wars, will be welcomed on her official state of Illinois visit by State President Lillian Cyborskj- and other state officers Thur­ sday, March 14. Mrs. Vogelsang heads the organization of over 700,000 auxiliary members whom she calls "Guardians of Liberty." In her travels throughout the United States and Far Eastern countries she will promote patriotism and the auxiliary programs. As the granddaughter of a Spanish American veteran and daughter and wife of World War I and World War EL veterans, she is especially interested in the problems of veterans and their dependents. During her visit to Illinois, she will be honored at an open house Thursday at Cantigny post in Joliet. Friday, she will attend the council of administration at Ramada O'Hare Inn, Rosemont; and Saturday, she will be guest of honor at a lun­ cheon which will be held at th$ same place. , Eva Snell, president of the Ladies Auxiliary to Veterans of Foreign Wars Post 4600, wift attend the luncheon. Other members of the local auxiliary who are planning to attend art Barbara Bryniarski, trustee; Mary Fergen, secretary; Djt Hogan, veterans administration volunteer services represeri; tative at North Chicago Medical Center; and Gerrry Kuck, trustee. McHenry. always most W. Elm Newcomers welcome. For any futher information on T.H.E.O.S., contact Mae Stinespring, 385-1894, or Lyda Radisch, 385-2754. W.L. seniors meet The annual business meeting of the Wonder Lake Senior Citizens Club will be held Monday, March 18, at 1 p.m., in Christ the King Church hall. Everyone is encouraged to bring ideas that will benefit the club to be discussed. An election of officers for 1985- 86 will also take place. Prior to the meeting, blood pressures will be taken for all senior citizens of the Wonder Lake area. One need not be a member of the club to partake of this service. It is hoped there will be a large number of old-time, present and new members in attendance at the meeting. Celebrate spring March 16 Community calendar While many people may be feeling that winter will never end, spring and its fashions are just around the corner. In celebration of spring, a day in fashion benefitting the Blaster Seal Society for McHenry County will be held Saturday, March 16, at the Hob Nob Restaurant, routes 14 and 31 in Crystal Lake. The day will begin with a luncheon at 11:30 a.m., followed by a style show featuring spring and summer fashions, including sportswear and business attire. Fashions will be provided by local shops and giveaway prizes. donated by local merchants, will add to the afternoon's ex­ citement. This is the second similar benefit for Easter Seals and senior director Judy Nepil said, "It was such a fantastic show last year, with over 400 people attending, we're hoping for an equally successful show this year." Tickets may be purchased through the Easter Seal Society, 708 Washington, Woodstock. For more information, call Easter Seals, 338-1707, or Judy Nepil, 312-658-4891. MARCH 13 McH. Area C of C--AU Member Luncheon-ll:30 a.m.-l:30 p.m.-' McH. Country Club-"Effects Competition & New Technology Have* on 111. Bell Pricing." McH. Mayoral Debate-LWV & BPW Sponsors-East Campus Hi. School, McH.-Public Invited. Ann. Lunch-Card Party--St. Peter's Catholic Church-Spring Grove-11 a.m.-l p.m.-Men Welcome. L 111. Bell Kishwaukee Life Member Club-Ann. Bazaar & Luncheon-' -Wdstk. V.F.W., Throop St.-Happy Hr. 11:30 a.m.-Lunch 12:30 p.m.-Bring Pac A Sac & Bazaar Item. MARCH 14 McH.C0.rn; Genealogical Soc.-Mo. Mtg. 7:30 p.m.-Central Hi School Cafeteria--Crystal Lake--"How to use Library Resources" & "Effective Letter Writing." •' McH Area Soccer Fecf-Mo. Mtg. 7:30 p.m.-Village Squire. K Lakeland Pk. Women's Club-Mtg. 7:30 p.m.-Lk. Pk Comm. Hse.-Hostesses Adele Arndt & Edna Domrese s VotersUnit Mtg.-Shepherd ofthi Items of interest St., McH.-Topic: Divorce--Public; Film showing scheduled McHenry County Area Childbirth Educators (MCACE) invites the public to attend a showing of the award winning film, "Nan's Class" at Memorial Hospital for McHenry County, Woodstock, Monday, March 18, at 9 p.m. in the Conference Center. TTie film depicts the labors and deliveries of five couples and a single parent who have prepared For the birth of their child by attending Lamaze childbirth preparation classes. It also shows the latest in family centered maternity care in­ cluding labor and delivery in a birthing room setting and the Leboyer Method. MCACE is an organization of the American Society for Psychoprophlaxis in Obstetrics, Inc., certified childbirth educators dedicated to the quality education of parents, hospital staff, and the general Eublic in preparing for child-irth. The ongoing classes are best taken during the last trimester of pregnancy, however, early registration is encouraged. MCACE also offers ongoing Cesarean birth classes. For further information contact Marie Walters, 459-8647, or Lila Keller, 338-6667. HOLD DINNER DANCE The Shamrock Club of Twin Lakes Area, Wis. will hold its annual St. Patrick's Dinner Dance Friday, March 15, at Andre's Steak House, Rich­ mond, 111. Corned beef and chicken will highlight the menu. Ticket information may be had by calling Larry Coffee, 414-877- 2696. They will also be available at the door the night of the dance for $12.50 per person. SLATE BAZAAR Jacobs High School post prom committee will hold its annual Spring Bazaar March 16, from 9:30 a.m. to 4:30 p.m. at the school on Randall Road just south of 62, Algonquin. Forty- five craftsmen will display their handcrafted items. A hot sand­ wich lunch with homemade desserts will be served from 10:30a.m. and coffee and donuts will be available. For in­ formation, call 312-658-7439. RUMMAGE SALE SET The United Methodist Women of Mt. Hope United Methodist Church, 1015 W. Broadway, Pistakee Highlands, will hold its Annual Spring Rummage Sale Friday, March 22 from 9 a.m. to 5 p.m. Saturday, March 23, the sale will continue from 9 a.m. to 2 p.m., featuring a $1 per bag special and a bake sale. SPONSOR SALE The Women's Circle of the 1st Congregational Church of Huntley will sponsor its Spring RSfrimage Sale in the social hall of the church Friday, March 22, from 8 a.m. to noon and Saturday, IVfarch 23, from 9 a.m. to noon. Many items will be available at reasonable prices and a bake sale will beheld. The church is located at the corner of Church and Main streets. Lutheran Church-Green Invited-Babysitting Provided. , v Legion of Moose-Potluck Dinner 7 p.m.-AU Members & Guests!: piSSL •CTan;S IF1"b~Benetlt Card Party-Luncheon Noon-St-Patrick s Church Hall. v MARCH 15 .jj NAEM-St. Margaret Chapter-Mtg. 7 p.m.-Cards-Montini School Oak Rm. 1 MARCH 16 -* • Sportsmen's Club-Weingart Rd.-Practice Shoot 1 p.m.* Public Welcome. McH. Moose Oiildren's Easter Party--2-4 p m -Memberi Children Up To 12. ^ McH. „Moose~St. Pat's Corned Beef & Cabbage Dinner-6 30-8 30 p.m.-Music 9-12. Dinner 6 p.m.-Polka Dance 8 p.m.-Spojnia Pk.-Flanders Rd E. of Ringwood-Tckts. At Door Or Call Jean Lucarz 653-4224. ' Parents without partners to meet Parents Without Partners, Chapter No. 189, will hold its second general meeting Friday, Mar. 15, at the Crystal Lake Moose Lodge on Route 31, one- quarter block north of Route 176. A potluck dinner will be served at 7 p.m. atid installation of officers wil follow at 8. The cost without a dish to pass will be $3. Adult activities include a CD entitled, "Shake the Blues-Go On A Cruise;" a fish fry and dancing at the V.F.W. in Dun­ dee; and the regional ference in River Forest Ann, 459-1614. 1 con- Call Rita, 312-639-3447, will provide information on the St. Patrick'^ parade in Chicago and a LEO* the family outings scheduled* Chapter No. 189 invites all single parents to attend the group's activities. Call Char: 312-426-3720, for more in­ formation about the organization.