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Page 4 - PLAINDEALER-HERALD, WEDNESDAY. APRIL 10.19B5 Life toda jrr DENISE BARSELLA AND TOM SCHLOFNER Wed in 1986 Mr. and Mrs. Daniel Barsella of Chicago announce the engagement of their daughter Denise to Tom Schlofner, ton of Mr. and Mrs. John Schiofner of McHenry. The couple will graduate from Bradley University, Peoria, 111. in May. A1986 fall wedding is planned. A split in religious beliefs causes a family to splinter DEAR ABBY: Our only daughter, "Sally," lives in a beautiful home 400 miles from us, but her husband, "Joe," has forbidden us to visit her in their home. I finally wrote Joe a long letter addressed to his office (he's a successful surgeon) telling him that I thought we were entitled to come for a visit. He returned the letter on which he had scribbled, "Tell it to Dear Abby," so that's what I'm doing. My husband is a Christian church minister-Disciples of Christ- -so we sent Sally to a good bible college, hoping she would marry a fine ministerial student. Instead she met Joe, an Episcopalian. They fell in love, and he won her over to hit church. They were wwwy married after graduation and mm wnii •frtaa* munication with Sally for several years. Last year she let us know we were grandparents. Abby, they had our grandson christened in the Episcopalian church, and we know from the scriptures that all must be bap­ tized by immersion to be saved, so my husband told them they had condemned our grandchild to hell. After that they broke on all communication with us. In your column you have said that grandparents have the right to see their grandchildren. How do we go about enforcing those rights? CUT OFF IN VIRGINIA DEAR CUT OFF: There is a right that outranks grandparents' rights-it's the constitutional right under the First Amendment that grants every citizen freedom of religion. That means the right to worship (or not worship) according to ones own con­ science. Your daughter, an Episcopalian, baptized her child in accordance with the rules of that church, so for you to accuse her of condemning her child to hell because your religion differs from hers is an insult. Until you respect your daughter's right to religious, freedon, forget about your "rights" as a grandparent. You have none. DEAR ABBY: Because I have had a mastectomy, I am all too familiar with the comments of insensitive people concerning breasts. A large-breasted (and proud of 'em) friend no doubt meant to console me when she said, "Well, you didn't have too much in the first place!" My husband of 21 years withdrew from me physically, saying, "You just have to understand; I've lost my desire." Her head is screwed up. His head is screwed up. My head is on straight. And so is my prosthesis. I feel. I hurt. I care. I love. I forget. I cry. A WHOLE WOMAN DEAR WOMAN: "Man's inhumanity to man makes countless thousands mourn." (Robert Burns) DEAR ABBY: Set me straight. Since when is it all right for a female guest to wear black to a wedding? I know that black is "in" now, but where I come from, it simply isn't worn to a wedding. At a recent evening wedding I couldn't believe the black outfits- -even the soloist wore black! Lots of white numbers, too, which I always thought should not be worn to a wed< Dial ding, e, Abby. MUSED] : miss an issue of Vogue? Tell me true BEMUSED IN BUFFALO DEAR BEMUSED: For women, colors are preferred over black and white, but neither is forbidden at a wed (Getting married? Send for Abby's new, updated, expanded booklet, <!HOW to Have a Lovely Wedding." Send your name and address clearly printed with a check or money order for $2.50 (this includes postage) to: Dear Abby, Wedding Booklet, P.O. Box 38923, Hollywood, CA 90038.) UMW slates meeting The next general meeting of the United Mehodist Women of the First United Methodist Church of Mchenry will be held Thursday, April 18, at noon, in the Fellowship Hall. It will begin with a potluck luncheon hosted by the Ruth Circle. Following the luncheon, two guest speakers from Newberry Center will present a program, "Sound Of A Million Children Laughing." Everyone is asked to bring a can of food or other item, such as toothpaste, tooth brush, kleenex, etc., so that the speakers can return to the center with some needed sup­ plies. The March general meeting of the UMW began with an Agape 'Items of interest7 GARAGE-BAKE SALE Saturday, April 20, the Wildlife in Need Foundation is sponsoring a garage and bake sale from 9 a.m. to 5 p.m. at the McCullom Lake Community Center, 4811 Orchard Dr. Proceeds will be used to support care of the iqjured and orphaned wildlife received by the McHenry County Conservation D i s t r i c t ' s W i l d l i f e Rehabilitation A Education Project, Woodstock. Donations of items for sale are welcomed. Call 338-5207,5 to 7 p.m. for more information. ONE-DAY SEMINAR The Crystal Lake-McHenry Chapter of Women's Aglow Fellowship is having a one-day seminar, Thursday, April 18, from 9:15 a.m. to 2:30 p.m. in Crystal Lake. It will focus on ministering salvation and baptism of the Holy Spirit, with explanations and imright* on these topics. Everyone is welcome. For more information call Carol Nolte, 4594694 or Kathleen DeRoche, 455-1692. RUMMAGE SALE Hie Zion Ladies its Spring Aid will ie April 18 and 19 in the hall at Zion Lutheran Church. The doors wfll be open Thursday from 9 a.m. to 7 p.m. and Friday from 9 a.m. to 12 p.m. BUS TRIP Tbe Friends of the Johnsburg Library is sponsoring a charter bus trip Saturday, April 20, leaving the library at 8 a.m. to the Milwaukee Public Museum and Mitchell Park Domes, and returning at 6p.m. The museum features "Streets of Old Milwaukee," and an exhibit on platonics and fossils. Tropical, arid and seasonal exhibits will be seen at the Domes. Everyone is welcome; one does not need a library card to eqjqy the trip; sign up at Johnsburg Library by April 15. Bus fee is $6 per per­ son: admission, $4 adults, $2.75 students. WOMEN ON WELLNESS A "Women On Wellness" series will be offered for women only,' the third Thursday of every month at the Algonquin- Lake-In-The-Hills Professional Arts Building, a satellite of Northern Illinois Medical Center. Call 385-2201, extension 700. DIABETIC TECHNIQUES Northern Illinois Medical Center presents "Diabetic Techniques" as a part of its Older Adult series April 17, at 1:30 p.m., at McHenry Hall, 3516 jan, McHenry. For in- fion call 344-5000, ex­ tension 700. CYNTHIA ABNER AND MICHAEL SM Engaged 1:30 p.m. Waukegj formats Full agenda at McHenry County Salon 483 Eight et Forty meeting The March meeting of McHenry County Salon 483 Eight et Forty was held at the home of Le Petit Chapeau Ethel Pierce, Alden. Following the usual opening ceremonies, reports were given by the chairmen. Mabel Schultz, constitution and bylaws chairman, an­ nounced that a copy of the standing rules of the salon will be sent to the Departemental chairman Betty Lou Thompson. Annual report forms were distributed to be filled out by the chairmen. Becky Gabel, Children, and Youth chairman, reported that games, books, stuffed animals and art supplies brought to the meeting will be taken to the Spring Pouvoir to be given to children in hospitals who are afflicted with Cystic Fibrosis and lung and other respiratory diseases. Norma Williams of Mattoon, 111., Le Chapeau of the Depar­ temental d'Illinois, was a guest of the salon in February, at a dinner at the Timbers Restaurant, Woodstock. She gave a very interesting talk about the programs of Eight et Forty. Williams was pleased that the salon is 100 percent in part- / nershin, and expressed ap­ preciation for the salon's con- Jim and Carol Abner of Winter Haven, Fla., formerly of McHenry, announce the engagement of their daughter Cynthia Ann to Michael Dean Smith, son of Larry and Sandy Smith of Flagler Beach, Fla. The bride elect attended Montini School and Marian Central Catholic High School, graduating from Winter Haven High School In 1981. Her fiance is a 1980 graduate of Winter Haven High School. Their marriage will take place June 1. Meeting was busy There were a number of important items on the agenda, so the March meeting of the Mission Team of the United Methodist Women of the First United Methodist Church of McHenry was a very busy one. Because of a conflict, the dates of two of the annual ac­ tivities had to be changed. The spring rummage sale has been rescheduled for May 2, 3, and 4; and the Fall Bazaar and Christmas Sale set for Saturday, Oct. 26. Mention was made of the "Day of Spiritual Renewal" Tuesday, April 9, at Woodstock, and the retreat, April 20 and 21. possible. tribution to her special project; a bed dedication at the National Jewish Hospital-National Asth­ matic Center, Denver, Colo., in honor of Laura Hauser, Le Chapeau Departemental Passe. The Spring Pouvoir was held March 30-31, at the Ramada Inn, Alton, 111. Attending from the sajion were Mabel Schultz, Departemental La Concierge; Becky Gabel; Arlene Mattingly and Iolene Biangardi. After the meeting, a potluck dinner was served by co- hostesses Pierce, Agnes Wap- pler and Florence Kennedy. The next meeting will be he!4 April .22 at thg home of Lois Haak, Wonder Lake. I Wedding Policy The McHenry Pialndealer Herald will print weddings In their entirety up to one | month after the ceremony. However we know many couples do not receive their wedding photos within one month after the oeremony. | The bride may bring in a completed wedding write-up, without the photo. It will I be dated and held until a photo becomes available. In this way, the newlyweds dp f not have to depend on a photographer to determine the length of their wedding ' ( write-up that Is published In the newspaper. I From one to two months after the occasion, all gown descriptions and recep- , I tlons assistants' names will be omitted. After two months, weddings will be f shortened to names, date, site attendants and officiating person at the ceremony, t | parents' names, couple's education and where they will reside. This information f will be printed without photo. k I Once submitted within these deadlines, we take responsibility for publication. V The most efficient means of handling the Information Is to pick up a wedding A | form at the McHenry Pialndealer Herald office. Flowers and gown descriptions J | can then be Inserted as preparations are completed. I V Forms should be typed or printed legibly. Couples may also write their own ac- j | counts using the Information we seek, subject to editing for style. | " The McHenry Pialndealer Herald will only accept responsibility for black and I | white photos. However we will accept color photos which are sharply focused f and where the couple stand out from the background. f A We encourage couples to pick up their photos as soon as they are published in V | the newspaper, or provide a stamped, self-addressed envelope for their return. | NAIM schedules Mass St. Margaret chapter of NAIM, a support group for the widowed, will participate in a special Mass at 3 p.m., April 21, in St. Joseph Church, Richmond. The Rev. Thomas Neville will be the mass celebrant. An invitation to Catholic Widows and Widowers and also spouses of deceased Catholics is extended. One does not have to be a member of NAIM to attend the Mass. Refreshments and a social gathering will follow. NAIM is having its twentieth Anniversary this year. St. Margaret Chapter in McHenry has a membership from Cary, Crystal Lake, Wonder Lake, Richmond and the surrounding area, there are six chapters in the Rockford Diocese alone and NAIM is growing all over the world. Luncheon served by the Marcia Mary Ball Circle, and the program, "Meeting Christ on the Journey" was very in­ spirational. An announcement was made that due to a conflict, the Annual Spring Rummage Sale was changed to May 2, 3 and 4; and the Annual Fall Bazaar and Christmas Sale to Saturday, Oct. 26. Also, "Shop and Share" days will be May 27, 28 and 29; and the group will spohsor a birthday party at Royal Terrace in September. Those interested in attending the retreat April 20 and 21 should contact Veretta Gerstad at once, at 385-4043. ' " • ' :• • VICKI ROTH AND RICHARD KRIEGER Plan June wedding , Franklin Roth of Palatine, 111. and Janet Roth of McHenry announce the engagement of their daughter Vicki A. to Richard A. Krieger son of Harry and Darlene Krieger of Richmond. The future bride graduated from McHenry Community High School and McHenry C*n??,£SS£* V* bride«r®wn graduated from Rich­ mond High School and McHenry County College. A June 15 wedding is planned. Community calendar APRIL 11 McH. Co. HI. Genealogical Soc.-Mo. Mtg. 7:30 p.m.-Central Hi School Cafeteria, Cr. Lk.-"Letters & Libraries." Lakeland Pk. Women's Club-Mtg. 7:30 p.m.-Lk. Pk. Comm. Hse.-Hostesses Frances Kostka & Ella Solomon. Legue of Women Voters-Bd. Mtg. 9:30 a.m.-Home of Barbara Marrs-1505 Appaloosa Tr.. McH.-All Members Welcome-385-1434. McH. Woman's Club-Shepherd of the Hills Church--Noon-- "Eunice's Eggery." ' APRIL 13 Friendship Club-Potluck Lunch & Mtg. Noon-Fellowship Hall- First United Methodist Church. Kinship of McHenry-Orientation Mtg. 9-11 a.m.-For All In­ terested Persons-Shepherd of the Hills Church. St. Pat's 8th Grade CCD-Pro Life Car Wash-Benefit Koleno Quads-9 a.m.-2 p.m.-McH. Plaindealer-Herald Parking Lot. APRIL 14 Kite Flying Derby 1 p.m.-All Ages-Volo Bog State Natural Area- Info. 344-1294. Pancake Breakfast-8 a.m.-Noon-East Campus Cafeteria-Tckts. At Door-Warrior Booster Club Sponsor. 2-Mile Tax Free Fun Run 7:30 a.m.-Pearl St. Pk.-All Ages- Sponsor, McH. Co. Democratic Women. APRIL 15 , THEOS-Meet 5 p.m.-Busy Bee Rest-Dinner & Evening of Fun & Fellowship. APRIL 17 17th Ann. Spring Lunch & Card Party-Pist. Hi. Women's Club Sponsor-Noon-Pist. Hi. Comm. Ctr.-Reservations Only-Contact 497-3233. APRIL 18 Games & Card Party-St. Patrick's Hall 7 p.m.-McH. BPW Sponsor-Bring Own Games. UMW Gen Mtg. Noon-Potluck Lunch-Fellowship Hall-Ruth Circle Hostesses-"Sounds of a Million Children Laughing." Catholic Daughters-Reg. Mo. Mtg. 1:30 p.m.-Liberty Hall. APRIL 18-19 Rummage Sale-Zion Lutheran Church-Thurs. 9 a.m.-7 p.m.-Fri. 9 a.m.-12 p.m, APRIL 19 NAIM St. Margaret ChapteivPotluck & Mtg. 6 p.m.-Montini School Cafeteria-Bring Dish to Pass & Own Table Service. APRIL 21 NATM-Special Mass 3 p.m.-St. Joseph Church, Richmond-St. Margaret Chapter Welcomes Guests. Bake Sale-Montini School Basement-After All Masses-Catholic Daughters Sponsor. APRIL 22 McH. Sr. Citz. Club-Mtg. 7 p.m.-East Campus Hi School.