going to bed. You can‘t make me go to bed!", though you may feel you want to "let her know who‘s boss", and drag her down the hall to the bedâ€" room, bite your tongue and consider what she might be feeling. A battle of wills can sometimes be avoided by the parent saying someâ€" thing like: "It sure is hard to leave all your toys and say goodnight!" What you‘re doing here is showing respect for the child‘s feelings, having empaâ€" thy for what‘s going on in her head. It certainly does not mean she‘s going to be up watching Arsenio Hall! Of course, it would be nice if the child immediately responded to your show of understanding by jumping up, grabâ€" bing your hand and toddling off to bed. Not too likely. I‘d guess! But what can move the process along might be for the parent to divert the child‘s attention from the issue at hand to something more pleasant ahead. "Just as soon as you‘re ready for bed, we can have our story and then talk about some nice things that happened in your day." If little Miss Night Ow! is still bound and bent that bedtime has not arrived, the parent can continue to empathize about how you know she‘d like to stay up, but that‘s not going to happen. The awards are a coâ€"operative effort between the Town of Oakville, the Volunteer Centre and other local agencies. Their purpose is to recogâ€" nize individuals who have made outâ€" standing contributions toward improvâ€" ing the town‘s social services or the health and social wellâ€"being of its citiâ€" zens on a nonâ€"remunerative basis over More to listening than meets the ears Do you know anyone who has volâ€" unteered their time, talent and energy to help make Oakville a better place to live? If you do, here is your chance to show how much you appreciate them by nominating your candidate for Oakville‘s Volunteers of the Year. If the opportunity offered by you, the parent, to come and pick out the story she wants, choose the p.j.s she wants to wear, or other inducements, doesn‘t work, then you might say: "Well, it looks like you need some help in coming to the bedroom. Would you like to walk by yourself or shall I carry you?" "Good listening skills," "positive communication", "active listening", "reflective listening", "effective listenâ€" ing" â€" terms that all mean the same thing. Learning and using this comâ€" municating skill can help avoid all kinds of situations where there is the potential for conflict. When adults practice these communication skills with their children, it shows respect for the views and feelings of those children, and, as well, acts as a model for them of how to resolve conflict with their own age group in other situâ€" ations. Though we may be able to hear words with our ears, sometimes what we hear is not what was said. And that goes for children and adults alike. Listening involves getting behind the words sometimes, to address the feelâ€" ings. When your threeâ€"yearâ€"old, after being told it‘s bedtime, says: "I‘m not going to bed. You can‘t make me go to bed!", though you may feel you want to "let her know who‘s boss", To learn most about effective comâ€" munication, you might consider becoming involved in a parenting group or just reading more about it. Two books I might suggest as easy to read and full of practical examples, are "Liberated Parents, Liberated Children" and "How To Talk So Kids Will Listen", both by the same authors, Adele Faber and Elaine Mazlish Just a thought: GOOD COMMUâ€" NICATION MAKES FOR GOOD CONNECTION®S and one terrific connection would be joining a parentâ€" ing program at the Oakville Parentâ€" Town award honors special volunteer BANKRUPTCY S1det es be «is t onl range. i: omeâ€" es us ‘ j mm e o al o ooraramncmarn eumagun se 4 (Rel"" en y m mm hapielth c What h yyah PWY :o s icmt" _ ; m ’ spect / f / mpaâ€" ‘ ad. It | ng to ‘ v ! Of . . | | child ‘ show + : ‘ grabâ€" l . l ' L /‘ L LHL.“{‘ [ T 4| the past This gories: Agulit ano 1O0MN, AMC AUILC Volunteer of the Year Award category is new for 1993 and was established to recognize and encourage the accomâ€" plishments and goodwill contributions |__ M ... ® 1 C a I___.I.LLL'-LI- For more information, please drop Child Centre. 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There is no age restriction, except for the Youth Category, which is 19 years of age and under. However, nominees must be residents of Oakville Candidates may be nominated by any volunteer organization, communiâ€" ty group or individual that wants to recognize someone‘s outstanding volâ€" untary efforts. * You can pick up an Oakville Volunteer Awards Nomination Form from the various agencies throughout between, the Oakville Parentâ€"Child Centre can provide you with support and encouragement as we travel down the bumpy road of childhood. Programs focus on stages of developâ€" ment, appropriate discipline, and effective communication. turkey drums & wings L.Q.F. Sockeye salmon steaks Post Marshmallow Alphaâ€"bit cereal Quaker Oats Quaker Ready to Serve oatmeal Tradition ground coffee fresh Ontario pork pork back ribs £2 AQ & | fresh tender broccoli 1.96 ko NN Selel® Product of U.S.A 99 60 l’.‘mn Nabob tb. 6.58 kg 1| THE OAKVILLE BEAVER 70 29 325â€"470 g box 489 I 1y bag box Oakville, as well as at the Glen Abbey and River Oaks Recreation Centres, and the Sir John Colborne and Kerr Street Seniors Recreation Centres. Forms are also available at the Clerk‘s and the Parks & Recreation Departments located at the Oakville Municipal Building, 1225 Trafalgar Road, Oakville. The criteria used in the selection process is made up of Leadership, Perseverance, Degree of Personal Involvement, Creativity and Work Impact on the Community. Your candidate‘s voluntary contriâ€" butions to any and all organizations made during the past year should be included on the nomination form. You are also encouraged to include on this form information regarding any obstaâ€" cle your nominee has overcome in pursuing volunteer work. All nomination forms and any supâ€" porting documents must be received by the Mayor‘s Office on or before Monday, March 15. 1993. All sponsors and their nominees will be notified and invited to attend the Annual Volunteer of the Year ne Annual Volunteer of the rear Awards Ceremony on Monday, April Canadiana breads lss [? > | oo Rye & Kids bread nacho chips Old El Paso Thick ‘N Chunky salsa‘s & Picante sauce Rhubarbâ€" Raspberry pies Old El Paso taco shells & mini shells Murphy potato chips GY snacks fresh juicy, large cantaloupes ©;SUPER BOWL / Dempster‘s Product of Mexico Dempster‘s fresh F£4 675 g loaf 19 $Q each 8" pie BV .99 $9 §0 o Lt bag 107 g pkg. 455 mL. Jar the Oakville Municipal Building. 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