4 Friday, July 29, 2016 Brooklin Town Crier Our Brooklin Kids By Leanne Brown What Experts Say About Kids' Awards At the end of my daughter's lacrosse season, everyone received a medal. She didn't want to wear it and I recently found it in her laundry basket. What happened? She used to love getting end-of-season awards. It seems she is at an age when participation awards begin to lose their sparkle. Think about when kids stop believing in Santa Claus and that's about when the award's impact begins to dissolve. The goal of participation medals is to help kids to fall in love with a sport. As they get older, they stay with it for other reasons and the participation trophy becomes less important. Louis Kyron, A Whitby Girls Hockey Association executive, says, "There will always be the handful of players who have a sense of entitlement just as there will always be a handful at the other end of the spectrum who will go home and toss it (the medal) in the box with the other trophies to collect dust. But for the overwhelming majority, it is all about inclusion and belonging." While youth sports has become competitive, many coaches defend participation trophies because they remind kids we value their effort, regardless of ability or results, and that being on a team is special. They say that showing up for those 6 am hockey practices and trying your best are what matters. Recognize development What is often lacking with participation awards though is the ability to recognize each child's individual development as they obtain skills. Dr. Jonathan Fader, a clinical and sport psychologist who contributes to "Psychology Today" says, "Kids who are praised for their effort rather than their ability tend to strive harder and enjoy activities more. Science suggests we need to be praise our kids on process, not results. We should praise them for how hard they hustled, what they did right and how they improved." (jonathanfader.com/give-kids-participation-trophies/) Handing a kid a trophy and saying "Good Job" is not enough, according to Jim Taylor, Ph.D., a professor at the University of San Francisco. "It doesn't tell children what precisely they did well," he says. "Children don't need to be told 'Good job!' when they have done something well; it's self-evident. They do need to be told why they did well so they can replicate that behavior in the future to get the same positive outcome." (www.drjimtaylor.com/4.0/is-praise- bad-for-young-athletes/) Consider factors "The Idea of participation trophies versus skill recognition trophies," says Brian Brittain, Manager of the Durham Behaviour Management services, "is best considered based on factors such as the age of the child and, in the case of sports, the skill level (house-league versus rep)," "A participation trophy for younger or less competitive sports may motivate children to continue in the activity (similar to how adults are motivated to continue to go to the gym because others tell us 'we look great'). "For older children, or more skilled competitive sports, recognition for accomplishments, reinforcement, a trophy for the "best player', may be more appropriate because they may motivate the child to work on improving their skills (similar to an adult receiving a promotion or raise at work). There may be a place for both depending on age, type of activity and many other factors." A participation trophy is a symbol and the memories attached to it can motivate a child to continue playing. The proof is in the child's excited eyes as she heads to the first practice the following season. After retrieving the medal from the laundry, I found out my daughter really had no idea why she was given the prize until I explained. As she hung it on a hook in her room, she noticed a similar award from last hockey season. "When does hockey start?" she asked. Next issue: Geocaching…the original Pokemon Go. Locally owned and operated, The Brooklin Town Crier is a publication of Appletree Graphic Design Inc. and is intended for the residents & businesses of Brooklin and Ashburn, Ontario. We accept advertising in good faith but do not endorse advertisers or advertisements. All submitted editorial material is subject to editing. 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