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S-rOrooWeekly Timnes, Wednesday, August 27, 1997 CONNE The quality of your life is a reflection of your ability to connect with yourself and other people. CONVENIENT FANTASIES "Honey, I have something really important to talk to you about," Paul announces to his wife one evening after work. He motions her to sit down at the kitchen table. He takes the seat across from her, moving aside the display of garden flowers she had arranged earlier. "I heard an ad for burglar alarrns systems on the car radio." Janet looks down and tilts her head sideways, slightly away from him. "This is really important." He looks at her and purses his lips. She's not paying attention; as usual. "I'm all ears." "Honey, can't you see this is important?" A little louder this time. "Yes, dear, I know, I heard you," replies Janet. She darts him a quick glance, Paul is staring straight at her with his piercing blue eyes looking very serious. She acknowl- edges him with a brief smile, then turns away again, this time closing her eyes. "For God's sake, I said this is important!" He is shouting now. "I know I'm listening." Janet opens her eyes and gives him a confused side- ways glance. "Then look at me when I'm talking damn it!" "Well stop shouting at me!" Paul gets up slamming his fist on the table. "You're impossible!" The flowers top- ple over, spilling water onto his important pants. "Now look what you've made me do!" A tear runs down her cheek. She disappears down the corridor. So what's going on here? Paul assumes, or fears, Janet is not paying attention, Janet assumes, or fears, she's under attack from Paul. They think this way because they are making assumptions about each other's body-lan- guage. Paul assumes that when you talk to someone, espe- cially about something impor- tant, you look them straight in the eye, and they look back. That's called paying attention as far as he's con- cerned. When someone tells Janet something, especially something important, she lis- tens. For her, that means she turns her ear towards them and concentrates. She does this by looking down. When something is really important she has learned that closing her eyes helps to give maxi- mum attention. However when someone yells at her, Janet assumes she is under attack. Then she doesn't hear the words anymore, just the Bowmanville Toastm asters Report The annual Summer Social and Tall Tales Contest was held at the home of Toastmaster Nancy Barnes on August 19, 1997. Toastmaster Sher Leetooze kept everyone on the edge of their seats with her tale enti- tled "Lost At Sea" for which she was presented best Tall Tale Trophy. Bowmanville Toastmasters have made plans for an excit- ing September - December Calendar. Visitors are always wel- corne - corne and share our fun, see Toastmasters in action. We resume our regular meetings on September 9, 1997, 7:30 - 9:30 at "The Darlington Information Centre". For more informa- tion please call Irene Konzelmann 983-9423, Orono. Newcastle Chamber of Commerce RE: Fall Festival CTING by Nick Boothman noise. The human central ner- vous system receives about 2 million bits of information per second. It digests your food, makes your toenails grow, gets you to work on time, stops you falling off your bike. Consciously we can't handle very much of it. In fact the most we can deal with is seven, plus or minus two,chunks of information at any given time. In order to make sense of what comes our way we filter it. We DELETE, DISTORI and GENERALISE information. Deletion is selectively pay- ing attention to some things and not to others. We omit or overlook certain sensory information like watching TV while the kids are stealing your candy stash in the other room. Deletion is not noticing the flowers on the table in front of you! Distortion occurs when we misrepresent reality. We use this in motivating ourselves, in planning, in creating the future. Seeing ourselves under the big palm tree when we win the lottery is distorting reality. Distortion is imagin- ing a new burglar alarn sys- tem. Generalisation is the third filter. We try and make things fit into how we think the world should be. We draw global conclusions from one or two experiences. We make assumptions instead of pay- ing careful attention to what is really going on. Assumptions are conve- nient fantasies. At best, assumptions are how we learn; at worst, single event can lead to a lifetime or prej- udice, or pre-judgment. Assumptions are not reality. Crafts displays, Newcastle Firefighter's Pancake Breakfast, BIA Bed Race, Optimist Club Bike Decorating Contest and Games. In ail its the most fun your family can have in one day and it is all free! (Breakfast not included) Just show up, rain or shine, and enjoy a downt;own festival the way its ti at to be! Festivities a at 8:00 a.m. and run u .il 00 p.. Dance begins 8:00 p.m. Remember it's Saturday, October 4, bistoric down- town Newc stle. For more information, see our signs around town or call Chamber of Commerce President Troy Young at 983-6103. RECYCLE Ticket§ for the Newcastle and District Chamber of Commerce Fall Festival Dance are now available. The dance in on October 4 from 8:00 p.m until 1:00 a.m. at the Neweastle Community Hall. Datice the night away and sperid a great night out with your neighbours. Tickets are $15 per couple. Refreshments will be provid- ed. Come one out to one of the highlights of the Newcastle social calendar. Tickets are available at Hope's Video 24 King St. E., or Stedman's 20 King St. E. in Newcastle. Do you have a special tal- ent thatjust needs to get out? Can you juggle? Sing? Do a little dance? Then the Newcastle and District Chamber of Commerce's Fall Festival is just the place to showcase that talent. The Chamber of Commerce is looking for buskers to per- form at the Fall Festival being held on October 4 in the his- torie downtown. If you just can't get performinglout of your system we want to see you. All performers must be evaluated and approved by the Chamber prior to per- forming. Call Chamber of Commerce President Troy Young at 983-6103 for more information. lst or second week of September - Calling all bas- ketball enthusiasts! Do you have at least two friends who can dribble a basketball? Then you'll want to be a part of the Newcastle and District Chamber of Commerce's inaugural 3-on-3 basketball tournament to be held at this year's Fall Festival in Newcastle's historic down- town. The festival and tour- nament goes of on October 4 rain or shine. Entrance fee for the tournament is $15. Monetary prizes for the top three teams will be dependent upon number of entrants. For contest rules or to sign up for the tournament call Chamber of Commerce President Troy Young at 983-6103 or John Clark at 987-9900. The Newcastle and District Chamber of Commerce would like to invite everyone to what will be the biggest Fall Festival ever held in Downtown Newcastle! The festival is one day only, Saturday, October 4. We have added a number of new events to make this festival different from anything in the past. Learn about ail sorts of wild arimals at the Orono Jungle Cat World show. See cars and trucks from yesteryear at our antique car display. Watch teams go head to head at our 3-on-3 basket- ball tournament. Enjoy the music of the Down on the Corner Gang, Newfoundland sensation Charlie Anderson, and the St, Stephen's High School band. Sit back and watch our dancers perform or join in yourselves at our night dance. All this and our old time favourites the Arts and Monday, August 25 to Thursday; August 28 from 9 a.m. to 3 p.m. for the registration of new students to the area and timetable changes. Please call 987-4771 for an appointment. OPENING DAY PROCEDURES Tuesday, September 2, 1997 8:00 - 8:30 a.m. 8:55 - 9:00 a.m. 9:00 - 10:10 a.m. 9:30 - 10:10 a.m. 10:10 - 10:20 a.r. 10:20 - 11:30 a. 10:30- 11:00 a.rn. 11:30 a.m. 12:30 p.m. 12:30 1:40 p.m. 1:40- 1:50 p.n. 1:50 - 3:00 p.im. BUS E S LEAVE AT 3:15 - Staff Meeting, Upper Library - Homeroom - Period 1 - Gr. 10 - OAC Assemly - Break - Period 2 - Grade 9 Assembly - LUINCH Period 3 - Break Period 4 - P M. B .. ~dIJ. lngton ORONO WEEKLY TIMES (905) 983-5301 Business Cards, Envelopes, Letterheads, Flyers, Newsletters Ful lColour Prnting CLARKE HIGH SCHGGL WILL BE OPEN