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A 10 The Canadian Statesman, Bowmanvillc, Wednesday, July 20,1994 Real Estate Deadlines and Policies Deadline for Wednesday Publication is Monday at 12:00 Noon. Any compensation for cnois or omissions by The Canadian Statesman will be limited lo the value of the space occupied by the error in the advertisement. ^ Please phone 623-3303 and ask for the Real Estate Sales Department ) A PETER KOWAL Real Estate Limited Broker r 52 King St. W., Bowmanville 623-2453 si:k\i\(, iiowm \x\ //./ /: \\ DARIA SIX Cl: 1955 The Little Office That's Big on Service PRIME COMMERCIAL LOCATION! Dreamed of your own business? Need a property with elegance and distinction? Huge rooms! Call today for the particulars. Truly a one-of-a-kind. Available at last! DOWNTOWN BOWMANVILLE! 4 Unit Income Property - 1 commercial (1,000 sq. ft.) and 3 apartments. Call the office for all the figures! List Price: $275,000. INCOME OPPORTUNITY! Excellently maintained property with one commercial and 2 residential units. High Visibility - Private yard and garage. DON'T MISS THIS CHANCE! 2 bedroom semi for just $73,500. Quiet residential neighbourhood. Why rent? BUILDING LOTS Nice residential lot - Hwy. 2, East of Newcastle. Island Lot - Rice Lake - Hydro and mainland parking. CALL 623-2453 FOR OUR "KOWALITY" SERVICE Mac McDonald, Sales Rep. Tom Turner, Sales Rep, Peter Kowal, Broker Michael Oxenham, Sales Rep. Elaine Kowal, Sales Rep. John Bate, Sales Re Handling It ■ ■ By Lloyd Scott Marriage breakdown is a sad and painful time, often followed by years of slow recovery. One reason for the slow recovery is the continuing uncertainty. Was the separation the right move? Should I/we have tried harder for reconciliation? reconciliation? Can we still hope for happiness in our family? How adversely adversely will the separation affect the children. Do I still love him/her? Agonies over these and other doubts often lead separated couples into intermittent affairs with each other, after which they're usually guilty and dissatisfied. These "affairs" with each other tend to bring with them a return to the old habits of arguing and dredging dredging up past differences, leading to little little or no resolution. Post-separation intimacies virtually guarantee fresh pain. This is partly because they keep alive the ever-renewing hope in ' the mind of one of them that they may yet get back together. Just as unbearable as postseparation postseparation uncertainties can be, so can marital doubts that may or may not lead to separation be unbearable. I'm thinking about the wife or husband husband tortured by solitary thoughts- whether to end the marriage, or to keep it going in its unsatisfactory state, or to try to improve it. Unable to express such thoughts to their mates, for whatever reasons, these individuals individuals are lonely indeed. Once expressed, these doubts about the marriage naturally threaten one's partner, who may respond to angry ultimatums and demands. "Either "Either you want in this marriage or out of it." Either you love me or you don't." "If you don't love me, we're finished." "Make up your mind or I'm leaving." Such defensive reactions tend to polarize couples, moving them even farther apart. Some spouses cave in to ultimatums and demands, returning returning to their usual lonely silence. Also the greater the pressure from the angry, defensive spouse, the deeper the doubts about the marriage become become in the other's mind. So, raising questions and uncertainties uncertainties about marriage to one's partner partner clearly has its dangers. Repressing Repressing them does too. Silencing negative feelings about the marriage tends to enlarge and strengthen those negative feelings. Such silence also generates stress and stress-related pains and disorders. A spouse who can't speak about his or her marital unhappiness also increases increases the risk of the marriage worsening. In the midst of all this uncertainty, one thing is certain. And that is that every married person, at some time or other, has felt unsure about his or her marriage. Such doubts arc natural natural and universal. By and large, it's best for spouses to learn to break their silences and speak of their doubts in appropriate ways. Although each marriage is different different as to the best way to deal with a partner's (or partners') doubts, here are three guidelines. First, it's useful for each partner, or partnership, to get professional help in weighing the seriousness of their misgivings about their marriage. An unbiased third party can help couples air their marital dissatisfactions dissatisfactions and thus help them determine how relatively major or minor they are. Second, they may need practice in discovering their feelings, listening to their hearts and trusting what they hear enough to act on it. Or at least to speak about it. Searching out what they truly need is essential to individuals' individuals' understanding (and responding to) their own marital uneasiness. Long-term silent anxieties may prove to be more serious than they realize at first. Third, it's important to try to convey convey to one's spouse that things arc going going badly, or arc deteriorating- without blaming. Marriages themselves, themselves, as well as individual feelings, are often very fragile. dviviyty" - WHO/WHAT IS A REALTOR? "Realtor" is a trademark that identifies Real Estate professionals in Canada, who are members of the Canadian Real Estate Association (C.R.E.A.) Most Real Estate professionals in Ontario are members of the Ontario Real Estate Association (O.R.E.A.) and only members of these associations may legally call themselves "Realtors". before receiving a license lo sell Real Estate in Ontario, we had to successfully complete (with u minimum of 75%) an extensive course of study developed by O.R.E.A. on behalf of the Government of Ontario. Within two years of receiving this license, Realtors lire required to complete three other courses pertaining to Real Property Law, Mortgage Financing and Appraising, In nddllion to the above mandatory courses, there are many other educational courses and seminars offered on an on-going basis by O.R.E.A, and our Regional Hoards, These are always well attended by Realtors eagerly striving to belter serve our clients and customers and to keep abreast of our ever changing industry. When you deal with a Realtor, you should expect unwavering adherence lo provincial laws as well as lo our own very strict Code of Ethics and Standards of business Practice, Tills assures you, the client or customer, the highest level of professional service, honesty and integrity. Thinking of buying or selling soon? Please meet with me first, I can lie reached at Family Really 21XKI Ltd,, 1 King .Street West, bowmanville 623- 2(XX) (2-1 hr. Pager), © To leave one's nagging marital doubts unspoken, to decide to live in silence with one's frustration and unhappiness unhappiness is, generally speaking, the worst course of action. Remaining emotionally under-ground promotes pain, increases distance between spouses and may conduce to ulcers and migraines. Undisclosed thoughts about the need for separation or for change within a marriage can become as unbearable unbearable as post-separation blues. Lloyd Scott is a marriage and family family counsellor in private practice in Oshawa and in the Orono Medical Centre. He welcomes letters from readers. Write him in confidence at this newspaper, The Canadian Statesman, Statesman, P.O. Box 190, Bowmanvillc, Ont. L1C 3K9. Real Estate Board Announces Winner of Logo Contest The former Oshawa and District Real Estate Board now has a new name and a new logo. The organization organization is to be known as the Durham Region Real Estate Board. Shown here (on the sign above the computer) computer) is the new logo which was recently chosen as the winner in a contest which attracted about 300 entries. It was designed by Gopal Dua. Shown above, from left, are: Floyd Dickson, efd Computer Solutions; Solutions; Jeff Loucks, CMHC; Gopal Dua and Anita Witty, President of the Durham Real Estate Board. 1 ~ T* cornerstone realty ltd., realtor 104 king st. e., bowmanville ** Associate Brokers * Sales Representatives Children's Miraude Network- WOHSONtDBY RfiftMC* 428-1206 (Toronto Line) RE/MAX experience gets results! Call us First! James* and Ellen** Bush FIRST TIME BUYER SPECIAL 2 storey, 3 bedrooms,' main floor family room, finished basement. Priced to sell. Don't wait, call today. . NEED POUR BEDROOMS 4 level backsplit, fenced yard, central air. Shows to perfection. Call now.' EXECUTIVE HOME Upgraded broadloom, doors, central air, backs onto community park. Includes all appliances and window blinds. Vendor wants it sold. Call for details. Don't Beat Around the Bush. Call James* or Ellen** Bush 623-6000 associate broker "Member of Remax 100% Club" Call for your FREE APPRAISAL 623-6000 Doug Humphrey** LICENSED GRAVEL PIT - BOWMANVILLE Good investment with excellent location! Includes 1850 sq. ft. home (11 years old) on 91.5 acres. (45 acres licensed) - Maple Grove area. Asking $325,000. To view these properties, call Doug Humphrey**, Broker, 623-6000 Member of Remax Hall of Fame Vinnie Gupta* Sales Rep. 987-1709 (res.) "Your Clarlnaton 2 FAMILY HOME!! r 2 storey century home, large lot, 2 driveways, in ^onnecuon Bowmanville. Listed at $154,900. Call Vinnie Gupta* at 623-6000 24 hr. for personal viewing. Ron Moore* THIS IS A BUY -, non Almost 2100 sq. ft., $20,000 in upgrades. 4 bedroom eoiennnofh 2 store y- fami| y room, large kitchen with breakfast b2d-6000 24 hr. nook, 4 pc. ensuite, ceramic tile entranceway floor, 3 623-9263 (res.) bathrooms, 2 car garage, all brick. Priced to sell at $174,900. Call now Ron Moore* 623-6000. Get "Moore" for your money with Remax . . Pat Hurley $59,900. - FACING LAKE ONTARIO Beautifully decorated bungalow in Wilmot with thousands thousands of dollars invested in upgrades. Florida room, gas fireplace, relatively low fees and hydro costs. Pat Hurley*, 623-6000 or 623-3899 Pat Moves People ... Pat Moves People ... Pat Moves People RAISING A FAMILY? This home has it all - 4 bedrooms, rec room, separate dining room, walkout, central air, central vac, gas heat and more! CONVENIENT LOCATION! Located in Orono - walk to everything from this aluminum sided, 3 bedroom two-storey with extra main floor living space! ROLLING COUNTRYSIDE! Peaceful, quiet location - easy commute - 4 bedroom .two storey, with huge family room, on 10 acres complete with barn and paddock! ROBINS AND ROSES! Shaded by century old trees on a half acre country lot this 4 bedroom bungalow is family perfect - huge rec room with woodstove! B h Y Trailer 24 ft. x 8 ft. with attached screened porch, shed, 3 pc. bath, fridge, stove, air conditioner and furniture. Year round park with pool. $6,500!! Aubrey Crooks 623-6000 or Res. 623-1735 Aubrey Crooks* iS» Linda McLennan** BUNGALOW WITH A LAKE VIEW In an adult lifestyle community. Monthly fee Includes tennis court, swimming pool, goll course and use of a lovely recreation centre. NOW REDUCED TO $49,900.1 Go 401 to Bennett Road, south to Wilmot Creek entrance, along to Wilmot Trail, south on Bluffs Road lo Number 13 Spacious 2400 sq, ft. 4 bedroom home in secluded setting. Attached two car garage. Workshop 30' x 45' with 10' ceilings. $219,900. Call Linda McLennan** 623-6000 TRY AN OFFER ON THIS ONE Goorge 3 bedroom townhouso In Feddema* (ho north end of Oshawa, upgraded carpet and windows. For more Information, please call George Feddema* at 263-4451 or Romax Cornerstone 623-6000 $141,900. 3 1 bedroom house In the north end ol Bowmanville. Nicely decorated, finished rec room, quiet neighbourhood. 'll EASY TO MAINTAIN Close lo all amenities, this : bedroom vinyl sided homo I centrally located, largo privai patio overlooks a lush vegotabli garden, single car garage, hugi country kitchen, parlor stove li living room, plus has possibility for future commercial use, Nov on the markotl Please Call David Passant**, Associate Broker, 623-6000 for all the details! For a market evaluation of your property call David todayl Serving the Durham Region lor over 19 Years. © David Passant *$34,000 - 50 acres mainly treed, great building location.