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I ANN|£ HIRST I "Dear Anne Hirst: You have printed so many letters about in-laws living with their children that I've decided to dampen your shoulder with my tears, too. My husband and I are near-ing 50. For nine years my father lived with us, and soon after his passing my husband's mother came. My married sister and brother have refused to have anyone with them, and I do know that some professional advisors say you don't have to-- "But if cannot afford to pay for them alsewhere, what else can you do? "My mother-in-law doesn't like to be alone, so we don't get out very often. (Even if we could pay her expenses elsewhere I could not bring myself to do it, she'd be too lonely and hurt.) Often I drive her to visit her few friends, or bring them here for the evening. I don't mind because in my own home our grandfather lived with us for years, and though it did cramp our style as youngsters we were taught to take it in our stride. Our children have been brought up to show respect and affection, so there's no trouble there. "One problem: My husband is an outgoing person with lots of friends, and I know he gets tired of sitting home night after night, but he won't go anywhere without me. What's your answer? HAPPY ANYWAY" PRIVACY VANISHES * The presence of an older * person day after day does rob * one of privacy, and curtails * a couple's social life. Also, * some aged persons grow care- * less, querulous or selfish; one * needs understanding and pa- * tience to keep them contented * and maintain the entire house- * hold on an even keel. Yet * what rewarding discipline it * is, especially for the growing * children *. When you and I were * young, there were few mar- * riedv couples who would have * allow?*"1 :- r ^ren * anywhere but Wjtn t * band and wife sh„rL^ * of duty, a family pncL" amTa * compassion that made, any * other idea revolting. j * A gracious woman lt.se * yourself has obliging friends * and neighbors who I am sure * (with your brother and sis- * ter too) would >be glad to sit * with your husband's mother * occasionally so you and he * could get out together. The * old lady herself, I expect, will * welcome a new audience with * whom to talk over old times. * Your letter is a revelation of Jiffy-Knit Afghan 696 Easy pick-up work! Strip3 knitted separately. Start now-- finish afghan before winter. Economical beauty! Use leftover wool, works up fast. Solid, lacy blocks alternate in 4-inch strips. Pattern 696: knitted afghan directions. Send THIRTY-FIVE CENTS (stamps cannot be accepted, use postal note for safety) for this pattern to Laura Wheeler, Bex 1. 123 Eighteenth St., New Toronto, Ont. Print plainly PATTERN NUMBER, your NAME and ADDRESS. A NEW 1959 Laura Wheeler I>'eedlecraft Book, JUST OUT, has lovely designs to order: embroidery, crochet, k n i t ti n g, weaving, quilting, toys. In the book, a special surprise to make a little girl happy -- a cut-out doll, clothes to color. Send 25 cents for this book. * Christian kindness, and de- * serves thoughtful reading by * young couples today. TEEN-AGE DATING "Dear Anne Hirst: In our group, going steady is the thing. I've been dating my friend for seven months. Recently one of his friends began seeing me casually, and now I'm not sure which I like better! "My steady beau is a handsome rascal and could get any girl he wanted. Now when he sees me talking with his friend he looks so hurt that I feel guilty. "Shall I stop seeing the other boy and go beak to him? UNHAPPY" * To give one boy all your * dates is not socially economical, as I've repeatedly remind- * ed young readers. If he should * get interested in another girl * who would be around to take * you places? And who can pre- * diet the loyalty of one lad * when a new girl with new * charms comes along? They * will, you know. * Dating other boys stimu- * lates your "steady's" interest, * it kseps him on his toes; and * to realize that bis girl attracts * other boys is inclined to make * him value her all the more. * These years are the years * to make lots of friends and be * impartial in your attitude to- * wards them all. So you will * learn more about the sex in * general and be able to com- * pare one with the others -- * which is, of course, the safest * preparation in choosing a hus- One of the sharpest tragedies of old age is to find one's self unneeded or unwelcome. Dqn't let this happen in your family. Grandparents live again in their children's lives, and deserve the affectionate tribute they have earned . . . Let Anne Hirst advise you in any family problem. Write her at Box 1... 123 Eighteenth St., New Toronto, Ont. Giant Ospreys Rule The Island Along the sandy beaches the . giant ospreys build their towering nests. All summer long and far into the fall they wheel in s.'ow circles around those huge bone-white nests, lined with eel-grass, buttressed with sea drift. When the giant ospreys come, the eagles forsake their nests. ... The real owners of the island are the giant ospreys, which flock there every year, arriving with the regularity of clockwork, descending after their long voyage from the Amazon on March 21 and departing on September 21. They build their nests on the tops of decaying trees or on tree stumps on the open beach: and those, high twisted pyramidal nests, seen in the sea fog, are things to wonder at. They have the look of fierce primitive habitations, all spikes and thorns and gruesome protuberances; in the summer they gleam white and all the horror is taken from them. But in the evening again the nests resemble crowns of thorns. And this is as it should be. The birds are fierce, majestical. They have wing spans of six feet and. thrusting talons which can claw the skin off a man, and in nesting time they will defend their young ferociously. The young are. covered in silvery-white down. The old have white heads and wings of a bluish-bronze; and they wave their wings in a slow, deliberate motion, at once graceful and suggestive of immense reserves of primitive strength. Even their eggs are awesome, as largo as ostrich eggs and speckled blood red. Their eyes are fiery yellow. To see the giant osprev plummeting down from the sky is to see a bolt of bluish-bronze lightning. All nature seems to stand still when this untame-able hawk descends. But sometimes he will rise and gambol serenely in the air, dipping and diving in the sheer enjoyment cf his power -- at such times sailors think of the coming storms, for they know his innocent play is only a preliminary exercise of power in the face of the storm. The ospreys are lords of all the land they survey. Below them the gentle quail and woodcock play out their little lives like insects. --From "The Isiand," by Robert Payne. Q. Must a woman check her coat outside a restaurant dining room, or may she wear it to her table and drape it over the back of her chair? A. This is optional; she m^y do as she wishes. CHILDREN STILL LOVE HIM - A bronze statue of Hans Christian Andersen with an open fairy-tale book- offers an irresistible combination to a small'boy in Central Park. The "pages" are opened to the story of 'The LJgly Ducklings," a tale in which it is said, author Andersen sow himself as the main character. HRONICLES °%iingerFarm q/ Gwtvdolitve P. Cle^ke Generally speaking, few of us value what we have until we stand in fear of losing it. At least, that is how I felt part of last week when I had a bad session with my eyes, one in particular. I couldn't read, or look at anything steadily and I couldn't stand the light. Tha eye, whether open or surt, was so painful I could hardly stand it. And of course I couldn't drive --which was just too bad as we had planned going to Milton, Fair. We also had two-anfri^ half-year-old Eddie here for *T~ visit and in addition I was halfway through making a batch of apple jelly. So, of course, 1 was thinking why did it have to be my eyes giving trouble-- v.'hy, why, why? But when they ere all right I take fair to average eyesight for granted and think little about it. Don't we all? Anyway, Dee and Art came along and took Partner and Eddie to the Fair. I was glad to see them go. All I wanted was to be left alone -- with the blinds drawn. Then I remembered some cortisone ointment the doctor had prescribed for similar eye trouble over a year ego. I found it and used it-- with good results. Inside a couple of hours the pain was relieved and I could see well enough that I was able to finish off sixteen jars of apple jelly. And it set like a charm. About nine o'clock the family returned, having stopped at Joy and Bob's for supper. Dee wanted to take Eddie home with her but I wouldn't have it. He is so little trouble that with Partner's help I was sure I could manage. Last week Partner built a lovely big play pen for Eddie and the dog, which has helped a lot. It is constructed of snow-fence and iron posts, over fifty feet long. They both love it... and so do I because although they tear around like mad I know neither of them can get out. Eddie has his toys and a pile of gravel stones which he busily shovels from truck to wagon and back again Taffy has his ball, an old shoe and a rubber bone and occasionally runs off with some of Eddie's toys. I can watch proceedings from three windows and so far there hasn't been any trouble. Of course Ditto joins in the fun. No fence could ever keep that cat in or out. Dee hadn't been to Milton Fair for about six years and shj couldn't believe how much it nad grown and improved. The weather wasn't too favourable; the grounds muddy but still the attendance was good. The little fellows had a wonderful time with so many animals to look at, some they might even touch and pet. Dave, of course, was in his glory, having pony ride3 or. a real live pony. I alway3 think there is more fun for small children at a local fair than there is at the Exhibition or the Royal. And, of course, grandparents always like to show off their grandchildren to their friends and neighbours. Heavenly days, it doesn't seem any time since we were taking Dee and Bob to Milton Fair -- back in the days when we drov» down in a horse and buggy. Even then it was always tractors and machinery that Bob wanted to see. He wasn't the least bit interested in the cattle, and isn't yet. But Dee -- you could hardly get her away from them. Five o'clock came all too soon and then we had to head for home because there were always the chores and the milking to do. And we were always a little uneasy in case the cows might break fences and get out of bounds during our absence. I believe it did happen a time or two. Cattle seem to have an uncanny instinct for knowing when they're not being watched. And now Milton Fair still carries on, year after year, bigger and better than ever. And that applies to a lot of other local fairs, too. If the turnstiles could talk what a story they would tell. They could tell of the children of years gone by, now grown to manhood and womanhood, who still make the fair an occasion for an outing-- taking their children with them. And as time goes by their grandchildren, and in soma cases even their great-grandchildren. Yes, the local fair is a wonderful institution. May it never grow less. It has changed, of course, just as everything has changed. More tnd better entries; pure bred cattle in abundance; fewer horses but plenty of high-powered machinery. In the women's section there is every evidence that the farm is still the place to find good cooking, delectable pickles and preserves and many kinds of knitting and fine sewing. As for the Junior Farmers and 4-H Clubs -- one marvels at what they can do. Quite obviously not all our fine young farm boys and girls drift to the city -- not with so much encouragement to stay on thi farm. And why shouldn't they stay? Farming, like the old ,gray mare, ain't what is used to be. Gone are the days when you took the family to the fair in the old horse and buggy. FLAMING YOUTH "No, dearie, girls aren't what they were in 1845. Some of us are five years older." Modern Etiquette. . . by Roberta Lee Q. How does a married woman's manner of signing her name to a formal letter differ from her signing of a hotel register? A. In a formal letter, she signs her name "Helen R. Thomas," and then either below this signature or in the lower lefthand corner of the page adds in parentheses (Mrs. John H. Thomas). When she is registering at a hotel, she signs her name only as "Mrs. John H. Thomas." Q. Is it ever proper to use the knife for cutting the salad when dining? A. If you can manage it easily, use just your fork. However, there are times when lettuce can be too tough for your fork and, in that case, it is quite all right to call upon your knife. Q. Is it proper to say "Yes?" Instead of "Hello," when answering the telephone? A. Although "Hello" is the more widely accepted manner of answering the telephone, there's nothing wrong with saying "Yes?" The most important thing is a pleasant, friendly Q. When a man is living in a strange town and is marrying a girl who lives in that town, whom should he ask to be his oshers? A. He may first ask any of his friends in his own hometown, if he thinks they will make the trip -- or choose from the bride's circle of friends. Q. When serving a fruit juice as a first course at the table, where should this glass be placed? A. On the place plate -- not with the water glass. Q. When a girl is introducing the man to whom she is engaged, should she speak of him as her fiance? A. Yes. Q. Would It be all right for a bride to have both a matron and maid of honor at her wedding? A. Yes, if the wedding is a very large and formal one. Jiffy-Cut, Sew! PRINTED PATTERN Sac/t One tya*J35* S3 Our Printed Pattern is chock-full of the prettiest apron styles. Paper pattern is one piece -- cut complete apron at one time Each one yard 35-inoh fabric. Printed Pattern 4855 includes all. 3 styles. Misses' Medium Size only. Each apron: 1 yard 35-inch. Applique transfer. Jiffy-cut -- all one piece! Printed directions on each pattern part. Easier, accurate. Send FORTY CENTS (40<f) (stamps cannot be accepted, use postal note for safety) for this pattern. Please print plainly SIZE, NAME, ADDRESS. STYLE NUMBER. Send order to ANNE ADAMS, Box 1, 123 Eighteenth St., New Toronto, Ont. ISSUE 43 - 1958 "Please don't give me a seat Over the wheels, the riding is too bumpy." ROYAL HORSE SHOW STARRING ARTHUR GODFREY Fri.Nov.14-Sat.Nov.22 Order your tickets NOW! See Arthur Godfrey* riding his magnificent Palomino horse, Goldie, plus a sensational display of jumping by championship teams from Cuba, Mexico, West Germany, United States and Canada. * Every evening and both Saturday matinees. seats allotted as orders received Royal Agricultural Winter Fair, Royal Coliieum, Toronto 2B, C Please Reserve Following Seats: Give Alternate Dates AFTERNOONS No. OF SEATS TOTAl Friday, Nov. 14 @ $1.00 $ Saturday, Nov. 15 @ $1.50 $ Wednesday, Nov. 19 @ $1.00 $ Friday, Nov. 21 @ $1.00 $ Saturday, Nov. 22 @ $1.50 $ EVENINGS No. OF SEATS @ $2.50 @ $3.50 TOTAl Friday, Nov. 14 $ Saturday, Nov. 15 $ Monday, Nov. 17 $ Tuesday, Nov. 18 $ Wednesday, Nov. 19 $ Thursday, Nov. 20 $ Friday, Nov. 21 $ Saturday, Nov. 22 $ Enclosed find cheque for NAME.................... ADDRESS.................. -ACT NOW"