PAGE 11 -PLAINDEALER - WEDNESDAY. OCTOBER 1®. 197* 1&HAV5 SOMfTHt BY JOSKPH COOLS staff psychologist . news from the Family Service and Mental Health Clinic of McHenry County. (Editor's note: This is another in a series of especially written articles for McHenry County readers. Joseph Cools is a psychologist on the Family Service & Community Mental Health Center staff. This ar ticle is "Coping - How to be a Bad Parent"). As anyone who is a parent can attest, it is sometimes a frustrating and sometimes a scary experience to raise a child. It is very difficult for most parents to really admit that their young child can at times be so infuriating that they feel like screaming or running out of the house, or even hitting the child. If the parent has no one to talk to who has had similar experiences and feelings, they are very likely to develop guilt feelings and accuse themselves of being a "bad parent." Guilt is a particularly devious feeling because it can lead a parent to over- compensate for a perfectly normal feeling and create a problem that did not exist previously. To take a simple example, let us consider a child who, for some mysterious reason, decides that he or she is going to whine for five solid hours. This behavior is enough to drive anyone crazy. The parent who finds that the whining becomes intolerable will, of course, reach a point where he or she is yelling at the child to be quiet. Then the guilt feelings say, "How can I be angry at this poor child? I must be a horrible person." If the guilt is intense, the parent may overcompensate by loving and cuddling the child. The child naturally loves this and decides that the way to get loving and cuddling is to whine a lot. It is almost always best to be "real" with a child. If the child is doing something that is irritating, do not reinforce that behaviour * by over- compensating. Most parents who accuse themselves of yelling "all the time" at their children, are usually just more aware of when they do yell. To be a really bad parent be sure to do the following: cuddle the child when you are feeling irritated-the moreirritated,' the more cudSliftg;5 all6# Your holiday greetings will express an extra measure of caring when the card you select benefits The Children's Memorial hospital, Chicago. The card, decorated with a shepherd child napping beside his little lamb, is predominately white em bossing on a white background, accented with red in the child's tunic, and in the bows on the lamb and the child's staff. The By Alan J. Dixon Secretary of State The number of farm machines and implements on Illinois roadways increases sharply during the fall harvest season. Motorists should watch carefully for the flashing amber signal lights and slow- moving vehicle emblems on farm vehicles which alert drivers to their presence on the road, child to "freely" express by doing anything that he or she wants; spend every moment you can with the child, especially when you're not wanting to. To be a really good parent, -JdloW-yourself to be real, f New: Spoiling a Child. •October! Music Sale! NEW LOW PRICES DARYL HALL • JOHN GATES X STATIC . 2k- Crystal Gayle Miss The 4rr Mississippi No. Nam* L.P. Prle* Tap* Pric* RCA I Jj 1 JOHNCONLEE 1 I I F O R E V E R ! including: Hah The Way Dancing Tha Night Away Dangaf Zona ThaBluaSkta Don't Qo My fco«a COLUMBIA RCA STEREO LPS SERIES 798 1 Th* Knack "C*t Th* Knack" L*d Z*pplin ^ "In Through Th* Outdoor" Sup*rtramp 3 "Breakfast In Amarlca" Ch*ap Trick "Or*am Polic*" Charli* Daniels ® "Million Mil* Reflections" MCA PICTURED ITEMS ONLY. 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For more informaiton, call the Public Relations office at Children's Memorial hospital at 649-4500. Farm equipment is slower moving, wider, and longer than conventional vehicles, and ifiotorists should be cautious when approaching or following these large machines. Farm vehicles travel on two- way highways, so before you pass, be extra careful to ensure that you can safely clear the machinery and remain safely on the road. Often the farmer will pull to his right to allow more room to pass if you let him know you wish to do so. Watch for any sudden turns the implement may make in front of you, and be on the lookout too for any machinery that may not be properly secured for towing. Let us work together to help keep the harvest season a safe time for all of us. (A" copy of the Rules of the Road will be sent to you upon request, Write to Alan J. Dixon, Secretary of State, Springfield, 111.. 62756). Pumpkin pie eating contests, autumn color treks, colonial militia battles at a restored British fort - everything from dog-sled races to a Christmas party at the log cabin village where Abraham Lincoln once lived, are features in the new edition of the Illinois Calendar of Events. The booklet, which lists nearly 1,000 Illinois activities slated through March 1980, also includes a synopsis of brief autumn driving tours; Illinois state parks, including the 240,000-acre Shawnee National forest, are expected to achieve peak fall color changes by mid- October. The free calendar, according to Illinois Office of Tourism Publications manager, Deborah Smith, is sectioned into categories of festivals, museum exhibits, arts and crafts, music and theater and special events. "The Calendar is definitely our most popular piece of literature," she says, "and with the current trend toward close- to-home weekend and week- long trips, it is also the best travel aid available for the energy-conscious consumer." Smith adds that many travelers use the Calendar to coordinate convenient timetables for visiting a par ticular area of the state. Vacationers can obtain a free copy of the October '79-March '80 Calendar of Events by writing: Illinois Office of Tourism Travel Information center, Room 100, 160 N. LaSalle street, Chicago, 60601. The Travel Information center is also a source of details on specific travel topics such as camping, hiking, and historical and recreational attractions throughout the state. All brochures and information is free. For inquiries after the Center's weekday, 8:30 a.m.-5 p.m., working hours, travelers are invited to dial 312-793-2094. A recorded message highlights major festivals and events for the coming weekend. Also available is a toll-free, 24-hour Illinois TraveLine, which provides information on gas availability throughout the state and major events suggestions. The toll-free TraveLine numbers are: 800- 252-8987-For dialing within Illinois. During the winter months, the TraveLine will include reports on state-wide highway conditions, down'hill and cross country skiing areas, plus cold weather festivals and other outdoor events. Adult Seminar Set "The Fullness of the Middle Years" is the title of a day long seminar Saturday, Oct. 20 at Elgin Community college. The seminar, co-sponsored by McHenry County college and Harper College, will feature Dr. Jesse Potter, director of the National In stitute for Human Relation ships, and Greg Rieberg, director of the Men's Group of Chicago. The seminar will include workshops on two-career marriages, male-female communication, separation- change-loss, your physical- sexual-healthful self, living alone in a couple society and parenting-non-parenting. A wine and cheese party will follow the seminar. To learn more about the seminar designed to make adults "comfortable with their productive years," call MCC at (815)455-3700 and ask for ex tension 263. Registration ends Oct. 17. Sundae, Sunday National Geographic notes how sundae got its name: Sell ing ice cream sodas on Sun day was outlawed in some parts of the United States in the 1890's. According to the legend, an unknown person of the day put ice cream in a dish, added flavoring --but no soda water --and came up with ice cream Sunday, or sundae. Girl Seoul NeivSj^ Cadette Troop No. 41 members,» Cheryl Buchholtz, Linda Schmitt and Mary Carol Behrendt worked during their summer vacation to earn the first class pin. They worked on challenges and badges to fullfill * the requirements for this pfinx/' This is the highest award a Girl ̂ „ Scout can receive in Cadettes.* We wish to congratulate these girls for their efforts. We are also proud to see them care enough about themselves and , about Girl Scouts to work during their vacation on > something that is worthwhile. . We have some new faces J) among our leadership teams this year. We would like to welcome Judy Hennip, Leslie-^ Ryan, Debbie Gust, Roxanne £ Dorsey, Martha Sundell, Judith McFadden, Genel Cody, Karen Guelzo, Donna Buch, Ann Gibson, Sandra Rigsby, Pat Schanholtzer, Nancy Carol,;." Sandy Deubel, Kathy Porth, Jean Stuckemeyer and Diane Jorosinski. We are happy to have all the .* other women back with us. We- are looking forward to another! I exciting year in Scouting. | £ Attention to all our leader-; j ship teams. Oct. 25 Neigh-! | borhood meeting will be held at' v Shabbona Hills. We will meet in f St. Patrick's parking lot at 9 £ a.m., divide into groups and leave from there, weather | permitting of course. There will ? also be babysitters available * and bring a sack lunch. C spurgeons Expectations? Save This Week for Baby & Mom! 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