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PAGE It - PLAINDEALER - FRIDAY, MARCH 1* IMS lit JO>H'IH <MU.> staff psychologist .newj horn the Fjmilj Struct ind Mentjl Hulth Clinic of McHtnrj County. (Editor's note: This is another in a series of especially written articles for McHenry County readers. Joseph Cools is a psychologist on the Family Service and Community Mental Health Center staff. This article is "Coping- Giving and Receiving".) There is a saying in Latin (whenever you want to sound really smart, quote something in Latin) that goes "Quid pro quo". Literally translated it means "something for something", or "you scratch my back, and I'll scratch yours." The concept of doing something for someone in order to get something in return certainly is not a new idea; in fact, it is one of the basic principles that holds a relationship, and ultimately a society, together. The giving and receiving concept is the basis of a loving GET READY for SPRING When you want dependability look tor fwimoUciiu AN ALUSCHALMERS COMPANY relationship and the foun­ dation of orderly govern­ ment. However, it can also be destructive when used as emotional blackmail. Let us take, for example, a married couple who use the "quid pro quo" concept as a destructive force in their relationship. Consider a husband whose attitude is "I work and slave all day so that my family can live confortably"--the ex­ pectation being that everyone (particularly his wife) will show her constant and demonstrative gratitude for his unselfish dedication. The destructive force is that anyone put in the position of having to be grateful ends up just being resentful. Anyone who flaunts this "lode what I have done for you" attitude is usually genuinely sur­ prised at the resentment and anger that he receives in return. Contrast this attitude with the motives of a person who gives as an expression of love and tenderness.-Though the difference may seem subtle, the person who gives out of love, does so joyfully and does not keep a scorecard of favors given and received. Ironically, it appears that the person who gives while honestly not expecting a return receives tenfold in strong mature relationships. ROSS BUS SALES 1801 Rte. 120, McHenry ( 1 M i l e E a s t o f T o w n ) 344-0822 Retain PAUL E. FIE )LER Republican for McHenry County Board SUPPORTS ! •A Sensible County Fiscal Policy •Orderly Industry and Commercial Growth . m •Highway and Bridge Development Ithk jiff •Senior Citizens Needs •Farmland Conservation Currently Serving on These Committees •Chairman:Finance and Personnel •Courthouse Operations •Representative to Health Systems Agency Kane/Lake/McHenry Counties Paid For By Citizens For Paul Fidler Paid For By Citizens For Paul Fidler nun *LAINDEALER «« COUPON IBOOK! 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Subscription offer good March I thru March 31, 1982 McM««ry PleWeeler MI>W limit AAcHenry Nt *4 I Veer *15 SO » McMenry County as U tm is MN Outside McHenry Cownty | l^taty Street No City Stote Zip Remittance Mutt Accompany Order Garden Corner Rick: They say this lake has no bottom. Nick: How can they say that? Look the water's only halfway up those ducks over there. It's not too early to think about preparing your lawn for another growing season, according to James D. Hayward, secretary of the Illinois State Nurserymen's association. Soon the snow will begin to melt, and the soil will start firming up. The salts used to melt ice on driveways and steps have now been ab­ sorbed into the soil which borders these areas. Those melters with a high content of sodium or chloride can be especially injurious to grasses and shrubs. If soil is damaged it is probably nutritionally weak and vulnerable to erosion caused by rain and melting snow. With spring just around the corner, it is time to help restore vital nutrients to that soil. If drainage is adequate and the ground sufficiently thawed, spring rains will do the most good by flushing excess salt out of the root zone. But if natural irrigation has been inadequate, you may want to explore some alternatives. Because salt-damaged soil may become sticky and pasty, it is important to help rejuvenate it. Gypsum, a sulfate lime conditioner, can be a helpful addition in this situation. It supplies nutrient elements, calcium and sulfur to the ground and provides some protection against ice and snow melting chemicals. It has also been used to treat female dog urine burn spots on the lawn. Many garden centers carry the gypsum and will advise you in its proper use. At this time of year, any traffic on your lawn during the thawing stage can make it vulnerable to erosion and compaction. It is now and within the next few weeks that real damage to the grass may occur. Don't go out on the first warm day and decide that it is time to get the yard cleaned up. Any mud that you churn up in the process of raking those dead leaves will do more harm than good. Roots that are immature can be easily dislodged and the turf damaged by running anything heavy across your lawn. Ruts made in your lawn now will still be there in July. Many times the soil becomes excessively compacted as a result of being wet, walked on, or being rolled. After the thaw, it may be a good idea to aerate your lawn with a special spiked roller or a core-removing apparatus. Both may be purchased at garden centers or rented at one of those "everything" rental stores. If it is a major job, you may want to have it done by a professional lawn maintenance service. Now is a good time to check for patches of thatch on your lawn. Thatch is that layer of living and dead stems, leaves, and roots of grasses that develops bet­ ween the green vegetation and the soil surface. It in­ creases disease suscep­ tibility and reduces the soil's tolerance to cold, heat and water, thus reducing the lawn's capacity for new growth. If your thatch buildup has not reached a quarter-inch in depth, don't be concerned. However, any deeper than that should be power raked for best results. A power rake or "vertical mower" uses tiny vertical knives mounted on a power-driven reel to cut and draw the dead debris from the lawn. These machines can usually be obtained from local equipment rental stores or you may want to hire it done. ISNA member firms generally recommend that thatch be removed in late August to mid-September when the cool, moist fall weather enables the grass to heal quickly. However, it can also be done in early spring before the period of rapid leaf growth. It is important to avoid severe dethatching in the late spring when hotter weather arrives since this opens the lawn to invasion of crabgrass and other annual weeds. Annual Banquet For Livestock Group Set The 1962 annual banquet of the McHenry County Livestock association will be held Monday, March 15, at the Moose hall in Woodstock. Dinner will follow the cocktail hour which begins at 6:30 p.m. The evening's activities will include entertainment by John W. Gunter, "The Singing Sheriff" of Madison county, Ind., and the presentation of the pjrjeiflier, show awards. Tickets are available from members of the board of directors or by contacting Dick Stoxeni, president, at 815-943-6979. It's easier to tell a neighbor the proper thing to do than to follow one's own advice. ST.PATRICK'S DINNER DINING ROOM WILL BE OPEN March 17th Only To Serve This Special Menu! Reservations Advised •OPEN FOR DINNER FRIDAY, SATURDAY & SUN DAY •SUNDAY BRUNCH 10am-2pm (ALL YOU CAN EAT) •SOUP 6 SALAD DAR INCLUDED WITH ALL DINNERS FRIDAY FISH FRY ALL YOU CAN EAT r\)j ,^^CHAPEL HILL COUNTRYCLU 385-0333 2500 N. CHAPEL HILL RD. McHENRY SB NEW MRS b ROSE LILLEGARD McHENRY COUNTY TREASURER "I believe that the Tax Payers ore entitled to a sincere, working treasurer that they are accustomed to." I seek the position for several reasons, first to offer the voters a choice and a smooth transition, secondly to offer my experience from both the private and public sector. • FIRST AND FOREMOST* FOR THE PEOPLE of McHENRY COUNTY VOTEdNARCR 16,1982 REPUBLICAN PRIMARY NO. 64 ON THE BALLOT YOUR VOTE WOULD BE APPRECIATED (PAID FOR BY CANDIDATE.ROSE LILLEGARD) PH. Top Scores For Young Musicians In Contest Last Saturday's solo and ensemble contest for band members was highly suc­ cessful for Parkland school, which received 64 first (dace medals and 20 second place medals. Both Sue Dowell and Joan Marchese received a perfect score (14) medal for their instrumental solo per­ formances. Following is a list of medal winners. First place solos - Laura Rapach, T.J. Rapach, Phil Anzelmo, Amy Berman, Jim Owens, Joan Marchese, Cecilia Serritella, Kim Doerfert, Michelle Wallace, Chris Mumma, Chris Trotti, Andrea Enright, Lisa Kir- sch, Sue Dowell and Kelly Nejedly. First place ensembles - Kelly Nejedly, Gretchen Fvuava (2), Amy Adams (2), Candy Bailey, Robin Jensen, Michelle Wallace, Cecilia Serritella, Lisa Kirsch, Kris Kleeman, Dori Gertsma, Andrea Enright, Guy Petty, Bobby Finkbeiner, Mindy Martin, Chris Trotti, Lee Lindquist (2), Joan Mar­ chese, Kevin Jus ten, Seth Elliott, Kim Doerfert, Jennifer Williams, Amy Berman, Lynda Cardella, Bill Etheridge, Joe Colomer, Rich Argy, Aaron Milstein, Sue Dowell, Jackie Hutt (2), Laura Rapach, Desi Kerns, Martina Steinkopf, Sarah Fox, Tom Simpson, and Phil Anzelmo. Second! place solos - Gretchen Fuiava, Sue Dowell, Seth Elliott, Jen­ nifer Stumbris, Amy Adams, Joe Colomer, Mindy Martin and Joe Marchese. Second place ensembles • Lynda Cardella, Jennifer Stumbris, Cecilia Serritella, MichelleWallace, Amy Berman, Laura Rapach, Jackie Hutt, Charlie Rich, Sue Dowell, and Lisa Lucarz. Third place ensemble - Tracy Bonesz and Linda Conaghan. Learning Disabilities Subject For Parents The Montini Parents' association will present Mrs. Marion Dodd, president of the Illinois Association for Citizens with Learning Disabilities as guest speaker at the March 18 meeting. It will be held at 8 p.m. in the Montini Middle school gym. Mrs. Dodd was a leading lobbyist in the campaign to pass House Bill 150, a law requiring Illinois teachers to take courses concerning the characteristics of ex­ ceptional childr&i before they can be certified. She is a member of the Chicago Regional sub­ committee of the White House Conference on Children (its function is to prepare federal policies for children in the 1980's), and a member of Illinois Special Education Legislative consortium, the Illinois Commission on Children and the I.A.C.L.D. represen­ tative on the State's Ad­ visory Council on the Education of the Han­ dicapped. Mrs. Dodd is also an in­ structor of Education at DeLourdes col lege , DesPlaines. She will deal with learning difficulties in general and the topic of Mainstreaming, in particular, the concept of keeping the special child integrated in the regular classroom. This meeting is open to all in the community. Refresh­ ments will be served. Shrinking Sun The recent scientific contro­ versy over the sun's size chal­ lenges the centuries-old assump­ tion that it was constant and un­ changing. 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