IMCiE 2t - PLAINPEAI^R - WEDNESDAY, OCTOBER 2«. 1883 general Hews I • N. Suicide survivors in self-help group Receives assignment at air ba$g Airman Christopher A. Nowell, son of Sigmund P. and Mary M. Nowell of 2811 Benjamin, Wonder Lake, has been assigned to Sheppard Air Force Base, Texas, after competing Air Force basic training. During the six weeks at Lackland Air Force Base, Texas, the airman studied the Air Force mission, organization and customs and received special training in human relations. In addition,, airmen who complete basic training earn credits toward an associate degree in applied science through the Community College of the Air Force.. The airman will now rfeceive specialized instruction in the missile-electronics maintenance field. He is a 1979 graduate of McHenry High School. McHenry man in delayed enlistment Jeff M. Turuc, son of Joe Turuc,Jr. of McHenry, enlisted in the U.S. Air Force's Delayed Enlistment program recently, according to TSgt. Michael C. Zelez, Air Force recruiter, located at 386 Virginia Street, Crystal Lake, Upon successfully completing the Air Force's six weeks basic military training at Lackland Air Force Base, Tex., He will receive training in the Electronics Aptitude area. He is a 1983 graduate of Johnsburg High School. • j He will be earning credits toward an associate degree in applied sciences through the Community College of the Air Force while attending basic and other Air Force technical training schools. Staff sergeant named outstanding Staff Sgt. Donald R. Neumann, son of Henry R. Neumann of 431 N. Shore Drive, Crystal Lake, HL, has been named outstanding senior non commissioned officer of the Quarter for the 5th organizational Maintenance Squadron at Minot Air Force Base, N.D. The Air Force sergeant was selected for professional skill, duty performance and exem plary behavior. Neumann is an aircraft maintenance specialist with the 91st Strategic Missile Wing. His wife, Janis, is the daughter of Lloyd P. and Marian Burger of 922 N. Royal, McHenry, 131. He is a 1971 graduate of Crystal Lake Community High School. by Kurt Begalka "I felt there were a lot of people out there who might need this kind of self-help group," said Irene Kinross, president of Survivors of Suiciae (SOS). The group answers the call for help with understanding. They meet the second and fourth Thursday of each month and average eight people per meeting. The organization nas been in existence about six months. Far more complications arise from death by suicide than from natural causes, said Michael Baber. Baber is a counselor with the McHenry County Yoiuth Service Bureau (YSB), but restricts himself to interjecting an occasional comment. "At no time do I play the devil's advocate," he said. Baber said he began the group because of a growing demana. At any one time, between 150,000 and 500,000 people in the United States are faced with the trauma of s surviving suicide, he added. "I saw there was a very large need," Baber said. "This tpe of group is a therapeutic tool. It breaxs down isolation; the feeling that I'm the only one in the world this happens to." Within, the sett-help group, people talk their feelings out and exchange ideas. "Talking about it is a big part," Ms. Kinross said. "It helps to cry, to get emotions out into the open." Some survivors buy birthday cards for the dead peron, Ms. Kinross acknowledged, as a tangible reminder that they have learned to cope. "The survivors of suicide have an eight-times greater risk of committing their own suicide," Baber said. * Ms. Kinross believes the first 72 hours are the most critical. Holidays, anniversaries and other important dates are also extremely tough to weather. "You can't shield suicide," Ms. Kinross said. "Everybody assures you they forget about it. Not true. They never forget about it." The survivors must deal with feelings of guilt and frequently learn to run a household by themselves. Frequently there are children. They also attend SOS meetings and are brought into the discussion. "We don't sit around and talk about the past," Ms. Kinross said. "We tiy to stay as present- and future-oriented as possible. We make an extra effort." They must also battle the religious stigma. "You're stripped of the traditional support system." Ms. Kinross said. "Socially, you are ostracized. When it happens to you, you feel you're the only one this has happened to in the world." "Don't be so judgmental," Baber urges people. "You don't know that person until you've walked a mile in his shoes." . Baber said McHenry County residents are generally very supportive. "They're anxious to help, but they don't know what to do," he saia. Sometimes friends provide too much sympathy, rather than allowing people to deal with challenges independently. "We Bve in a couple society. Automatically that person is a fifth wheel. They are looked upon as different. You don't fit in," Baber said. Ms. Kinross said that after her husband took his life, she was forced i into doing day-to-day chores, like balancing the checkbook, paying bills. People do things they never thought they could do, she said. '^They're' finding strengths they didn't know they had," Ms. Kinross said/ "We don't deal with how the suicide happened or how it could have been prevented," Ms. Kinross said. "Now that there has been a suicide, how do we live with i it and where do we go from hftre?" The group shares mutual concerns. But it's not like friends talking over a card game, Ms. Kinross said. A businesslike, professional ^attitude is maintained without' pressure. , "It's the kind of place you can drop in and out of, Baber said. "It's not like a diners club membership. They want to grow from this experience." Baber believes puyblic awareness is growing and the stigma is dissipating. Rather than wondering why the susicide occurred, people are asking themselves what they can do to help.. "It (suicide) was a part of the book," Ms. Kinross said. "It was a chapter. Now you go on with the nesxt. There is nothing you can do to change this." Persons interested in more information about the group may telephone the YSB at 338- 7360 or stop in their office at the Westwood School building, 14124 South St., Woodstock. Traffic fatalities decline For the seventh consecutive month traffic fatalities on Illinois highways declined. The 120 deaths in September brought Illinois' yearly total to 1,121, a decrease of nine percent from the nine month total of 1,232 in 1982, ac cording to provisional figures released by the Illinois Department of Tran sportation and Illinois State Police. During September there were 120 deaths as a result of 111 accidents. That is a decrease of 22.1 percent from the 154 provisional deaths in September 1982, and a decrease of 15.5 percent from the 142 provisional deaths in September 1981. There were eight pedestrians killed in eight accidents, 19 persons killed in 18 accidents involving motorcycles, three persons killed in three railroad crossing accidents, and three pedalcyclisU killed in three accidents. In McHenry County in September there was one death. A total of 21 deaths in 1983 to date compares un favorably to 18 at this time in 1982. WE HAVE JUST PURCHASED A LARGE INVENTORY OF CffivROiirs ATBELOW COSTI WE'RE PASSING THE SAVINGS ON TO3YOU!! PLUS... GET FINANCING AT THIS YEAR'S LOWEST RATES t.12.9% A.P.R STOCK NUMBER MODEL •WMB OHIO. 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