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Ee ee BP ge Sg ~ ng CA Tr pe al a SN "8 ® 9 8H 8% 8 ee ee = ox * "Dear Anne Hirst: My , prob- em concerns my mother, ahd it s the biggest one I've ever faced. 1 am, 26, married seven years ] children. = My nother was divorced when I was ind have two very young; she married again, iivorced again. "Until we moved back to my nome town, "I didn't know she nad taken a house and was sent- Ing rooms, and that one tenant and she were living together. I was ashamed of her, but couldn't bring myself to talk about it -- she was always dominating, and we didn't get along too well. The two visited us week ends, ard I finally demanded she keep him away. He drank and was loud, and my little boy asked questions. "A year ago we moved 600 miles away. 1 wrote her I was glad we did, and told her either to marry Mr. X or get rid of him; the replied she didn't know what to do, he was a good man. I said to make up her mind and I'd' stick by her. "Now [I intend to write her that if she hasn't done anything . by next January, I will break off - with her. "What do you think? My husband reminds me: that even though she is doing wrong, she IS mi; mother. NANCY" TOO HARSH? a It vour closest girl friend * were so involved, would you re- * pounce her family? Or realize « must have her reasons? What right have you to sit in judgment on your mother? How can you know what agon- ies she suffered making such a decision? What of these years sinee her last divorce, when she has needed compan- ionship and affection desper- ately? Shaken by two unhappy marriages, she snatched at the thought of being wanted and needed. She took the wrong turn, ves; but is that reason enough fo forsake her? You are wondering with me, why she doesn't marry the man. Perhaps he isn't the marrying kind and she fears to put him to the test. Whatever her rea- sons, know that to her they seem sufficient. : Do not misunderstand me. 1 sympathize with you in this painful situation. But how can you cast your mother off as you threaten, send chastising, let- ters that put her beyond the pale? Why not simply say that you cannot approve, -but the choice is hers. 1 expect vou lieve you are a Christian; re- wWmber "that charity is the gxeatest of virtues, and if one + * v . L] * Ll . * . * . * » * » * can do is to be kind. I may be entirely but your letter seems to indi- cate that you are concerned that the scandal reflects on vou and your children. How - «oo» * * a miles away? Distance also will prevent her seeing you of- ten, her life need not affect vours. You still can maintain the semblance of good feeling, and not stoep to hurt the woman who "gave vou life. Some readers. will agree with you and reprove me for * being toe liberal. But nothing v- wv wv wv vw ew cur to us offends the least we wrong, - can it touch you, living 600 - it was her own affair and she - |, * can change the truth that, as your husband reminds you, she 'fs your mothersg She will not always be hege. During the years left to her, perhaps the only consolation she will have is that her daughter has uot abandoned her. If you cannot honor your mother as we are taught to do, can't you at least leave her the comfort of your affection? . - Ld HE'S A BULLY "Dear Anne Hirst: I've been married four years to a man a dozen years older, and I am mis- erable. My husband is a bully. Nobody ceally likes him, even his own family. "What he does "with his money, I'll never know; he doesn't give me any of it. He does pay the household bills, but I work and buy my own clothes, and he even thinks I-should pay for his! He is very untidy around the house, and doesn't even care how he looks at busi- ness. He hasn't taken me out for months. mC . "I am practically | friendless. ee 2 ® 0 su roe « L] He is so rude and inhospitable that the friends I had frankly told me they couldn't stand him. ... Shall I try to find new friends, or join a club, or do something to get me out of the house a few hours? Or should 1 pack my things and leave for good? * When I receive a letter like ¢ yours, my first * "How long did she know the " man before they married?" * Had vou met his family, learn- * ed their opinion of him? Or * did you marry hastily and in * ignorance of his real charac- * for? * It is your future that con- cerns you, however. First, re- fuse to give your husband any money you earn; if he isn't really supporting you, you need every dollar you make. Join a club or engage in some other community activi- ty that will require your regu- lar attendance; that will give you some relaxation and in- terest. It seems futile to make new personal friends at the moment; They would be as disgusted with your husband as others were. Try this for a time. If it does not satisfy vou, you can find what grounds you have to free yourself from a husband whom, apparently, you should "never have. married at all. - - - P82 * 4 YT & a x og * or oe oe ® oe x - * If you cannot agree with Anne Hirst"s opinion on a problem, don't hesitate to say so. She ap- preciates intelligent criticism, and will print it as she can. Ad- dress her at Box 1, 123 Eight- eenth St, New Toronto, Ont. GETTING THE PIP Willie, aged seven, was playing in the back garden when he sud- denly smacked the face of one of his little girl friends. She ran home crying. we, Out dashed Willie's mother and said, "Willie. vou had no right to hit Joan. What made you do it, anyway?" "We were playing Adam and Eve," explained Willie, "and she went and ate the apple instead of tempting me." The mosquito was discovered by the man who wus discovered by the mosquito. TESTING FOR THE "SILENT KILLER"--Cdarbon monoxide --- the "silent killer" -- is the real cause of many traffic accidents. That's the theory the Washington State Patrol is trying to prove. Acting Patrol Chief Roy F. Carlson says, "It is a known fact that a small percentage of CO present in a vehicle for 35 minutes 16 one hour can slow a driver's reaction time, affect his vision, and give him a general feeling of drowsiness." The State Patrol, therefore, has inaugurated a voluntary testing campaign. ing poss. A motorist merely #ops at one of the patrols fest- A patrolman holds a CO tester inside the r to take an air sample and then withdraws it to make the reading. thought is, Modern Etiquette . . . Q. What sort of boutonniere should the bridegroom and his attendants wear at a formal ¢ wedding? © A. It may be a small gardenia, a spray of lilies of the valley, a white carnation, or any white garden flower, Q. I noticed at an" airport re- cently that the men boarding 'the plane didn't allow the women to enter first, but took their turns as they fell into line. Was this proper? , A, In order to load a plane most efficiently, and in the hurry and bustle of travel, it usually isn't practicable for the men to stand aside to wait for the wo- men to go first. Q. Is it proper to tip the soup plate in order to scoop out the last bit ol soup? A. There's nothing at all wrong with this. You 'don't have to leave soup- that's intended to be eaten. Q. Isn't it good manners to comment on the food served by your hostess? A. Don't be too profusc about it. A brief word of praise may be spoken to the hostess for a particularly attractive or deli- cious dish. To think your hos- tess profusely for the food im- plies that you came solely to cat. It is not necessary to be extravagant in praise of any social favor; in fact, it is ill- bred. : Q. When a married woman is traveling alone, should she sign her name on the hotel register as "Marian S, Summers?" A. No. She should use her husband's name and sign as "Mrs. Robert I. Summers." Q. In the double-ring mar- ringe ceremony, does the bride- groom purchase both rings? A. No; he buys his bride's ring, and she buys his ring. Q. Should a married woman, whether her husband is living or deceased, always be address- ed socially as Mrs. William T. Anderson? : A. Socially, Mrs. Mary An- _derson is in extremely bad taste for both a wife and a wi- dow. In business or a profes- sion, "Mrs. Mary" is usually un- avoidable, but she should never be so addressed in social life. Q. Is it correct to have a monogram engraved on the en- velope of social stationery? A. No; the monogram should be engraved only: on the note paper. Q. Is it all right to have nick- names engraved on personal calling cards? A. No. ~ Dolly And Outfit everything Just about your darling wants in one pattern! Sew a beautiful 9-inch dolly and so many pretty clothes -- what a. thrill this gives any "little mother'! She can dress dolly -for each day! Pattern 557 has 9-inch dolly transfer; clothes patterns too. Send TWENTY-FIVE CENTS (stamps cannot be accepted, use postal note for safety) for this pattern {fo Laura Wheeler, 123 Eighteenth St, New Toronto, Ont. Print plainly PATTERN 'NUMBER, your NAME and AD- DRESS. Our gift to you--two wonder- ful patterns for yourself, your home --- printed in our Laura Wheeler Needlecraft" Book . . Plus dozens of other new de- signs to order -- crochet, knit- ting, embroidery, iron-ons, novel- ties. Send 25 cents for your copy of this book NOW -- with gift patterns printed in it! "minute preparations BUMBER-SHOOTING STARS--Clouds may hide the skies, but - stars will still twinkle for the user of this umbrella. A rainy- day brightener from West Berlin, Germany, the umbrella has tiny bulbs that light under each star when the user presses a switch. Power is supplied by a battery in the handle. AGINGERFARM Gwendoline P. Clarke Back to standard time -- and for some unknown reason we found it very hard to adjust our- selves to the change; much har- der than last spring when we "changed over to fast time. Actu-. ally we were not at all anxious to take advantage of that extra hour's sleep Sunday morning. Instead we were up an hour earlier -- that is, according to the clock. But I suppose In a day or two we won't know the dif- ference. Perhaps it was the re- turn of fine summer weather that made us feel energetic. We -wanted to be up and doing. As to that, do you ever wake up with the thought "tlere hath been dawning an- other blue day - Think--wilt thou let useless away?" it slip Time is such a precious thing and yet, because there seems so much of it - especially when we are young we often fail to ap- preciate its true value. Thus we let it slip useless away. We fail to remember that without time nothing can be accomplished: with time all things are possible plus a few items like energy, perseverance and patience, I was going to add "good health" but that isn't always necessary. In many instances much has been accomplished from an invalid's bed. But health is certainly the governing factor in the {ype of activity in which we engage. It helps us to realize our limita- tions -- to know that while one type of work is . beyond our strength another type can quite easily be undertaken, That is the way with Partner and I*any- way, as with 'countless other folk. Much of the work we used to do is now beyond our strength but that doesn't mean we must be content to sit down and twid- dle our thumbs. No indeed -- for that way madness lies., Come to think of it, for the next two months we are not likely to do much thumb-twid- dling 'anyway. At the present moment we are making last for niece Babs and her two little girls -- Carol and Nancy, four years and twenty months old respectively, Ginger Farm will be their tem- porary headquarters until hous- ing arrangements have been complefed for them at Blind River. The trio, with Daddy in charge, are supposed {o arrive abaut eight o'clock tonight. What 'our erstwhile quiet home will be like after that is anyone's guess. T'H tell you next week! Last week Partner and I took. this opportunity of "the lull be- fore the storm" to do a little gadding. On two occasions we visited friends on farms in Wel- lington and Dufferin county. And on Wednesday and Thursday I was in Guelph, partly to look in on: the W.I. Convention, Satur- day was the day of our local falr. And the weather was perfect. The fair must have beaten all records both in attendance and the number of exhibits, The midway too appeared to be big- ger than ever, Whether it 'was "better" we have no means of knowing, it boing our policy to keep as far away from it as pos- sible. As is always the case we met people at the fair we hadn't seen in years, some of whom had come quite a distance. I imagine it was the people, more than the exhibits, that the "old-timers" came to sce. It is just a case of wheels within wheels. Without éxhibits there could be no fair; without people there could be no exhibits. Put the two to- gether and they attract an out- side attendance that come to see both. Well, we had a hard decision to make over the week-end -- whether or not to send Robbie, our little Welsh Corgi, to a new home. Two dogs and two people get along fine. But when you add to the family two adults,-two grandsons and one cocker span-. iel, things get a little compli- cated. Rusty is supposed to stay out of the house because he is. too big and boisterous and up- sets the smaller dogs. Dave, however, loves Rusty so he man- ages to let him into the house every chance he .gets. That is when bedlam begins, With Carol and Nancy here I could foresee more problems ahead. It so hap- pened I knew a family where there are schoolage children who were most anxious to adopt Rob- bie. Yesterday I took him over to see what his reaction would be to new surroundings, I need- n't have worried. He and the children took to each other as if they had been brought up to- gether. So I left him... on pro- bation, I thought if we intended to part with him now was the © time -- before Carol and Nancy arrive." This morning I phoned to inquire .if Robbie" had really settled down happily after I had gone. He is still perfectly con- tented, Actually, it' is a shame for Robbie not to have a per- manent home with children -- . he is so fond of them. But if other dogs are around -there- is trouble, as. he is very jealous. To part with him wasn't easy -- he is such a lovable little dog -- but I think as time goes on we shall eventually feel it was the best thing to do. Especially as Robbie is definitely not a "one man's dog" but of the type to be happy with anyona who is kind and makes a fuss of him. Rusty is quite different. We would hate to send Rusty to a new home -- I think it would break his heart, unless'he was with someone zlready known to him and whom he recognized as a friend of the family. White Was Mark Of Social Prestige Men who grumble at wo- men's demands for the "imposs- ible" can thank the ladies for the white shirts they're wear- ing. Without womanly persist- ence a hundred years ago, white fabrics might be as rare as white mink. If a lady of 200 years ago could peek into modern bed- room drawers full of gleaming white hankies, white lingerie and white blouses, she would be spellbound with envy. To her, the possession of even ONE while garment was a mark of social prestige. In those days the process" of bleaching fabrics was so. long and tedious that only a privi- leged" few could afford the fin- ished product. For instance, in order to have a white sheet to sleep on, the material first had to be steeped in alkaline lyes, then washed and spread on the grass for weeks. After repeating this pro- cess five or six times the same material was subjected to a bath of sour milk or buttermilk for a few days, washed and again spread in the sun. This procedure continued until the material was as white as "could be expected." ane Although this elaborate meth- od of bleaching was quite the usual one for many years, it was hardly practical on a large- scale basis and the result would not hold a candle to. the "whiter-than-white" fabrics of today. However, practical or not, women insisted on more and "more white garments. And leading men in the chemical in- dustry give credit to the per- sistent little lady, for her in- cessant demands for more white in her life brought about the birth of modern bleaching techniques. Early in the last century, the search for more efficient bleach- ing methods brought to light many new chemicals. These turned out to be endlessly use- ful to industry and formed the nucleus of the heavy-chemical a a A ei a . economy of England for many years. ~The development of these effi- cient bleaching agents such as sodium perborate, chlorine and hydrogen peroxide opened the way for the truly white fab- "rics of today. No longer are white goods a novelly -- miles of white garments flutter fram clotheslines' every. -Morday 'morning. And according to the soap makers, it has now become a matter of prestige to display -the whitest wash in the neigh- borhood! AGE NO HANDICAP The judge studied the twenty- « four pairs of trim ankles dis- played beneath a curtain at an angle judging contest at Here- ford, then gave his decision. Up went the curtain to reveal the smiling winner--a lady of 81 years of age. ISSUE 43 -- 1956 Jumper Dress or Ba / cL ¥ ( by-Arone Als Jumper with companion blous --or figure - flattering dress! You'll love the versatility of this new style! Note its smart douhle- breasted bodice effect; easy-fit- ting 6-gore skirt. Sew it now ia scorduroy, velveteen, or wool! Pattern 4846: Misses' Sizes 10, 12, 14, 16, 18, 20. Size 16 jumpet takes 4 yards 35-inch nap; blousa 134 yards 39-inch fabric. "This pattern easy to use, sim- ple to sew, is tested for fit. Hax complete illustrated instructions. 'Send THIRTY - FIVE CENTA (stamps cannot be accepted; usa postal note for safety) for thfa pattern. Print plainly SIZ NAME, ADDRESS, STYL NUMBER. : Send order to Anne Adama 123 Eighteenth St., New Toronta Ont. 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