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_ man and his wife? * band's people made so many in- vw ight STAY AWAY FROM Y HUSBAND'S FAMILY" "'Dear Anne Hirst: Why is it that so many families deliber- ately cause trouble between a My hus- sinuations against me that we almost didn't get 'married at all. For two years afterward, they still came snooping around trying to cause dissension. Fin- 5 I grew so nervous that I' iscouraged their dropping in -- nd I know how rude that ounds, "His mother laughed at my ousekeeping, although my hus- nd never complained. I know m not perfect as she thinks $e is, but I had a job down- wn until I got pregnant and I did the best I could. She was always worrying that he didn't get the proper food; she should #ce how he enjoys my cooking! Bhe says he is careless and un- tidy. But if she raised him that way, why should I try to cor- rect his habits? I want him to velax at home, not be eternally nagged 'at. "She even tried to raise our baby, and he hadn't had such Filet Favorite ~ A handsome chair-set for your ome -- in easy filet crochet! e. graceful mare-and-colt de- gn will win you compliments r your taste and handcraft aki . Needle favorite! Pattern 549: hart, directions for chair-set hat's easy, enjoyable crochet. Send THIRTY-FIVE use postal note for safety) for this pattern to Laura Wheeler, Box 1, 123 Eighteenth St, New - Toronto, Ont, Print PATTERN -- NUMBER, NAME and ADDRESS. Two FREE Patterns as a gift to our readers -- printed right in our NEW Laura Wheeler Needlecraft Book for 1957! Doz- ens of other new designs you'll want to order -- easy, fascinat- ing handwork for yourself, your home. Be sure to send 25 cents for your copy of this book now -- don't missi it! plainly your ISSUE 25 -- 1957 CENTS .- +. (Stamps cannot be accepted, 8 sweel tos bo would Bye business, ive or one my husband told her so. "I can only guess she has been jealous all along, and dealing with that is like 'inviting defeat. At first, I was as kind and thoughtful as I knew how to be, but it didn't work; she told peoe ple I was 'making up' to her, Now we visit them on anniver- saries and alternate holidays. Isn't that enough? I don't like this under-current of hostility but maybe it will wear off in time. "If in-laws would mind their own business, they would have their hands full, and young peoples could stay on friendly terms with them. FED Up" I have quoted only part of your long letter, and ,I real- ize you feel that your hus- band's family has committed olmost every offense in the book. feel bitter; so long as that continues, it is best to stay away from them. Your hus- band sees them wants to, so they have no complaint on that score. To release her son to mar- ry is a great wrench for many a mother. For so many years she has watched over his health and his problems that to turn him over to a young bride is often painful. Some mothers known or heard of) are wise enough to let the two live their own lives. Others can- not resist belittling the girl for real or imaginary reasons, "hoping to hold their sons by the celebrated -silver cord. Why shouldn't the young wife resent such injustice? All this conflict must be trying to your husband, who stands between the two wo- men he loves best. In spite of this, you and he are loyal to each other and keep your pri- vate life serene, a tribute-to you both. I am relieved that you do not criticize his moth- + *to him; too many wives do * that for years before they * realize how unfair. and. futile * jt is. * When such a strained situa- FEF EE FER EF ER FRE ETE ERE EF TEETER FREER ER RENN --* tion exists between in-laws, I am all for formality in their relationship. On your visits you should maintain a polite, reserved accord that for the present satisfies the amenities. Let othef families choose other ways. Your present pro- gram seems fair enough to me. : EE ETE EE EE JE LJ] Ld » Polite formality between in- laws is often the only way to maintain any semblance of har- mony, Anne Hirst has been able to smooth the path of many an irate bride. If this problem con- fronts you, write her at Box 1, 12 Eighteenth St.,, New Toron- to, Ont. SALLY'S SALLIES 77: A Ks , } WN "He's so bashful he makes love by electrical transcrip- tion." SOLE SEARCHING--Oblivious to the serious ceremonies In pro- : | gress, little Catherine Keefer takes time out to do a little "sole searching" of her own, inside one of her shoes. The curious cutie was among the groduates of the kindergarten class at Our lady of Fatimia Schoal, I do not wonder you, "when he (indeed," most T've, DOING THE CHA CHA -- Chimps Rowdy, left, and Zip of the San Diego Zoo, snuggle up cheek-to-cheek as they stomp to a Spanish beat. Appropriately costumed, they're practicing a routine for the annual celebration of the Fiesta Del Pacifico. "HRONICLES GINGER FARM wvendoline P.Clatrhke In pioneer days the centre of community life, could be found in the church," the school and the 'tavern. Its chief industry, the 'grist and sawmills. Its shop- ping centre a small general store. Times have changed con- siderably in little more than; a hundred years. In most places water-wheel grist and sawmills have been replaced by indus- trial plants and high-powered feed and planing mills; the ta- vern where the stage-coach changed horses has disappeared and we now have motels and 'restaurants. The schools have gone modern -- buses provide transportation * for the pupils. But the centre of the commun- ity, especially where the histori- cal past is respected and treas- ured, remains in the church or churches of thé neighbourhood, whatever their denomination. Each has its own congregation, its creed and doctrine but 'col- lectively the church remains the centre of the community. Ever since we came to Ontario I have loved the little 'Anglican Church sitting high upon a hill overlooking the Valley of the Credit. 1 always wanted to go inside the church but never did. Last Sunday I finally had that privilege and found the church and service lived up to all my hopeful expectations. The his- tory of the church goes back to 1825 when an Anglican congre- gation at the Credit was estab- lished by General Peter Adam- son and other prominent settlers who were instrumental in hav- ing a frame church built near the village of "Springfield". An Irish clergyman by the name of James Magrath was the first rector. He and the General worked together in perfect har- niony for a number of years and then a feud began over a divi- sion of property which resulted in the General withdrawing from St. Peter's and buying Mac- Nabb's: Mills at Norval. How- ever, at his death he was buried in the Anglican Churchyard at Erindale, as was the Reverend Mr. Magrath, The present church was built in 1887 and is known for miles around: It is a very lovely little church with parti- cularly' fine stained glass win- dows, There i$ an excellent choir and cnite obviously a very ac- tive congregation. In fact there was a much bigger congregation last Sunday morning than I have seen in many larger churches. The service was mostly choral-- which pleased me---and' there was a processional and reces- sional hymn, which I also liked. The sermon was well delivered and gave one food for thought. Strangely enough, although it was the first service I had at- tended at this church I felt very much at home, Why, I don't ex- actly know. Perhaps it was its familiar name, or the order of service, or maybe the friendly spirit of the congregation which, in some inexplicable way, made "itself felt. Be that as it may, I felt at home. On the whole 'this village seems a queer intermingling of my childhood days and the many years we later spent at Ginger Farm. We are in a different county but yet practically on the borders of Halon, and, as Halton and Peel have often shared various public services in the past we just feel we have only moved "around the cor- ner". That is, until it comes to - politics. Right now we wonder it this district knows there is an election in the offing. We haven't been approached by any person or any party whatsoever and only one piece of political liter- ature has been left in our mail- box. Partner was getting wor- ried so we made a special trip to our old Ward in Halton to. make sure our names were on the voter's list there. It wouldn't be Partner's fault if we lost our votes:--On that trip we took a run up to the farm and found it completely boarded up. It was a. sad looking place. We didn't mind coming away from it at all. On the way home we made a slight detour on a surprise visit to Bob and Joy--and Ross, of course. We had supper there but left for home before dark. Dur- ing the week I took the morning bus into Toronto to help cele- brate Eddie's first birthday. And when Eddie waded into his chocolate cake his face was a sight to behold! The whole fam- ily brought me home at night. I thought how nice it was being so much nearer to our children and grand-children. } Every time Partner and I have occasion to go out with the car we explore different roads, find- ing ways to go places without travelling the highway all the time. On one of these trips we found the new South-Peel hos- pital, still under construction, only two miles from where we are living--almost on our own road. On that same road we found what used to be the "Copeland Violet House", A lovely spot but the Copelands went out of the violet business last September and bought a Motel. One of the cards left us by the "Welcome Wagon" was from a nursery and florists in the same district so that gave me an excuse to go in and browse around. I came away with the gift of a potted geranium and additional bedding plants that I bought. I shall make a refurn visit before long, so if it works that way with other people, I would say "Welcome Wagon" advertising pays off, Following a - versity, a voice asked: "May I come in? This is the room I had when 1 was at college." He was invited in. "Yes," he went on musingly, "Same old room. Same old furniture. Same old view from the window. Same old cupboard." He opened the cupboard door, There stood a girl, scared, ; "That's my sister," said the room's present occupant. "Yes," replied the "same old story" visitor, knock on the door of a college room at a uni-~ looking S451 UES BAS PE OAR SO from outer "gies Fok Rs hE <35N Totem Poles The Indians of Washington and Oregon were not totem pole akerg, but practically all of tribes from Vancouver Is- northward to Alaska prac their use. Perhaps the gest, most curious and exe Be totem poles were those 3 o Hingitin southern Alaska a of the Queen , arlotte Islands, These intriguing gigantic car- gs of fantastic animal and uman forms are familiar to all pt us and have become the sym- 1 of Indian culture on the north Pacific coast. Unquestion- ably the work of great artists, these beautiful and awesome carvings were, however, only the most noticeable examples of their work. Practically thelr every possession--canoes, cook- ing boxes, house posts and beams, masks, and figures--could be considered a fine piece of wood sculpture, Totem poles were family coats of arms depicting the history and legends of a household, and were to be found in front of each house of a village. Among the Tlingit, they were placed to the side of the front doorway. The poles of the Haida were in- stalled directly in front of the doorway and entrance to the house was made through a large hole cut in its base near ground level. A tribe of fhese Indians was divided into' many separate clans, An individual was. born into a clan and remained in it for the rest of his life. . .. The totem of the man of the house always appeared at, the top of the pole; next came figures and designs telling of history and wealth perhaps, and at the bottom--most important 'of all--the totem of the woman and all of the children. When a stranger found himself in a new village his first objective was to locate a post containing his own totem, for within the house he knew he could. expect to be re- ceived with kindness and be of- fered help, lodging and protec- tion.--From "The Book of Amer- ican Indians," by Ralph B, Raphael. PLUMING -- Pretty Eileen Noble, 18, snuggles amid the volumin- ous plumes of a cape she's modeling at a teen-age fashion group's autumn collection in London, England. Some fashions don't die as in this instance. The cape was worn by Eileen's grandmother at her wedding 50 years ago. Are Meteorites Danger to Rockets? , Will the fast-moving force of meteor particles circling the earth destroy rocket ships and any man-made satellites launch- ed from the earth? A New Mix- ico scientist, . Dr. Lincoln La Paz, thinks this may happen. He says metal mirrors mounted on roc- kets and fired into the fringes of space have returned deeply pitted. 'At higher altitudes, he points out, the meteor particles may have speeds many times greater than a riflle bullet .(800 m.p.h.). Meteorites 'have been shooting into the news recently. Astron- omers have calculated that more than twenty million of them space strike the earth daily. Most of these meteorites are very tiny -- no larger than a raindrop -- and almost immedi- ately they burn away to dust through friction with the earth's atmosphere fifty miles or more above the ground. Sometimes these flashes are visible as "shooting stars." Occasionally a meteor may be 20 large that only a part of it is destroyed during its journey through space, One of the larg- est known to have fallen on the earth--in the Arizona Desert-- welghed several hundred tons and formed a crater nearly 400 feet deep and 4,400 feet wide, STA 8 S44 «MN 3 ¥ s SAREE ANT LDF 3 IER C RAL Modern Etiquette by Roberta Lee Q. My sister dled some time ago, and her husband has re- married. How should I refer to him when introducing him to other persons, as my "former brother-in-law?" A. No, it is much better not. Just jnttoduce him by his name. Q. Is it all right to write "thank you" notes on the type- . writer? A. Although most typewritten personal letters are now gener- ally accepted, it is still better to write the "thank you" type of note by hand, . Q. Is it all right to dip the napkin into a glass of water, after eating, and wipe the mouth and fingers? Alt no finger bowl has been provided, it is proper to hold your napkin in one hand and tip the glass enough to wet it. This is better than "dunking" the napkin in the glass. Q. When introducing a person to a group of people, is it neces- sary to repeat his name to ev- eryone in the group? A. Usually once is enough. However, if the group is large and there is a chance someone did not catch thé name, it may be repeated. Q. Is it proper for a girl to light a man's cigarette for him? A, Yes, if she has just lighted her own and her match is still burning or her lighter available. - Otherwise, he should always light his own. Q. How can a hostess terml- nate an evening of bridge play- ing most gracefully, without giving her guests the impres- sion that she wishes them to leave? : A. At the proper hour, and usually at the end of a. game or rubber, she may begin her pre- parations for serving refresh- ments, The end of the refresh- ments is a good signal for the end of the evening. Q. I received a number of gifts at a birthday party-recent- ly, and I thanked each donor personally, Is it also necessary that I write each one a thank- you note? A. No. Q. When celery, pickles or olives are passed at the dinner table, where should the guest place them? A. On his bread - and - butter plate. : 3 Q. If you have sent a wedding gift and have received no ae- knowledgement after a reasom- able length of time, is it all right to ask the newlyweds if the gift _ was received? A. Yes, as the gift may sibly have gone asiray. Ah fb it happens that the gift was re- celved, maybe your question will remind the recipients of their extreme rudeness. Q. When eating a soft-fried egg, Is it all right to put a small plece of bread on the end eof the fork and use this to dip up . the yolk? A, This is quite all right. Q. What should one write em : the card enclosed with flowers sent to a funeral? A. "With Sympathy" or "With deepest sympathy" is sufficient. Q. Is a man ever privileged to remain seated while being intre- duced? A. No; he should always rise, regardless of whether the othe# person is a man or woman. SLIGHT DIFFERENCE -- Actress Dallia Penn demonstrates the advantages of having rather' attractive flesh to cover her bones by pairing up with an unidentified friend at the London, England, premiere of a movie entitled "The Curse of Frankenstein." ner" was placed in the lobby to add the proper atmosphere for the thriller. 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