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=, 2 has a > nd "Dear Anne Hirst: Over a year ago when I was a widow with two small children, I mar- vled a man who I thought was meant for me. Now we have a Joung baby and I'm still in love, ut I am worried sick because I don't see how I can keep on this way. My husband has changed into a jealous, vindic: tive character; and he is so mean to us all that I fear the worst will happen... ,. "When we were dating he was always pleasant to my family and my friends, but since we married he says they are all 'no. good." I am not allowed to visit my mother nor his, nor see my friends at all. I cannot go to card parties or other little af- fairs, for he declares, 'You don't need other people, you have me!' And what use is he? He never takes me anywhere, he won't ay a baby-sitter, and I miss my amily so much that some days I have to restrain yself physi- cally from going to see them. "Our baby does not interest him except to show off; if' he cries his fathertloses his temper. To my own children (whom he promised to cherish) he is impa- tient and mean; he hollers and often slaps them. I never had "any trouble with them before, but now they cringe before him and fly to me, which makes him furious. } "I admit he is a good provider, but material things aren't all there is in life; we all must have love and understanding, and these he withholds. He nags me all the time; I can't do anything Week's Sew-thrifty NEW PRINTED PATTERN EASIER=FASTER MORE ACCURATE : Vii 0-18 PRINTED PATTERN EASY, easy-sew -- it's a jiffy- out Printed Pattern! Just pin to fabric, cut. each entire blouse at once! Three smart styles -- clas- sic, mandarin, new '"blouson." .--_ Printed Pattern 4570: Jiffy- cut; tissue all one piece! Misses' Sizes 10, 12, 14, 16, 18. Size 16 upper, lower versions each 17% yards 35-inch; middle 1% yards. Printed directions on each pattern part. Easier, faster, ac- curate. i Send FORTY CENTS (stamps cannot be accepted, use postal note for safety)- for this pattern. Please print plainly SIZE, NAME, ADDRESS, STYLE NUMBER. Send order to ANNE ADAMS, Box 1, 123 Eighteenth St., New _ Toronto, Ont, - to please him, and he even calls me lazy! With two lively young- sters and a baby I can't snap into it every time he calls. I don't enjoy anything any more, I am sick and tired of house- work, and heaven help me, tired of my children --« which isn't fair because they are so good and sweet, "I think I am the loneliest wife in the world. I-don"t know where to turn. I still love my husband, but he is destroying that love. ... How can I restore peace between us and between him and the children? I don't want my marriage to fail, but I can't go on like this. DISCOURAGED" * I wish I could have printed * all your letter. ... It does seem ® that you married a man that * you did not know. Before * that day he was loving and * thoughtful, kind to you and * your children, How could you * foresee that his kindness would * not last? Perhaps, it is jeal- * ousy alone that causes his * selfish prohibitions, and he * feels he must put you in the * wrong to justify himself. Your * life now has become unbear- * able, and physically and spir- * jtually you are at the end of * your endurance. Since he is * growing more intolerant, you * had better announce your ul- * timatum. * If your husband wants to *keep your love, he must be * kind and fair to you all. He * has separated you from your * family and your friends; these * he must restore. He must re- * alize you are overworked and, * without the incentive of ap- * preciation or affection, you * cannot go on. If he will not * (or cannot) accord you the * respect, the freedom and the * faith you deserve, then he is * not the man he seemed to be, * and .you cannot keep on living * with a stranger. * You have tried valiantly to * live up (or down) to his auto- * cratic demands, and you find * jt increasingly impossible. It * 'js your husband who can save * your marriage, if he will * Otherwise, and for the chil- * dren's sake too, you will have * to take steps to end it. .. . 1 * am sorry! i * * * MOTHER FAILS HER "Dear Anne Hirst: Instead of having trouble with a mother- in-law, it is my own mother who . has let me down. She never liked my hhusband and once she separated us, but I have vowed that shall never happen again. Now I see her for what she is. "When my brother and sister refused to have her live with them and she had nowhere to go, we took her in. She has been terribly hard to live with, and I have lost all respect for her. Now when I need her more than ever, she has taken a stand. I am expecting my third baby and have no one to take care-of the others. My mother refuses to. ® "My"' mother-in-law is dead, but if she were here it would be wonderful. She was so good to all her children and their fami- lies. Whatever shall I do? ' "A THE END." * Jt is true that the more * cconsiderate one is of some * people the more they take ad- * vantage of it . . . I hope by * now you have found some re- * sponsible woman to take care * of your children. If not, won't * your sisters step in and take * charge? * * * i When your life becomes im- possible to bear, ask Anne Hirst's opinion. She is neither an op- portunist nor an egotist, and she will sympathize with your situ- ation and have some consolation for the future. Write her at Box 1, 123 Eighteenth St, New To- _ronto, Ont. ' A soap-box orator was warm- ing up to his subject. 'Comrades," he cried, passionately, "make me your leader and in all you do I'll be behind you!" , INSOMNIA -- WHAT'S THAT? -- Is no problem to relax when you're n the late two's or early three's. Holly Stafford makes a sleeping bag of a suitcase while waiting for her plane tq depart from Idlewild Airport, Guidance For Worried Lovers In a little weathered chapel on the banks of the Adige River, in the northeast Italian town of Verona, there is a marble box with the simple inscription: "Mail for Juliet." Every day, letters in many languages are delivered there, and collected by kindly, grey-haired Ettore Solimani, For hundreds of star- crossed lovers, Solimani"s heart- felt replies are read.as authen- tic guidance from Juliet Capulet, daughter of the powerful.four- teenth-century Verona family, and heroine of the world's most famous love story. When Solimani became cus- todian of Juliet's tomb in 1931, he found it in ruins. Weeds chok- ed the garden, and souvenir hunters had chipped 2 inches of stone from the crypt. Solimani repaired the damage, cultivated the garden, kept fresh flowers inside the open tomb, When young lovers came to the shrine, Solimani would tell them: "Make your wish of love. If your love is true, your wish will come true." And he always spoke. of Juliet as though she were alive. The letters began arriving about 1940. Solimani opened them and was so touched that he had to reply. He signed him- self '"Juliet's Secretary," and paid the postage out of his own pocket. From then on, mail ad- dressed to "Juliet Capulet, Ver- ona, Italy," or just "Juliet, Italy," began to pour in from all over the world. : Solimani had no trouble with the letters in French or Spanish, but lovelorn messages from Eng- lish, German, and Japanese cor- respondents required the help of Verona translators. As the flood of letters mounted in recent years, he was able to answer only those "which seemed to me the most urgent." Some samples: A Chicago typist, age 23, con- fesses she is in love with her boss (age 58), and writes: "Dear Juliet--Does not love leap over such matters as the years?" from 'Rio de Janeiro, "Dolores" pleads: = OOOOOKLAHOMAI -- One of the nicest "oh's" in Oklahoma is Rose Magy Rabb, the state's entry in the Miss Universe con- test. She's beating the tomtom for Oklahoma's 50th year of statehood. "For the love of God, Juliet, help me make Abel love me with his soul as well as his body." Rapping Romeo: Solimani is collecting the most touching ex- amples, which he plans to pub- lish in a volume that will be the "true book on Juliet's life." In- cidentally, the book will set straight - certain misconceptions, spread by William Shapespeare and others, concerning the char- acter of Romeo. Solimani says: Romeo was a good-for-nothing drunkard . . . I doubt he com- mitted suicide . . . when he found Juliet in a temporary. trance. He was killed in a moon- slight duel against Paris (Juliet's family-chosen suitor)." Thousands of people visit Jul-" 'iet's chapel each year, and not' all of them are lovers. Solimani's wry impressions of tourists: "Germans come because it's in their Baedecker, Americans come out of plain curiosity, British come because Shakespeare im- mortalized Juliet. The French and other Latins come in true Yornip of the world's most beautiful love story." This week, Ettore Solimani reached retirement age (66), and prepared to move from his cus todian's bungalow near the tomb to a Verona apartment. But there was no question of retirement for "Juliet"s Secretary." Solim- ani intends to visit the tomb every day, to gathér the mail and answer the. eternal 'prob- lems of far-off lovers. "Somebody has to take care of them," he says. "Somebody who loves and understands Juliet" --From Newsweek" Two 'boys spending a day in the country came upon a man fly-fishing. After watching him "cast his line several times, one of them remarked to the 'other: "Oh, come on, Bill, He'll never catch anything -- he's trying to lasso 'em." ONE OF LUCKY TEN--Mrs. Hana Fainschtein, 77, one of the 10 persons who has been given a permit to leave Russia in the past 10 years, is reunited with her son, Joseph, 55, after a -37-year separation, It took 11 years and 500 pieces of corres- pondence were exchapged between Los Angeles and Soviet authorities. Through an interpreter she said, "Now | want for nothing. | feel around me the love a mother needs, | ask no more."" INGERFARM Partner is one of those lucky men who has a very fair, very" slow beard. On the farm a shave twice a week was his average-- and he looked quite respectable at that. Here he conceded that - every other day might be neces- sary. But he reckoned without our young neighbours. Yesterday, little David, who lives next door, came to visit us and almost at once he said to Partner, "You need a shave, don't you?" David is a little fellow about flve and a half who lisps but loves to _use big words. One day he was chattering away telling me a 'big story and finished by saying, "It is all very confuthing, isn't it?" I quite agreed ... ., it was very '"confuthing". It will be still more confuthing when our grandson comes to stay and we have two Davids to contend with. Neighbour David and his little friend Lily called one day "selling" paper -- bank deposit] slips, one 'cent a piece. "If you haven't got the money now you can pay tomorrow!" said Lily. How soon they learn, these young ones. Last night our Toronto family was here so my sister could see the , boys before 'she left us. Eddie was in great shape, very proud of the fact. that he can now walk. In fact he is so taken up with walking that he almost forgets to get into mischief. If he does Big Brother is generally on hand to keep him from get- ting hurt. } * Normal, healthy children are a great joy but I am afraid it is only when we run - across handicapped or retarded child- ren that we realize how thank- ful we should be. Friends of ours have an only child handi- capped by being blind and dia- betic. And now again I have come across a' similar case only this time the child is obviously retarded. On our first visit to her home we found a girl in' her early twenties sitting in a rock- ing chair hugging a big Teddy- bear. And- not far from Ginger Farm, there is 'another afflicted child. a deaf-mute. However, we \ have this much to be thankful ' for--society at large is finally waking up to the fact that these children can often be helped to live more normal lives if given proper training--training that is not always possible in the homes of the parents, Neighbours, too, can often help, by offering to take charge of such a child for an hour or two, or sometimes a day, so that parents 'may have a little free time away from their burden of responsibility. It is little enough for a neigh- bour to do but it can mean a great deal to the mother. We had a lovely rain again last night. Lovely, that is, for the lawns and gardens- but not so lovely for haymaking farmers. Last Thursday I was back to our old home district to an In- stitute meeting and saw plenty of hay out in the flelds. Two neighbours' told me they were baling hay last Sunday and, be- cause the weather had been so "¢atchy" they did not feel the least bit guilty. But, oh my, how times have changed! A few years ago field work on a' Sun- 'day was absolutely unthinkable. It just wasn't done. Mercy, what hs Gwendoline P.Clathe would the neighbours think! That, I believe, is the crux of the whole situation . .., what the neighbours think! The difference between right and wrong .is un- changed; the difference lies in our conception of what is right and what is wrong, and in this we are-influenced by what other people do or don't -do. If- the neighbours bale on Sunday how can it be right for them and wrong for us? By this method of arguing it is a simple matter to ease our conscience, And far be it from me to say who is right or 'who is wrong. But I well remember that many 'times during our farming years Part- ner would threaten to "finish clearing that field tomorrow, éven though it is Sunday." But 'somehow he never did. The only * work -we did on Sundays was behind closed barn doors -- straightening the mow or taking a load off the wagon as it sat on the barn floor. We never did take the horses to the field--they - needed their rest. To any argu- ment I put up against Partner working I always got the ans- wer--"In the War when I was with the Raiway Troops in France we had to work on Sun- days. The mule-teams had every Sunday off but the men only one in four." So, if a field must be 'baled 6n a Sunday it rests be- tween the farmer, the baler, and the conscience of each. It applies to other work too and boils down to the same thing--*everyone does it so why shouldn't 1?" But yet most of us are conscious of a little nagging voice within. ourselves which says "that isn't what you were taught as a child", - Possibly many of the rising generation will never hear that voice because they are be- ing brought up in a world that believes in open Sundays. In suburbia lawns are cut, gardens weeded and watered and the car washed. Again it Is a case of other people do why shoudn't we? I just hope that when we pass through the Pearly Gates we shall not be confounded by Peter asking us sternly--"And what did you do on Sundays?" "BANG-ON CURE! When police of Blantyre, Ny- asaland, arrested a native for being in possession of a stick of dynamite, he solemnly explained that it was for his sore back. There is nothing quite so good as a stick of dynamite for curing a sore back if you rub it in well, the native said. "He had bad luck; stepped in front of a car to avoid going under a ladder." Tragic Ending To Love Story For months romance had beamed on French paratrooper Claude Desurmont and his Bel- gian sweetheart, Renée Messien. When visiting his family in the village of Leers, Claude could see Renée's house across a 20- yard wide road, although that side of the street was across the border in the Belgian village of Néchin. But Renée Messien's family refused to permit a mar- riage between the young lovers --and so last week came the tragic ending. Standing in front of his house on the French side, Claude, in a frenzy of frustration, shot and critically wounded Renée, who appeared at her window on the Belgian side. Renée was taken to a hospital, Claude to a French jail, The next steps in the case were enough to discourage the most optimistic promoter of European unity: French police claimed -Desur- mont as their prisoner, because the shot was fired from French terrifdty; Belgian police dis- agreed, saying the victim was in Belgium when the bullet struck her head. French detectives could ques- tion Desurmont and his family, and the Belgians could interro- gate the Messien family--but neither could cross the street to complete the investigation. - The French examining magis- trates in Lille are unable to complete their case until they obtain a copy "of the Belgian magistrates' findings. And to get a copy, they must send official requests to (1) the French Min- istry of Justice; (2) the French Ministry of the Interior, and (3) the French Ministry of Foreign Affairs (because of the inter- national aspect of the problem). The papers will travel an equally complicated red-tape route in Belgium and return through the same channels to France. Only then will full hearings start, with accused and victim sitting at either end of a table set midway in the street that "divided Leers and Néchin. Modern Etiquette. . . by Roberta Lee Fs Q. How can a divorced woman who is using her maiden name include "Miss" in front of her name when sending out her daughter's wedding announce- ments? A. Really a divorced woman with a daughter should not be using "Miss" in front of her name, as it leads to social com- plications such as this one. How- ever, in this case, she can put "Mrs." in front of her maiden name, and give her daughter's full name in the announcement. Q. Is it proper for a man din- ing in a restaurant with his wife to rise when another couple stops at their table for a few words? A. The man must always rise when a woman stops at his table. Q. Should watermelon be eat- en with the spoon or fork? A. Either "is acceptable, al- though I should think the fork is more practical. - - Q. I issued invitations recent "ly te an informal affair in my home, and now, because of 1ll- ness in my family, find it im- possible fo give this affair. How can I recaall the invitations? A, Etiher by telephone or brief ER Ea Sn note, explaining the circum- - stances and informing your in- tended guests that you will ged in touch with them at a later date. ! Q. When writing a personal letter, is the date correctly pul at the end of the message, or af the fop righthand corner? A. Usually, in he top right. hand corner of a long letter, bul ~~ at the end of a short note. Q. If a close friend of a be: reaved family attends the fu. neral, is it necessary for him wear black clothes? =. A. No. He should however, wear subdued clothes, and avold any gay colours, . Q. My husband and I recently attended a party given by hig niece and her husband, She ia- troduced us to her friends ag Mr, and Mrs. Donald Graves Shouldn't she have introduced wa as her aunt and uncle? _ A. Definitely, yes. Q. To whom should a wedding gift be addressed? A. Gifts sent before the wed- ding are addressed to the bride in her maiden name. Gifts sent after the wedding are, of course, addressed to the couple. For Baby Baby faces -- and oh, the dar- ling exxpressions these young charmers display! Fun-to-de embroidery as a crib-cover; o® use just 2 faces for pretty ple- tures in anursery! Pattern 832; Transfer of nine baby heads, about 6x63 inches} directions for crib-cover, pie- tures. ; Send THIRTY-FIVE CENTS, (stamps cannot be accepted, use postal note for safety) for this pattern to Laura Wheeler, Box 1, 123 Eighteenth St., New Tor- onto, Ont. Print plainly PAT- TERN NUMBER, your NAME and ADDRESS. : Two FREE Patterns as a gift to our readers -- printed right in 'our NEW Laura Wheeler Needlecroft Book for 1957! Doz~ ens of other new designs youll want to order -- easy, fascinat- ing handwork for yourself, your home. Be sure to send 25 centa for your copy of this. book now -- don't miss it! ES ISSUE 31 -- 1957 RETURN FROM EUROPE -- Eliz abeth Taylor and her husband Mike Todd hold hands as they arrive in' New York from Europe aboard the liner Liberte. They laughed when reports suggested their five-month marriage. Miss Taylor Is expecting a baby in October, »