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. by Sherry Jackson an Oe aor of the family. "Dear Anne Hirst; I should be the happiest girl in the world, because the finest man I know wants to marry me, But I am miserable . . . I have kept him waiting over a year now, and it is because my - mother would have to live with us, She 'is not only physically handicapped she is a spoiled and jealous woman who dreads' the thought of my loving anyone - else, She never liked any beau I had, and when this one pro- posed she raved for days. Called ime selfish and ungrateful, and | one night she threatened sui- . cide! "My fiance is 30 (I am 25) and he 'is 'a quiet, polished gentle- man whom everybody admires. he has been patience itself - with my mother's unpredictable moods, but nothing he does can please her, I wonder. why he still wants to marry me, and the prospect really frightens me. I cannot trust her to be even decent to him, "Last week I decided to break my engagement and set him free to find - some #girl who wasn't so" encumbered. He would not hear of it. He insists we will manage somehow, and he asks Trousseau Linens' Linens for the bride-to-be and the bride of yester-year. Done in cross-stitch -- $0 popular today. Crocheted edging. Pattern 825: transfer of motit 8x23 inches, two motifs 71x16; crochet directions for an edging 3 inch wide. -Send THIRTY-FIVE CENTS (stamps cannot be accepted; use postal note for safety) for this pattern to LAURA WHEELER, Box I, 123 Eighteenth St, New Toronto, Ont. Print plainly the PATTERN NUMBER, NAME and ADDRESS. As a bonus, TWO complete patterns are printed right in our 1958 Laura Wheeler Needlecraft Book. Dozens of other designs you'll want to order--easy fas- cinating handwork for yourself, your home, gifts, bazaar items. Send 25 cents for your copy of this. book today! ISSUE 3 -- 1958 your- | me to marry him even earlier than we planned. But is it fair to expose him to "my mother's biting sarcasms and silly whims? I value your opinion, so please . Jet me have it. Hs gig AFRAID TO MARRY" TAKE THE CHANCE Your fiance is not a lovesick' adolescent, He' is mature enough to. see your mother as she is, 'yet he 1s so eager to marry .;you that he isiun- afraid. Why. not take the chance? He would not insist it-he had any doubt the three together, + I suggest you. tell your mother you have set your wedding date. Such stubborn characters often reconcile themselves unexpectedly to the inevitable. Self-centered though she is, I expect you. will ind her submitting with more grace than you knew she had. Include in your living ar- for her, with her own furni- ture, books and radio. When you get settled, invite her friends to drop in often, and try to find other interests for her to cultivate. After awhile, perhaps you can find a private her tHe little care she needs; many people are glad to add to their income in this fashion, Neither of these suggestions is ideal, of course, yet how else. can you marry at all? Your fiance has waited long enough for a home of his own, and he does not want that to be your mother's house. So go along with the idea, and take it for granted that things will work out as he believes. His stabilizing influence will * soon be felt in your new * home, and you will probably * find that the troubles you an- * ticipate will not materialize. * * * IGNORES COURTESIES "Dear Anne Hirst: My husband and I often: go out with other couples, and the other men joke with their wives, help them with their coats, and sometimes hold hands. My! hus- band doesn't do these things and I am so afraid others will think he doesn't love me; I know he does because he is wonderful in every other way. "Am I wrong in asking him to? - He thinks so, but asks me * * * * * * + * * * * * » * * v * * * M * » J * » * * * * » » * * * * * * * » * * * * * to get your opinion. We've been. married four years, -and have two children. There "isn't any other worry on my mind. ETHEL" Of course, your husband is not compelled to use these little courtesies he does not practice. You might tell him, though, that if he -would you would be so proud of him, and .even happier than you are. You want your friends to see how attentive he is, because you like to show him off. Such little attentions -are easily acquired, and soon be- come a part of one's habits. Your husband pleases you in all other ways, and 1 expect he "will shake his head, com- plain how foolish women are, and. do just what you want him to. LE EE BE EE EE EE SE IE EE EE EEE EEE * ¥ * Inviting an older relative to share your home is never a wel- come idea, yet the emotional adjustments which intelligent people can make can prevent anticipated' discord. Anne Hirst's practical ideas will be useful. Write her at Box 1, 123 Eighteenth Street, New Toronto, Ontario, ' Ronny ALL IN THE FAMILY=Most popular 'family 'on TV belongs to 'Thomas, star of his own comedy series; Danny's TV. above, includes his wife Kathy, left, played by Marjorie Lord; Rusty, played by Rusty Hamer; Terry, right, porirayed Le ' Linda (Angela Cartwright) newest and family nearby who will give of you could 'live agreeably . rangements a pleasant room °* there, Dancing Girls Pelted With Tarts Peeping out from behind their chintz curtains, the neighbours kept watch on the house. in Bos- cabel Place, They knew some- thing * strange was going on Such things happened in Paris, no doubt, and ho the Far East. But in St. John's, Wood, London, in the reign of Queen Victoria . .>. 7 They were almosf speechless with horror. = For the top-hatted gentleman' who. visited that house in Bos- cabel Place was running a kind of Folies Bergére show -- for an audience of one, Regularly, at. a certain time, on certain days, he arrived in a two-horse carriage with a groom in the dickey, The groom opened the door with a flourish and out stepped Frederick Cooper, Es- quire, wealthy gentleman-about- town, He walked quickly into the house and the neighbours no- ticed -that he invariably carried a Jarge, bulging paper bag. As soon as Mr. Cooper was in- side the house, the curtains of a large room on the ground. floor were always pulled across. But the neighbours knew what was _ happening behind those cur- tains. They knew: that in that room, which used to be a school- room, Frederick Cooper was be- ing entertained with a Folies Bergére-type show, It was a show with'a difference, however, for the one-man audience pelted the beautiful dancers with jam tarts from the bag he carried! "He took inexplicable plea- sure in throwing these tarts' at the women as torian -- thought no doubt much to the annoyance of the dancers. Cooper soon earned the title of the "Minotaur of the Wood" because of these shows. (The Minotaur was a terrible. mon- ster of Greek fable, hall-man, half-bull, which ate seven young men and seven beautiful girls |] "MISS ENIGMA" -- That's what Hollywood's calling 20-year-old Diane Varsi, who has the im- portant role of Allison Mac- Kenzie, in the movie version of "Peyton Place". Called an "odd- ball" by her schoolmates, a "rebel" by her teachers and "confused" by her drama coach, after three years in Hol- lywoad, she's still "Little Miss Enigma" 'to "her associates. sent as annual tribute to his labyrinth lair in Crete.) The prim-and-proper folk -of St. John's Wood objected to the scandal that was going on in their sedate suburb. They ap- pealed to an influential resident to speak to Mr."and Mrs, Wat- son, who occupied the house, to put a stop to it at once. The Watsons agreed that in view of the public feeling, Coop- er should be interviewed at his next. visit. -But Cooper got wind of it, and as soon as -he saw the "influen- tial resident" coming up the steps to the front door, he nip- ped out the back: way. ; Although Boscabel Place was now rid of him, Cooper trans- ferred his entertainments to an- 'other part of St. John's Wood. Apart from his strange amuse- ments, Cooper was a mystery, they danced - around the room," said a his- z although. some clue to his char- . acter was given by a woniah friend who organized his shows. . She said his eccentricities might be excused partly by the fact that he had a "white livare" and ran a risk of dying from vant of food. i ~Whether this was true or not, Cooper . died in.-December, 1807, a few years after his visits to Boscabel Place, He left $150,000 to a relative, giving strict in- structions that no one should see his body affer death. So Cooper's body was crema- ted. And the mystery of the Minotaur of the Wood was never solved. - : A badly SCUFFED PIECE OF LUGGAGE may improve in ap- pearance and be usable for a few more - jaunts by COATING IT WITH LIQUID SHOE POLISH: When dry, coat with thin white shellac which gives the appear- ance of glazed finish, \ GRAND SMILES--Tamra "Tammy? Leah' Marinhugh, 5, left, and Alan Dean Walter, 4%; flash the smiles that paid' off for them to the tune of one-grand each. Theyre 'among 10 U.S. children selected as having the most winning smiles in a national . smile contest. Each of 'the winners will receive a $1,000 savings bond and other prizes. The National Press Photographers Association picked the 10 from a total of 207,390 photographs submitted, This, I thought, would be an 'easy column to write, Christmas and New Year's both being over, for me as well as for you. Now it would be easy, straight-for- ward - writing with plenty to write about too. In, that I was right -- there is plenty to write about -- too much in fact -- and it all adds up to a mixture of joy and sadness, calm and activi- ty. Unexpected -- but so it is. Two days before Christmas I received word that my sister Kathleen had had a severe stroke and was in a coma. My.nephew .Klemi promised: to kegpzpie-in- . formed of. any change hut until 'that happened he said flere was no point in my going to-3ee,her. To that I agreed, as any: other arrangement would have spoilt Christmas for three families. But you can well imagine how little my heart was in it when 4t came to last minute prepara- tions. However, I went ahead. Put our 23 pound turkey in a slow oven Christmas Eve; pack- ed up all the mysterious parcels und then went to bed with one ear open for the telephone. Christmas morning 1 phoned Klemi; there was still no change. - About two o'clock Bob, Joy and little Ross collected Partner and me, the turkey straight from the oven; the parcels; and then we all went to Daughter's for Christ- mas dinner. My worries were temporarily "forgotten as I help- ed with the dinner and watch- ed our grandsons at play. Four little boys ranging in age from three months to four years. They had a wonderful time, noisy and excited but as good as gold, The dinner was perfect -- even my share of it -- that'is to say the turkey and plum pudding. Ot course I was- afraid both would be a failure! Then came presents off the tree and as uisual Santa _ Claus had been good to every- body. We all seemed to get 'just what we wanted" -- except Dee. We gave her a mixette and so did Art. We left for home early in the evening but instead of going straight home Bob took us all around the residential streets off the Kingsway to see the Christmas = decorations, They were wonderful; we had néver seen anything like them before. What we liked best- were the simpler decorations thrown onto relief by well-place floodlights . « « they were really lovely, _ Early next morning came a call from Klemi . . . my sister had passed away: just before midnight on Christmas Day. .Many years ago our mother had also died on' Christmas Day. It brought it all back very vividly. Friday morning I went by train to Peterborough "I new I'd find it for you even if I had to search all year!" INGER Gwendoline P. Clarke and helped - .Klemi through the trying ordeal of meeting his many friends, In the few months they had been in Peterborough Kathleen had. written many times of the friend- liness that had been shown them, I found she: had .not ex- aggerated one bit, The people were wonderful. We were: invit- ed out for every meal, friends. were always on hand to. offer, transportation and their - wives took over -at the house the day of the funeral and prepared a lovely lunch for those who came from a distance -- from Toronto and Oshawa, Arthur came along with' Partner and daughter for the funeral and IT" came back with them knowing:Klemi would be well looked 'after::by the friends with whom®he 'was stay- ing. Out of it all," amid the sense of sorrow and loss, we were very conscious of the warmth and friendliness shown to Klemi -- friendliness which was also extended to me, a stranger. It means so much, especially to an only son whose only home com- panionship had been that of his mother. But Klemi stood up to it remarkably well, He is a pro- fessional violinist and on Christ- mas Day he had three engage- ments to play at Church ser- vices, all of which he fulfilled. Whether it was the environment or not he didn't know but he said that all that day he was conscious of a strange peace and felt that all would be well. It was. Neither he nor I have any regrets that his mother passed away as she did. She had been a loving .and 'devoted mother, al- ways active although very frail. - We could not wish for her to linger and perhaps be a helpless invalid for years. The day she was buried was the same day she and Klemi were to have come here for the week-end. You just never know. So that was our Christmas, The happiness of a family gathering with our children and grand- + ' BACK HOME IN ILLINOIS--BilI Girard, centre, the 22-year-old 'G1. made famous by his Modern '| 'thé tea at an afternoon affair, " guest who helps himself to Etiquette . . . by Roberta Lee ~~ Q. After "going steady" with 'a boy for a year, w ed. Is it necessary that T'refurn a watch that he gave to me for Christ- ._ A, Since this was not an en- gagement gift, it is not necessary . to return it. : : *Q. What is the correct way to address a letter to a friend whose "Husban@l has recently "passed away? J «../A. The same as always--"Mrs. Frank W. Harrison," Q. I have been asked to pour Am I also supposed to put in the sugar, cream or lemon? - 'A. This i3 not generally done anymare, The person pours the 'tea then hands the cup to the sugar, 'cream, or lemon. Es Q.' My husband passed away more. than two years ago. Now: my friends tell me I should not be wearing my wedding ring _ anymore, Are they. correct? A. Decidedly not. A widow may' wear her wedding:ring for life -- or untiF-she marries again. +t v E Q. Just what is proper when eating a chicken leg?: -Is it all right, after cutting off most of the meat, to pick up the bone in the fingers in order to chew off the rest of the meat? A. At most dinner tables, the only proper way is to manage as best you can with your knife and fork, Picking up the bones - is condoned at "picnics, and in children but back of it the anxie- ty and uncertainty of my sister's illness, Now I am the only one 'left of our immediate family. three brothers, all, are gone. It leaves one with a -strange sense of loneliness. Now our main in-. terest In family life is by follow- ing the growth and development of the younger ones -- David, cause of them we do not antici- 'pate many dull moments. We look forward to a New Year but doubt if 'it'can be -as evantful. as the old in which te sold the farm, established: a new: home, welcomed a new:.grandson last February, -another:in- October _.and had sucha mixed-up Christ- mas; Tomorrow : is. Bob's :birth- day -- and that will conclude an . Father, mother, two 'sisters and Edward, Ross and Gerald. Be- eventful family year, . 4 of the stocking feat. "Q. When writing a letter to acquaintance who calls you "Mrs. a 0 Bridges," how do you sign the letter? A. As "Mary Bridges" by. eA flelz ms . Nig With Printed "directions ; each pattern part--sewing co not be easier! dress, or jumper and blouse; its lovely lines are ideal' for win 'ter-cotton, -~.veteenl s x : Printed Pattern '4500: Misses' Sizes 10, 12, 14, 16, 18, 20. Size 16 jumper requires 3% yards 39-inch; blouse, 1% yards. Printed directions. on ¢.:¢i corduroy, Make a 'date- rich :; vel or pattern' part. 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