Tp oa pe od, er i ws Rr aI A a 4-2 - children, ANNE HIRST | NE HIRST "Dear Anne Hirst: We have . always been very close to my husband's family, and visited back and forth all the time. Lately, though, they seem to have changed their attitude to- ward me, and I cannot under- stand why. "His mother tells me little un- pleasant things about her other and quotes tales they've told, about me. (I am sure she discusses my faults, and perhans they are getting even.) made the mistake of telling my husband about it, and now he doesn't ask me to go to see them; I do know that he misses going himself, too. Do you think he is waiting for me to suggest it? I dread that, for I don't feel at home there now. "If 1 resumed our visits, do you think they might treat me as they used to? Or shall I con- tinue to stay away from them? WORRIED WIFE" * Whether she likes it or not, * when a girl marries she mar- ¢ ries her husband's family too. * One of her important duties * js to get along with them -- ® as you, I hope have decided to ® do. * When a man is as devoted to ® his people as your husband, * you as his wife dare not be ® unfriendly. Make up your ®* mind to admire what virtues ¢ they have, and overlook their ® faults, Since this unhappy sit- * uation has come about do all ® you can to overcome it. ¢ Suggest to your -husband * that you resume your accus- * tomed visits. While there, try ¢ to forget all your mother-in- ® law said; you do not know her * source, so take it for granted : that the others still feel kind- [J ° * [ J LJ [ J lL ] [ J [ J [ J LJ] . LJ J LJ ly toward you. Winning their good will is essential to your husband's peace of mind. If further unfortunate comments are made, overlook them de- liberately. - This is easier than you think. Your letter (which I had to condense) reveals a sympathetic and understand- ing nature that will stand you in good stead. Take it for granted from now on that they still like you, and play up to the idea. I think they cannot help but respond. * . LJ] HE'S NOT FOR YOU "Dear Anne Hirst: You advis- ed two friends of mine, and they appreciated it. Now will you please tell me what to do? I am in love with a boy I met two months ago at an outing. My mother liked him at first, but now she has found out that he drinks a little, so she won't let Easy-to-Sew PRINTED PATTERN 4592 SIZES 4 by-Fo Alo Our smart Printed Pattern--a new version of your favorite step-in. dress. This tailored sheath is a wonderfully becom- ing style for every figure, Easy sewing; on each pattern part. * .- Printed Pattern 4592: Misses' Sizes. 10, 12, 14, 16, 18, 20. Size 16 takes 3 yards 54-inch. Printed directions on each pat- fern part. Easier, accurate. Send FIFTY CENTS (50¢) (stamps cannot be accepted, uke postal note for safety) for this pattern, Please print -p inly SIZE, NAME, ADDRESS, STYLE NUMBER. Send order to ANNE ADAMS, Box 1, 123 Eighteenth st. New . Toronto, Ont. directions are printed me date him, I have to go out to see him, and I don't like to. "He has asked me to.marry him, put 1.£ nly 16 so how can I without my mother's consent? I've met his family, and they all think I'rr @ nice girl and ap- prove of oar marrying 'star. What can I do? - HEARTBROKEN" * You wii have to tei this * boy you will not see him again ¢ until he has won your moth- ® er's approval. If he really * cares for you, he will stop this * drinking and prove * worth considering as a hus- * band. * A boy his age who drinks * js not a fit companion for a ® nice gil, and if you hadn't + fallen in love with him you * would think so, too. Your * mother knows this, and I agree * with her. Your only course is * to obey her to the letter. L * z LJ One of a wife's initial respon- sibilities is to stay friendly with her in-laws, painful as it some- times Is. She will overlook un- pleasant straits and cultivate the happy ones, and so keep her hus- band conscious of her good will. Anne Hirst will help you, too, if - you write her at Box 1, 123 Sightesath St.,, New Toronto, nt, Modern Etiquette by Roberta Lee Q. What are the courses that make up a formal dinner? A. There -are five or more courses. First, oysters or clams on the half shell, or canapes, or other light relish; or grapefruit, fruit cup, or melon. Second, soup. Third, fish. Fourth, game or roast with two vegetables." Fifth, salad. Sixth, dessert, fol- lowed by fruit, nuts, candy, and coffee. Q. Lately I have noticed per- sons of apparent refinement us- ing toothpicks at the table. Is this now considered acceptable? A. Most certainly not. Tooth- picks should never be seen in use, at the table or anywhere else. } Q. Is it rude for a woman to remain seated while shaking hands? A. No -- unless the other is an elderly person and you are a young one. Q. My husband and I were guests at dinner in some friends' home recently and, in order to help my hostess, I stacked my used dishes as I finished eating out of them. My husband says this was incorrect. What is the answer? A. Your husband is right. Al- ways leave your dishes as they are when you finish eating. Q. If it so happens that a bride-elect has already had the opportunity to thank a donor verbally for a gift received, is it -still necessary for-her-to-write | a note of thanks? A. Yes, and just as soon as possible. Q. When making announce- ments at a banquet, does the master-of-ceremonies always rise or may he remain seated? A. If he wishes to exhibit good breeding and .courtesy, he will rise for. any announcement, no matter how short 'it may be, Q. I have received a set of steak knives as a gift. Is it pro- per for me to use these unmatch- ing knives with my regular sterling silver forks and spoons? A. It is quite proper to sub- stitute steak knives for the reg- ular silver knives when serving steak. M-mem-m-m-mi -- - Any way you look at It, shapely Marilyn Monroe 1s a cinch to dazzle male moviegoers with this dress she wears In her new movle, "Some Like It Hot" staphylococcus. © As " started to throw the plate away. to: be 4 A Miracle-- And A Regret In the autumn of 1928, a frag ment of mold drifted down out of'a dull London sky and floated through the open window of Alexander Eleming's modest lab- oratory in St. Mary's Hospital Coming to rest on a.lab dish, - the mold ruined one of the Scot- tish scientist's 'most promising Fleming he noticed a strange grgen frag- ment. In his notebook he wrote: "Fof some pL an distance around the mold growth, staph colonies were undergoing lysis (being dissolved)." Fleming's mold was Penicil- llum notatum, the miracle sub- stance which, in the last three decades, has saved the lives of millions throughout the world. At the sixth annual symposium on antibiotics in Washington, D.C., last month, Sir, Howard Florey, 60, the stocky, florid Oxford University pathologist who was knighted with the late Dr. Fleming for their work on penicillin, headed the observ- ance of the 30th anniversary of the accidental opening of the antibiotic age. Fleming, according to Dr. Florey, was "a master tactician with lab retort and pipette," but no chemist and unfamiliar with animal experiments. His prec- ious mold languished in labora- tories for five years until Florey happened to reread a paper pub- lished by Dr. Fleming in 1929 describing his discovery. Florey and an Oxford colleague, Dr. Ernest Chain, finally accumulat- ed several hundred milligrams of penicillin, which in animal EYE . CATCHING - Playing h hide- and-seek among the tall reeds Sidonie Paquin," 17, proves a standout in the beauty depart- ment. The Paris-born lovely, re- sembling Brigitte Bardot, hopes to become an actress. tests "brought staggering good results" on a wide- variety of stubborn germs. _ But Florey's mold filtrates con- tained only tiny amounts of penicillin -- less than enough to cure one sick human being. It was during a visit to the U.S. in 1941 that Florey obtained assurance of large-scale mani- facture by American drug com- panies. Today, more than 2.5 million pounds of penicillin and other antibiotics are produced annually -- enough to treat all sufferers from germ infection. Summing up his antibiotic ad- ventures last week, Florey, now a gray-haired baronet engaged in heart research at Oxford has "only one serious regret . . . that of Southern France, shapely 1 did not, on behalf of my col- leagues and our laboratory, patent the processes by which penicillin was extracted . But at that time, the patenting of medicinal substances by medigal- ly qualified people was heavily frowned upon in both Great Britain and the United States." As the use of penicillin widen- ed, allergic sensitivities appear= ed in some patients, as well as resistance in certain organisms (notably staphylococcus) to the powerful germ killer. But, Dr. Florey insists, the development of resistance to penicillin is rare, despite the widespread publicity about staph germs in hospitals. Staph itself is not vesistant, Dr. Florey explained. But certain strains, particlarly those in hos- pitals, produce an enzyme called penicillinase, which destroys "penicillin, This is true 'only of penicillin, -he added. "The re- sistance shown" by the staph germ to other: antiblotics Is genuine 'resistance', and not based on enzyme activity." --From NEWSWEEK. pirat " GILDED CAGE -- Any bird looking for a gilded cage should wing to builder Vittorio Falchi, who puts the finishing touches to a gilded pagoda in'Rome. The craftsman sells his cages for about $100. by Last night I was lying were t duiing for quite awhile and, as one does, 1 was thinking of this thing and that. And, probably because I had been busy for the past week canning and pickling, I thought how much easier it is now from what is used to be. I thought of pre-hydro days when putting down fruit and tomatoes meant having the kitchen stove going full blast and sweltering in a hundred degree kitchen. For us a three-burrier oil stove was all right for some things but be- cause it was on the back porch it meant a continual trotting back and. forth to the kitchen. I remember, too, how annoyed I used to get In peading over recipes which, nine times out of ten would say -- "Set the timer and bake in a pre-heated oven at 350° for 35 minutes." Often I exclaimed, "For heaven's sake, do these magazine publishers think everyone has an electric stove?" Then came the time when we, too, had hydro. I'll never forget the thrill of it. How gladly I substituted the magic switch on the wall for the smelly cld coal-oil lamps. And yet, can you believe it, that was only thirteen years ago. Since then expanded. Even.so, [ was won- dering in the night how mniany readers of this column are still without electricity. Not many 1 hope. But I suppose there are HRONICLES INGER FARM Gwendoline [ P.Clarke -- hydro for rural-use_has-grea'ly-- some in outlying districts that the hydro has not yet reached. But at least they would be dis- . tricts where a good supply of rgammer wood is always avail- able. And you know some people declare that tea always tastes better when the water is boiled over a chip fire. From hydro in general I began thinking of the old threshing days. Ten or fifteen men for at least two days at a time. Two meals a day and the threshers themselves for bed and break- fast. Stacks of pies, cakes and biscuits and a fifteen-pound roast each day -- hot for. dinner, sliced cold for supper. It makes me feel hungry to think of the meat -- rich, juicy beef -- often our own butchering. After each meal it took at least an hour to clean . up the dishes. And then we'd turn around and get ready for tne next meal. But there was always help. One or two neigh- hours always phoned and in=- quired -- "Have you help for cour threshing tomorrow -- if not I can come over in the morning." * Maybe we 'didn't have hydro, 'and we certainly didn't have combines but we did "have wonderful neighbours. Tim# passed and farms became more > snd more mechanized. Threshing " machines and big threshing mea's were on their way out and the human element was pushed into the background. Today I some- times think farmers' wives have never had it so good . . . but then again I sometimes wonder! The small hours of 'the night are a good time for reviewing situations past and present. In the rush hours of the day we don't always get the right pers- pective. Our sense of values gets sort of mixed up, as it were, Another thing I remembeied was a little verse 'that more or less outlined my philosophy when the going was particularly rugged during the depression days. Here it is -- author unknown, "There was a woman who wept because That's the kind 'of woman she was. Finally sorrow 'sought her out Gave her something to weep about Then she found weeping inadequate, Took to laughing-- And learnt on that." How do you like it? Well, from farming I began thinking of our youngest grand- _ son -- a year old today -- beating his birthday by walking two days ahead of it. Grandchildren are wonderful -- we enjoy every one of them -- without having the worry and responsibility of continually looking after them. I thought being a grandmother was a special privilege that every mother looked forward to. Now I'm not so sure. Partner said jokingly to a lady the other day, "Hullo, Grandma, how are you?" The lady was quite an- noyed, said she didn't want to be reminded of the fact that she was a grandmother, it made her feel much too old! And yet the dear soul js already past 70. --How inconsistent can you get? -- Fspecially in an era when being _ a grandmother doesn't neces- sarily imply old age. Go to any W.I. meeting or church. group and see the smart women there are around, 'and half:0f 'them grandmothers. Yesterday 1 'was talking to an elderly lady of 80 who, until she "broke her hip, had been driving her own car. Not that I am in favour' of people that age driving a car -- there Is too much risk involved. " When 1 get to be 80 I shall be quite content for someone else to take over the -wheel. For that reason we are very glad - Daughter is seriously thinking of taking driving lessons. Up to now she has been too busy with babies to even think about it but now she feels the need of being able to get herself around. And we are very glad. Right of the Dying In the long .ago, most people died in their own homes with only the family to attend them. Today, the. modern hospital pro- vides professional care for. the patient and relief from pain at - life's end. But in this new way of dying, "death may be robbed. of its dingity," Dr. John J, Far-' rell, of the University of Miami School of Medicine, writes in the State Medical Journal of South Carolina. The death beds 1 see today (in modern hospitals) are not particularly dignified. The fam- ily 1s shoved out into the corri- dor by the presence of intra- venous stands, suction machines, oxygen machines, oxygen tanks, and, tubes emanating from every natural and several surgically induced orifices. The last words, if the patient has not been coma- {ose for the past 48 hours, are last behind an oxygen mask. "In our pursuit of the scientific aspects of medicine, the art of medicine has sometimes unjusti= fiably suffered . . . Each one of us must strike a balance . , . We cannot allow culpable ignorance to mask itself in the guise 'of Story Of A Real Hustler From that first, fascinated moment when he watched a shies spieler in Minneapolis peddle worthless wrist watehes at $5 a throw, 8-year-old Awvyn Goldbogen realized 'with the iw- . 'tuitiveness of Barnum people will believe almost any- thing, and that making them be- lieve was to be his life's work. Avrumele (little Avrom) forth- with set out on his career by conning the spleler into taking him on. as a shill at two bits a day. The career ended 40 years later after Avrom, known as Mike Todd, hustled millions of ..| people into seeing what has been called the greatest show now on earth -- his movie "Around the World in 80 Days". The years between have been chronicled in "The Nine Lives of Michael Todd", published this month. It is the work of the late Art Cohn, who died in the plane crash that killed Todd last March. Cohn worked for Todd for two years in various capaci- ties (one was as scenarist of Todd's projected film version of "Don Quixote"), and he suffered from a pretty severe case Of hero worship. If the halo he placed rakishly on Todd's head seems a trifle tarnished, it is only because the showman him- self wanted no one to consider him anything but unethical. "I'm a hustler and an opportunist" Cohn rather regretfully quotes Todd as saying. - "Show business is- honest larceny." Todd's talent asserted itself in his early years. He once talked the manager of a movie theater into letting him guard the fire exit to keep kids from sneaking in free. For the three months Todd was stationed there, he let in his pals for 5 cents apiece. 'Next he worked for a carny operator, hiding under the table of a ball-throw game and, on cue, tightening the spring in the bottom of the basket so that the balls bounced out and the players went away prizeless. After marrying a: girl named Bertha Freshman and making and losing (at 19) a million dol- lars in a construction business that went bankrupt in 1928, Todd drummed up a flame- dance at- traction for the Chicago Ex- position, then produced a show called "Bring on the Dames". He marched on Broadway in. 1937, opened a disaster called "Call Me Ziggy", and fell out of love with 'Bertha. Next he put Bill (Bojangles) Robinson in a gold suit and starred him in "The Hot Mikado", a smash, It started Todd's Broadway career moving. The hits that followed included "Something for the Boys", "Mexican Hayride", "Up in Central Park", and "As the Girls Go". When Bertha died in an acci- dent in 1946, Todd married * actress Joan Blondell, was di- vorced by her in 1950, went into bankruptcy (caused in part by gambling debts), and then snap- ped back with a theatrical hodgepodge called "Peep Show". __ After producing a bust called--] "The Live Wire", his 16th show, and having grossed a total of $18 million on Broadway, Todd " decided to give it up. He tackled his first: film, "Around the World". Originally budgeted at $3 mil- humanitarianism; but - neither can we allow scientific achieve- ment to preclude the right to dle with dignity, which is the right of every man." embroidery, lion, it ended costing twice that much. Cohn relates how Todd finagled the extra financing. Midway through production, one magnate offered to buy Todd out --lock; stock and rights for $10 million. Todd rejected it, and on the basis of his refusal land- "ed the loan which let him finish the picture. (Cohn predicted it would gross between $50 million and $100 million.) Todd's ex- planation of the tactic: "The + trick is knowing your opponent's hole card, or knowing one more fact than he does. I didn't havé a hole card but they thought I did, which is just as good as having one, I knew someone would stake'a guy who had just turned down ten million bucks." This biography's account of Todd's romance with Elizabeth Taylor, finished by: Cohn's wife his notes, is strictly pulp- fiction stuff. When they met for the first time, Cohn reports, "Miss Taylor" was fearful and lonely, looking for comfort and solace like a lost, frightened chid . . . Between Avrumele and Lizzie Schwartkopt (Miss Tay- lor's real name), the chemistry was right" Those were Cohn' _ last written words. 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