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* aL SE ALENT AR At ERY A aN aa a Fe AX At AL AI S Ss 3 C PROS) RAR $s ra [ANNE HIRST "Dear Anne Hirst: I am a miserable creature, although I have a husband and two fine babies, All around me I see mar- rled couples so happy together -- but my husband is more like a brother to me, and I do not believe I can stand it any longer ... It is my own fault. I mar- ried in my early teens only be- cause all my friends were en- gaged or had husbands, and I just made up my mind I wouldn't be left out. I looked around and I selected a man like I'd get a good coat; I hoped he would wear well. ' "He has. He is good to me and thé children, and I have stayed on hoping I could learn to love him, I haven't, and my heart is still without love. I have no other reason to leave him, but I am beginning to think I am do- ing us both an injustice by liv- ing this way. I have missed something really essential to a happy life, and 1 am getting more and more dissatisfied. "Am 1 doomed to live on and on without ever knowing the thrills of love? I will be grateful for your opinion, . . . Your col- umn helped me a lot in other things. MISERABLE" FUTILE HOPE * You are the victim of your * own folly, and I am sorry for ® you. I cannot hold out any hope * for a different future unless ® you change your desires. You * took on your role deliberate- ® ly and you are duty bound to ¢ play it through, to be the best * wife you can to the man who ® loves you so much, and to raise ¢ the children who look to you * both for love and guidance. * Can you picture what would ® happen if you left your hus- ® band, took the children and * went your own way? A more ® hazardous ambition I cannot ¢ imagine. What if you did not ¢ find love? Now you are at least ® spared 'the frustration that ¢ would follow; you have no * idea of the disillusion that * would mean, nor how passion- ® ately you would wish you had * stayed home where you belong. ® Compared with other mar- ® riages, your own is not un- ¢ endurable. Your husband is a * happy man, well satisfied with ® his' wife and his family. Un- ® less and until he misses what ® you have not been able to give, * why not live one day at a ® time? His well-being and the ® comfort you find in your chil- ® dren can mitigate 'in a large ® measure this discontent that ® is draining your energies. Love Extra-Easy to Sew PRINTED PATTERN Just THREE main pattern papts -- cut out and stitch up "basie beauty in record time. Wear it as a jumper by day, an alluring dress Choose cotton tweed or benga- line, . Printed Pattern. 4912: Misses' .Blzes 10, 12, 14, 16, 18. Size 16 takes 1% yards 64-inch fabric. Printed directions on each - pattern part.' Easier, accurate, Send FIFTY CENTS (50¢) (stamps cannot be accepted, use postal note for safety) for this at . Please print . plainly , NAME, ADDRESS, STYLE NUMBER. Send order to ANNE ADAMS, Box 1, 128 Eighteenth St, New Toronto, Ont. - b 8 for dates. ® is, I agree, one of the essentials ® of a completely happy mar- * riage, but if it is denied one * can look about for compensa- tions and find them. Your longing is natural, but it is futile. Far ahead of your personal happiness stand the responsibilities you voluntarily assumed. Reconcile yourself to them, and set your heart on a different pinnacle -- the con- tentment of this good husband you have and the growing sat- isfaction you will know in your children, That aim will, bring a spiritual peace you have never known. to Going to church. regularly should bring new courage, and its affairs and those of your community will keep your mind in more rewarding chan- nels. ® @ 0 ® 0 © ¢ 0a" 00 0 0 0 gg 0 0» + * . ADOLESCENT HUSBAND "Dear Anne Hirst: For the first two years of our 'marriage I was happy with my husband-- + until I found he is just a simple liar. I believe it is because he is so-ignorant, and. tries to cover up with inadequate falsehoods. He says nasty things about all my family except my father, whom he seems to respect. Though I was brought up in a Christian home and am still a Sunday School teacher, my char- ity is about exhausted. He gets angry at me for nothing at all, and for days will not speak, I still love him, but if he doesn't stop being so hard to live with I'm afraid there will soon be no love left. "] agree that the man should" be the head of his house, but not tothe extent that his wife becomes a slave. He is so un- reasonable and unpredictable that I live with nerves that are at the breaking point. I have been a good wife and 1 am a good mother, but I am just about through . . . Can 1 do anything that I have not? AT THE END" + Why don't you ask your fa- * ther to have a man-to-man + talk with your husband? You * say he knew your family * three years before he married ¢ you, and he must have sensed * their background and their * kindness to one another. I ex- * pect his criticism stems from + the knowledge of his inferi- * ority, but he should at least * be outwardly loyal. * You will have to stop being * hurt, You cannot stop his » crude c¢omments, for they * bring him a certain relief. Try * to remember that he doesn't * know better. He seems not to * have grown up, for to allow * a disagreement to silence him ¢ for days is childish. To keep * him amiable you may have to * flatter him, and you are smart * enough to find a few reasons * to do that; he must be de- * ferred to in some degree. He + resents the consideration and ¢ respect which your church * and' your friends show you. _¢ Be-grateful that they do, and + overlook his jealousy. ¢ Since he honours your fa- * ther, it may be that the older * man will be able to alter your * husband's outlook to some ex- * tent. Try it. [J - + If you cannot have what you most desire, get the most out of what you have and {feel new gratitude for your blessings. 'Anne Hirst can help you appre- ciate them more fully. Write her at Box 1, 123 Eighteenth St., New Toronto, Ont. "Dad, what's an opportunist?" "He's a man who makes hay with the grass you've let grow under your feet." for WHO YOU? - Ready for the worst is this Marine wearing modern, cold - weather battle dress. - Ballistic helmet shell, made of the same material used in armored vests, 'is designed to replace tha helmet now In use. Other items are face mask, cold-weather liner and snow glasses, - < Monty Eats Crow When Field Marshal Viscount Montgomery pulls a boner, it's a big. one, and when he eats crow, it's a big bird. Thus, the crusty old (71) soldier found himself confronted -with an apol- ogy to 12, 205,535 Britons -- all those who voted for the Labor Party in the recent general elec- tion. Montgomery, with pre- election Tory fervor, had said that all Labor voters were "barmy and should be locked up in a lunatic asylum." In a post- election apology, Monty recant- ed: "Sometimes when you make speeches, you say things you don't mean, It's rather a laugh at the time." But Laborites still didn't get the joke: 50 Labor members of the Bolton, England, "town council boycotted a civic luncheon. for the field marshal. And Earl Mountbatten, Britain's Chief of the Defense Staff, com- mented: "If Montgomery had been on active duty, he would have had his head examined." Princess Steps Out One of the most accomplished dancers in our Royal Family is Princess Margaret. She loves dancing so much that she has been called the Dancing Prin- cess. ' Her skill as a dancer stems from her dancing studies with the Queen when they were small girls.- Once every week their parents Had one of the sitting- rooms at their home in Picca- dilly, London, transformed into a ballroom where the two golden- haired princesses learned waltzes and reels. These were alternated with music to which the little girls happily sang nursery rhymes. } To-day Princess Margaret is a versatile "ballroom dancer. She has a remarkable flair for learn- ing complicated new quickly. Although she is fond of modern rhythms, the old-style Scottish and English country numbers also charm and delight her. NEW HAIRDO -- Princess Marg- aret sports a new hairdo -- reminiscent of the "roaring twenties" -- as she visits the 'Bermondsey Youth Club in Lon- don. A French newspaper re- cently reported that the Prin- cess would announce her en- gagement to Canadian lawyer John Turner 'with the permis- sion of the Queen, despite re- liglous differences. British court circles denied the report. Diamonds Don't Like It Wet Eyes are sparkling in the dia- mond industry this year. There are signs all over the world that 1959 may prove a record year for sales of gem and industrial dia- monds. ' One great diamond - selling organization has sold nearly $75,000,000 worth of diamonds on behalf of South African and other producers in three months. The increase in sales of, indus- trial diamonds is described as "dramatic." \ : Diamonds are used industrially "for precision work, boring, grind- ing and cutting, for the diamond is" so much harder than anything else. ' A large motor company in the, United States uses 1,000 dia- monds to turn machine parts. In almost every branch of en- gineering diamond tools are now used to manufacture bearings, piston rings, axle shafts and, en- gines. Diamonds, like people, are "sometimes moody. They react to the state of the weather and they can temporarily lose their lus- tre. When this happens they are sent to a gem or, One of these Hatton Garden, London, experts treated stones to the value of $10 million in a single year. Square.shaped, round - shaped or pear-shaped, diamonds to-day are the bes' investment in the world, declare dealers. Most women, especially brides-to-be, prefer a flashy diamond with flaws to a flawless smaller stone, sald a prominent dealer recent. ly. steps ' ! é 5 BE, vo 0 4 Xs STEP LIVELY, WALLFLOWER -- Sarah Brockelt's hat dance may not be authentic. After all, she's from and a farm girl to boot. version INGER Sandor b. i Clarke Studying a crowd of people is always interesting but I think last Friday I found the most in- triguing group it has been my lot to observe. I went to "Medi- scope" -- the display and demon- stration that was put on by the Ontario Medical Association in Toronto. I found it intensely in- teresting and most informative. And the crowds . . ..the officials themselves were floored by the numbers who turned up to see what they had to offer. And it was all free -- you couldn't spend money if you wanted to. It was even-hard to find a place to buy a sandwich. Actually there were two small stands but they weren't very obvious. 1 watched the people passing . . . mothers with babies; high school students; nuns; middle- age folk, singly or in pairs; an occasional onlooker in a wheel- chair and also the very old. What brought them there in such numbers, I wondered? = Was it . curiosity, a thirst for knowledge or a genuine desire to know what goes on inside our human body? 1 have a feeling it was the latter. Not all displays at- tracted equal attention but I noticed there was always a greater crowd wherever there wag any practical demonstration. 'For instance , by means of a spe- clal stethoscope you could hear your' own hear beat, or by a 'contraption over the ears you could test your own hearing ability. There was also a Geiger counter showing its reaction when placed over - radio-active and non-radio-active = material. For this purpose chunks.of rocks were used, one containing: a fair amount of uranium ore, There were books showing household equipment for paraplegics or otherwise disabled persons. One booth demonstrated various types of anaesthetics. I never did get close to either of those .two. Of course the great attraction was "The Birth of a Baby". Each time I went past the enclosure there was a terrific Jine-up and it was not until the third or . fourth®time I'd decided to take my chance with the rest and wait, But I did not find the wait- ing too tedious because I was go entensely interested in watch ing others in the. queue. Next to me were two ministers, sever- al nuns, an elderly couple and four or five high school students horsing around in the approved fashion -- approved, that'is, by their own fraternity. I resented their. attitude. Here we were, waiting to get in to a demon- stration of the 'great Miracle of - Life and all thsse young gaffers could do was show uns2emingly _ tures. and plastic models, show- "ments of any kind. They were "or say almost anything to hide levity. I had no idea' what we were likely to see -- that is, the form it would take -- but what- ever it was I felt it should be given the respect it deserved, Well, I need not have worried. The display was mostly in ple- ing the growth of a baby from its inception 'to birth. And do . you know, from the minute we entered the small building the young folk were all attention. . No talking, no unseemly com- genuinely interested and moved slowly and reluctantly along. Nor was there anything in the exhibit that was unfit for the the youngest child to see. After all the actual birth of young animals is no secret to children on a farm so why should they be denied the knowledge of how the young gradually grow until they are ready to leave the pro: tective shelter of their mother's body. As the youngsters left the building there may have been a few quips realtive to what they had seen but we have to remem- ber that young people will do their real feelings. Later in' my wanderings I heard a lot of talking and thought I must be nearing ran- other demonstration so I kept going in 'the direction of the voice. It was anything but a dem-' onstration! I found a small booth -- or stall -- whatever you like to 'call it, devoted to geriatics -- that is, to the care and light work that. can: be: undertaken by. the aged -- either in homes for the aged-or, in pri- vate homes, The talker, how- ever, wasn't the doctor in charge but 'a garrulous old lady! The poor soul was airing all her greivances -- homes for the: aged, the old age pension and how, few extras it covered. She had been a practi- cal nurse in her time and thought she should be allowed to help look after the other résid- ents in the home, She resented the fact that she was not allow- ed to bring her two trunks with her. "I'm sorry," the admittance nurse had said, "no. {runks al- lowed. What have you in them, anyway?" : "What's. in» them?" lady told her "clothes, that's what. I.don't see the old, you nurses running around in the nude so why shouldn't I have my clothes? And there's a num- ber of sickroom utensils 'you could make use of that I'd let. you have for free -. Well, the poor. dear ran on like that at great length. I came of, Pacific_coast forest ,the sea bottom in the hold of , steel ships. fiance or someone she knows about doctors, indignantly, Canadian Ald For British Forests Because far-sighted foresters sent to the United Kingdom shortly after World War I large quantities of seeds and seedlings species, | a serious wood I tain is being overcome. In Scotland, plans are going forward for a pulp mill whose raw materials will be derived largely from coniferous forests resulting from the vigorous young growth which originated in British Columbia, many thou- sands of miles distant. Forests were an important na- tional asset in Britain until the Napoleonic wars, but the inven-. tion and widespread use of iron ships led to their neglect, For- est productivity throughout the United Kingdom declined, and the country became increasingly dependent on the Baltic coun- tries, Canada, and other outside sources of supply. World War I emphasized Bri- tain's desperate need for wood, and the situation was intensi- fied by the casualties suffered by shipping. Many cargo ships carrying vitally needed lumber were sunk, and their precious fregiht floated away, or sank to Foresters in Britain and over- seas sought to prevent a repeti- tion of this danger by carrying out an extensive tree-planting program in many parts of the British Columbia's coastal' area that would be suitable as the foundation for Britain's post war timber supply. Douglas fir, west- ern cedar, hemlock. and spruce were planted, and almost invari. ably the seedlings grew. into héalthy trees, "writes Charles Shaw in The" Christian' Science 'Monitor. : : Today, nearly one-third of the United Kingdom's. lumber -out- put is. from trees planted in the form .of seed or seedlings from the Pacific coast. The trees have grown particularly well in the warmer and wetter parts of Bri- tain, according-to Bernard Ren- dle, one of 40 botanists from overseas - who .made a tour of British Columbia 'woods: re- cently. The British government is' the largest owner of forest-lands in the United Kingdom; says Mr, Rendle, because the industry re- -- from 30 to 50 years, and the average individual or corpora- tion cannot wait that long. In most cases forests have been planted on ground that has proven unsatisfactory for agri. culture -- much of it in the north of England and Scotland. Modern Etiquette by Roberta Lee Q. When one has finished eal- ing cereal, should: the spoon. be left in the cereal bowl? A. No; place it .on the saucer under the bowl. Q. Who goes first: down the aisle of a motion picture theater, the man or the woman? A. The woman precedes. And unless she is with her: husband, =F back a second time and she was just moving away. As I watched her: go I thought -- "There, if ever there was one, goes an un- loved and unwanted soul" She probably means well but it is relatives to stand 'such a 'gar- rulous tongue. I also thought, as _ we should all think: upon such ' occasions -- "There, but for presents a long-term investment - beyond the human endurance of . grace of God, go 1." the - A a, ee EF tame ix she should turn' and ask, "Is this all'right?" This gives him a chance -- should he be near or farsighted, to suggest a seat that is closer or... farther away. Q. At a small informal wed- ding, is it all right for the down the aisle together? A. Yes, it the wedding is small and the bride has no near male relative to walk with her. Q. We've been having a little argument as to whose place it is to speak first when meeting on the street, the man or the wo- man. Will you please settle this for us? A. Once upon a time, it was the "lady" who always spoke first. But today, if they are good friends, there's nothing at all wrong with the man's speaking first. Q. Should the used silverware be gathered up before removing the plates from the dinner table? A. No; the silver should be left on the plates, and all re- moved from the table together. Q. Hf a knife has not been used during a meal, should it be. pick- ed up at the end of the meal and with the fork-across the "plate so that it will be taken ou¥ when the plate is removed?' A. No; it should remain: where it is on the table. Easy Chill-Chasers >t! Be smart! Get set now. for frosty days ahead. Tassel-cap for sister -- helmet for brother. Easy-knit cap 'n' mitten: sets in garter stitch, contrast cable- trim sewn on separately. Pat- tern 948: directions to fit 1, 2, 3 year old children included. Send THIRTY - FIVE CENTS (stamps cannot be accepted, use postal note for safety) for this pattern to Laura Wheeler, Box 1, 123 Eighteenth St.,, New Tor- onto, Ont. Print plainly PAT- --| TERN NUMBER, y our NAME and ADDRESS. ~ Send for} a copy of 1959 Laura Wheeler Needlecraft Book. It has lovely designs 'to order: embroidery, crochet, knitting, weaving, quilting, toys. In the book, a special surprise to make a little girl happy. -- a cut-out doll, clothes to: colour. Send 23 cents for this book. ; : bE ISSUE 45 -- 1959 brides aiid --bridegroom to wakkk-- »------- pen ETERNAL CITY -- When in Rome, future tourists will be able o walk the 'streets as they were in ancient times, The city, will be a model with streets the size of sidewalks, Here, a woman checks the miniature Colosseum, = HT SRE