BN Foal dl REAR Romano a Sr WR EA AS rie CISA ES) SN It may be ironic, but December and January are the busiest months for Scugog family counsellor Charlie Norris. : Mr. Norris, who works for the Durham Region Social Services department out of a small office on North Street in Port Perry, told the Star in a recent interview that the number of cases increases during these two months, and there are several reasons for it, he believes. "December and the Christ- mas season is supposed to be a happy time of year for families," he explained. "People build very high expectations around Christ- mas for family activities, and problems develop when these expectations are not met." The Christmas season can also lead to family stress because of financial reasons. Parents may not be able to afford all the gifts their children want. And in Janu- ary, people tend to have financial troubles when the Christmas bills come due. Mr. Norris, who has been a family counsellor in Scugog for more than three years, says that Christmas is not the only time when money (or lack of it) leads to marital and family tensions. "When you really dig into family problems, you find that finances are often at the Utica area news by Vera Brown Church service this week is at Epsom at 11:30 a.m. The U.C.W. will hold their monthly meeting at- Epsom Church on Tuesday, Febru- ary 10th at 8 p.m. All ladies are welcome. The Sessions and Stewards will meet on Thursday 8 p.m. (February 5) in Epsom Church. Epsom Church. The - Annual Hall Board meeting will be held on Sunday, February 8th at 2 p.m. at which time all members of the community are welcome to attend. Sympathy of the commun- ity to Mr. and Mrs. Lorne iv Canadian Radio-television and ealione C sel Conseil de la radiodiffusion et des PUBLIC NOTICE The CRTC has received the following application. UXBRIDGE, PORT PERRY, PRINCE ALBERT and MAN- CHESTER, Ont. and surround- ing area: Application (8025- 96700) by Compton Cable TV Ltd. to amend its cable television broadcasting li- cence for the above-men- tioned locations, by increas- ing its maximum monthly fee from $6. to $7. and the max- imum installation fee from $15. to $25. The date of the last fee increase was 1 April 1978 (Decision CRTC 78-126). The applicant has requested that the effective date of in- crease be 1 April 1981. The application may be examined at 159 Casimir St., Port Perry. Examination of Documents: documents are available for examination during normal office hours. The examination files may be inspected at the local addresses shown and at CRTC, Central Building, Les Terrasses de la Chaud- iere, Room 561, 1 Promen- ade du Portage, Hull Que. Intervention: any interested person may submit a written intervention to the Secretary General, CRTC, Ottawa, Ont. K1A ON2 and by serving a true copy of the intervention upon the applicant on or be- fore 2 March 1981. The in- tervention shall contain a clear'and concise statement of the relevant facts and the grounds upon which the in- tervenor's support for, op- position to or proposed mod- ification of the application is based. The postal or mes- senger receipt should be at- tached to the copy for the CRTC giving proof that the applicant has received its copy. (PN-5) fel Canada Slute and family in the recent passing of her mother Mrs. Sadler of Pickering. Euchre results this week - Ladies - 1st-Dora Geer, 2nd - Blanche Tindall, and low to Edna Kerry. Gents - 1st - Herman Kerry, 2nd-Harold McDiarmid, and low to Helen Goslin. Freeze-out winners were Grant Bright and Cari Bell-1st with Bill Carnegie and Doris Devlin coming in second. There will be another euchre in two weeks. Mr. and Mrs. Jack Hinch- cliffe of Toronto were visit- ors with Mr. and Mrs. Eric Carre and children on the weekend. Master Kevin Carre and Miss Sarah Croxall attended a birthday party on Saturday for Master Danny Powell of Epsom. Mrs. Bessie MacCannell, Mrs. Jessie Holley and her daughter, were in the village on Friday and visited with Mrs. Ray MacDonald. We would like to welcome the new neighbours who have moved into the MacCannell home. Mr. and Mrs. William Brown were Sunday dinner guests with Mr. and Mrs. Dennis Gerrow and Jeremy in Oshawa. ann EE TY root of them," he says. Mr. Norris, a soft-spoken and easy going man who holds a bachelor's degree in social work from Western University and a Master's degree from Wilfred Laurier says his case-load in Scugog- is increasing every year to the point where there now is a waiting list for appoint- ments. In 1980, he dealt with 110 different family or individual cases. They include all kinds of human problems such as marriage breakdown, alcoholism, lack of commun- ication between husband and wife, in-laws, juveniles in trouble with the law, teen- agers who move away from home because they can't get along with their parents, unemployment, or job- related stresses. Because the nature of his job as a family counsellor demands the utmost descret- ion and confidentially, Mr. Norris goes to considerable lengths to assure that the people who come to him feel as comfortable as possible. His office is very low key, almost to the point of being sparse. He will meet with people in their homes if they don't feel comfortable about coming to the office in the former MacMaster house on North Street, now owned by the Township. "There are some miscon- ceptions about family counselling," he says. "I am not a psychiatrist or a psychologist. I try to listen and suggest alternatives to the situation which is creat- ing problems." Quite often, it does not take much to put a relationship back on the right track. People sometimes can't see the positive aspects when negative aspects are dominating a situation, he says. Mr. Norris believes the single most important ingredient in a successful relationship between two people or a family group is communications. 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One of the aspects of his work he finds increasingly alarming these days, is the number of young teen-agers moving away from home. He refers to 15 and 16-year olds and says: 'Where are they going to go? What are they going to do with their lives?" But sometimes in cases like this, moving away from home is "a cry for help." "They are looking for help. They want somebody to try and correct the situation," he says. Although some of the people he sees seek family or individual counselling on their own, others are referr- ed by their family doctors, welfare agencies, the schools, the police youth bureau, or by friends. On average, once a week counselling sessions will go on for 14 weeks, but some- times can go on for up to a year. "It is important to take time to build trust, to make suggestions for change, and give these a chance to work", says Mr. Norris. There is a fee for the counselling services, accord- ing to the ability to pay, but Mr. Norris says that nobody who seeks help is turned away because of inability to pay. i Modern society in the 1980's creates innumerable sources of tension and stress for families and individuals. Whether there is more today than there was 30 years ago is open to debate. But one thing is certain: attitudes towards these kinds of problems and how to deal with them are changing. rham's Social Services ANA Sd mba SAS ns apni Bel Sid » 7 LEEE A EPH LS) Te Fa BA Ll A 4 / I ¢ SY PORT PERRY STAR -- Wed., February 4, 1981 -- 21 department puts out a pamphlet describing the kind of services available and in bold letters on the front are the words: "Seek- ing family counselling is a sign of strength." For more information contact the Scugog office at 985-7665. Scugog family counsellor Charlie Norris. He says that December and January are busy months because financial pressures on families tend to increase. 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