Hold "Stress Management" Seminar SECTION 2 - PAGE 5 - PI AINDEA1 ,FR - FRIDAY, MARCH 9,1979 Dr. James W. Bidle will discuss stress management on March 13 A 14 in a seminar which will be held at the Ukeside center in Crystal Lake. Dr. Bidle is senior minister of the First Congregational church of Crystal Lake. BY JOSEPH COOLS staff psychologist . news from the Family Service and Mental Health Clinic of McHenry County. (Editor's note: This is another in a series of espcially written articles for McHenry County readers. Joseph Cools is a psychologist on the Family Service and Community Mental Health Center staff. This ar ticle is "Coping - Parents' Expectations of Children Many parents today are so conscious of wanting their children to have a free choice in a decision of vocational goals and schooling that they may believe that they do not have any real expectations of the child. Most parents, however, are very much invested in what choices the child makes and usually do have very definite preferences as to which direction the child may take. If a lawyer has a son who wants to be an auto mechanic, it may take a great deal of effort for the lawyer to hide his disappointment. The lawyer may make this effort if he is under the impression that a negative attitude puts unfair pressure on his son. What may not be so evident is that the father's attitude, particulary if there is a close relationship between father and son, will come out indirectly. The relationship may become strained, without either becoming aware of the reasons why. Expectations that parents Henry W. Block "If the IRS calls you in, well go with you. No extra charger When we prepare your return, we stand behind our work. So if the IRS should call you in, H&R Block will go along with you at no charge. Not as your legal representative, but to answer any questions about how your taxes were prepared. That's another rea son why we should do your taxes.. .which ever form you use, short or long. H&R BLOCK THE INCOME TAX PEOPLE HARVARD 302 W. Digging PHon« 943-6410 OPEN WEEKDAYS 9-6. SAT. 9S EVE. & SUN. BY APPOINTMENT MARENGO 220 S. Stat* Phon* 568-6363 OPEN WEEKDAYS 9-9. SAT. 9S SUNDAYS BY APPOINTMENT McHENRY UNDER NEW MANAGEMENT i 1308 N. Park Phon# 386-8830 OUR OFFICE HAS MOVED TO SERVE YOU BETTER OPEN WEEKDAYS 9-8, SAT. 9-6 APPOINTMENTS AVAILABLE 110W. Calhoun WOODSTOCK Phon« 338-3330 OPEN WEEKDAYS »8, SAT. 9-S APPOINTMENTS AVAILABLE Stress is an inevitable part of every day life. People who live their life to its fullest have learned to minimize the effects of stress. Dr. James W. Bidle will discuss stress management on March 13 and 14 in a seminar which will be held at the Lakeside center in Crystal Lake. The seminar is being sponsored by the McHenry County Chambers of Com merce and McHenry County college. Participants will learn to identify causes of stress, feduce stress on the job, relax the body, practice principles for a longer life, deal with stress caused by family and avoid fears of failure. Dr. Bidle is senior minister of the First Congregational church of Crystal Lake. He holds degrees from the College of Wooster, Oberlin Graduate School of Theology, and Van- derbilt university. He is a member of the Chicago Theological seminar Advisory Board of Continuing Education. Dr. Bidle has appeared on numerous radio and television programs as a popular lecturer on such subjects as values clarification, motivation, and church and industry management. He has also contributed many articles to magazines and newspapers. The seminar will run March 13 from 6 to TO p.m. and March 14 from 8 a.m. to 4 p.m. Overnight accommodations, included in the price, are available at the Lakeside center and participants are encouraged to stay overnight to get Total benefit from the seminar. To register call McHenry County college, or the McHenry Chamber of Com merce office. Perspective THE FACULTY STRIKE Bv RONALD RKAGAN Illinois Nurses' Week have of their children are a normal consequence of parenting. If the parent really believes that the child has a right to make decisions about his or her own life, the conflict can be resolved. The parent must feel free to talk to the child about these expectations and the reasons for them, making it very clear to the child that the expectations are based on the parents' needs and that these needs do not have to be met by the child in order to retain the parent's love. The conflict between parental expectations and the child's right to make his or her own decisions is only resolvable if both feel comfortable in discussing the differences. Hidden resentments have more insidious but no less powerful influences on people's decisions than more direct, open conflict. Conflict between two people can only be resolved if both are aware of the conflict and strong enough to deal with it directlv. No one likes to admit that they are being unreasonable, so it may be easier for a parent to remember that it is not the expectations they may have that are unreasonable. The real harm occurs when the child has the feeling that the only way to earn parents' respect is to live up to those expectations. Next: Child Abuse Citing the "unique and im portant role of nurses in our modern world," Governor James R. Thompson recently proclaimed Maj-ch 11 through 17 Illinois Nurses' week. The annual week long celebration honoring the state's 80,000 registered nurses is sponsored by the Illinois Nurses' association. Using the theme "Nursing - Changing to Meet Soceity's Needs," INA local district organizations across the state will conduct special activities emphasizing the continuing contributions of the nursing profession and calling public attention to the essential and varied roles nurses play in providing quality health care for all citizens. Modern nurses are highly- s k i l l e d , w e l l - e d u c a t e d professionals working in many settings and capacities.' Through their professional organization, the INA, Illinois nurses work together to promote passage of health care legislation, to improve stan dards of nursing education and patient care and to recruit more nurses into the profession. 1979 marks the twentieth consecutive year that the INA has sponsored Illinois Nurses' week. Ronald Trowbridge has not led a very exciting life, at least not the kind about which novels are written and movies made. He earned his doctorate in English Language and Literature at the Univeristy of Michigan some years ago, and for the past 14 years he has been a professor of English at Eastern Michigan university. He has edited an academic journal in his field, and has served on the Ann Arbor City Council But last September Ronald Trowbridge became involved in what was for him a very tense and unhappy event -- a faculty strike. Now the professors at Eastern Michigan university are not quite the downtrodden proletariat that Marx and Engels wrote about. Dr. Trowbridge characterizes teaching at Eastern Michigan as "semi-retiremeht". The pay was good, especially since most professors worked only about 25 hours a week. The work was, as they say, "indoors, out-of- the-weather, and no heavy lifting". Yet many of the faculty members were determined to strike for a one- year pay increase of 20 percent. More important for many of them, they demanded an agency shop, where every faculty member would be required to pay into the treasury of the teachers' union. Only 300 of the 660 faculty members were members of the union, but they struck to force their demands on the majority who did not wish to participate. Prof. Trowbridge refused to strike. For one thing, the strike was illegal under Michigan law. For another, he believed he and his fellow professors were already fairly paid for the amount of work performed. So on the day of the strike, he marched across the picket line into his classroom. As aTXIStter of conscience, he would not stay home and pretend to be "ill" - he would go to class and do the work he was being well-paid to do. Dr. Trowbridge was astonished at the oaths directed toward him from his friends and colleagues of 14 years who walked in the picket line. Here were distinguished, silver- h a i r e d , p i p e - s m o k i n g professors, who just a week before had been expounding on the works of Milton and Shakespeare, cursing him in the vilest language. He was reminded, Dr. Trowbridge said later, of the villain Iago in Shakespeare's Othello, who hated the good Cassio. Said Iago, "He hath a daily beauty in his life that makes me ugly ." Dr. Trowbridge was terribly saddened at the vicious behavior of his colleagues toward him when his only crime had been to obey his conscience, work for his salary, and observe the laws of the state of Michigan. But there was one thing which revived his faith in mankind. One day, when he entered his classroom, expecting to find only a handful of the 300 enrolled students, he was astonished to see 250 cf them in their places. He said, "At the moment that these students saw that I had had the courage to brave a picket line that had even harassed them, they broke into an unsolicited, thunderous round of applause." The strike ended after two weeks, with the faculty winning a 5 3 percent pay raise and a modified version of the agency shop they sought. But, after seeing what kind of men and women his colleagues had become on the picket line. Prof. Trowbridge decided to leave Eastern Michigan for Hillsdale college, a small liberal arts school that prizes individual liberty and conscience. But what he learned about human nature at Eastern Michigan, Ronald Trowbridge will never forget. PUNCH LINE DON'T, THE BAD THING ABOUT GOOD ADVICE IS THAT IT USUALLY INTERFERES WITH OUR PLANS. 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