4 ' " ! *M •'.• -..v.-. ;• w-h - -r-" L W» An Answer Norman Vincent Peale and orfllVale) ____ ;*!SSEf< It Breaks Her Heart Q. Please help me And a way to communicate with my son. He's a doctor in another state. He doesn't answer my letters and Won't talk when I call him. I lovf him so much, and it breaka my heart when he doesn't tell me what I have done to make him unhappy.' We were always a hippy, close family. 1 pray for him day and night. , . A. Perhaps your best strategy might be not to write or call your son. Just love him in absentia and pray for him. Could be you have over-mama'd him and he is rejecting it. As long as he won't tell you why he reacts with silence, try to figure it out for yourself. Then surprise him by becoming a different sort of mother. Perhaps you will find help in our booklet, Help Yourself With God's Help, which is on ita way to you. Anyone wishing a free copy may write to us at Box 500, Pawling, N.Y. 12564. Safety Of Wife Comes First Q. I read with interest and concern your response to a woman whose husband had beaten her severely. Your suggestion of ways she could become a "different kind of person" ignores the very real danger of her situation. Statistics show that beatings of a spouse tend to increase in both frequency and severity as time goes on. All too often this spiral of violence ends in murder. In order to break the cycle of violence the victim must take concrete steps to communicate to her husband that she will no longer accept violent behavior. A shelter or sanctuary with friends can make it possibly for her to be safe until her husband makes a commitment and begins to change. If, after the violence has ' stopped, both partners are committed to making the marriage work, personal change and marriage counseling can be very effective. 1 Information about shelters and hot-lines can be obtained by contacting the National Coalition Against Domestic Violence, c-o Cynthia Dames, NCADV, P.O. "Box 1501, Santa Fe, New Mexico 87501. Information is also available from local mental health services or a local chapter of the National Organization for Women. - A. Although we feel our answer was appropriate As far as it went, yours takes it further in a very practical and helpful manner. Thank you for your concern and for putting that concern in action. Did He Do Wroag? , Q. Two years ago my wife and I were divorced. I have since been remarried to the most wonderful and understanding person you ever saw. Her man left her for another woman. We get along wonderful and I'm happier than I thought I could ever be. My teenage kids are crazy about my wife. She is more a mother to. them than their own mother. My stepson worships me, and I love him as my own; We are both dedicated church members. Did I do wrong to try to make a new life for myself? Are we supposed to go on together? A. The reservations you now have should have been faced before you married a second time. Now that you have a happy marriage and a happy home is not time to let any guilt feelings disturb the situation. If you feel you did anything wrong, ask God to forgive you, forgive yourself, and leave it all in God's hands. If there is something you would like to ask Dr. and Mrs. Peale to discuss in this column, write to them in care of Box 500, Pawling, N.Y. 12564. For a recorded message of inspiration and prayer by Dr. Peale call Dial-A-Prayer (914) 855-5111 at any time of the day or night. Reduced toll rates take effect evenings and weekends. (Barbara) Miller, 5510 Harts road, Ringwood, had their first child, Erin Susan,<^July 23, at Woodstock Memoria l hospital.The 9 lb 2X > oz. girl is the first grandchild for paternal grandparents, Mr. and Mrs. Alfred Miller of Ringwood, and the third grandchild for Mr. and Mrs. Walter Blum of Dixon. Mrs. Miller is a teacher at McHenry West campus high school. Jessica Anne is the name selected by Jackie and Scott Hildebrandt, 3604 Long street, Johnsburg, for their first child, born July 23 at McHenry hospital. Little Jessica weighed 6 lbs. 14 oz. Maternal grandparents are William and Carolyn Holmes, McHenry. Paternal grandmother, also of McHenry, is June Hildebrandt. Herbert and Wielsine Lewerentz, 8922 Sunset drive, Wonder Lake, had their first son. 10 lb. 6 oz. Robert Burns, July 29, in McHenry hospital. Older sister, Donna, is 28 months. Dorothy Kaminski of Crystal Lake is the matental grandmother. Mr. and Mrs. C. Reamer of Michigan are the paternal grandparents.- Among recent births recorded in Memorial hospital for McHenry county, Wood stock, were the following area births: July 29, a daughter was born to Mr. and Mrs. Edward McGeHee of Spring Grove, and a daughter was bom to Mr. and Mrs.' Randall Rodiek of McHenry. Mrs., and Mrs. Edward r HOSPITAL NOTES MCHENRY Admissions: Bruce Smith of McHenry. *- WOODSTOCK MEMORIAL Admissions: Baby Christi Chambers, Mrs. Agnes Voss, Master Morgan Topolski, Donald Campbell, Mrs. Mary Siebeck, Baby Andrew Nelleson, Mrs. Marjorie Brodin and Master Brian Williams, all of McHenry; Mrs. Bettie Winston, Mrs. Adah Yetter, Mrs. Verna Turner, Mrs. Vickie Gleason and Mrs. Mary Gebert. all of Wonder Lake; and Miss Marie Calmus of Spring Grove. ° < Fondue Tips Fondae pots can be used for any meal or snack. For example, ^ dipping bread into a cheese fondue or banana chunks into a chocolate one. FIFTY YEARS AGO (Taken from the files of August l, 1929) Demand for lots in "Shalimar", Fox river's super subdivision located one mile north of McHenry, has in creased to such an extent during the summer season this year that there are now but 15 available lots for sale at this time. This subdivision is one of the most beautiful along the Fox river, being formerly the Streuh sanitarium grounds. The annual ball in honor of Commodore and Mrs. Frank E. Lackowski was attended by the largest crowd ever assembled at the Pistakee Yacht club. After the ball Commodore and Mrs. Lackowski en ter tained most royally g number of guests. In the grand march during the ball, many former commodpres of the club appeared. Work is progressing on the dredging of Boone creek and the mill dam is being taken out. The channel of the creek is being changed slightly and the pond has already become green with grass and weeds. The work is being done in preparation for a new sub division which is being managed by. Kent and com pany. FORTY YEARS AGO (Taken from the files of August 10, 1939) ; , Perhaps of greatest interest in the August meeting of the City Council was their decision to assist the property holders in building new sidewalks. The need of new walks in certain sections has been recognized for several years. However the expense involved has seemed too much for many property holders to assume. Last year it was hoped that WPA assistance could be secured, but the project never took form. The council has decided to pay 5 cents per running foot on 4-foot sidewalks approved by the committee. Property holders desiring to make such im provements should make ap plication in the clerk's office. Much interest and ex citement abounds at the local tennis courts as play started to determine the winners of the Lions club trophies. Fourteen girls and fifteen men entered their respective tournaments and some of the first round matches have already been played off. McHenry has always ^ruiiked with towns many times its size in this sport and it is hoped that by these annual tournaments this fine brand of tennis may continue to be played. TWENTY-FIVE YEARS AGO (Taken from the files of August 5, 1954) The City Council took an important step in a program which will eventually result in enlargement of the present sewage disposal plant by en tering into an agreement with the Ballman and Main bonding firm for a complete study of ways to f inance the im provement. Since the present plant has reached its capacity, the city is not permitted to allow further extensions. This brings about a problem since certain sections in the city now wish to extend the mains for sewer service and new sub- WSvenWooda with a hand-loomed looks Stale Ends Aug. 24th The Joanna Classic Collection of Woven Woods is the perfect way to satisfy today's decorating needs. Using yarns with the natural lode of cotton, linen, hemp and jute, and combining them with the important colors in decorating--the pastels, the new greens, the golds and high-style navy blues and grays, these Woven Woods are especially suitable in today's functional, easy-to- live-with casual decors. And, only Joanna offers them in 30 unique patterns. 4720W.RTE.120, McHENRY, III. of cMccMcnxij 385-1116 divisions are at a standstill until such time as actual . construction has started at the plant. Cadet Jack J. Justen, son of Mr. and Mrs. John R. Justen, graduated from the reserve officers training corps summer camp at Fort Bliss, Tex. Cadet Justen, a senior student at the University of Illinois, par ticipated in the six-week 1954 ROTC summer camp which is conducted annually for all senior ROTO cadets Who have been selected to specialize in the Army's anti-aircraft ar tillery branch. TEN YEARS AGO (Taken from the files of July 30, 1969) -V Three burglaries over the weekend were reported to the McHenry county sheriff's department from " within the McHenry area. With a^ collector's value of $5,000 a coin collection worth $300 in face value was among the goods stolen from the home of Harold C. Shelton in Wonder Lake. One of the most memorable moments of the entire season for many will be that time during the Marine Festval parade when Miss America participated in the raising of the flag at the city hall. Mary Linehard, a 17-year- old, brown-eyed beauty, reigns as Miss Wonder Lake. Miss Linehard was chosen from a field of five contestants who participated in the finals of the Miss Wonder Lake pageant. Two acts of destructive vandalism occurred in Wonder Lake last week. Someone used raw eggs to damage a car belonging to Mrs. Francis Lefevere. Retreat For Divorced Group Father Robert' Balog, chaplain for the Divorced Catholic group, is announcing that there will be a weekend of renewal for separated and divorced Catholics from Friday, Sept. 21 through Sunday, Sept. 23, at the Bishop Lane Retreat house. The weekend involves a presentation by a team on various aspects of divorce and separation; time for personal reflection; and meetings of small groups to allow an ex change of ideas and reflections. More information- may be obtained from Father Balog at 385-0024, or M. McKenna at 385- 1527, after 5 p.m. WHO KNOWS! For what is Henry »n best known? ..... When was Skylab launched? 3. When did WW1 begin? 4. What is the smallest known bird? 5. What is a kumquat? 6. What is the velocity of a moderate breeze? 7. The Banyon Tree is native to what country? 8. Is ordontodynia conta gious? 9. Who was known as the "Lion of Judah"? 10.Who was the seventh U.S. president? Answers To Who Knows 1. He was the architect of the Lincoln Memorial in Washington, D.C. 2. May 14, 1973. 3. July 28, 1914. 4. The Hummingbird. 5. A small, oranlge- colored, oval citrus fruit. 6. Thirteen to eighteen mph. 7. India. 8. No, it's a toothache. 9. Hailie Selassie, Em- perior of Ethiopia. 10.Andrew Jackson. Deaths ELMER L. WILLIAMS Elmer L. Williams, 73, of 134 S. Highland drive, Lakemoor, died July 31 in McHenry hospital. He was born Oct. 28, 1904, in Chicago, had a summer home in the area since 1937, and lived here full time since 1967. Mr. Williams was a steam- fitter for the sanitary district of the village of Skokie, and a lifetime member of Locrfl 597 of the^ Pipefitters and Steam- fitte'rs union. During Wcfrld War II, he served with the United Slates Navy, and was a lifetime member of VFW Post 3593. The deceased belonged to the McHenry Masonic lodge 158, and also to the Medina! Tem ple, Lodge Council Chapter Consistory of Ancient Accepted Scottish rite. "* He married the former Evelyn Cikanek, Jan. 23, 1965, in Chicago, and she survives. Also surviving are two daughters, Mrs. William (Nancy) Paradise of Bloomingdale, 111., and Mrs. Elaine Christ of Harwood Heights, 111.; two sisters. Hazel Lehmann of Chicago and Helen Jeaters of Bloomingdale. He was preceded in death by PAGE 3 • PLAINDEALER - WEDNESDAY. AUGUST 1, IS7S morning, with the Reverend James E. Merold officiating. Burial was in Cole cemetery. Spring Grove. KV JOSEPH COOLS staff psychologist . news from the Family Service and Mental Health Clinic of McHenry County. his first wife. Bernadean, and a brother. John. Visitation will be Thursday from 4 to 9 p.m. at The George R. Justen funeral chapel, where Masonic rites will take place at 7:30 p.m., and services will be held Friday at the funeral home chapel at 11:30 a.m. Reverend Marshall Werry will officiate, and interment will be in Ringwood cemetery. Please omit flowers. GEORGE H. WILKINSON George R. Wilkinson, 56, died Saturday. July 28, at his home, 1012 Wats avenue. Spring Grove, after a lingering illness. The deceased had been a truck driver for 33 years, the last six with McLean Fogg, Mundelein. Mr. Wilkinson was born Dec. 15,1922, in Bridgewater, Iowa. Before coming to Spring Grove 10 years ago. he resided in Chicago. He was a member of Local 705, IB of T, Chicago,,and of the Airplane Owners & Pilots association. During World War * 11 he served with the Air Force. Besides his wife, Marie (Kenefick), he leaves five sons, George, Jr., of Pistakee Highlands, Bill and Roy R. of ' Spring Grove, John of McH&nry and Mark F. at home; two sisters, Fran Cunningham of Highland, Ind., and Betty Jean Dowling of Chicago; five brothers, Bob Wilkinson of Chicago, Harold Wilkinson of Burbank, 111., Bill Krueger of South Dakota, Ed Krueger of Chicago and Pat Krueger of Crestview. The body rested at the Strang chapel, 410 E. Belvidere road, Grayslake, where last rites were conducted Tuesday IRENE C. SCHULTZ Irene C. Schultz, 72, of 107 Stonegate drive, Spring Grove, died July 26 in McHenry. She was born Feb. 9, 1907 in Oak Park, and lived in Spring Grive for fifteen years, having come there from Forest Park. She is survived by her husband Jerry R. Schultz; two stepdaughters, Helen Uline of Wisconsin and Winifred Ross of California; a stepdaughter-in law, Betty Schultz of Califor nia; many step grandchildren and great-grandchildren; and a brother. Joseph Bernard of Forest Park. She was preceded in death by a stepson. Jerry Schultz, and by ten brothers and sisters. Visitation took place Sunday at K.K. Hamsher funeral home, where the funeral was held at 11 a.m. Monday. With the Reverend Eric Schneider of ficiating. Interment was in Woodlawn cemetery. Forest Park. The pouch shoulder bag will be very pppular with daytime fall outfits. Evening shoulder bags will be made of satin and accented in gold trim. ' A wide variety of neck cords or "body" jewelry will be seen with blouses < and sweaters. This versatile neck wear will double as belts. Editor's Quote Book The real freedom#; any individuil^can always be measured by the amount of responsibility which he must assume for his own welfare and security. Robert Welch ' tEditor's note: This is another in a series of especially written articles for McHenry County readers. Joseph Cools is a psychologist on the Family^ Service and Community Mental Health Center staff. This ar ticle is "Coping - Suddenly Single") One of the most profound changes that takes place following a divorce is the change to being "single" once again. If a couple has been married for a long period of lime, the adjustment to a completely different social life can be extremely difficult. Immediately following a divorce, old friends (most likely married friends) usually provide a great deal of support a n d - e n c o u r a g e m e n t . Gradually, however, it becomes evident to both the divorced person and the friends that the situation has changed drastically and they no longer have great deal "in common". Going out to dinner, visiting friends in their home or taking a vacation together were things that were always done as a couple. After the divorce (he social life of each has changed; at some point this must be accepted. What makes it dif ficult to accept is the fact that the divorced person needs friends and social contacts. Also, the message from friends is usually that ihey will remain friends and that nothing has changed as far as they are concerned. It is helpful for most divorced SgimpSiciftj SNOW BUSTER 220 * " ' V „• -v\. * Order now and pick up your Snowbuster 220 in the fall...in plenty,of time to beat next winters snows! Its rugged, fast starting dependability was proved in extensive tests 600 rpiles north of the Arctic Circle. 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One of the most common and hurtful mistakes that newly divorced people make is to make a firm decision that despite the loss of the spouse, life is going to go on exactly as it was during the marriage. G> Next: Use of Amphetamines The McHenry Plaindcalcr (USPS 335-200) Established 1875 3812 West Elm Street Phone 385 0170 McHenry. Illinois 60050 Published Every Wednesday i Friday at McHenry Illinois Aecond Class Postage Paid at McHenry. Illinois ™ By McHENRY PUBLISHING COMPANY Subscribers are requested to provide immediote notice of chonge of oddrest to The McHenry Plaindeoler 3812 W Elm St McHenry III 60050 A deduction of on* month from the expiration of o subscription will be mode where o chonge of oddress is provided through the Post Office Depot tment > ^ost O Larry E. 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