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Q. I've tried to be a good person, to care about others. And what has it gotten me? A violent marriage with no warmth, no compassion-nothing except two little kids. I've gone the route'of keeping quiet, doing everything my husband's way. I have prayed and prayed to God until I'm blue in the face, but He hasn't changed one thing. I hate, I'm angry, I hate, hate, hate! I feel like stone inside. My parents say it's no wonder my husband is crazy, since I'm enough to drive anyone crazy. I have run out of hope and answers. What in the world can you possibly give me to hang onto? A. Perhaps your emphasis has been too strong on what you shouldf get for being a good person. Being "good" for a purpose defeats itself. Your prayer may be what is called a parenthesis prayer, meaning the real prayer is not for good results, but, rather, "Give me good things, but let me keep the hate." God is intelligent and knows what the real prayer (your real desire) is. 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She criticizes me if I cry, and never puts her arms around me to give me some sympathy and comfort. I feel sure she misses him too, but she never says that she does. Any ideas as to how I can reach her? Please send me a copy of the booklet "Let Not Your Heart Be Troubled". It sounds as if it might bring some comfort to me. A. I am sending you our booklet, "Let Not Your Heart Be Troubled", and any other reader who would like a copy may have one free of charge by writing tous at Box 500, Pawling, ) N.Y. 12564. Your problem, as we see it, is that your daughter is trying to .̂Hhandle her grief in her own way. You are attempting to handle ' way. The secret of unity and peace of mind is for i of you to respect the other's reaction and just love each r. That will develop a deeper understanding and comfort, egs Him To Stay Q. I caught my darling husband with another woman. I told could forgive him and still love him dearly. But he now sleeps at his parents' home, and when he comes each day to "X;: 7<care for our livestock I put my arms around him asking him to " .̂please come back to his home and be a father to our 21-year- * * old daughter and 14-year-old son. We all three cry and ask him to please stay. But he says he can't and won't give us a reason. I love my husband and wonder what I can do to improve myself. A. It could be that you need to examine your own romantic and sex relationship with your husband. And perhaps analyze his with you. That he won't stay with you and turns to another woman is a symptom of a deteriorating personal relationship. Try to go back to being more like the person you were when he first loved you. And don't beg him, just re-attract him. ' Feels Like Stone Inside Salads go far beyond the typical tossed type served before or with a main course. In fact, salads run the gamut from appetizer to dessert. According to Nancy Moore, of the University of Illinois Extension Service in McHenry county,ithe major component of a salad is its raw or cooked portion topped off with a seasoned dressing. An interesting and popular idea started in restaurants is the salad bar concept. In the home this would be a great idea to incorporate in a future family gathering. It would allow guests to make their own personal salad and at the same time show off all that great produce that you grew in*your own garden. The word "salad" is believed to have come from the Latin word "Sal" which means salt. Supposedly the Romans dipped chicory and lettuce into salt before eating it, giving you the beginnings of a salad. The very backbone of most salads are the garden greens. There are a number that can be grown or •f selected from the produce market. --Head lettuce is the most common. Some varieties can be grown in Illinois but they do require a cool growing season. The pale green leaves add crunch and a mild flavor that is always welcome. --Romaine lettuce has a larger, more pointed head. The leaves are usually lighter in color and have a real pungent flavor. --Leaf lettuce is the staple of most gardens. Its color can range from light green to red. Several plantings should be made to prolong the harvest. When har­ vesting, use the outer leaves first, leaving the center ones to grow and produce your future crop. --Bibb lettuce is more bland tasting variety that produces a very small, compact head. --Endives are an in­ teresting change of taste. The ruffled leaves range in color from dark green to cream color. The taste is slightly bitter but makes a pleasant contrast. --Escaroles are very similar in taste to endive but the leaves are more flat, broad and less frilly. Now there is no need to stop here in your quest for other salad additions. If you are still puzzled as to what to toss into the bowl next* dry some of the less common types. Mustard greens, kale; Chinese cabbage, swiss chard, beet and turnip tops and dandelion greens are just a few. ' You may want to devote a little gardeh space to some of these if you can't find them in the market. Keep in mind that the most at­ tractive salads strive for ingredients that contrast nicely in flavor, color and texture. All of these fresh salad fixin's need to be handled with tender loving care. To make sure your salad bar has ingredietns that are at their peak of flavor and freshness, Ms. Moore suggests the following: -Handle greens gently to prevent bruising their tender leaves. ---For optimum crispness, wash greens as soon as they are brought home by rinsing under cold water. --Pat the greens dry with a paper towel or shake them dry to remove excess moisture. A little moisture helps keep leaves crisp. --Store greens in a plastic bag kept in the crisper of the refrigerator. --Most other vegetables can be stored in the refrigerator and washed just before using. Root vegetables such as turnips, potatoes and onions are exceptions. Store these at room temperature until ready to be eaten. To create your super salad bar, try these suggestions. Fill several large, shallow bowls with a variety of fresh greens. Tear the greens into the bowls rather than cut­ ting. The cutting action can bruise tender leaves. Next fill several small bowls with an asortment of fruits and vegetables. In addition to the common ones, let your mind wander to less familiar types. For example, sliced avocado, kidney beans, mushrooms, green beans, cheeses, broccoli and bean sprouts are only a few. Set out a selection of your favorite dressings and that PAGE 3 - PLAINDEALER - completes your own salad bar. Now, give each guest a large plate or bowl and let them dig in and enjoy. Your Extension Office in McHenry county is located at 789 McHenry avenue (Route 120) in Woodstock. 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