spurgeons oiy/wpTc PfflMECON WTSIDE WHITE Prom Royalty ROBERT MUSIKflNTOW, Ph.D. ^ psychologist for the Family Service and Community Mental Health Center for McHenry County (Editor's Note: This is the ninth article in the Today's Psychology weekly series of especially written articles for McHenry County readers. The topic this week is "Improving Com- municatibn".) Richard Bandler and John Grinder, two of the foremost experts on communication, have systematically studied the process of com*' munication and delineated the strategies that superior communicators utilize in order to consistantly obtain effective results. They have studied master hypnotists, effective psychotherapists and successful salesmen and executives in their efforts to gain an understanding of the ingredients which make for powerful, impactful com munication. In their studies, they discovered three factors which were present in the communication styles of all the people that they studied. Bandler and Grinder believe that these three factors are all that one needs in order to become a powerful com municator. By un derstanding them and then practicing them until they become part of your habitual manner of behaving, for. A good rule of thumb to perhaps you, too, can begin follow is that if what you're to more consistantly get the doing isn't working try results you want in your life. something else. The first rule is to know the outcome that you desire. Finally, it is necessary to What response do you want tune into the person you are to elicit from the other r~i --1 person? What do you want that person to understand? Perhaps you want your |I fcJT children to stop fighting at - the dinner table or perhaps _ (while in a slightly different - mood) you desire some physical affection from your mmmmi spouse or lover. Once you know what IT response you want, you can * begin to generate behavior M designed to elicit that ^ §M desired response. What is i important here is to have a j; 1 9Upk broad range of behavior in M your own behavioral Iff repertoire from which you |Pf in can draw. The greater the range and flexibility your own behavior the more likely you to be effective - the to your behavior widely until you get JM the response you're looking Marian Central Catholic high school juniors and seniors and Crystal Lake; Karen Truckenbrod, McHenry; and Dawn their guests will be enjoying the fun and excitement of the Tonyan, McHenry. Standing, left to right, are Tim Sherwood, annual junior prom Friday evening, May 2, at the Chateau Crystal Lake; Paul Sandall, Richmond; Chris Hesch, Joe Louise in West Dundee. Dinner will be served at 7:30 p.m. and Johnson and Carl Brown, all of McHenry. The junior class dancing is scheduled from 9 p.m. to midnight. Members of the sponsor is faculty member Mary Jo Burns, and the Junior prom court are shown, in front row, left to right. 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