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Page PLAIN DEALER-HERALD, WEDNESDAY. MARCH 20.19*5 Life today <z>, MIL) Husband breaks wife's heart on Valentine's Day DEAR ABBY: I'm terribly upset because my husband forgot Valentine's Day. I used to drop subtle hints before my birthday, anniversary, etc., but it never did any good, so I started to come right out and ask him to please remember me. Even that didn't help. The week before Valentine's Day I reminded him that I would just love a card, a rosebud or some cute earrings. I reminded him again the day before, but the next day when I gave him his Valentine's Day gift, he just stared at me stupidly and said, "Gee, I guess I should have gotten you something, huh?" Hie same thing happens every birthday and anniversary. Last Mother's Day was my first (our baby is six months old), so the day before, I told my husband I'd like a card, breakfast in bed, or liave been thrilled with any one of these gifts, but I got nothing. Instead he went bowling. I am so disappointed when he forgets. I end up crying myself to sleep. Do you have any suggestions? HURT IN ALBANY, ORE. DEAR HURT: Face it, you are married to a thoughtless, in­ sensitive man. He doesnt forget-he cares nothing for sentiment, and refuses to put himself out to please you. You can't change anyone but yourself, so accept these glaring deficiencies in the man you loved enough to marry. Expect nothing, and you'll not be disappointed. And concentrate on his good qualities-if you can find them. DEAR ABBY: In response to "Seeing Reality," who suggested that only family members (no inlaws}-be included in family portraits owing to the fact that divorce is epidemic nowadays: We have a family friend who faced an expensive family por­ trait with an eye to the future. The portrait was to include the father and mother, their four daughters and a new son-in-law, seated in a garden. TJie new son-in-law was strategically placed on the end. After the divorce (which was apparently anticipated), the son-in-law was easily brushed and oued into a bush, and the expensive portrait now proudly hangs, showing the family as it is today. FACING REALITY DEAR FACING: That's what I call giving a new son-in-law the brush-literally. DEAR ABBY: Your answer to "Mother of the Groom" was totally off-base. You said the stepmother should not have been in the receiving line at all. Abby, in some cases, a stepparent most certainly should be in the receiving line. Some stepparents play an important role in the stepchild's life. Questions such as "How long has the step­ father been remarried?" and "With whom do the children live?" were not answered in the letter. The relationship between the stepparent and the child or his or her new spouse must also be considered. It's their wedding, and they should have a say in the matter. STEPPARENT-TO-BE DEAR STEPPARENT-TO-BE: I agree, the circumstances can make all the difference in the world. In this case, the parents of the groom had a bitter divorce, after which the fattier promptly married his girlfriend, who had been waiting in the wings for some time. These facts should have been included in the letter but were not. In my eagerness to stay within the space allotted for my column, it's often necessary to cut the original letter to the bone. Or sometimes a local editor cuts a letter, eliminating some of the important facts. ' In this case, it was I who cut the guts out of the letter, omitting some pertinent facts. Many readers wrote to complain. They were right. (Problems? What's bugging you? Unload on Abby, P.O. Box 38923, Hollywood, Calif. 90038. For a personal reply, please enclose a stamped, self-addressed envelope.) Bride wore something old, new, borrowed and blue Keeping the tradition of "something old, something new, something borrowed, something blue," when the former Shannon E. Tiffany became the wife of David E. Lininger, Jr., she was wearing her mother's ivory satin wedding gown, which she had borrowed. It was styled with a straight skirt and cathedral length, detachable train. The front of the dress was enhanced by lace flowers, white beads and sequins; and the bagk was highlighted by a kick pleat. Her handmade bouquet was of ivory carnations, burgundy roses, baby's breath and greenery. Something new was a brim­ med satin hat, handmade to match the gown, with a small cluster of white silk roses to the side, and a satin bow at the back; 'old' was her mother's string of pearls which she received from her grandmother as a present; and 'blue' was a garter, handmade by her mother. The bride is the daughter of Arthur P. and Charlaine F. Tiffany of McHenry. David and Arlene Lininger, Sr. of Burlington, Wis. are the parents of the bridegroom. Pastor Roger W. Schneider officiated at the 2 p.m. ceremony, held Jan. 26, in Shepherd of the Hills Lutheran Church, McHenry. Vocalists were Charlaine Tiffany and Walter Johnson, accompanied on the organ by Rosemary Schneider. Attending her sister as maid of honor was Aleen R. Tiffany of McHenry. Bridesmaids were Marge Delelio of McHenry, Mary Pritchard of Johnsburg and Sue Henry of Chicago. Another sister of the bride, Kathleen E. Tiffany of McHenry, was a junior bridesmaid. Attendants were attired in burgundy taffeta dresses with an A-line skirt, bell sleeves and Cinderella collar. The groom's uncle, William Lininger of Genoa City, Wis., handled the duties of best man. Groomsmen were Jack Winger, Jr. and Kevin Winger, both of Lake Geneva, Wis. and Bob Stilling of Pell Lake, Wis. The bride's brother, Flynn Tiffany of McHenry, escorted the junior bridesmaid; and the groom's brother, Dale Lininger of Burlington, and Adrian Lloyd of McHenry, served as ushers. All male attendants wore silver gray tuxedos with gray bow ties and cummerbunds. Following the nuptials, 200 guests enjoyed a dinner reception with dancing to live music in the American Legion Hall, Genoa City. A special feature of the evening was a five-tier wedding cake, hand­ made by the mother of the groom. MR. AND MRS. DAVID E. LININGER. JR. The new Mrs. Lininger is presently a legal secretary for the law firm of Donald W. Truckenbrod in McHenry; and her husband is a foreman at Larson Construction Company in Genoa City, where they are making their home. Sorority chapters fill new year with many events The first part of 1965 has proved to be an exciting and fun- filled time for Pi Alpha and Xi Kappa Iota chapters of Beta Segma Phi. January was a time for parties with Xi Kappa Iota members enjoying a "Put'n on the Ritz" party, including formal dress and a catered dinner. Phi Alpha threw a chapter birthday party, including guests a rousing game a Trivial Pur­ suit. White elephant gifts were won and in exchange, for correct Responses. A beautifully decorated birthday cake topped off the evening. The traditional Valentine dinner was held in February at a local restaurant and the highlight of the evening was crowning of each chapter's Valentine queen. Xi Kappa Iota bestowed the honor on Virginia "Virg" Stasiak, a ten-year member of Beta Sigma Phi, currently holding the office of vice-president. She is also chairman of the membership committee and serves on the publicity committee. Virg lives in McHenry with her family, husband Tom and children, Michael, Denise and Tommy. She is very active in her church, as well as Beta Sigma Phi, and is a full-time employee of McHenry School District No. 15 at the McHenry Junior High School building. Pi Alpha chose as their queen, Roberta "Bobbie" Biedron. Bobbie is a three-year member of Beta Sigma Phi, currently holding the office of corresponding secetary and is chairman of the ways & means committee. She also was co- chairman of the Saufen und Spiel activities committee in October of this year. Bobbie lives in McHenry with her two daughters, Cheryl and Paula. She devotes a great deaLof time to raising her family and homemaking and is currently an employee Of Northern Illinois Medical Center. Both women have contributed much to their chapters this year and every year by their en­ thusiastic personalities and willingness to get involved. February and March, In an attempt to cheet up the cold and dismal, Phi Alpha chapter enjoyed two hilarious secret sister gift exchanges. In celebration of Valentines Day, red gifts were exchanged and for St. Patrick's Day, green gifts were exchanged. Both chapters look forward to completing the sorority year in spirit of ,fun and P- *> • ' - ' - "• • 4 ilfoffr J tj Women educators hear speaker Y oung single parents seek members The McHenry County chapter of the Young Single Parents organization is seeking new members. YSP is a support group for single parents between the ages of 21 and 48. Potential members may be widowed, separated, divorced or never married. Custody of their children is not a requirement for membership. The group meets Wednesday evenings at 8:30, at the Timbers Restaurant in Woodstock, for educational programs, mutual support and socializing. Family and other adult activities are scheduled for other times during the month at members' homes and public places. Gamma Psi chapter of the Delta Kappa Gamma Society, an international society for key women educators, met recently in the home of Toni Smith, Crystal Lake. Speaker for the morning program was Sandra Mineau, Associate Pastor of St. Paul's United Church of Christ in Crystal Lake. The Rev. Mineau spoke on her background as a woman in the ministry and also on her position as a counselor at the Pioneer Center in Woodstock. Also at this meeting, the Rev. Michelle Prentice, formerly of the First Congregational Church of Crystal Lake was initiated as Psi. In order to become an honorary member, a candidate must have rendered notable service to education or to women and must not be eligible for active membership. The next meeting of the Gamma Psi chapter will be held at McHenry County College Monday, April 8. The speaker will be member Cathy Bolger, MCC counselor, who will speak on the subject of wellness. She is the recipient of the Emma Reinhardt scholarship, given by the Delta Kappa Gamma Society, and will pursue graduate studies in 1986 in the area of wellness. Births 'BENES Travis Daryl is the name chosen by Jerry and Sharon Benes, 2315 Oakwood Ct., McHenry, for their fourth child. The eight-pound baby boy was born Feb. 26, in Northern Illinois Medical Center, McHenry. He has two brothers, Marty, age seven and Scott, five; and a four-year-old sister Shannon. Maternal grandparents are Clair and Gloria Otis of Crystal Lake. Robert and Mae Peterson of Riverside, 111. are the paternal grandparents. Angeline Stejskal is the children's great-grandmother. SIEGEL Thomas and Paula Siegel, 70'J Annebelle St., McHenry, became parents of their third son Feb. 25. Karl Fredrick arrived in Northern Illinois Medical Center, McHenry weighing eight pounds. He has two brothers, Thomas, age seven and Jonathan, three. Maternal grandparents are Mr. and Mrs. Robert Poblocki of Ringwood. Mr. and Mrs. Robert Siegel of Union, 111. are the paternal grandparents. MARZAHL Stephen and Gloria Marzahl, 1217 W. Rolling Ln., McHenry, became parents of their second child and first daughter Feb. 22. Kathryn Lynn was born in Northern Illinois Medical Center, McHenry and weighed 7 lbs. 9 oz. She has a brother Joseph, age three and a half. Maternal grandparents are Edward and Luella May of Spring Grove. George and Helene Marzahl of Genoa City, Wis. are the paternal grand­ parents. LECHNER Andy and Michele Lechner, 711 S. Hilltop Blvd., McHenry, announce the birth of their first child on March 1. Samantha Ann entered the world in Northern Illinois Medical Center, McHenry weighing 5 lbs. 1 oz., Ann Petersen of Carbondale, 111. is the infant's maternal grand­ mother. Paternal grandparents are Don and Joan Lechner of McHenr^ n> r^t-grandparents are Eric Geuuc and Irma Lechner, both of McHenry. SHAMPO Mr. and Mrs. James Shampo of Wallace, Mich, announce tne birth of their first child on March 1. Jason Robert entered the world weighing 8 lbs. 11 oz. Maternal grandparents are Marjorie Fernstrom of McHenry and Charles Fern­ strom of Ft. Myers, Fla. Paternal grandparents are Mrs. Lorraine Shampo of Wallace and the late Robert Shampo. Mrs. Mabel Thomas of McHenry is the infant's great- grandmother. DAWSON Jim and Karen Dawson, 3709 Bull Valley Rd., McHenry, announce the birth of their first child on Feb. 24. Amanda Rose was born in Memorial Hospital for McHenry County, Woodstock and weighed 6 lbs. 10 oz. Maternal grandparents are Mr. and Mrs. George Mann of Johnsburg. Mr. and Mrs. Lloyd Dawson of McHenry are the paternal grandparents. Great- grandparents are Mr. and Mrs. George Schmitt of Johnsburg. LOWERY A baby girl was born March l to Craig and Karen Lowery, 3011 W. Lincoln Rd., McHenry and they named her Kate Elizabeth. The 7 lbs. 9 oz. infant entered the world in Norjthern Illinois Medical Center, McHenry. She has two sisters, Charissa, age eight and Kelly, five. Theodore Rezula of Barrington, 111. is the maternal grandfather. Paternal grandparents are Thomas and Vera Lowery of McHenry. Thomas Lowery. Sr. is the girls' great-grandfathei THIEL Ronald and Lynette Thie; «n McHenry became parents of their second child and first daughter March 4, and named her Catherine Marie. The 8 lbs. 6 oz. baby girl was born in Good Shepherd Hospital, Barnngton and she was welcomed home by her brother Michael, age three and a half. Maternal grand­ parents are Roman and Phyllis Bauer of McHenry. Paternal grandparents are Betty and Ray Sieben of McHenry and A1 and Judy Thiel of Tampa, Fla. Great-grandparents are Ber­ nard Bauer, Mrs. Jacob Thiel and Chet and Ada Scarbrough, all of McHenry; Ralph and Esther Bigham of Vista, Calif, and Nell Kenney of Phoenix, Ariz. WOHNRADE Garrett David is the name chosen by Marueen and David Wohnrade, 3415 N. Riverside Dr., McHenry, for their second child and first son. The 8 lbs. 11 oz. baby boy entered the world March 7 in Northern Illinois Medical Center, McHenry. He has a sister Truen, age three and a half. Maternal grandparents are Jack and Lois Hall of Fish Creek, Wis. Anne and Rich Wohnrade of McHenry are the paternal grandparents. KUHLMAN Ralph and Jill Kuhlman, 570 Somerset Ln., Crystal Lake, announce the birth of their first child on March 4. Devon Russell was born in Northern Illinois medical Center, McHenry and weighed 7 lbs. 11 oz. Maternal grandparents are Robert and Tbora Welter of McHenry. Ralph and Carole Kuhknan of Crystal the paternal g r a n d p a r e n t s O r e a t - grandparents are Fr.> and Elinore T*ksch, and HiiSiv Kuhlman. Community calendar MARCH 21 Spring Fashion Show~St. Patrick's C.C.D.-ChurchHall 7:30 p.m.- -Tckts. At Door. U.M.W. Gen. Mtg. -Noon-Fellowship Hall-Agape Luncheon- Marcia Mary Ball Circle Hostess. McH. Moose-Enrollment New Members 7 p.m. MARCH 22-23 > Rummage Sale-Mt. Hope United Methodist Church-1015 Broadway, Pistakee Highlands-Fri. 9 a.m.-5 p.m.-Sat. 9 a.m.-2 p.m. -MARCH 23 McH. Moose~"Green Cap"-Honor Lori Hertel. McH. Moose-Dancing 9-12-Country Western Band. McH. Sportsmen's Club-Weingart Rd.-Practice Shoot 1 p.m - Public Welcome. Valley View Fun Fair-11 a.m.-3 p.m.-In The School-PTO Sponsor-Public Invited. MARCH 24 McH. Sportsmen's Club-Weingart Rd.-Meat Shoot & Games 19 a.m.-Public Welcome. \ Polish Leg. of Amer. Vets Post 188 & Chap. 188-Mtg. 2 p.m.-Post Home 1304 N. Park, McH. MARCH 25 McH. Sr. Citz. Club-Mtg. 7 p.m.-East Campus. , Moose Ann. Payers Dinner-6:30 p.m.-Members Only. Aurora Blood Drive-Zion Lutheran Church-3:30-7:30 p.m. McH. Woman's Club-Bd. Mtg. 10 a.m.-McH. Pub. Library. MARCH 26 McH. Garden Club-Mtg. 1 p.m.-McH. Pub. Library-Lunch Optional. i MARCH 27 Whispering Oaks Woman's Club-Mtg. 1:30 p.m.-At Center Mary Martha Circle-Faith Presbyterian Church-Spring Lunch & March Mtg. 1 p.m.-Apple Tree Rest-Holiday Pk. MARCH 30 1 tJS?1,-Sportsmen"S Club-Weingart Rd.-Practice Shoot 1 p.m.- Public Welcome. APRIL 1 McH. Sr. Citz. Club-Bd. Mtg. 10 a.m.-McH. Pub. Library. APRIL 2 Ruth Circle--First United Methodist Church-Mtg. Noon-Home of Helen Crouch--Dessert & Beverage Served. APRIL 3 McH. Grandmothers Club-Shepherd of the Hill&-ll:30 am .- Bnng Sandwich-Mtg. 1 p.m.-Darren Nabbs, Foreign ExCh •Student. APRIL 4 McH. Sportsmen's Glub-Weingart Rd.-Mtg. 8 p.m. MARCH 20 McH. Area C of C--City Candidates Night 7 p.m.-Parkland School. Prayer Breakfast 9:30 a.m.-Whispering Oaks Woman's Club- Comm. Ctr. Family Serv. & Comm. Mental Health Ctr.-McH. Co. Bd. of Dir Mtg. 7 p.m -McH. Office 4302-G W. Cr. Lk. Rd -Open To Public. APRIL 6 Easter Egg Hunt-Bake Sale-Pist. Hi. Comm. Ctr.-Preschool Th™ K, 10 a.m.-Grades 1-4, 11 a.m.-Parents With Children-All Area Children Invited. MpR Snortcmpn's Club-Weingart Rd.-Practice Shoot 1 p.m.- Public Welcome. •