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3 • • 7 B y A b i g a i l V a n B u r e n Kids need privacy, personal space, tod By Hillary, 12, Anne, 13, Carrie, 12, Jill, 8, and Noah, IS. (Editor's note: Names of reporters have been changed). Assistant Editors: Glenn Golz, 14, Jason Lenkowitz, 14. NEW YORK - ANNE: Practical­ ly everything in our house has a label on it -- this ispine, that is my sistercft she can'Mouch this because it's mine, and I can't touch that because it's hers. My sister and I lock our doors to keep each other out of our rooms. I can't lock my mother out of my room. She's the one who has the key. My mom touches my cat, but my sister can't touch my cat. My sister would lock her cat in her room and we couldn't touch it when it was a kitten and my cat was a little cat, a kitten. So I Just said she couldn't touch my cat because I couldn't touch her cat. CARRIE: My mom doesn't have any right to go in my room and go through my stuff. I don't mind when she comes in when I'm in there but she goes into mv room and she thinks it's messy aid she cleans it up for me. I always have this Stuff -- it's personal sometimes, notes from school or something -- I just throw them on the floor when I get home and then my mother finds them. Then she talks about them after­ wards. She'll make fun of me. HILLARY: There's a problem with my room because everyone has to go in my room. The cat's food is in my room and it's the only way you can get to the downstairs bath­ room. But if the bathroo|n wasn't there, then my room would be off limits to anybody inlhehouse. But since my mother has to always go through my room, there's nothing I can do about that. Usually I ciose my door and I do something in my room or I watch TV or something. But she knocks. If I'm mad at her I say, "Go upstairs," and so she goes upstairs. But it's very annoying be­ cause she's always coming in my room. JILL: I sort of share a bedroom with my brother. It's separated by a bookcase. I can hear whatever he's doing. Sometimes I'm trying to talk to my friend and my brother screams, he yells. I just say, "Stop it" and he goes, "Noooo, I can do whatever I want to." And then if he doesn't stop, I say, "Why don't you go in Mommy and Daddy's room and you can watch TV." When he hears that he can watch TV he al­ ways says, "OK." NOAH: I don't have a door in my room and that's very annoying. You see, I'd like to be alone but my room DEARABBY Reader presents silver lining of smoking is connected to my brother's room and my brother's usually there. My dad won't put a door in. I keep asking him for one but he says, " No, no, no, don't worry abQut.it." When he redesigned my room two years ago he put in a desk and I had him insert a little compartment that was hidden. And that's where I put everything I don't want my brother to see. I usually keep my money in there. It works out pretty well. JILL: I don't like when my broth­ er goes in my room because he always messes everything up.~ I don't touch his stuff because I know he'll get mad. So Pdon't touch his stuff. But when he comes in my room he fiddles with my stuff. My sister gets really mad when I go in her room so I'm not allowed to be in her room, even if I'm asking her something and have my toe in her room. If my brother has one foot in my room, then I don't yell at him for it. But if he comes in and starts playing with my stuff and picking stuff up and just dropping it any­ where I get really mad. NOAH: One thing that happens sometimes is I get mail and it's put on my desk and my brother goes through it. He opens it up and he looks at it and he puts it back. He actually rips it open. Usually it's not anything really important but It bugs me. ANNE: My mother opens up all my mail unless it's from a friend. But I intercept my school mail and stuff. I show it to her eventually but I intercept it all. HILLARY: I open my mother's mail sometimes. Because if it's something from the library or some­ thing about a book 1 took out on her library card, I rip it up because I I't want to pay for it. \RRIE: My mom has this draw­ er oh, the top of her dresser where she keeps important papers. She would tell ,us to leave* the room whenever sne wanted to get some­ thing aut ofit hecau^^^iad mon­ ey and stuff in it; Am serf just got curious on4 day. I was sick and she went to work and 1 knew she wouldn't be back till five, so I looked through it. Maybe I'll tell her I did it when I grow taller than her. DEAFt ABBY: Numerous articles in your column lead me to believe that you are not very sympathetic toward smokers. smoking are a driving force in our economy. Putting aside the social problems and suffering it causes, consider the "good" it does by creating jobs at all levels of society. Smoking keeps huge numbers of people employed. Imagine how the following would be affected if there were no smokers in the nation: tobacco farmers, truckers, stockholders, advertisers, distributors, salespeople, janitorial services, insurance agents, makers and sellers of soaps, air-fresheners, chewing gum, mouthwashes, breath deodorizers, the manufacturers of medical supplies, as well as all those in the medical profession such as nurses, doctors, laboratory technicians and hospital personnel. And just imagine what would happen to the American Cancer Society if tomorrow all the smokers stopped smoking! Add to that, lob­ byists, lawyers and journalists--including col­ umnists such as you, Dear Abby. DIN ^ CITRUS HEIGHTS, CALIF. DEAR D.: And don't forget the casket makers, headstoni manufacturers, engravers, morticians, grave diggers, and the greeting card people who make it easy for us to say, "Please accept mysympathy." DEAR ABBY: I hope you won't thinl^'m foolish, but I need your help. I am 76 year^of age and have been a widow for 20 years. Three years ago I started going with a widower who is now 72. The trouble is he doesn't talk much. All he wants to do is kiss, kissykiss. He gets real horny and is ready to jumpright in bed, which is all right once in- a 'while, but he wants sex every tinretofomes 0Ver, which is often. As soon as he walks in, he starts pestering me. He can't just sit and visit, watch TV or play cards. No, he wants sex; then he's ready to leave. He used to do att the repair work on my house, but he doesn't want to help me any more because I've been saying no too often. Can you advise me? ENOUGH IS ENOUGH DEAR ENOUGH: Tell this Insensitive man that you feel used, and would like a little more love and little less lust. And if he refuses to work on your house unless you let him work on your body, then he's buying, and you're selling, in which case it's business, not pleasure, and it's time to say goodbye. • • • DEAR ABBY: 1 am trying to decide whether I should elope or have a big wedding. Years ago, weddings weren't as expensive as they are today. The cost of putting oh a wedding has gone up, but the amount of mosey people spend on gifts has not. On the average it costs $15 per person for food and $5 for drinks--that's $40 a couple, right? So unless each guest gives a gift worth $20--$40 a couple--you won't even break even! Many people go to weddings because it's a cheap night out. Where can you eat and drink all you want, and dance all evening for $20 a person? Nowhere! I've seen people show up at weddings and give the couple a $15 gift. Half the people in­ vited to a wedding don't pay any attention to the bride and grbom, they're too busy getting drunk and dancing. Years ago, weddings were put on to give the new couple a good start. Nowadays, people are so cheap, the couple would be better off elop­ ing. I would like your input on this. BRIDE TO BE DEAR BRIDE: I have always believed that the purpose of a wedding was to exchange vows before friends and relatives with whom the couple wanted to share their joy. Whether the couple "broke even" or not didn't occur to me. But since it occurs to you, I think you should play it safe and elope. Discojet in each garage? NEW YORK (UPI) - Never been for a ride in a Discojet or painted your television screen with a Telepa- lette? You are not alone. They both boast to being among the most inventive failures of the past decade, according to a newslet­ ter that tracks trends in the world of gadgetry. The Discojet, or Vertical Takeoff and Landing Vehicle, was a flying saucer manufactured by Discojet Corp. of Davis, Calif., Gadget news­ letter reported Thursday in its 10th anniversary edition. 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