out of love and a real concern for children. However, Mara McCallum of Halton Children's Aid Society (CAS) says that they are sometimes not prepared for the 18 CAS group for parents of foreign adoptees Families who apply to adopt hiidren from other countries do so SATURDAY, MARCH 27TH """'rt,a,,st:!,t,_,,_, Only at these locations and times! "e ( JUMBO (iii)) KERR 'ii?!. Sunday, March 28 -10-4 pm. HOLIDAY INN L BURLINGTON A Pick up your free copy of the brand new second collection of PUD comic strips, "Don 't laugh! You 'll only encourage him. " and have it signed by the author! I THE THIRD INVESTMENT I]NfPERATNE. ig CHRYSLERI 80 exhibitors tough realities of parenting a child from another culture - especially an older child who may have endured neglect and abuse and who may never have experienced family life. The number of international NUMBER INCREASING Oakville Towne Centre I 849-4443 175 Wyecroft Rd. Oakville . 845-6653 410 South Service Rd, W. Oakville . 845-1681 270 North Service Rd. W. Is there a more worthwhile investment than that of our children's future? Many think not. Which is why Hillfield-Strathallan College has introduced an Accessibility Program, created to bring the cost of a private school education in line with the curve of your income. Along with your home and the security of your financial future, it represents a third investment consideration. Write or call for details in confidence. Thank you. Admissions Secretary 299 Fennell Avenue West Hamilton, Ontario L9C I Phenom 16)589-1367 Fax: (416)589-0566 Hillfield Strathallan _ ,:;.5.,. 'vyy _ y,' "i'.ir.. , ' B88S8' 'k"'gN . iihitiiM» uttUo'Sa9 .;;.,-.,,:..;.,.,: Pe, 'hW/Air'cWAt. "NB8rl1Ngl8t1NMIY92MP, P.e0%tNN up: y» aw: .- 2ttrs "INN, MMMBrmMMgN1' was: . IllDIllll I . w 4‘ , I ’1“ Meet Steve Nease 1d,...creator of adoptions has soured in recent years, and many parents are discov- ering that caring for these children is more difficult than they had expected. In response, Halton CAS is now offering a support group for parents of adopted children from other countries. "We've already been running support groups for people who have adopted children through our agen- cy," McCallum explains, "so we know they can be very effective. They can help prevent adoption breakdowns, and they give parents a chance to share their experiences, to find out about sources of help, to learn more about coping with the challenges they might be facing with their children." Based on the families she has already spoken to, McCallum expects to have parents with chil- The group will meet once a week for eight to 12 weeks and then con- tinue to meet once a month as long as the members choose. 103 THE OAKVILLE BEAVEf ¥¥¥¥¥¥¥¥¥¥x Â¥4¥¥¥¥¥¥¥¥ It's been expensive, but they thought it would all be worth it once they got their new son home. Instead, they found themselves in a state of crisis almost immediately. Who could they turn to for help? None of their friends and relatives had any experience of caring for an adopted child from another culture. Finally. Joe and Mary called the CAS and were put in touch with McCallum. She helped them find a therapist who was sensitive to the adoption issues they were strug- gling with. and they intend to join the support group when it starts. The support group for parents who have adopted internationally will begin at the end of March or early April. If you are interested or would like more information, please call Marg McCallum at 844-8211. The stress on the adoptive family is enormous, too. Joe and Mary had been through a harrowing experi- ence just to arrange for an adoption - living for weeks in a foreign country while they visited the orphanage and made all the arrangements. McCallum points out that many of these children have been raised in orphanages, and have no experi- ence of family life. In some of these orphanages, life is very regimented and the children are physically abused. This can be the most emotionally damaging sit- uation of all. Why is raising a child hom another country often challenging? dren from many different including Russia, I Yugoslavia, Peru, lr Somalia. Meetings will be held either at the Oakville CAS office or in Milton, depending on the group. RAISED IN ORPHANAdEg It NORWEGIAN CRUSE LINE. 8 noun SALE gamma?†new" Bt8000hlTrrl also!†dates and sailings) Only Available At Oakville Piece 842-41 92 THE BAY lndi R om ountrie NH and Wfl/yflflflflflflï¬ï¬‚fl/yflï¬ï¬‚ï¬ï¬‚wm‘W/m Wï¬ï¬‚wflflflï¬JVM'ï¬ï¬‚fl/fl‘flflfl/yï¬ï¬wm So. for west it was just a matter of having a reliable partnership and taking the time to figure the cards left in clubs, after the first trick was taken in. Some declarers would make this contract because their west opponents would lead the ace of clubs at trick two, drop- ping the queen in the east hand. Then, when the jack of clubs is led next. declarer would trump and run off ll tricks. The third holding east might have, is the singleton three. In this case, when west at the second trick led a small club, east would trump it and be in control to lead a spade. The spade lead-back is obvious. It would not be sensible to lead any other suit. When the club king trick was gathered in at the first instance, west observed that there were only two cards in the suit still behindtlosed doors. They were the queen and the nine. Now if east held the Q-9-3, the nine would have been played on the first trick, not the three. East- west had been partners for a long time, and west knew east would not fail to signal third round control in this situation. Also, if east held the 9-3. east would have signalled the doubleton by playing the nine. Now we say - did west really know that east had the queen of clubs, or was it just a wild guess? 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