Monkton Times, 14 Jun 1912, p. 2

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~~ investor Q nN bse: ca 7 TORONTO. CORR sr University. of Toronto Convocation--The Navy Question--Toronto Spreading Out--The * Weather. The annual University of Toronto con- vocation, recurring each year in the early s of leafy June, marks the close of _ college activities for the academic year, "and sends the last contingent of the stu- dent brigade, numbering many thousands, to their homes for the summer. The cere- mony of eonvocation,: as now carried out, _ brings a touch of old-world bebe hex ng _ hess to this very material and commerci- alized city. A procession of professors and such students as remain in the city, = * consisting chiefly of the graduating class, all clad in mortar-board caps and gowns, forms ™ the main university building in - Queen's Park and marches across the lawn to the new Convocation Hall where the proceedings are held. The chief func- tion of the day _is the conferring of the w degrees, The proceedings are en- _ livened by the students' exuberant inter- : pin "meiner their feelings thus finding a free utlet after, being pent up through the Tong examination grind of the last few months. Afterwards there is a garden arty, When good-byes are said and stu- lent life for the year is at an end. ~ 'ONE OF THE BIG UNIVERSITIES. The University of Toronto, with its many allied colleges, is now in point of atiend: ance, one of the largest universities in the world. Judge@ from this point of view it has outdistanced such famous and time-honored institutions as Oxford and Cambridge. But there is a question in some minds as to whether it is yet Influencing the life of the nation to the - extent that it ought, in view of the num- ber of its graduates and the money that is being spent on it. There is a disposi- tion in some quarters to criticize the method by which it is managed. Its af- _ ~ fairs gre controlled almost entirely by a Board of Governors appointed by the Pro- _ vincial Goyernment, this Board consist- ing of ertinent business men. There Feems to be a tendency on the part of this Board to run the institution after the fashion of a private, business and it may be that a little more publicity and ' @ greater effort to bring the university into touch with the lives of the people would be a good thing. : President BR. A. Falconer, after a five- year tenure of office, commands general respect. It is generally believed that he is looking after the details of the admin- istration with wisdom. The students like him, though he is hardly the heroic fig- ure to his flock that some university lead- ers in other centres have been. A NAVY CONTROVERSY LOOMS UP _ Activity. in the local Over-seas Club, occasioned by a visit of Honorary Organ- izer, Mr. Evelyn Wrench, of London, Eng., calls attention to various activities which have alreatly been launched, or are under way, with a view to demonstrating to Canadians their duty of assuming a sub- stantial share in the maintenance of the British Navy. There are many signs which point to the conclusion that we are soon to have an important discussion on this question. There have recently been a number of significant editorials Toronto News, edited by Mr. J. 8. Willi- son, who is generally understood to have fairly intimate relations with Premier Borden. These pronouncements advocate the immediate contribution by Canada of two. Dreadnoughts, to be followed by a permanent organization. Whether this represents the opinion of the Government it is impossible at this time to say. The politicians on both sides have shown some ee in the doubtless being unwilling to hazard mak- ing a mistake gauging public opinion. And meantime it is being left to such or- ganizations as the Over-seas Olub to cul- tivate hie etna 8 on the question, The Over-seas Club hitherto hes consist- ed largely of recent arrivals from Bri- tain, but an effort is being made to bring native Canadians more prominently into the organization. Mr. Wrench is a young Englishman of nes | pleasing qualities and marked ability. It is generally under- stood that the chief personality behind the movement is Lord Northoliffe, the famous London newspaper publisher, who is an ardent Imperialist. Earl Grey, re- cently Governor General, is also much in- terested. : } ANNEXATION AN ISSUE. The chief issue in local politics at the | moment is annexatiédn---whether Toronto with its 426,000 population shall annex North Toronto with its 5,000 souls. The proposition was voted down by the rate- payers of the city last January, but a new situation has been created by the at- tempt of the Mackenzie and Mann inter- ests to get an extension of franchise for their Metropolitan railway within the limits of North ronto. If they succeed it may complicate matters when Toronto takes over and runs its own street rail- way, as it expects to do nine years hence. Probably both municipalities will vote on the annexation question in the near future. : North Toronto is the last independent suburb of the city to be annexed. To- ronto Junction, five miles west of the cor- ner of King and Yonge streets, East To- ronto to the east, Wychwood to the northwest and other areas, all have been taken in, while North Toronto, beginning scarcely more than two miles straight up Yonge street, has remained out. Opposi- 'tion to the inclusion of this district has come in part from owners of vacant land in the city limits whe don't want more competition. The statement is made that Toronto has room for 260,000 more people without enlarging its areas. This state- ment has never been clearly demonstrat- ed, and it is doubtful if there is room for such a growth without serious over- erowding. Certainly there is to the casual observer very little vacant space in To- ronto to-day. All the choice building ter- vitories have been filled up with amaz- ing rapidity and Jarge' sections, which a few years ago were market gardens, are to-day centres of a dense population. North Toronto, with its scant 6,000 popu- lation, has 2,500 acres of land and would furnish, some means of expansion, with- in easy access of the city It would be much more convenient than some of the other outside properties which are be- ing divided uy and put on the market by energetic real estate agents. GRUMBLING AT THE WEATHER. Following the "is est summer" of 1S11 and the coldest Winter we have just '|passed through the wettest spring and people are wondering what our weather is coming to. The effect on trade has been depressing. '%o soda fountain men are in the dumps. So are the storekeep- ers with summer goods. Straw_hats fur- nish a striking illustration Last year straw hat stocks were half sold ont by the middle of May. .This year, the last of the month saw only an odd man here and there on the street wearing a straw hat and the stores in iesp2cation put< ting on "Backward Straw Pat Seasen"' sales at greatly reduced prices. diffidence in grappling with the question. . FEATS OF ENDURANCE. It Would Almost Seem That There Is No Limit. Perhaps one of the most strik- endurance was that of Tom Borrows, the club- ing feats of human swinging champion of England, who, by whirling his clubs for 46 hours without a moment's respite, broke all records. ago, achieved athletic fame He reminds one of Arthur Lancaster, who, two years by ~ swinging a blacksmith's hammer for | performances, that of the well- known athlete, Mr. Weston, who last year completed 3,500 miles in 77 days, takes a high place. Mr. Weston is a man of 72 years of age, and walked for thirteen consecutive weeks at an average rate of 270 miles a week, or 45 miles each walk- ing day. It does not equal, so far as the rate of going is concerned, the scorching of George Allen, who walked in 1904 from Land's End to John o' Groat's, in Scotland, nearly 1,000 miles in seventeen days. Al- len's best day accounted for 82% _twelve consecutive hours and after- mites, audihia averaue for the whole wards added to his laurels by beat- ing all British records for ball punching. He punched a 24-ounce ball for fifteen hours continuously, at the average rate of 145 punches a minute. Occasionally he would go away on a burst of 250 and 260 a minute, and so powerful was his fist work that three times he broke the rope of the ball and had to turn his attention to one kept in reserve. It is not.so long ago since two Frenchmen walked around a billiard table in Paris for 24 consecutive hours, playing game after game, and covered a distance of 60 miles; _ while a band of change ringers rang the bell of Saint Martin's, Birming- ham, Eng., for eight hours without ® second's pause. Then there was the, Polish girl who performed the stupendous feat of dancing for 34 hours. It is not sug- gested, of course, but she danced - this time without a rest. The in- tervals, however, were only short, and she did not go to bed during that time. Three years ago an Ital- ian living in Paris offered $200 to anyone--who danced longer than himself. Five competitors entered the lists against him, but one by one they dropped out, while the nimble ' Italian fantastically footed it for fourteen hours at the rate of eigh- teen waltzes an hour without turn- ing a hair. : Among |journey was 58 miles a day. But Allen was about half the age of Weston, who was walking before !admiring crowds before Allen was born. | Turning to other remarkable ex- 'periences of human endurance, it might be mentioned that the Duke of Wellington was able to go for days with no sleep. He once, re- marked that a few minutes dozing on the back of his horses was all that he required. And then there is Edison, who in his earlier days, when working at his great inven- tions, has been known to go _ five days and five nights without any proper sleep. Forty winks in a chair in his workshop was all that he required to keep his brain alive, and, being deaf; he was able to sleep anywhere, even in a boiler fac- rtory. Da CHAWING CONTINUED. Sadly the dog's owner watched it chaw up a seedy-looking individual. "Call your dog off!' shrieked the victim. "He'll murder me. Call him off, man!' "Sorry," replied the owner, sadly, "but really I can't. I only bought the dog this morning, and I forgot to ask what his name was." And the chawing continued, -- the amazing pedestrian ~ MAKING SAPE INVESTHENTS "Never Put All Your Eggs In One Basket'"--This Should be the Investor's Motto--What Happened . to Several Prominent Investors Who Overlooked 7288 as | This Idea, kee s If a farmer had $1,000 with which to buy stock for his farm would he aeons it all for a pedigreed bull if he could buy no _ more? If you had $10,000 to invest would you put it all into one security? If you and the farmer were wise equally the answer would be an unhesitating nega- tive. Yet, when it comes to investment many. people place all their money in one security. The farmer's bull might die; our security might fall on evil days. Two ulls would be less risk. Twenty head of cattle would be little risk. few yenrs ago a bank invested. all its available funds in one security. It bought all it could with its own and its depositors' money and borrowed more. Something went wrong--things seldom go smoothly at first--and the bank had to _ borrow still more. Finally the crash came and the Farmers' Bank failed with prac- tically all its assets locked up in the| _ Keeley mine. The crash was inevitable, of course, but the ghastly folly of the di- reccors putting all their shareholders', money into one security--and at a mine--was an error which no intelligent would ever be guilty of when buying for himself. : - The g old rule, "Never put all your i " is one of the most rtant that the investor can follow, in if his judgment is ile fault * : Ve portant matter. If you look over the in- vestments of the insurance -companies you will find this followed closely. In the Insurance Blue Book issued by the finance department at Ottawa all the in- | Yestments of the insurance companies are given in detail. One of the smaller life companies filis three pages with its mu- nicipal investments alone. Then it has sound corporation bonds, such as those of electric ligh}, power and tramway com- panies, some industrial bonds and a small ee select list of bank stocks, and a few of those like C. P. R., but not many. Then they have = ages and loans se- cured by collateral-- iefly bonds. Then one can find the securities of foreign goy- ernments, including such high-grade stuff as British consols. In short, the distri- bution of risk theory is followed to a 'commendable extreme. % The benefit of this is ob-ious. A few years ago the Sovereign bank found it h too many Chicago and Milwaukee bonds for the good of its health and incontinently was wound up. At the same time several insurance companiés had to write off seventy-five per cent. of the par value of these bonds. Did they fail? Why, no. The advance in the price of their other investments more than offset |WHAT OTHERS THINK OF US cold CHINESE VIEW OF THE WHITE -- MAN AND HIS WAYS. --ee Think Indian, Negro, and White Man All Came From the -- Same Stock. We have been reading a great deal lately about the Chinese and what Europeans think of them, so 'perhaps, says Chambers's Journal, it may/interest our readers to tell them what the Chinese think of Eu- ropeans. A missionary travelling in a boat was amused at overhearing a con- versation of two simple country- men. "How much whiter his skin is than ours!' said one 'of them, looking at the' missionary. "Yes," replied the. other, 'foreign devils are very singular. They are born entirely white or entirely black." The man's impression was that ¢col- or was as uncertain as in. a litter, of puppies, and that Sikh, negro, and Englishman all came from the same stock, : The Chinese call themselves. the black-haired race, and all foreign- ers red-headed devils. A China- man, who had not the smallest idea of being deficient in politeness, con- fided to the writer that when he first saw foreigners he thought it extraordinary that they should have beards all around their faces, just like monkeys; "but," he added reassuringly, "I am quite used to it now." This reminds us of what the people in another place said of .a missionary: "He speaks our lan- guage; if his whiskers were shaved off he would be nearly as goot-look- ing as we are."? Chinese children often scream with fright when they see a Ruropean for the first time, especially .if he has a like the bogeyman depicted in their picture books. The children thought that these were mythical personages --but no! there is one of them in the flesh. In the new territory op- posite Hong Kong I heard a boy, 'ealled The red beard | 'them aa their smell is'to us. Think of that, ye ell-tubbed. Britishers ! A missionary friend, who is a very clean man, told me that he has ten been pained by seeing Chinese hold their noses when talking -to |him. They say we smell BECAUSE WE EAT BEEF. The Chinese think that Europeans have neither religion nor morals nor manners, and worship only force as represented by big armies and navies, They say that, while we profess Christianity, its spirit influences our actions far less than do economic considerations; that | Christianity is even less to us than is Confucianism to them; and that it is like our impertinence to send missionaries to China, : The Chinese think that we ignore and neglect the five great relation- ships which they learn in their clas- sics--the relationship of sovereign to subject, of father to son, of hus- band to wife, of younger brother to The Chinese approve of the tram way cars, lavatories and fire en "They are surface smells; they will elder and of friend to friend. Ce- lestials observe that in western countries when a son comes of age he goes where he likes, does what he chooses and has no necessary connection with his parents nor they with him, and they think this the behavior of a grown calf or colt to a cow or mare--proper for brutes, but not for human beings. The platonic imtermingling of sexes in western society the Chi- nese do not understand ; they think that our treatment of women is a mixture of imbecility, ill-breeding and -buffoonery. A Chinese opponent of railways lately wrote that they would be use- less in China as far as women are concerned. 'The wives and daugh- ters of Europeans take no pleasure in staying at home; but in the case of our womankind, gadding about is held in great disrepute." The- author of a native work Sights of Shanghai, complains that foreigners and their wives stroll about in the public gar- dens arm in arm and shoulder to shoulder without any bashfulness whatever. For men and women to talk together in public is, in the opinion of the Chinese, bad; but ALWAYS DISCONTENTED,-- gines of the West, but many of our contrivances are, in the opinion o! the educated, curious rather thar useful, and in that of the ignoran: connected with magic. Whateve: he may pretend for the sake of ad vaittage, the most unprogressive yellow man despises the most in ventive white man. The inventive ness of the latter is, in the eyes of the former, no more worthy of re spect than is the cunning of the fox or the strength of an elephant. When we object to the smells in Chinese cities the-inhabitants say. evaporate ;" and think that. their system of drainage, or rather of no drainage, is far less dangerous than is our underground drainage. Few Chinese visitors to England think as much of us as; we think of ourselves. Rather they are shocked at the foulness of our city slums, at the drunkenness and licentiousness upon our streets, at our murder and divorce reports, at the figures of the national drink bill. In their opinion our prisons 'are absurdly comfortable, and put a premium upon crime. They admire, how- ever, thé school system by which we try to keep children from coming to prison. The Chinese say that Europeans do not know how to make tea. To put milk and sugar into tea is as horrible, in their "opinion, as it would be in ours to put them jnto champagne or into port wine. In China all the common acts of life are done not merely differently from our European way, but, in an exactly opposite way. A man shakes his own hands and not those of his friends, and this he considers more sanitary than our method. Should he dine with his friend he will be placed on the left, for that is the place of honor, and not on the right, as with us. The dinner will begin, contrary to ours, with dessert, and END WITH SOUP AND RICE. A European takes off his hat to show: respect to a friend; should you go into the office of a China- Splendid Barn and Stables at the Provincial Prison Farm at Guelph. Dormitory and Dining Hall at Provincial Prison Farm, Guelph. when asked whose was a certain house, reply: "That's THE DEVIL'S HOUSE."' He meant nothing more than that the only European in the neighbor- hood lived there. In the interior of China a foreign- er is always respected. He is sup- posed to be able to see into the earth and discover precious metals. If he is a missionary he is a politi- cal agent come to get himself killed, so that his death may be an excuse for land grabbing on the part of some European power. Should he offer any food: or drink to visitors they think it is poisoned. Ma Chinese women are afraid to enter a foreigner's house lest they should be bewitched. ; Chinese ladies dress, and do not undress, for evening parties, so they are shocked when they hear that western women do the reverse --that when they go to court they regard "a bare skin as a mark of respect." Chinese ladies are also concerned because their European sisters do not wear visible trousers and have tight-fitting clothes that show their shape. Even upon a man tight clothes can only be ex- plained if the poor fellow has not enough cloth to cover himself' pro- perly. : A Chinaman will feel the board- like shirtfront of a European with wonder and ask if his collar does not cut his throat. "What,'" he asks, '"'can be worse for the health than to have the waistcoat of even- 'ing dress open in front, thus expos- part?' : A friend told the writer that the brush, he saw the boy round the corner holding the garment up to the' light and shaking with mirth. "Why was it cut so in front and at the tails?. What were the buttons behind for? How did the thing go on?' The Chinese think it strange that we should wear hats out of doors in summer when it is warm, and take them off indoors, however. ing the chest, a most vulnerable} Se ares he gave a_swallow-tail} coat to a new Chines servant to|, for them to shake hands or take each other's arm is BAREFACED IMMORALITY. Etiquette in the Flowery Land re- quires that men and women passing things to one another should lay them upon a table instead of hand- ing them directly. When the Chinese hear of the Christian precept that a man should leave his mother and cleave to his wife, they are, if good Confucian- ists, horror stricken ; for Confucian- ism requires a man to cleave to his father and mother, and to compel his wife to serve and honor his par- ents also. We say that the Chi- nese worship their ancestors and they retort that Western nations worship their wives. They hear of men amorg us adoring and being devoted to their wives. The Chinese think that our man- ners are those of barbarians, and that we are always acting contrary to their saying, "Politeness is bet- ter than force." Certainly, the foreigner who does not take the trouble to learn even the alphabet of Chinese politeness cannot avoid giving frequent offense unconscious- ly. For instance, if he wears spec- tacles, and does not remove them when a visitor' comes into his room, he will be thought very rude. 1€ Chinese strongly object to be look- ed at through glasses. When we show manners the Chinese are sur-) prised. A lady told me that, on'a recent occasion, when she went into a shop at Canton the door was soon blocked up by a crowd of idle gaz- ers. My friend, who speaks Chinese well, said to the crowd in that dia- lect, "I beg your pardon, would you allow me to go out?' They at once made room for her, and she heard them remarking, -"She speaks our language, and she has manners, too! | : _ Our idea of progress is to have many railways and other modes of motion, and to be always "on the " To the Chinese this seems to arbi. : They say that intent are we in: are of living, and | man, if his cap is off his head he will put it on. The mourning color in China is white, and not black. A Chinaman wears a waistcoat over his coat, and not under, as we do. He mounts a horse from tlie offside instead of the near, and holds the reins in his right hand and not in his left. The beginning of a Chi- nese book is where a Western one ends, and it is read from top to bot- tom in a series of horizontal lines arranged from right to left. The notes, if any, are placed, on the top of the page. If a British boy is puzzled, say, in doing a sum, he scratches his head; but a Chinaman kicks off a shoe and scratches a foot. ~The fact that these and al- most all other things are done in China in an opposite way from that in which we do them causes Chi- nese visitors to Europe to think that everything is upside down, We seem to their eyes to be very ab- surd and little to be imitated. A good cure for self-complacency is to go to China and find out what the people really think of us. D4] LONDON'S FUNNY STREETS. In no place cam funnier nomen- clature be found than in London, England. How, for example, would you like "Frying Pan Alley' to appear at the head of your note- paper? Yet there is such a thor- oughfare in the East End. Until a few weeks ago there existed in Camberwell a "Cut Throat Lane.' It was changed, however, in def- erence to the wishes of local people, to "Cut Through Lane," quite an- other matter, though still some- what unusual. Peckham possesses a "Dog Kennel Hill'; and among thoroughfares to the names of which objection has been taken may be mentioned "Pickle Herring Street," in the South-East district, and its near neighbor, '"'Asylum Road." In the City, "Beer Lane,"? "Hounds- ditch,"? and "Idol Lane" have caused some comment. Up West, exception has been taken to 'Duck Lane" Road," i 1," in the bloodshed r is a necessity, the entire work of the HME SUNDAY SCHOOL STUD: INTERNATIONAL LESSON, JUNE 16. | Lesson XI. Christ's Witness te John the Baptist. Matt. 11. 2-19. Golden Text, Luke 7. 28. Verse 2. Verse 1, which is not e part of our lesson passage, reads "And it came to pass when Jesus had finished comanding his twelve disciples, he depart®d thence tc teach and preach in their cities,"' Following the bem harmonies of thr Gospels we must insert at this point in the narrative the incidents of thi healing of the centurion's servan' and the raising of the widow's sor at Nain (Luke 7. 1-17). Both inci dents belong to the preaching tou: referred to in the verse just quoted. » News of the marvelous works of the Christ reached John the Bap tist in his prison at Machaerus, o1 the upper end of the Dead Sea where an imposing castle served the double purpose of palace and dun- geon. 8. Art thou he?--The uncertain ty in the mind of the Baptist wa real, not affecked, Still it was not an evidence of disbelief, but rather of a troubled uncertainty born of disappointment and prison hard- ships. 4, The things which ye hear and see-- The marvelous authoritative teaching concerning the kingdom and the words of healing and bene ficence performed. 5. The poor have good tidingr preached to them--Jesus every where lays as much stress upon his teachings as upon his miracles. 6. No occasion of stumbling--No cause for the faltering of faith. 7, 8. What went ye out in the wilderness to behold /--We are per mitted in the passage which follows to see John through the eyes of Je- sus. To him the great. forerunne) of the Kingdom was no mere reed shaken with the wind, ner yet an ordinary herald of royalty clothed in -soft raiment, but a prophet of righteousness. 9. Some translations of this verse read, But what went ye out to see! a prophet? 10. He, of whom it is written--In Mal. 3. 1, which reads: "Behold, 1 send my-messenger, and he. shall prepare the way before me; and the Lord, whom ye seek. will suddenly come to his temple; and the mes- senger of the covenant, whom ye desire, behold, he cometh, saith Jehovah of hosts.'? In Malachi it is thus Jehovah himself who speaks of his own coming. This direct speech in the first person all of the evangelists change into an address of Jehovah to the Messiah (compare Mark 1. 2; Luke 1. 76; 7. 27), which suggests that perhaps they are' quoting not directly from Malachi, but from some common paraphrase in which the change had already been made. 11. There hath not arisen a greater than John the Baptist-- None greater under the old dispen- sation, a representative of which the Baptist must be considered. Greater than he--Greater in pri- vilege, because a member of the Kingdom, and as such under the new dispensation. '12. From the days of John-- Since he began to preach repen- tance. Suffereth violence -- The eager crowding of repentant sinners into the Kingdom. Jesus gives John full credit for the remarkable in- fluence of his preaching. 18. And all the prophets and the law--Those of the Old Testament. 14. This is Elijah, that is to come The prophecy referred to is that of Mal. 4. 5, "Behold I will send you Elijah the prophet before the great and terrible day of Jehovah come."' Jesus hints that his hearers may be unwilling to believe his statement concerning John. Their unbelief would be natural in vigw of John's present imprisonment and humilia- tion, and more particularly in view of the fact that they expected a personal return of Elijah and not the coming of another prophet of similar authority. 15. Ears to hear--Power to com- prehend. 16. This generation--The Phari- sees and scribes who are pleased with neither John nor himself. These are compared. with children in the streets playing at weddings and funerals, and quarreling with each other as they play. 19. Eating and drinking--Not subjecting himself to the asceticism which John had practised. Wisdom is justified by her 'works --The superiority cf the religion of John and Jesus is proved by the lives of their disciples. '" BREE Vinnie 8 SUCCESSFUL WO MAN FARMER Tills 330 Acres With Aid of Man Only at Harvest. Miss Georgina Binnie Clark, of Saskatchewan, Canada, was one of the first to prove that women are capable of running a farm in the Dominion as a paying concern. Al- ways a lover of outdoor life, some years ago she bought a farm of 330 acres in Saskatchewan, and devoted herself to its development, with the result that at the end of the fourth season she made a cent per cent. profit. : : Miss Clark plows her own land, and combines a practical knowledge of scientific farming with her capa- bilities as a good housewife. Ex- cept at seedtime and harvest, when the employment of a laborer or two farm is carried on by herself, with the help of her three women pu- pils. Her idea is that women| should vary their enterprises more than they do, and not be content with merely earning wages, but should - wor to k, TO HUSBAND AND WIFE. -- Those Who Cannot Keep Their Own Secrets Should Not Receive a Friend's Confidence. There are hundreds of people in she world who will, at the outset, oxclaim indignantly at the mere suggestion of a husband or wife having any sort of secret from the ther. These people will argue that such a state of affairs shows want of trust and lack of faith. To me, "t seems to possess an exact con- trary bearing, says a writer in Lon- don Answers. < Surely, when a married person san keep a secret without any ques- ion or worry, it shows that the nost complete confidence exists Setween husband 'and wife: that they have in one, another that un-~ qvestioning faith whichis so indis- vensable to the success of marriage. It is a common thing for men and vomen in the first flush of their 'ove-time--in the early days of mar- ried life--to promise to tell "each ther everything." Such a sweeping promise can hardly ever he honestly kept. It is unwise to nake siich an assertion, and, when it is unthinkingly made, it should rot be, regarded seriously 'on either side. In a casual way, it sounds quite sight and very beautiful, when mar- 'ied folk say: "We tell each other sverything. We never have any se; srets from one another!" or words 'o like effect. But a little thought will show that such people miss nany of the joys of married life: that their love is small and selfishly petty rather than buoyant and WHOLLY TRUSTING. Marriage does not rob a person f£ individuality. There must al- ways be some things in the life of wveryone which by all manner of right should be kept secret. Of course, there are secrets and secrets. The line must always be drawn at the right places People have got into an unfortunate way, though, of thinking that "a secret" must mean something which is wrong or harmful. Not at all! Se- crets cover quite innocent, trivial matters, but, nevertheless, things which it may not be right or diplo- matic to reveal. As regards other matters, there are things which a man or woman must keep secret, if they value their honor. Married people do not rea- lize this nearly so much as they should, - For example, frequently a woman will listen to the confidence of a friend, and solemnly promise not to repeat what she has been told. But she will think nothing of repeating the whole story to her husband, and is indignant if accused of be- trayal. It is a curious and very re- grettable point of morality. Husbands and wives must keep the secrets of other people, even though they fail to keep any of their own. Those who cannot do so have no right to receive a friend's con fidence. Once a confidence has been received, it is sacred, abso. lutely. arid cannot in honor be di- vulged, even to one's nearest and DEAREST UPON EARTH. _A man may love a woman with all his heart, but it stands to reason that he cannot justifiably tell her everything which he hears and all that occurs in connection with his daily life. In some cases, this ap- plies more strongly than others. The doctor or lawyer, for example, must eventually fail utterly if they confied in their wives all the secrets gained in their professional life. The wise wife trusts her husband. She never pursues a discussion when she sees that her husband prefers to leave it alone. ~ Exactly the same with women. The wife who feels herself unde compulsion to tell her husband every trifling occurrence--all that she does and all that she hears-- cannot be a really happy woman. There are times. when married people are right in keeping a thing secret to themselves, always pro- vided that husband or wife does not wrong the other by so doing. hs LASCARS AS SEAMEN. They are First-rate in the Wast, But Suecumb to Cold. In fairness to the Lascars who form part of the crews of the P. & O. ships, and whose conduct on the occasion of the recent wreck of the -- Oceana in the English Channel has been commented on by many of the passengers who were rescued, it should be called to mind that all the Orientals carried upon these ships are not Lascars, but that there are' on beard black stokers from the Zanzibar coast, and native cooks and native attendants, who could not be very greatly-blamed if they -- lost their heads in a moment of peril. -- = 4s The Lascars are the seamen of In- dia, and the storms of the East are -- just as fierce as the storms of the ~ West. The one weapon nature uses_ against Lascars with overpowerin effect is cold. A Lascar in the Red Sea or the Indian Ocean is a better man for his work than a white man is. If ships going to the East could carry as far as Suez a crew in which Europeans preponderated, and from Suez onwards a crew in which Las- cars preponderated, it would be, perhaps, the best solution of a very difficult problem. he EXCELLENT FATHER. Slumworker--"What a well-bal- _ anced little boy he is! : Burglar's Wife--"And he comes ~ y it natural, ma'am! His poor fa-_ ther always got his sentence 1 . 'duced owing to good behavior |'

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