The Church Speaks Sýponsored by the WHITBY MINISTERIAL ASSOCIATION By TUE REV. JACK RONE-Y Rector AUl Saints' Anglican Church Joe Brown cornes home to tel bis wife Mavis that he's bought tickets--for them to go tuna fishing in Florida. She's to do their packing for departure this Friday. No consultation. No consideration of Mavis' need to visit ber mother ini hospital i Ot- tawa. In short, no love. Joe may be amazed at Mavis' anger, but he should know he bas failed as a busband. But does be realize bis failure? Most modern couples share i decision-making. limes were when the busband made nearly ail deci- sions. Those days are gone, or are, tbey? Wives are eager now to be involved in shaping.family life, and they may also contribute to family income. Some people object to this, and maintain that men '"sbould wear the pants. " A few may be Christians who quote St. Paul inorder to 'put the woman in her place.' On the opposite side, women's liberation supporters are thereby convinced that Paul is a prime example of male chauvinism. I can't agree with this interpretation of PauI's writings, or any kind of female "put down." ',Il tell you wby. To begin witb, in the first century, Jews, Greeks and Romans were determined about maie supremacy. When Jesus Christ arrived on the scene women were given a new and freer status. A glance tbrough the Gospels will give examples of Jesus' admiration of and dealings with women. Martha and Mary of Betbany spoke witb Jesus about the resurrection at the time of their brother's death. They were miles ahead of the twelve apostles in their the ological thinking. Paul, in the early church, relied upon a women to be the bost for the congregation in her community of Philippi. The crux of the problem is one sentence in a letter Paul wrote to the people of Ephosus (in modemn Turkey), Paul wrote: " ... wives, submit to your husbands, as to the Lord." (Ephesians 5:22 T.E.W.) "Submit" is the stubborn word for both groups of protagomists. It produces a battle cry for those who support, or object to the status of the wife i decision-making. Well, quieten down, get out your Bible and read the whole chapter. The sen- tence quoted bas a remarkable phrase "as to the Lord". Later on the husband is told that bis obliga- tion imarriage is to be like Christ. A daunting prospect for most of us mnen!l Yet that is the role men are called upon to follow in marriage. The wife bas a parallel role. She is to be like the bride of Christ, Bis Churcb. A busband is bidden by Paul to love bis wife" in the same way that Chris t loved the' cburcb and gave bis life for it." So to demand obe- dience of their wives, as some busbands do, must be balanced and matcbed by their own ability to love and care for their wives as Christ did for the church. That's no easy task for any man. St. Paul, a lihe earlier, instructed bis friends - "Submit yourselves to one another, because of your reverence for Christ." There is no male-female positioning i those words. Generally Paul insists tbat amongst Jesus' followers there is to be a kind of mutual concern, love and submission to a common purpose in response to Christ. We who are husbands often have a leadership role, but always one that is grounded in love. Without love and consulation and patient waiting upon God's direction our leadership is discredited. So Joe Brown better start learnig now that married 111e succeeds when decisions are shared and wben love undergirds ail words and deeds. O.S.O. auditions WHITBY FREE PRESS, WEDNESDAY SEPTEMBER 1, 1982, PAGE 19 W.C.C. hosts dinner for winners The wlnners of the Whltby Chamber of Commerce marigold contest will receive their prizes at a special dinner meeting at Cul- len Gardens on Septem- ber 9. 1Eacb winuer wlll be presented witb a keeper tropby made of wood witb a sprig of mari- golds on it, and bis or ber naine wli be en- graved on a brass galley tray to be mounted in a suitable public place. The wlnners 0f tbe contest, wbicb was judged In August, are: Rankr DeHaas, 917 Dun- das Street West (rosi- dential); College View Apartments, 100 Blair Street (comimercial); and Whltby Public Llb- rary (Institutional). Guest speaker for the evenlng will be Len Cuilen, who in the past two years bas made bis Cullen Gardens and Miniature Village Wbit- by's top tourist attrac- tion which bas attracted thousands of visitors. Cullen Gardens is on O.S.O. takes subseriptions Music loyers bave un- til September 15 to save money and subseribe to six evemings of enter- tainent by the Oshawa Symphony Orchestra. <Osbawa businesses donated $100 wortb 0f money-saving discounts on everything from rest- aurant meals to art to bair dressing wben the sympbony's -incentive plan for its subscription drive was launched. The orchestra, ýcon- ducted by Winston Web- ber, begins its twenty- guitarist Norbert Kraft, trumpeter Johnny Coweil, and pianist Helena Bowkin piaying a Gershwin Concerto. sixtn season onl Povem- Brochures with con- ber 2 with internation- cert details are avail- ally known pianist, Ar- able by calling 579-6711. thur Ozoins, playing the They can also be picked music 0f Rachmaninoff. up at Middletonls Book Other, concerts in- Store, 113 Dundas St. clude Handel's Messiab. w., whitby. Taunton Road, west of Brocir Street, and oppo- site the north end of Cochrane Street, The dinner, beld Iln the Cullen Gardens restau- rant, wil begin at 7 p.m., featuring roast beef and yorksbire pud- ding. The priée of the meal is $10.50 per person, in- cluding gratuity and en- france to the grounds., As there is a iimited number of seats avail- able, anyone inferested in attending Is asked to reserve as soon as possi- ble by calling the Chamber office at 668- 4506. Last date to book reservations is Septem- ber 6. The chamber encour- ages residents of Whitby to take part in this con- test. q 'k 4 o Whitby musicians are ivited to audition for the Oshawa Symphony orchestra on the even- ing of September 8 at the Arts Resource Cen- tre, Oshawa. For an appoitrnent, eaU '623-5927 or 579-6711. Ted ARNTS LOAM SUPPLY LTD. r BROCK RD. 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