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Canadian Statesman (Bowmanville, ON), 13 Oct 1976, Section 2, p. 8

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Are In efetUntil Oct. Bh By KENNETH McDONALD As an alternative to de- pendency on Big welfare and Big institutions, the Cana- dian F ederation of Inde-, pendent Business Aupports a philosophy based on indi- vidual effort, on the family and on local enterprîses .. . a phiosophy which would enhance opportunity and sustain communities. 0e,, But how can communi- ties increase their 'self.suf- ficiency? It's instructive to recaîl how tbey originated. the first settler saw virgin landl which had to be cleared. Cutting wood, sowiug and reaping, tending stock, the days were too short. He could barefy attempt ail the tasks that needed to be tacled. e,, 1 But then carne the next settier, and the next, each with bis own skills. Barns were raised, logs rolled and tradesmen set themselves up in business. Be fore long a bustling community -had arisen fromn nothing but a combination of the land it- self and the industry of the settlers. 0, Contrast that early model with more recent ones where formal education lias pre- pared young people for jobs In the big city; wheère social spending lias bred depend- ency; and where groups of citizens, instead of raising barns, are more likely to maise demands for LIP grants. 0, We cannot go back.,The whole structure is different. But we can work to restore a sense of pride in doing things well. By introducing and expanding apprentice- ship, by building skills in our young people, we can lay the foundation for success- fui local entreprises. 0e,, Steinbach, (population 6,000), in Manitoba, has made itself prosperous by sheer hard work, honest ser- vice and fair prices. Using group advertising, it lias de- veloped a strong industrial base to serve 'the surround- ing area, reaching a total of 35,000 people. New comn- panies are moving in. 0s,, In Aberta, a charitable foundation provides private seed rnoney for downtown renewal. About 40 towns and villages are involved establishing new parks down- town, landscaping streets, fixing up buildings and bury- ing cables -and rnore are joining. Expensive energy is rein- forcing the new focus on communities. There may be more urban centres in future, but they will be more comn- munity-oriented. More in- dustry will locate awïay from big cities. Bedroom suburbs wil hive off from cities and formn their own cores. People wil live nearer to where they work and shop. 0o,, What we are witnessing today, under the influence of econornic as well as social forces, is a return to neigh- borhoods and to our tradi- tional ways of living. 1"Gas Chain Saw This is the one with the big 46cc or 2.8 cu. in. engine. Cuts trees up to 32" thick. Has a 16" guide bar and a foot rest starting brace. WiII cut in any position - even upside down. A perfect saw for felling trees, cutting firewood and clearing lan. A wise investment! %ou AND YOLJR 6 KIALTH týlýe DO YOU LIKE TO SUFFER ALONE? Dear Dr. Esse: 1 read recently of the wornan who wrote you complaining of the oversolicitousness of her family. She stated that she was an invalid. Nevertheless, she would rather crawl off ini a corner and suffer alone. I wonder. She doesn't know how lucky she is. I'd exchange places with her. My own personal experience is directly opposite from hers. My farnily does not believe in giving or showing any sympathy, attention, or understanding. 1 arn 63 and have several physical ailments, none of them imaginary. Any one of which would miake anyone uncomfortable because of the pain and risery. My children are 43 and 44 and live a few hundred miles from here. 1 don't expeet them to corne here to see me. I don't expect flowers, candy, or any other gifts. But it would be wonderful to know they cared. A phone cail, a card, an occasional letter would be welcome. Some littie act or word showing kindness, tenderness, or love. Instead, the few things they do or say are done grudgingly and with resentment. 1 know what it means to crawl off in a corner and suffer alone. Feeling unloved and unwanted. It is as if 1 had lived for nothing. The women who wrote you that her farnily is oversolicitous ought to get down on her knees and, thank lier wonderful family. At least they have hearts rather than hunks of lead where the heart should be. Yes, P'i change places with her. On second thought, 1 don't think 1 will. I wouldn't want to wish my risfortune on another hurnan being. - Mrs. X. COMMENT: When you are il do you prefer to crawl off to a'corner and suffer in solitude? Or do you like to have your famnily make a fuss over you? 1 believe it's evident that most of us woulId suffer more if we llved in an atmosphere of total disregard and, lack of sympathy. 0f course, there are extrernes. There are times when we'd rather suffer alone. As one man said, "When the pain cornes on, I'd rather be alone so I can groan out loud. It relieves me a bit. But 1 could not do so if rny farnily were around at the time." Even the person with a frightfully painful toothache appreciates, a farnily rnernber saying, "It must hurt terribly." Sympathy acts like a painkiler - for a moment or two. But it is that moment or two that makes the pain beàrable. 1 suppose it's true tha t many crawl into a corner and prefer to suffer alone --- so they will not be a burden to the rest of the family, or unnecessarily produce anxiety in children. But most are like Mrs. X. They crave understaniding and sympathy to heîp them get over the hurdles of their medical problerns. It is my belief that the one who is 111 should gladly accept any efforts by the family or friends to bring comfort. Complications arise in faniily relationships when iîlness makes members farther apart instead of bringing them dloser together. Even oversolicitousness is a virtue to be appreciated. Section Two Restoring p ride in work

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